Uthandana njani nentombazana ephuma kwiLigi yakho

Kumdlalo wokungcakaza wothando wokuthandana, ukusukela kudala, kufanele ukuba uye wadibana nebinzana lezaci - 'ukuphuma kwiligi yakho'. Kweyona migaqo ilula yokuthandana, kuthetha ukuba intombazana ongathandanga nayo kakubi okanye yabetha isaphetha sikaCupid ukwenza intombi yakho ibe ngumntu ophumeleleyo, umntu onamandla, othandwa kakhulu kwaye onqulwa ngabantu, kunokuba unjalo. 

Impendulo kukuba, ewe, kunokwenzeka kakhulu ukuthandana nentombazana ephuma kwiligi yakho kwaye uphumelele intliziyo yayo - ukuba uzimisele ukwenza njalo.

Kodwa ungakhathazeki, ungandithemba nam ukuba ndikuxelele indlela yokufumana nayiphi na intombazana oyithandayo. Ngaba ithemba lakho lokuthandana nentombazana ephuma kwiligi yakho lilize? Ngaba ungajola nentombazana ephuma kwiligi yakho?

Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukuthandabuza, makhe sikuvumele ngasese - abona basetyhini baphumelele kwaye bahle kakhulu bahlala bewela amadoda abathandayo ngenxa yezizathu ezifanelekileyo. Ngapha koko, ngaba sonke asifuni umntu ojonga ngaphaya komphezulu kwaye ngoyena ubalaseleyo wethu?

Ngoku, ukuba unomdla wokwenyani ukuthandana nentombazana kwiligi yakho, silapha ukunceda. Ukuba ulahlekelwa bubuthongo bakho malunga nendlela yokufumana nayiphi na intombazana oyithandayo, sineendaba ezimnandi. Zoba ibhedi entle kwaye ulungiselele ukulala kamnandi ebusuku, kuba sinazo zonke iimpendulo apha!

Ungatsho njani ukuba intombazana iphumile kwiLigi yakho?

Ngumntu wonke umfana abeke intliziyo yakhe kuye. Kwaye kutheni bengayi? Uyazi ukuba ungumzekelo wayo yonke into egqibeleleyo emhlabeni kwaye abanye bayayibona. Nabani na unokuzama kangangoko ukumcenga nokumchukumisa. 

Kodwa eso ayisosizathu sokudimazeka!

Ngaphambi kokuba ulandele intombazana yamaphupha akho, unokufuna ukwenza isigqibo sokuba ngaba uphumile kwiligi yakho okanye uzenza ngathi unguye. Ngaba ungumntu ofuna ingqalelo odlala ngeentliziyo ezininzi ngaxeshanye?

Ukufumanisa ukuba intombazana ngokwenene iphumile kwiligi yakho kuyahluka ukusuka kumntu ukuya kumntu, ngokusekelwe kwizinto zonke zobomi bakhe kunye nobuntu akwenza ngaphezu kwakho, phakathi kwabanye.

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Iindlela ezisi-7 zokufumanisa ukuba intombazana oyicebayo ngokuthandana iphumile kwiLeague yakho

Ngaba wakha woyikiswa yintombazana kangangokuba ingcinga nje yokuba ngumfana wayo ibonakala njengephupha elingenakwenzeka? Ndiqinisekile ukuba unayo. Kodwa wakha wazibuza ukuba yintoni le imenza abenje ugqibelele kwaye uphume kwiligi yakho? Nantsi indlela oyifumana ngayo nayiphi na intombazana oyithandayo

1. Ukhangeleka ngathi ngqo kwintsomi: Nanjengoko linzima ilizwe lokuthandana linjalo, eyona nto iphantsi yalo kukuba rhoqo kunokuba kunjalo, imbonakalo yenza umbono wokuqala.

Ngoko ke, ukuba uzithiyile iminyaka phezu indlela okhangeleka ngayo kwaye ungathandi okubona esipilini, ufuna ukuthandana nomntu okhangeleka gorgeous kunokubonakala ngathi iphupha elikude!

