Izinto ezili-18 eziBaselwe ngokweNzululwazi eziguqula abasetyhini

Yintoni ejika abafazi kakhulu? Mhlawumbi omnye weyona mibuzo ixhaphakileyo amadoda acinga ngayo, okwesibini kuphela "Bafuna ntoni abafazi?" Ndiyabulela kwi-patriarchy, imfundo yezesondo eyaneleyo, kunye nenkcubeko ye-pop egxile ekugxilweni kwabasetyhini, impendulo yalo mbuzo ingaba nzima ukuyifumana. Kukho intetho encinci malunga nokujika kwabasetyhini okanye ngesondo, kwaye nantoni na ekhoyo ihlala ijongwa okanye itshintshwe ngokucwangcisiweyo ukuze ihambelane neengcinga ezikhoyo. 

Kodwa izinto ziyatshintsha, kwaye injalo nembali yesikhangeli somntu oyindoda ophakathi, ongasebenzisi nje uGoogle "Pornhub", "Premier League", kunye "novavanyo olukhawulezileyo", kodwa izinto ezinje "Uyifumana njani iclitoris?" kwaye "Yintoni ejika umfazi malunga nendoda", kwaye "Ngaba iindevu zivula abafazi?" Kodwa i-intanethi yindawo enkulu kwaye ihlala ilahlekisa. Silapha ukukunika ingcaciso, ngoncedo lobudlelwane kunye nomqeqeshi wobudlelwane obusondeleyo Shivanya Yogmayaa (eqinisekisiwe ngamazwe ngamazwe kwiindlela zonyango ze-EFT, NLP, CBT, REBT), ojongene neendlela ezahlukeneyo zokucebisa izibini. Ubonelela ngeembono ezintle ezinokukunceda ufumane iindlela ezichuliweyo zokumvulela.

Yintoni Ejika Abasetyhini? 18 Izinto ezingqinwe ngokwenzululwazi

Kangangexesha elide, abasetyhini bazinze kubomi bezesondo obungonelisiyo, bezenza ngathi bane-orgasms, abakhe bayifumane loo nto, nokuba kungenxa yokungaqondi okanye ngenxa yokoyika ukujongela phantsi amaqabane abo. Kodwa amaxesha ayatshintsha. Abasetyhini baye bathetha kakhulu ngokungonwabi kwabo. Kwaye loo nto ibangele ukuba amadoda amaninzi acinge malunga nokuba yintoni eguqula umfazi. 

Ukuba ungomnye waloo madoda acingela ukuba mkhulu ebhedini nje ngenxa yokuba iqabane lakho akathethi ngeentlungu, makhe ndiphule kuwe: Kufuneka wenze ngcono. Ngoba?

• Ukwenza amava abe mnandi kuni nobabini
• Ukuqinisekisa ukuba ubudlelwane bunokusinda kuba amandla kunye nokubaluleka kwesondo kubudlelwane ayinakungahoywa
• Kukwenza uzive wonwabile ukwenza iqabane lakho owabelana nalo ngesondo lizive kamnandi
• Kuba bubuncinane obunqabileyo

Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, nazi iimpendulo ezili-18 ezixhaswe ngokwesayensi kumbuzo wakho, yintoni evula owasetyhini:

1. Unomzimba oqolileyo osempilweni

Inkcubeko yePop iqhubele phambili intsomi yomzimba onezihlunu kakhulu njengowona mzimba ufanelekileyo wamadoda. Nangona kunjalo, uphando icebisa ukuba umzimba onempilo kunye ne-16% yamafutha kunye ne-80% ye-muscle ratio ithathwa njengento ekhangayo. La manani akuluhlu lwamafutha asempilweni akwi-8–21% kumadoda asempilweni eCaucasian. Kuyathakazelisa ukuqaphela ukuba i-muscularity ithathwa njenge-sexy ikakhulu kubudlelwane bexesha elifutshane, njengoko kucetyisiwe isifundo. Ke, ukuba ubuzibuza ukuba ungalivula njani iqabane lakho okanye uphucule ubomi bakho bokwabelana ngesondo, nazi izinto ezimbalwa ekufuneka uzigcine engqondweni:

• Zama ukugcina umzimba usempilweni
• Ubunzima bezihlunu buhle kodwa abuhambi kuhlola iindlela ezingafanelekanga njengokutya ngokugqithisileyo okanye izongezo ezinokuba neziphumo ebezingalindelekanga.
• Gxininisa kwisihlunu sexesha elifutshane kunye nomzimba ophilileyo kubudlelwane obude

