Yi-3 AM kwaye ulapho, ucinga ngaphezulu kobudlelwane bakho bonke. Uyazibuza, "Ngaba ndilungile ebhedini? Ngaba iqabane lam linomdla kum? Ngaba kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba ungatsaleleki kwiqabane likabani?" Yonke le mibuzo, mhlawumbi ibangelwe kukuhla komgangatho wokwabelana ngesondo kubudlelwane bakho, ikubeka kumzamo othe kratya wokufumana indlela yokuba ngumthandi ongcono.
Ukucinga kwakho ngaphezulu kunengqiqo nangona kunjalo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukwabelana ngesondo yinto ebaluleke kakhulu kubudlelwane obuyimpumelelo. Ngoku ka uphando, esinye sezizathu ezibangela ukuba izibini ezithandanayo ziphelelwe kukuthandana. Kwaye awufuni kuphelela ekubeni sisibini. Into yokuba ulapha, uzama ukufumana impendulo “indlela yokuba sisithandwa esingcono kumyeni okanye kwinkosikazi okanye iqabane lam” ibonisa ukuba uyikhathalele impilo yobudlelwane bakho kwaye awukhange wehle kwindlela emtyibilizi yokungakhathali. Ewe, kudos kuwe!
Ngokubhekiselele ekugcineni intlantsi yenkanuko iqhubeka, ungakhathazeki, sinomqolo wakho. Silapha ukukunceda kumzamo wakho wokuphakamisa umdlalo wakho wesondo kwaye ufumanise ukuba ungaba njani isithandwa esingcono ebhedini, sixhaswa yingcaphephe yokuqonda evela kwisazi ngesondo. UGqr. Rajan Bhonsle (MD, MBBS Medicine and Surgery), oye waba yingcali yezesondo eqinisekisiweyo iminyaka engaphezu kwamashumi amathathu.
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Isiqulatho
UGqr. Bhonsle uthi: “Amacebiso okuba sithandwa esifanelekileyo ayahluka kwiimeko yaye akanakuthethwa ngokubanzi ngawo. akukho sex emtshatweni bekungayi kusebenza kwabo bangavisisaniyo ngeentlobano zesini ezenziwa emlonyeni kulwalamano.” Ke, kuxhomekeke apho ukhoyo, bhala inqaku lamacebiso aluncedo asebenzayo kuwe:
1. Sebenzisa ii-3 Cs zonxibelelwano
Indlela yokukholisa indoda ebhedeni okanye indlela yokukholisa umfazi ebhedini - nokuba yintoni ingxaki yakho, yazi ukuba inkqubo yokwakha ubuhlobo obusondeleyo iqala ngaphandle kwegumbi lokulala. Ukwabelana ngesondo emtshatweni okanye ubudlelwane abukwazi ukuphumelela ngaphandle kokuba amaqabane ahambelana ngokwasemoyeni. Ngenxa yoko, kubalulekile ukuqonda omnye komnye kwaye ningaphosi umsindo xa niqala ukubona ukungakhululeki okanye ukugculela iqabane lakho ukuba alikuniki ngoko nangoko into oyicelileyo. Konke oku kunokuququzelelwa kuphela ngonxibelelwano oluvulekileyo nolunyanisekileyo. UGqr. Bhonsle uthetha ngee-3 Cs zezakhono zonxibelelwano:
- Gqibezela izivakalisi zakho: Cacisa kakhulu malunga nento oyifunayo ebhedini. Umzekelo, abanye babathengi bam bathetha ngendlela abathanda ngayo ukwanga okude, okumanzi kwamaFrentshi ngelixa abanye bekhetha iipekhi ezithambileyo. Ziziphi izinto ozikhethayo? Namaqabane akho? Thetha ngezi zinto ukuze ufumane i-sexual synergy yakho
- Ukubonakaliswa okucacileyo kweemfuno: Cacisa ngokucacileyo umzimba wakho obalulekileyo kunye iimfuno zeemvakalelo. Ukuthi “Hmmmm” kusenokuthetha izinto ezahlukeneyo. Iqabane lakho alisomfundi wengqondo onokuthi abone ngomnxeba ukuba ukhathazekile okanye uyathandabuza
- Unxibelelwano olukhathalayo: Inkathalo yakho nenkxalabo ngeqabane lakho kufuneka ibonakale kwindlela othetha ngayo nabo. Kuphephe ukugxeka. Xa uthetha into enje, "Uhlala u-orgasm ngokukhawuleza", udibana njengomvavanyi, ovavanya intsebenzo yomnye umntu ebhedini kunokuba iqabane elabelana kwaye liwonwabele amava kunye nabo.