2. Ungumntu otyayo, ophefumlayo kwaye ophila ngeempawu: Umsantsa wentlalo noqoqosho uhlala ukhokelela ekubeni umntu akholelwe ukuba intombazana yamaphupha abo ayinakungeneka. Ke, ukuba ungumfana oqhelekileyo kwaye ubona intombazana yakho yonke imihla inxibe isinxibo somyili kunye nezixhobo, jikeleza ngeemoto zodidi oluhlala lusibetho kukuzithemba kwakho.

3. Ebesoloko engumtya nethunga: Imfundo ikhulula wonke umntu, ingakumbi abafazi. Ukuvela kwiintlobo ezazingavumelekanga ukuba zihambe zifumane imfundo esemthethweni kwaye kude kube ngoku zenziwe ukuba ziyeke isikolo, ukufumana izidanga kuthetha lukhulu kubasetyhini.

Ke, ukuba ibhinqa lifunde kakhulu kwaye linqwenela amabhongo, kunokwenzeka ukuba aliyi kuzinza kumntu ongazabalazeliyo ubukhulu.

4. Zama ukwazi indlela aphila ngayo: Ukuze uhambelane, kufuneka wazi ukuba wabelana ngendlela efanayo yokuphila kunye nendlela obujonga ngayo ubomi. Ukuba ungumntu othanda ukuqina kwaye awunguye, ukuba uyakholwa kwaye awukho, ukuba uyakholelwa kukulunga kobuntu kwaye awukholelwa, amathuba amancinci okuba akhethe ukuthandana nawe.

5. Intsapho yakhe iphezulu kwaye iphumelele njengaye: Uvumile ukuba yintombi yakho, kodwa ngandlel' ithile uye walibaleka ngempumelelo ithuba lokukwazisa nakubani na ovela kwintlalontle yakhe.

Leyo yinto yakho yokwazi ukuba mhlawumbi uyathanda ukuthandana nawe, kodwa akwanelanga ukwazisa abahlobo bakhe kunye nosapho. Amathuba kukuba uzibona engaphandle kweligi yakho kwaye unentombazana engakufumaniyo ilungile

6. Uqaphele ngaphezu kwakho: Akunjalo ngathi awazi, kodwa indalo ayiyeki ukukukhumbuza. Nanini na uphuma, nguye odibana ngokulula nesihlwele okanye ancokole nabantu angabaziyo kwaphela. Uncuma ngalo lonke ixesha kwaye usoloko enconywa ngakumbi.

Unesangqa sabahlobo abakhulu. Ngalo lonke ixesha, nguye okusibekeleyo kwaye uyindawo nje ebuthuntu ngasemva

7. Uziva usoyika xa ekhona: Ngalo lonke ixesha xa umbona, hamba naye kwaye uthethe naye, uvakalelwa kukuba ihlabathi likujongile. Ingathi uphantse ubeva bephosa inkangeleko emdaka nengakholelwayo kuwe efundeka ngokucacileyo – “Angayenza njani jola nomntu ngubani na ophuma ecaleni kwakhe? 

Ke, ugqibela unale mvakalelo ingathandekiyo kumngxunya wesisu sakho -'ulunge kakhulu kum' okanye 'Andimfanelanga'. Kwaye ekugqibeleni uzibuza ukuba ungayifumana njani nayiphi na intombazana oyithandayo. Uqinisekile ukuba umdla wakho wothando uphuma kwiligi yakho kwaye akukho nto iya kusebenza phakathi kwenu nobabini

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Yiloo ndlela oye wazi ngokuthe chu ukuba mhlawumbi uphumile kwiligi yakho. Kakade ke, akufani ukuba awuyihlalutyi ngokwaneleyo. Nangona kunjalo, umtsalane uhlala kwaye inxalenye yakho ifuna ukwenza le ntombazana ikuthande kwakhona, ukumazi ngcono kwaye ibasemathandweni naye, njengokuba abahlobo bakho bekuxelela ngenye indlela.

Ke, yintoni omawuyenze ngokulandelayo? Ngaba uyamyeka ahambe, okanye uphumelele indlela yakho kwiligi yakhe? Vala amehlo akho, uphulaphule intliziyo yakho, kwaye ukuba ufuna ukwazi indlela yokufumana intombazana engakufumaniyo omkhulu, silapha ukukunceda ukwazi ukufumana nayiphi na intombazana oyithandayo. 