Shivanya uthi, “Nangona amaxesha etshintshile, ingqondo yendaleko isadlala indima enkulu koko abafazi bakubona kunomtsalane endodeni. iindima zesini zemveli ezifana nomzimba onezihlunu okanye iindevu zibonisa indima yomkhuseli emadodeni. Ezi mpawu zihambelana nobufazi bomfazi kwaye ziguqukela emzimbeni kwintombazana. "

2. Unomgangatho olungileyo kunye neenwele zobuso ezilungisiweyo

Research icebisa ukuba ukukhanya ukuya kwiindiza ezinzima kuthathwa njengobudoda ngakumbi ngabasetyhini xa kuthelekiswa nobuso obuchetyiweyo. Intshebe enzima nayo yayihamba bhetele kunobuso obuchetyiweyo kodwa kwakunokwenzeka ukuba inike uluvo lukayise kwaye yayibonwa njengento ekhethwayo kubudlelwane bexesha elide. Ukwenza intliziyo yakhe itsibe,  

• Khulisa iindiza. Yigcine ilungisiwe
• Research icebisa ukuba ukukhula kweentsuku ezi-5-10 kwakuthandwa kakhulu ngabasetyhini njengento enomtsalane, ke qhubeka ucheba ihlathi.

3. Unolwimi lomzimba olukhulu

UShivanya uthi, “Into amabhinqa ayifumanisa ishushu ngamadoda athile kukuba aqala ahende iingqondo zawo, aze emva koko athobe imizimba yawo. Research icebisa ukuba i-expansive posture kunye nokuhamba okulawulwayo kubonisa ukuzithemba, kunye nokwandisa ukunqweneleka komntu. Iimpahla ezinkulu neziqholo zilahlekile kumadoda angakwaziyo ukuzithwala. Ukuma okulungileyo akubonisi nje umzimba ophilileyo kodwa kunye nobabalo kunye nokulawula. Ngoko, 

• Yenza isikwele emagxeni akho ngelixa uhamba, musa ukuzingela
• Gcina isilevu sakho siphezulu. Hamba uphakamise intloko yakho 
• Musa ukuthoba ngelixa uhleli
• Khetha iprofayile efanelekileyo imifanekiso yakho ukuthandana profile ebonisa ukuma okubanzi

4. Ukuba uneziva edabini, ziqhayise ngazo

Kukho isizathu sokuba Khal Drogo ukusuka Game of Thrones wenza uJason Momoa waqaqanjelwa yintliziyo ngobusuku – isiva kwishiya lakhe lasekhohlo. Isiva sasentsomini siye saduma kangangokuba abantu kuthiwa baqala ukucheba amashiya abo ukuze bakope isiva uJason awasifumana kuhlaselo. Abantu banokuma ngelithi amanxeba luphawu oluqhelekileyo lobudoda bendoda kwaye le ngcamango iphosakele kancinane. 

kunjalo, uphando icebisa ukuba ukukrala kukujika kwabasetyhini, ngakumbi kubudlelwane bexesha elifutshane kodwa kuphela ukuba isiva sincinci. Isiva esikhulu sisenokubonisa ukungazinzi ngokweemvakalelo, njengoko kucetyiswa koku uphando. Undoqo apha kukwenza ulungelelwano phakathi kokuqhayisayo kunye noko ukufihlayo. 

• Ukuba unamanxeba amancinane ebusweni, bonisa ngawo
• Musa ukuhamba umgama omde ukuze uzicente. Akukho nto ibonakala imbi ngaphezu kwesiva esenziweyo

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5. Iindlela ezichuliweyo zokumvulela – ukuzithemba

Intsomi enkulu malunga nokuba yindoda ezithembileyo kukuba umntu kufuneka abe yindoda ye-alpha ukuze avuselele umtsalane wesini esahlukileyo. Oku kwasasazwa kwinkcubeko ye-pop kunye nemiboniso bhanyabhanya yaseSpaghetti yaseNtshona kunye neencwadi zokuchola ezifana Umdlalo. Nangona kunjalo, uphando yanyelisa intsomi yokuba indoda eyongameleyo yiyo ejika abafazi. Olu phononongo lucebisa ukuba ukuzithemba kunye nokuzithemba kunomtsalane, kodwa xa kudityaniswa nokulawula, umtsalane awufane unyuke. 

