Iimeko ezi-5 xa sicela abantwana bethu ukuba bathathe icala kodwa akufuneki…

Abantwana bayathandeka, bayathandeka, abanatyala kwaye ngamanye amaxesha bangabadlali beqonga kumdlalo weqonga odlalwa ngabantu abadala. Bahlala bephantsi kweminqweno yethu emininzi kunye neminqweno esiye sigqibele ngokubaphatha njengonodoli. Oomama banxiba iintsana zabo ezingamakhwenkwe njengamantombazana xa belangazelela umntwana oyintombazana, ootata babajonga oonyana babo njengezandiso zobuntu babo kwaye bahlala bebatyhala ukuba bagqwese kuyo yonke into, ukusuka kwizifundo ukuya kwezemidlalo. Into ekufuneka uyikhumbule kukuba abantwana basesichengeni kwaye bayachukumiseka. Ngoko ke, kubalulekile ukuba abazali bagcine imithetho emihlanu engqondweni xa beqhubana nabantwana. Asifanele sicele abantwana bethu ukuba bathabathe icala.

5 Iimeko xa sixelela abantwana ukuba bathathe icala

Akulunganga kwaphela kodwa sikwenza oku rhoqo. Ngamanye amaxesha singaqondi nokuba yintoni impembelelo yokuziphatha kwethu ebantwaneni bethu. Kodwa nantsi into evula amehlo. Funda ukuze wazi ukuba ubusenza le mpazamo. Ukuba ewe, akukabi kade ukulungisa.

1. Uthanda bani?

Eli binzana livakala kakuhle kwingoma, kodwa ebomini bokwenyani, akulunganga ukubuza umntwana lo mbuzo. Umama notata baziziqingatha ezibini zengqekembe enye. Akukho mahluko phakathi kwabo. Bangamaqabane alinganayo eprojekthi efanayo - umntwana wabo. Banoxanduva olulinganayo, kufuneka banike ingqwalasela elinganayo kwiinkcukacha, bahlambe imali elinganayo yothando kwaye ngoko umntwana uyabathanda ngokulinganayo. Njengomzali, ngumsebenzi wethu ukufundisa ngothando umntwana wethu ukuba abathande aze abahlonele abazali bobabini kungekhona omnye phezu komnye.

2. Ukuthabatha icala ngexesha leengxabano

Abazali ngabantu. Nabo baneengxwabangxwaba, ukungavisisani, ukucaphuka nokukhwazana. Yinxalenye yokutshata. Akulunganga ukucela abantwana bakho bathabathe icala xa nixambulisana.

Intetho elula nje, "uTata akasiniki xesha" awucingi ukuba akulunganga oko? okanye “uMama unomdla ngakumbi kwi-make-up yakhe nasekuthengeni kunokupheka okanye ukukunyamekela!”, unokushiya uluvo lokuba umzali akanaluxanduva ngentsapho engqondweni yomntwana.

3.Ukuthelekisa nomzali omnye

Abazali bayalingana kuhambo lobuzali. Iziqinisekiso zemfundo, izikhundla zekhondo lomsebenzi, ukuma kwezentlalo kusenokwahluka; kodwa oko kusebenza kubo njengabantu ngabanye; hayi njengabazali. Njengabazali, bobabini umama notata banoxanduva ngokulinganayo, bafanelekile kwaye banenkathalo ngokulinganayo. Ngoko ungaze uthelekise omnye umzali nomnye. Oku kusebenza nakuthelekiso phakathi kwabanye abazali. Iindlela zokukhulisa abantwana azifani, ngoko akukho bazali babini banokuthelekiswa. Ukuba ngumzali akulokhuphiswano.

4. Ukukhetha umzali omnye kunomnye

Kanye njengokuba umntu akanakuthelekisa phakathi kwabazali, ukukhetha phakathi kwabazali nako akunakwenzeka. Ukuba umntwana ubathanda ngokulinganayo abazali bobabini, uhlonipha abazali bobabini ngokulinganayo; khona angakhetha njani umzali omnye kunomnye? Ungaze umcele umntwana wakho ukuba athathe icala kwingxabano, ukungavisisani okanye kwisigqibo esibalulekileyo. Hlala ukhumbula ukuba ukhona zombini kule nto kunye, kungekhona njengabasukuzanayo kodwa njengamadlelane. Yihloniphe loo ntsebenziswano kwaye ubonise abantwana bakho olo buhlakani.

5. Ukunyotywa kakubi

“Ukuba uthi uyamthanda uPapa, andikuthengeli le nto” okanye “Ndiyazi ukuba uyamthanda uMama ngaphezu kwam, kutheni le nto ndifanele ndikwenzele le nto” okanye “Ukuba uthi undithanda ngaphezu koTata, ndiza kukusa epakini”.

Izinto ezilula, okanye zisenokubonakala. Kodwa enyanisweni, oku kukunyoba okungalunganga kwaye oku kuya kunika umntwana wakho umyalezo ongalunganga.

Uya kwazi ukuba xa kukho into ayidingayo kuwe, eyona nto ifunekayo kukuba uthi uthandwa ngaphezu komnye umzali. Ufaka inkqubo yokucinga engalunganga kumntwana wakho kwaye oku kuya kuchaphazela ukukhula kwakhe kunye nobuntu bakhe.

Nangona kukho iindlela ezininzi zokukhulisa umntwana wakho kwaye uzise okona kulungileyo kubuntu bakhe; eyona nto ibalulekileyo ikhunjulwe kukuba abantwana bayachukumiseka yaye bafunda koko bakubonayo. Ngoko bamisele owona mzekelo ubalaseleyo uze ube ngumzali owakhayo, onovelwano nonyanisekileyo.

Umnikelo wakho awuquki isisa umnikelo. Iya kuvumela i-Bonobology ukuba iqhubeke nokukuzisela ulwazi olutsha nolwangoku kwiphulo lethu lokunceda nabani na osehlabathini ukuba afunde ukwenza nantoni na.

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