Nazi iingcebiso ezisi-8 zokuchukumisa intombazana ephumileyo kwiligi yakho.

Iingcebiso ezi-8 zokuthandana nentombazana ephuma kwiLigi yakho

Ndiyabulela kwimigangatho yobuhle obungeyonyani ebekwe luluntu, xa sibona isibini apho inkwenkwe ingekho mhle ngokwesiqhelo, umbuzo omnye ubuya kuhlala utsala ezingqondweni zethu – “Wakwazi njani ukukhupha umntu kwiligi yakhe?”

Kodwa ukuba loo nto iyakudimaza, sineendaba ezimnandi. Uninzi lwabantu abadumileyo obathandayo baye badlula kuyo.

UJohn Krasinsky, uJim othandekayo ovela kwiOfisi, uyavuma ukuba watshata xa wayetshata noEmily Blunt. Kudliwano-ndlebe oluninzi kule minyaka idlulileyo, uye wavuma ukuba wayethandana nenkosikazi yakhe xa babeqala ukudibana. Yaye khangela apho bakhoyo ngoku!

Ingqondo yakho, uthando lungaphaya kobuhle bomzimba - kwaye ukuba uyamthanda umntu ngokunzulu ngokwaneleyo, amathuba okuba baya kujonga inkangeleko kunye nenkangeleko yakho. Ke, nantsi indlela oluphumelela ngayo uthando lobomi bakho, nokuba kubonakala kungenakwenzeka ukuqala. 

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1. Dlula kwinkangeleko yakhe

Abafana abaninzi bafuna ukuthandana nomfazi obukekayo kuphela ngenxa yobumnandi - umhle kwaye unokuba yilekese yengalo. Ukuba ngokwenene unomdla kuye, zibuze ukuba kutheni ufuna ukuthandana naye? Ngaba kungenxa yokuba eshushu okanye kukuba uthanda indlela ayiyo? Okanye kukunyusa nje isimo sakho sentlalo, ukuphumelela ubhejo okanye ukwenza umntu abenomona? 

Ukuba ufumana le ngxaki kwaye ayinyaniseki kumbindi wokuba ungubani, nanko uya! Sele unayo impendulo yakho. 

2. Nika uthando ithuba

Ungasoloko uzilinganisela kwinkolelo yokuba amantombazana athandana nezityebi kwaye ngokwesiqhelo abafana abahle kuphela. Njengoko batshoyo kwifilimu ethi Before Sunrise, “Ngaba yonke into esiyenzayo ebomini asiyondlela yokuthandwa nangakumbi?

Embindini wayo yonke into, sonke sijonge nje uthando olungunaphakade olwenza ubomi bube lula. Ngoko ke, ndiyeke iinkolelo zakho ezingalunganga zokuthandana kwaye unike uthando ithuba, nokuba uziva ukuba iqabane lakho lishushu ngakumbi kunawe. 

3. Ukwaliwa, yintoni leyo?

Negative ukuthandana iinkolelo kudityaniswe uloyiko ukuva 'hayi' push abafana abaninzi ngaphandle umdlalo wothando. Nyathela olo loyiko kwaye wenze ngathi 'akakho' kwiligi yakho. 

Kwaye ngewulwenzile uphando lwakho kuye ngaphambi kokuba wenze isigqibo sokumcenga. Yiya kuye ngeso sibindi sokukholelwa kwaye uya kumangaliswa kukuva 'ewe' omnandi.

Ukuqalisa incoko kwaye ekugqibeleni, ubuhlobo, buhamba indlela ende. Ngaloo ndlela, unokwazi ukuba nobabini nifuna into enye ngeli xesha lithile ebomini benu. Kwakhona, iincoko zinciphisa uxinzelelo kunye noloyiko lokwaliwa, kwaye voila!

Asiyiyo kanye le nto ubuyifuna?

4. Yonwaba kwindawo yomhlobo

Ukwabelana ubuhlobo obukhulu kunye nabasetyhini okunene unokukunika ukuqonda ngakumbi oko abafazi bafuna ngokwenene. Abahlobo bakho (abangamantombazana) banokukunceda ukuba ulahle izithintelo zakho malunga nabasetyhini kwaye ngaloo ndlela usondela kufutshane neligi yakhe.