2. Fumana indlela ephakathi ukuqinisekisa ukuba iimfuno zamaqabane omabini ziyafezekiswa
Indlela yokuba ngumthandi ongcono kumfazi wam? Ndingayenza njani isondo ukuba mnandi ngakumbi kumyeni wam? Iqabane lam kunye nam singawukhulisa njani uthando lwethu? – Impendulo kuyo yonke le mibuzo ibila ekuqinisekiseni ukuba iimfuno zamaqabane omabini zithathelwe ingqalelo kwaye zihlangatyezwane namaxesha akho obusenyongweni, ngakumbi xa ezi mfuno zichaswa ngokugqithisileyo.
Ngaba ukuwolana emva kokwabelana ngesondo kubalulekile komnye wenu ngelixa omnye efuna indawo? Ngaba iqabane lakho likhetha isondo ekuseni okanye emva kwemini kwaye ukhetha ebusuku? Kuthekani ngokukhetha kwakho kwi-foreplay? Ukuthetha ngale miba kunye nokufumana indawo ephakathi kwimiba apho iimfuno zakho zahlukile ngundoqo. "Omnye wabathengi bam wayengakuthandi ukugonwa emva kokwabelana ngesondo ngenxa yokuba wayelala kancinci kodwa umfazi wakhe wayefuna ukumbamba. Oku kungafani kwiimfuno zabo kwabashiya bobabini beziva benganelisekanga. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ndicebisa amaqabane ukuba adibane phakathi kwendlela, umzekelo, ukumbambana imizuzu eyi-15 emva kokwabelana ngesondo okanye ngeempelaveki".
Ngokufanayo, ezinye izibini azivumelani ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo. Indoda inokuziva ivuseleleke ngakumbi kusasa kodwa ibhinqa linokukhetha ukulala ebusuku.Xa umthanda umntu, ugcina ingqondo evulekileyo kwaye uvume ukuthethathethana ngezinto ezinjalo.Awuyithinti imikhwa yabo emincinci engaqhelekanga, eneneni, ezo zizinto ezinqabileyo ozenzayo ukuba uyamthanda uBhotle.
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3. Ukuseka izinto ekungaxoxiswana ngazo
Indlela yokuba ngumthandi olungileyo? Fumanisa ukuba iqabane lakho lithanda ntoni na nelingazithandiyo ebhedini. Ukunikela ingqalelo kwi-nitty gritty kubaluleke kakhulu. UGqr. Bhonsle ucacisa esithi: “Isibini endasilulekayo satyhalela kumngcipheko woqhawulo-mtshato ngenxa nje yokuba singazange sibeke imida engokwesini kulwalamano lwaso phezu kwako nje ukuba sasithandana kangangeminyaka emithathu ngaphambi komtshato.” Eli bhinqa laqhawula umtshato kuba umyeni walo wayefuna ukuba neentlobano zesini ezimpundu, nto leyo awayifumanisa iyinto ecekisekayo.
“Nangona imida yomntu isenokuba bhetyebhetye xa kuthethwa ngokuncamisana okanye ukwenza unxibelelwano, ukunyanzela umntu ukuba azame izenzo zesondo angakhululekanga kuzo kunokumbuyisela umva.” Undoqo ekuqondeni indlela yokukholisa umntu wasetyhini ebhedini – okanye indoda, kulo mbandela – kukuqinisekisa ukuba yintoni eyamkelekileyo nengamkelekanga. indima yemvume ayinakubethwa ngoyaba, nokuba ukweliphi na inqanaba lobudlelwane.”
4. Sebenzisa u-“Mna” endaweni yokuthi “wena” ulwimi
UGqr Bhonsle uthetha ngeenkcukacha ezinkulu malunga nolwimi luka-"I" kubudlelwane obusondeleyo. Ugxininisa ukuba umntu kufuneka athi, "Ndingathanda ukuba ugobe emva kokwabelana ngesondo", endaweni yokuthi, "Uhlala ubaleka emva kokwabelana ngesondo". Ngokufanayo, endaweni yokuthi, “Ungayonwabela njani isondo somlomo? Kuyacekiseka!” Unokuthi, “Andithandi/andonwabeli isini somlomo”.
Wongezelela athi, “Ilizwi elityholayo okanye elithoba isidima linokwenza umntu azive engafunwa kwaye azithethelele.Nangona unelungelo lokuchaza izinto ozikhethayo nokwabelana ngezinto ozithandayo nangazithandiyo neqabane lakho, kufuneka ulumke ekukhetheni amagama. yithi hayi kwi sex okanye izenzo ezithile zesini ngaphandle kokwenzakalisa iimvakalelo zeqabane lakho.”
