Izigaba ezi-6 zobuzali: Fumana ukuba leliphi inqanaba lobuzali okulo

Ukusabalalisa uthando

Zonke ezo zikhalazo siziva kubazali malunga nendlela ixesha kunye namandla adla ngayo abantwana, kwaye sikholelwa ukuba zizibaxo zabantu abadala abaneentliziyo ezilukhuni abangazange babe nabantwana, ibe yinyani enzima xa sikhetha ukuba nowethu. Zonke izigaba ezi-6 zobuzali zingumngeni ngokukodwa kwaye zinzima.

Khumbula isigaba samazinyo, isibini esoyikisayo, umntwana ofikisayo, okwishumi elivisayo onemvukelo, njl. Ewe, zonke ziyinyani!

Nantoni na esinokuyixelela ihlabathi ngaphandle, nantsi imbeko yeBonobology kwezi ngelosi zincinci zintle-cum-monsters ezikwaziyo ukusenza sibone izulu nesihogo kulo mhlaba, ukuba akuyiyo yonke imihla ngoko kanye emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa ngokuqinisekileyo.

Ukusukela ngexesha esilikhumbulayo ixesha lethu kwaye sibambene ngothando namaqabane ethu njengoko sicinga ukuba 'inxalenye-yenxalenye-yakhe' ibhanja iya kujongeka njani, ukuya kuthi ga kwixesha abantwana bethu besixelela malunga nokuba neengelosi ezizezabo kwaye sikhwela elinye inyathelo kwileli njengoko silungiselela ukuba ngootatomkhulu noomakhulu, ngokwenene luhambo olunzima.

Izigaba zobuzali

Isiqulatho

Amanqanaba okuba ngumzali angumceli mngeni kodwa ayanelisa kwaye anomvuzo kwangaxeshanye. Ehlabathini lonke, abantu bakholelwa ukuba ukuba ngumzali yeyona nto inomvuzo kubomi bethu. Sinokubathanda de bafe, sikulungele ukubafela kodwa kukwakho namaxesha apho siye sinqwenele ixesha elithile ngaphandle kwabo!

Ngoko ke nazi izigaba ezi-6 zobuzali, ezichazwe ngokucacileyo, ukukunceda ukuba ulungiselele ukuba umntwana unjani ngokwenene.

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1. Kwangaphambi kokuba umntwana aphume

Le yeyakho, mfazi othanda iwayini! Uyamcaphukela umyeni wakho kuba nobabini ninokuba nihlangene ukwenza 'usana', kodwa angabhiyoza ngechampagne ngelixa kufuneka uyeke iwayini, ibhiya kunye nevodka kwaye wenze ngamanzi ekhokhonathi okanye nantoni na encinci eyalela ngaphakathi.

Kwaye ke unazo ezo ukuhamba kweemvakalelo ikwenza ukhale, ube nemincili ngaphezulu, ucaphuke ngokungafaniyo, wonwabe ngobumnandi kwaye uxinezelekile (kwaye konke oko kuphambi kwasekuseni). Ngelixa umyeni wakho ucinga ukuba yingelosi kuba esebenzisana nawe, umthiyile ngenxa yento ojongene nayo.

Kwakhona ewe, uthando, isondo, ukuhamba ... zonke zibhabha ngefestile. Xa ugxadazela kule nto, umntwana ukunika ukukhaba okuqinileyo ngaphakathi ukuze akubonise ukuba uxabiseke kangakanani na.

2. Phakathi kweminyaka eyi-0 kunye ne-2

Esi sesinye sezona zigaba zinzima kakhulu zobuzali, ngokwasengqondweni nasemzimbeni. Awunabuthongo, udiniwe kwaye mhlawumbi nakuxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka njengoko umntwana eguquka ukusuka ekukhaleni ukuya ekuzameni ukunxibelelana nokubaleka ejikeleza indlu ngamandla alingana neeRed Bulls ezintathu!

Umyeni usebenza ixesha elongezelelekileyo naye, ukwenza amalungiselelo enkcitho eyongezelelweyo. Kwaye endaweni yokuhlambalaza omnye komnye, esi sibini siyichitha kusana, kwaye ngokufuthi ubukhulu becala. Akukho nelinye iqabane elinokuqonda indlela elisebenza ngokugqithisileyo ngayo elinye!

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3. Ngoku besesikolweni

Yonke into inexesha layo elimisiweyo kwaye kufuneka ithotyelwe. Ukusuka esikolweni ukuya kwiintsuku zesikolo. NgoMvulo ukuya ngooLwezihlanu zijika zibe yinkqubo ezenzekelayo kwaye yonke into ifuna ukusebenza njengomatshini ofakwe ioyile kakuhle, ngokufana nokulandela iintsimbi zeziko loluleko. Alikho elinye inqanaba lobuzali elisondelayo ekubeni lixakeke njengeli.

Awunalo ixesha okanye indawo yezinto ezintle ezigcina uthando kunye nolonwabo luphila. Endaweni yokwabelana ngentlebendwane yamva nje, ukhupha i-carpool pickups. Imibhalo yeFlirty endaweni yayo yimiyalezo emalunga negrosari. I ubudlelwane emva kokuba nabantwana kubudlelwane bakho buphelile.