 Uya kumangaliswa xa usazi ukuba bafuna izinto ezilula kubomi babo- hayi iimoto zexabiso eliphezulu kunye nezipho ezigqithisileyo. Ixesha.

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5. Mbonise ukuba ukhethekile

Indlela ekhawulezayo yokuphumelela intombazana kukuqinisekisa ukuba uyaxatyiswa kwaye uphathwa njengokumkanikazi. Musa ukumncoma nje. Zama ukwazi izinto ezincinci ngaye. Uthanda ukwenza ntoni xa eyedwa? Uyithatha njani ikofu yakhe? Yintoni eyona nto iyoyika kakhulu? 

Xa uzama ukufikelela koyena wokwenyani kwaye umenze abone ukuba mhle kwaye ukhethekile kangakanani, akukho ndlela yokuba abonakale 'ephumile kwiligi yakho'. Uya kubonakala njengaye nabani na.

6. Vula umtsalane wakho

Sukuzama ukuzithengela entliziyweni yakhe ngokumpha izipho, wenze izithembiso ezigqithileyo kwaye wenze amabali ngobomi bakho ukuze amchukumise. Kunoko, nyaniseka ngeemvakalelo zakho.

Thetha ngeziganeko zokwenene zobomi bakho, mbuze ngobomi bakhe. Yabelana ngento yokwenyani. Sebenza kuburharha- obuya kuhlala nawe naxa amanye amakhubalo enyama ephela. Oko kuya kumenza akulahlele iligi yakhe ekuhambeni kwexesha.

7. Yakha ukuzithemba kwakho

Nokuba wenza imali, utshintshe inkangeleko yakho, ukrazulwe i-abs, akukho nto iya kukufumana intombazana yakho de usebenze ngokuzithemba kwakho. Yiya kwiingcambu zokungakhuseleki kwakho kwaye uzikhuphe. 

Kunokuba ujonge kwizinto ongenazo, nikela ingqalelo ekulungiseni iziphiwo zakho. Mhlawumbi ujongeka ngcono, kodwa wena ungumdlali wegitare ongcono. Ngoko kutheni ungazami ukusebenza kubuchule bakho besiginkci ukuze umchukumise? Usenokuba uphumile kwiligi yakho, kodwa nje ukuba uthathe isigqibo sokubaleka imayile eyongezelelweyo kwaye uzisebenzele, uya kuba kwiligi yakhe.

8. Mbonise ukuba ulungile ngokwaneleyo

Uninzi lwabafana lwenza umzamo omkhulu wokufumana ingqalelo yentombazana ngaphandle kokuba naziphi na izicwangciso zokuyigcina. Emva kokuba unike ingqalelo yentombazana, qiniseka ukuba ifumana ukukubona ukuba ungubani ngokwenene. 

Hlala uyindoda ehloniphekileyo, uphathe wonke umntu ngembeko nangembeko. Ungaze uqhayise kwaye ungabi sisibhanxa engafuni nokumbona. Thatha ixesha lakho lokumazi kwaye uhlale unobubele kwaye ufudumele kuye. 

Musa ukwenza ngokulangazelela ukuhoywa. Ungamcuphi okanye umenze azive engakhuselekanga – yiba kufutshane naye xa esengxakini. Yiba ngumntu anokuthembela kuye; hayi umntu owenza iziqhulo ezingabizi kakhulu ngeendleko zabanye. Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuqala ukukuqaphela ukuba wenza iinzame ezinyanisekileyo zokufumana ingqalelo yakhe.

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Gcina ukhumbule la macebiso angasentla kwaye usebenze kuwo ukuba uzimisele ngokuthandana. Ngubani owaziyo, kwixesha elizayo xa uhamba ngesitrato kunye nentombi yakho, wonke umntu unexesha elinzima lokuphendula - "ufumene njani umntu wokuphuma kwiligi yakhe?" Kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo uyawazi ama-nuances okutsala kunye nokuthandana nomntu obhinqileyo.

Kwaye, uncuma nje indlela yakho.

Umnikelo wakho awuquki isisa umnikelo. Iya kuvumela i-Bonobology ukuba iqhubeke nokukuzisela ulwazi olutsha nolwangoku kwiphulo lethu lokunceda nabani na osehlabathini ukuba afunde ukwenza nantoni na.