5. I-Orgasm ayiyonjongo yokugqibela
Oku kungenxa yesithandwa esikuwe - ukwabelana ngesondo akusoloko kukhokelela kwi-orgasm. UGqr. Bhonsle uthi, “Ukuba ufuna ukuba sisithandwa esingcono, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba i-orgasm ayinyanzelwanga kwisenzo ngasinye. abafazi abakwazi ukwenza i-orgasm ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo kodwa bazincede kwi-O enkulu kamva. Ngamanye amaxesha, iqabane elinye kuphela elinokwenza i-orgasm ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo kwaye linokuthi livuselele elinye kuyo.
Eyona ndlela ingcono yokuphucula umgangatho wesondo emtshatweni okanye kubudlelwane kukugcina izinto zimanzi kwaye ziguquguqukayo kwaye wenze oko kusebenza kakuhle kuwe nakwiqabane lakho. Khumbula, akukho ndlela ilungileyo okanye ingalunganga apha; nantoni na ezisa wena kunye neqabane lakho ulonwabo yindlela yokuhamba.
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6. Ungawajongeli phantsi amandla emiboniso yothando
Njengoko besesitshilo ngaphambili, uhambo lokufumana indlela yokuba ngumthandi ongcono ebhedini luqala ngaphandle kwegumbi lokulala. Ukuba unengxaki yokungabinasondo emtshatweni okanye kubudlelwane, okanye nokuba ufuna ukuphucula umgangatho wesini, kuya kufuneka wakhele ekujuleni konxibelelwano lwakho nomnye umntu obalulekileyo.
Enye indlela eqinisekileyo yokwenza oko kukukhuthaza ukusondelana ngokomzimba kubudlelwane. UGqr. Bhonsle ucebisa ngelithi, “Imiboniso yothando engeyiyo eyesini enjengokubambana ngezandla, ukuwola, ukuwolana nokuncamisana kubaluleke gqitha ekwenzeni amaqabane amabini azive esondelelene yaye esondelelene.” Ngoko ke, yenza umzamo wokwenza iqabane lakho lizive lithandwa ngaphandle kwegumbi lokulala ukuba ufuna ukunyusa ubushushu ngaphakathi.
7. Yehlisa isantya kwaye wonwabele iqabane lakho
Oku kubambele i-foreplay kunye nokwabelana ngesondo. Abantu badla ngokutshayelwa kubushushu balo mzuzu kangangokuba bangaziniki ixesha lokungcamla amava okuthandana namaqabane abo. Ukutshintsha oko kunokuba linyathelo lokuqala lokuba ngumthandi ongcono komnye umntu obalulekileyo.
Ukuba uyazibuza "indlela yokuba ngumthandi ongcono kumfazi wam / intombi" okanye "indlela yokwenza isondo sibe mnandi ngakumbi kumyeni wam / isoka", le yindawo efanelekileyo yokuqala. Thatha ixesha elaneleyo lokuphonononga imizimba yomnye kwaye nizibandakanye kumdlalo wangaphambili ocacileyo rhoqo kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Ukuba sele uyenzile loo nto, zama ukuthoba isantya kwaye ukonwabele umzuzu ngamnye. Jonga emehlweni iqabane lakho kwaye ngokwenene ukonwabela ukwenza uthando. Imfihlo kukuzibophelela kulo mzuzu kwaye uthobe ngokwenene amava.
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8. Zama izikhundla ezintsha kunye nezahlukeneyo ebhedini
Wonke umntu unelungelo lokuphonononga, lokuvakalisa, kunye nokulinga ngento ebavusayo, ebangela imincili nebanelisayo. Oku kubalulekile ekwakheni ubudlelwane obanelisayo. Ayikokuphela kwezikhundla ozonwabelayo kodwa nezo ufuna ukuzama ngazo. Musa ukuzikhawulela, ngokusekelwe kumava adlulileyo, kwaye uvule izinto ezintsha. Sithembe, ukuzithemba kungundoqo.
Ukuphonononga izikhundla ezitsha kubaluleke ngakumbi ukuba wena okanye iqabane lakho lijongene nemiba ethile yezempilo. Umzekelo, ukuba isoka/umyeni wakho ujongana nokungasebenzi kakuhle kwe-erectile okanye ukuxhalaba kwezesondo, ukuvuleleka ekulingeni ebhedini kungaba yimpendulo yakho kwindlela yokukholisa indoda ebhedini. Izikhundla ezithile zinokubanceda benze ngcono. Ngokunjalo, amadoda angaba ngcono ebhedini ngokuzama izikhundla ezithandekayo kumaqabane abo.