UShivanya uyavuma esithi, “Ukuzithemba kubalulekile kodwa ubuqili ngundoqo. uphawu lwendoda ezithembileyo ukuba abafazi khangela.” Nazi ezinye izinto omele uzikhumbule malunga nokuhambisa ukuzithemba kwakho ngendlela eyiyo: 

• Zithembe, hayi iqhude. Ukuzithemba okulawulwayo kuguqula umfazi ngaphezu kwayo nantoni na
• Bonisa ubundlongondlongo kunye nolawulo kwabo bakhuphisana nabo, hayi abahlobo bakho kunye nosapho lwakho. A isifundo bafumanise ukuba abafazi bathanda ukuthanda indoda endlongondlongo nelawula abantu esikhuphisana nayo kodwa inovelwano nobuhlobo kusapho lwayo nabahlobo.
• Yehlisa isandi selizwi lakho ukubonisa ukuba uyinkokeli. Research icebisa ukuba inowuthi esezantsi inxibelelane nobuchule kunye nolawulo ngelixa inowuthi ephezulu ibonisa ukunqongophala kokuzithemba.

6. Unobubele

Nangona ingxoxo ende malunga nokuba i-chivalry i-sexist okanye ayikho, abafazi abaninzi bafumana i-chivalry ekhangayo, ngokutsho uphando. Inkcazo enokwenzeka yale ndlela yokuziphatha kukuba indoda e-chivalrous ibonakala ikulungele ukutyala imali kubudlelwane. 

UShivanya uyacacisa, “I-Chivalry ayikokubamba iingcango nje kuphela, kukudala umoya wokuthembana phakathi kwakho. iindlela ezilula ukumenza ukuthandana nawe.” Nazi ezinye iindlela zokwenza i-chivalrous streak yakho ikhanye:

• Hamba kwicala elingaphandle kwendlela yeenyawo xa uphuma 
• Mnike ibhatyi yakho ukuba ucinga ukuba angagodola
• Hamba naye ekhaya, kodwa kuphela ukuba ukhululekile
• Yiba nobubele kubo nabaphi na abantwana okanye izilwanyana ezikufutshane naye

7. Ungadlala kakuhle

Ukudlala ngothando ngumdaniso wanamhlanje wokukhwelana. Iimpawu zokuncwasa, nokuba ngamazwi okanye ngomlomo, zinokwahluka ngokwenkcubeko nenkcubeko. Nangona kunjalo, ukujonga amehlo kunye noncumo luphawu oluqhelekileyo lokudlala ngothando. Research icebisa ukuba uburharha bunokuba liqhinga elisebenzayo lokudlala ngothando. Ekubeni uburharha buxhomekeke, umntu kufuneka ajonge izikhombisi ezifana nolwimi lomzimba wakhe kunye nokuphendula ngomlomo ukuvavanya ukuba uphendula kakuhle na. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso ezikhawulezayo zokwandisa umdlalo wakho wokudlala ngothando: 

• Ziphephe imigca yokuchola esetyenziswa kakhulu
• Xa uthandabuza, qala ngoncumo
• Gcina ujonge ukuba ingaba incoko iya isiba mandundu okanye iyaphelelwa
• Sebenzisa i-bio edlala ngothando kwii-apps zokuthandana-inokwandisa amathuba akho okufumana imidlalo nge-400%, njengoko kucetyisiwe yile isifundo

8. Uyazigcina

Ucoceko lunokuba lizothe. Research ichaza ukonyanya amavumba amabi njengendlela yokuzikhusela kuyo nantoni na enokwenza ubani adibane nesifo esosulelayo. Research ikwabonisa ukuba ivumba lingaba phambili kuneempawu ezibonakalayo. Oku kuthetha nje ukuba unxiba kakuhle kodwa unuka kakubi, kukwenza ubonakale ungathandeki. UShivanya uthi, "Inzululwazi yevumba isoloko ingahoywa. Ukunuka kamnandi kukujika kwabasetyhini. Kwakhona kubalulekile ukujonga kunye. Ibonisa ukuba nguwe olawula izinto ezikungqongileyo.” Nazi izinto ezimbalwa ekufuneka uzigcine engqondweni ukugcina isibheno sakho sikwinqaku:

• Nxiba ngokulula kodwa ngobuchule
• Zama ukujonga ngathi ubeka inzame kwinkangeleko yakho
• Endaweni yokulandela iifashoni zamva nje, khetha izitayile ezilula nezicocekileyo
• Musa ukunxiba isiqholo esinamandla kakhulu. Nxiba into ethulisiwe kwaye yendalo, njenge-musk

9. Zama ukuzenza ungowakho kwimephu yakhe yothando

Kwincwadi yakhe Iimephu zothando, UJohn Money uchaza igama imephu yothando, njengomzekelo weempawu umntu anokulindela kumntu anokuba liqabane lakhe. Ezinye iimpawu, ezinjengokuqina, umtsalane womzimba, kunye nomzimba osempilweni, zixhaphakile, kodwa kunjalo, iimephu zothando zinokwahluka ukusuka komnye umntu ukuya komnye. Research icebisa ukuba abantu batyekele ekukhangeleni amaqabane afana nabo. 

Ngoko ke, ukuba uthanda umfazi ozithembileyo kwaye ozimelayo, kuya kufuneka ubonise ukuba uzithembile kwaye uyazimela nawe. UShivanya uthi, “Kufuneka ube nekhemistry kumacala omabini ukuze naluphi na ulwalamano luphumelele. Kungcono ukungachithi ixesha nomntu osenokungakufuni, endaweni yoko, khangela omnye umntu ocinga ukuba umkhulu.”

• Khangela umfazi okwinqanaba elifanayo lomtsalane njengawe
• Zama ukwenza isipili sokuziphatha kunye nobuntu bakhe ukubonisa ukuba uyafana naye
• Musa ukuswela kwaye ulungiselele umntu othe wabonakalisa ukungabi namdla wakhe kuwe

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10. Awuzoyiki iithoyi zakhe zokwabelana ngesondo

Ngokwalo isifundo, amadoda ayoyikiswa zizinto zokudlala zesini ukuya kwinqanaba lokuba achaze amanqanaba asezantsi okwaneliseka ngelixa esebenzisa i-vibrators ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo. Abaphandi bakholelwa ukuba isidingo sokusebenzisa i-vibrator ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo sibonakaliswe kakubi ekusebenzeni kwabo. Nangona kunjalo, i-vibrators inokunyusa amava esondo kwintombazana yakho, ngakumbi ukuba ucinga nge-gap ye-orgasm. Research Icebisa ukuba i-70% yabasetyhini baxela ukuba ukusebenzisa i-vibrators ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo, ngakumbi kwintshukumo yokugungqa okanye yokubhanqa, kunokunceda ukufezekisa i-orgasm ngokukhawuleza.

• Ukuba ubona idiphu kwi-libido yakhe, zama ukunonga izinto ngokuphosa ithoyi yesondo kumxube. 
• Mnike into yokudlala ngesondo ukubonisa ukuba ukhuselekile malunga nesondo sakho
• Sukuba namathandabuzo malunga nokwenza ulinge ebhedini

11. Uyalukhumbula ulonwabo lwakhe

Ngaba ukhe weva nge-gap ye-orgasm? Research Icebisa ukuba umahluko wokuphindaphinda kwe-orgasms phakathi kwamadoda nabasetyhini kuchaphazela umnqweno wesondo kunye nolindelo lwexesha elizayo. Oku kufanele kukukhathaze ukuba ucinga ukuba intombazana yakho ayinayo i-orgasm rhoqo njengoko usenza. Xa usenza umzamo wokuqinisekisa ukuba iqabane lakho line-orgasm, umenza azive enqweneleka ngakumbi. Oku kwandisa i-libido yakhe kwaye uqala ukucinga ngesondo njengento engaphantsi komsebenzi kunye namava amnandi. Nazi ezinye iindlela onokwandisa ulonwabo kuye:

• Ukuba ucinga ukuba isini somthunywa wevangeli singamenzeli, zama izikhundla ezintsha
• Research icebisa ukuba ukukhuthazwa kweclitoral yeyona nto ijika abasetyhini kakhulu, nangaphezulu kunokungena kwilungu lobufazi. Zama ukusebenzisa izandla kunye nomlomo wakho ukwandisa ubumnandi ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo
• Thetha naye ukwazi indlela yokuba ngumthandi ongcono. Zama ukuqonda ukuba yintoni engamsebenzeliyo kunye nento ayithandayo

12. Ungamthathi lula

Kwi 2019 isifundo, umnqweno wesini owasetyhini kubudlelwane be-dyadic wafunyaniswa uphenjelelwa zizinto ezintathu: ukusondelelana, ukubhiyozelwa kokunye, kunye nokuqinisekiswa kwento-umnqweno. Ubunye obubhiyozelwayo bubhekiselele ekuqondeni kubudlelwane bokuba imazi ayisondiso sendoda. Ngamagama alula, ukubhiyozelwa kokunye kuxa ungamthathi lula kwaye unokuzimela. 