Kwaye apho ubusuku bokwabelana ngesondo ngaphambili bebuzenzekela okanye bucwangcisiwe, ngoku ukhupha ibheyile nangobusuku obubekwe ngononophelo kwithayimthebhile! Izibini zisuka ekubeni zizithandwa kunye nabahlobo ukuya ekubeni ngamaqabane oshishino. Kwaye ukungafezeki kwendima umntu abelwe yona iba sisizathu esaneleyo sokubiza ukuchithwa kwentsebenziswano!

Xa bobabini abazali besebenza kukho ingxaki yokuba ngubani oza kuba ngumzali 'okwifowuni' kwaye iimfazwe zinokuqala ngaphezulu koku. Umntwana ubuya no-B endaweni ka-'D' njengomvuzo kwaye unamathisele kumnyango wefriji yakho! Kodwa ke niyaphikisana ngokuba nguwuphi umzali ofumana uzuko!

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4. Loo mntwana ukwishumi elivisayo onemvukelo

Ukuba ubungaboni ngasonye ngaphambili, mhlawumbi uya kucinga ukuba wena kunye no-hubby nihlukene ngeepali kwaye kutheni nakhe nadibana emhlabeni? Abakwishumi elivisayo baphumeza ukwahlula kwaye balawule ngaphandle kokubetha inkophe. Omnye umzali kufuneka abe lipolisa elilungileyo, omnye, elibi! Ngoku ngubani ongafuna ukuba lipolisa elibi?

Oku kusoloko kusenzeka de abantwana bakho babe ngabantu abadala kwaye abasafuni kujongwa. Ngamanye amazwi, ngumthombo ongapheliyo wongquzulwano. Abazali kufuneka bakhethe phakathi kokuba ngubani obeka esweni ukuba yeyiphi kwaye eyona inkulu yeyantlukwano ilungile.

Le ngxoxo yendlela efanelekileyo ikhala kwiziphumo zobuzali zamalungu awandisiweyo entsapho kwaye ngenxa yokungabi nampazamo yabo, bonke oo-anti kunye noomalume bafakwa ngokukhawuleza kwibhokisi yesigwebo. Kwizigaba ezi-6 zobuzali, eli lelona qhinga ukuba lidlule.

Omnye umgca ongakhathaliyo othethiweyo kumnombo womnye unokufana nomjukujelwa wenyukliya okhupha umsi oyityhefu ngamanye amaxesha ukuya kutsho kumashumi amathathu eminyaka phakathi kobudlelwane. Umntwana wakho okwishumi elivisayo ekuphenduleni unokusuka ayijongele phantsi indlela eninokububhanxa ngayo nobabini.

5. Xa zibhabha indlwane

Ngaphandle kokukutshayela ukucoca ingxowa-mali yabo yekholeji, ingxowa-mali yokubeka amagumbi, ingxowa-mali yomtshato njl. Uphose amashumi amabini eminyaka yokwazana, kwaye unokuzibuza ukuba 'ngubani' lo mntu uhleli kwindawo esecaleni kwakho ebhedini.

Enyanisweni, kusenokwenzeka ukuba uzilibele ukuba ungubani na. Nkqu neendawo zokutyela oya kuzo zidla ngokuba lukhetho lwabantwana bakho. Ukuthenga iimpahla zabantwana ibikuphela kokuthenga kwakho.

Kwaye uphumelele ukutshayela imiba engundoqo yomtshato phantsi kwekhaphethi; ixesha elide ngaphandle kwesondo, ngaphandle kokusondelana, ngaphandle kokunxibelelana kwaye ngoku ezo zikho yonke indawo njengaloo ndlovu kwigumbi.

Kodwa xa umntwana wakho okhulileyo ekufowunela esithi, ‘Mama, ndifuna udibane nothile!’, uyazibuza ukuba lidlule phi ixesha, yaye kufuneka ubamkele ukuba bakhulile ngoku. Ukuba ngumama onothando, ubuza ukuba usuka kusapho oluhle na okanye ukuba urhola kakuhle kwaye ubaleka ukuya kufuna umyeni wakho ukuze athethe ezi ndaba zimnandi!

6. Xa umfundi eba yinkosi

Ixesha liyahamba, kwaye ngaphambi kokuba uyazi zonke izigaba zobuzali zidlulile, kwaye ngoku umntwana wakho ufuna uncedo ekukhuliseni abantwana bakhe. Ukuba nootatomkhulu ngokuqinisekileyo kubekel' umva ngakumbi, njengoko ubukele abantwana bakho bebethelela imilinganiselo yosapho kubantwana babo, kwaye uzonakalisa iinguqulelo ezincinci zomntwana wakho zibolile.

Onke amanqanaba okuba ngumzali alungile, kodwa atyhafa ngokwasemzimbeni nasengqondweni ngaxeshanye. Nokuba inzima kangakanani na, xa ubona inzala yakho isiba ngumntu oneengcamango neenkolelo zayo, enosapho oluya kuyikhulisa, awuva nto ngaphandle kwekratshi nolonwabo.

FAQs

1. Ngawaphi amanqanaba amathandathu okuba ngumzali achazwa sisazi ngengqondo uEllen Galinsky?

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2. Leliphi ixesha lokukhulisa abantwana?

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3. Ulibiza ngokuthini inqanaba lokuqala lobuzali?

Oku kuqala ngokukhulelwa, njengoko ukhulisa kwaye unyamekela umntwana wakho njengoko ekhula esibelekweni. Ukuba awukhathali, ubomi bomntwana bunokuchatshazelwa kakhulu zizenzo zakho zokungakhathali.

Ngaba ufanele uhlale kumtshato ongonwabanga nabantwana?

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