9. Phonononga indawo yakho kunye neqabane lakho
Umzimba womntu usikelelwe ngomxube obangela umdla wemimandla ene-erogenous kwaye ezi zinokwahluka kumntu nomntu. Ukuphonononga imimandla erogenous yomnye kunye nokuchitha ixesha ukusebenza kubo yindlela eqinisekileyo yokuthatha chemistry yakho ngokwesondo ukuya kwinqanaba elilandelayo. Ukusuka ukuncamisa entanyeni ukuya kwi-earlobe nibbling, ukusuka emathangeni ukuya kwiinzwane kunye nomva wamadolo, ukusuka ekufunxeni ukuya ekulunyweni okuthambileyo - kukho indawo eninzi yokuvavanya apha.
Ukuba ufuna ukufunda indlela yokuba ngumthandi ongcono kwigumbi lokulala, qalisa ngokujonga iindawo ezinqabileyo zomnye ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Ngolu phononongo olubonakala lulula lwemizimba yomnye nomnye, unokunyusa ubunzulu bobudlelwane bezesondo ngokukhawuleza.
10. Bakhwankqise ngezinto ezintsha
Ubudlelwane obusondeleyo kwigumbi lokulala bungaphezulu kokudlala kwangaphambili kunye nesondo, kwaye awukwazi ukugqiba ukufunda ukuba ngumthandi ongcono ngaphandle kokuba usebenza kwizinto ezibalulekileyo ezibeka ithoni yomnqweno kunye uthando kwigumbi lokulala. Ukuba uyazibuza "indlela yokuba sisithandwa esingcono kumyeni wam" okanye "indlela yokufumana umfazi wam kwimeko yengqondo", ke la macebiso avela kubudlelwane kunye nomqeqeshi wobudlelwane obusondeleyo. Shivanya Yogmayaa inokukunceda:
- Nxiba, ivumba elimnandi kwaye uthandane njengabantu abangaziwayo kwakhona
- Thatha ibhafu yeqamza okanye ishawa kunye
- Qhawulani amehlo nikhulule omnye nomnye
- Gxila iqabane lakho ngomdaniso oqhawula umtshato
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11. Yiva yonwabele indawo nganye yokuthandana kwigumbi lokulala
Ngaphambi kokuba uqale isenzo, qhagamshelana ngokwenene. Ukuzama nge ukungachukumisi ngokwesondo okufana nokuphulula umzimba omnye kunokuphumla kwaye kuncede izibini ziphinde ziqhagamshelane ngokusondeleyo kunokuba zibandakanyeke kwisondo. Dlala umculo othile kwigumbi lokuphumla kwaye ukhanyise amakhandlela njengoko niphululana. Ngoku ukuba uyonwabele ishawari, ukuphululwa komzimba, umdaniso wokuqhawuka, ukuqhula, umdlalo ongaphambili, kunye nokwabelana ngesondo okuvuthuza ingqondo, incasa indawo elandelayo ngokunjalo.
Emva kokuba ugqibile ukwenza isenzo, musa ukucinga ngokukhawuleza malunga nokunxiba okanye ukulala. Chitha ixesha elithile endaweni yoko. Imizuzu emva kwesondo yizona zithembekileyo kwaye zisengozini. Chitha loo maxesha ulele ezingalweni zeqabane lakho, uphulula iinwele okanye umzimba ngokungenangqondo, kwaye uthethe nabo. Ukuba awukho mkhulu ekuthetheni, chitha loo maxesha uthe cwaka, kodwa qiniseka ukuba uyalinandipha elo xesha kunye.
Iimpawu eziphambili
- Ukuze ube ngumthandi ongcono kwiqabane lakho, kufuneka uziqonde kunye neemfuno zabo - zombini iimvakalelo kunye nezesondo
- Chaza ngokucacileyo izinto zakho ezingenakuxoxisana kwaye ubeke imida yezesondo kwangethuba
- Sebenzisa ingxelo ethi “Mna” ukuchaza iimfuno zakho kwiqabane lakho
- Musa ukuzinzisa kwiimbono ezisoloko zikho malunga nokuba kufanele kube njani isini esilungileyo; nantoni na esebenzayo kuwe kunye neqabane lakho yindlela yokuhamba
- Yibeke phambili imiboniso yothando engeyiyo eyesondo ukwenza nzulu ubudlelwane bakho
- Gcina umangalise iqabane lakho ngezinto ezintsha kwaye ujonge imizimba yomnye nomnye ukuze ugcine uthando luvutha
Iingcinga zethu zokugqibela zinokusebenzisa inqaku elilula, kunye neengcebiso zakudala ezivela Indlela yokuba ngumthandi olungileyo, incwadi ehlelwe lithala leencwadi laseBodleian, “Musa ukuzama ukuncamisa kwiphenyane ngaphandle kokuba niyakwazi ukuqubha nobabini yaye anisincamisi isithandwa sakho umnqwazi usentloko.” Iziqhulo ecaleni, ukuba nje ungaphulukananga nomdla kwiqabane lakho, uya kufumana iindlela ezintsha zokunxibelelana nabo.
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