Njengoko abaphandi bebhala, “umnqweno uphumelela ‘kolunye’, okuchazwa njengesithuba esiphakathi komntu siqu kunye nomnye esivumela into engaziwayo, entsha nengalindelekanga, yokothuka nokuba sengozini.” Ukumbonisa ukuba uyabuhlonipha ubuntu bakhe kunye nokuzimela, 

• Hlala ucela imvume kuyo nantoni na. Ungaze ucinge
• Gcinani isithuba phakathi kwenu, nokuba nihlala kunye
• Nxibelelana ngombulelo wakho (okanye ukumangaliswa) kukuba ukhethe wena 

13. Ukuguqula umzimba kwintombazana - imimandla ye-Erogenous

Iindawo ze-Erogenous ziindawo emzimbeni ezivuselela ulonwabo lwesondo xa uchukunyiswa. Yinkolelo eqhelekileyo ukuba amalungu esini kunye namabele erogenous kwabasetyhini. Kodwa a isifundo ufumanise ukuba iindawo ezinarhashalala zihlala zikhulu kwaye zisasazwe kuwo wonke umzimba. Ukuchukumisa intombazana yakho kuwo wonke umzimba wayo ingqwalasela eyodwa kwiindawo ezitshisayo ezifana ne-genitalia, anus, amabele, kunye nezidlele zempundu kunokuba mnandi kakhulu. A isifundo ikwabonisile ukuba ukuvuseleleka ngokwesondo kuye kwanda emfazini xa ebambe iindawo ze-erogenous zeqabane lakhe.

Kwakhona kunomdla ukuqaphela ukuba iindawo ze-erogenous zingakwazi ukwandisa ukusondelana ngokomzimba kubudlelwane hayi nje ngokubamba, kodwa nangokujonga kwakhona. Enye isifundo wabonisa ukuba ukujonga amalungu angasese eqabane kunye nommandla owungqongileyo kunokuvusa kakhulu umfazi. Ke, qiniseka ukuba ujongeka kakuhle phaya ezantsi, kwaye

• Mchukumise kakuhle kwaye uthathe ixesha lakho. Ukuxoxisana yiyona nto eyenza abafazi babe buthathaka emadolweni abo
• Mcele akuchukumise nawe. Kancinci umkhokele izandla zakhe emzimbeni wakho ukuze ube mnandi ngakumbi
• Nikela ingqalelo kwiinkalo aphendula kakhulu kuzo

14. Umenza azive ukuba nguye yedwa intombazana ehlabathini

Yintoni enika umdla malunga nokuqinisekiswa kwenjongo ephakanyisiweyo kule nto isifundo kukuba umnqweno wesini obhinqileyo awuchatshazelwa nje ngumtsalane weqabane lakhe, kodwa ngendlela enqwenelekayo aziva ngayo ngakuye. Oku kubeka imfuno kwiqabane lokuqinisekisa ukuzithemba kwakhe. UShivanya ucacisa esithi: “Emva kolwalamano oluthile, ibhinqa lisenokuqalisa ukuziva lingakhathalelwanga. Nantsi indlela:

• Usebeze endlebeni kwigumbi elizele ngabantu
• Phendula kumabali akhe eendaba zoluntu ezingacwangciswanga kunye neetekisi ze-flirty
• Mxelele ukuba ubuphupha ngaye okanye uphuphe emanzi ngaye. A isifundo bafumanise ukuba uninzi lwabathathi-nxaxheba bavulwa xa amaqabane abo ebaxelela ukuba babecinga ngabo.

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15 Uyamncoma ngobukrelekrele bakhe

Research icebisa ukuba ukuncoma kunokuphucula ukuzixabisa kowamkelayo. Funda ukuncoma umntu obhinqileyo ngobukrelekrele bakhe. UShivanya uthi, “Ndiqeqesha amadoda ukuba ancome iimpawu ezingezozamzimba zebhinqa ngaphezu kweempawu zakhe zomzimba.Ukuwuxilonga umzimba wakhe kubalulekile, njengoko oko kumenza azive enqweneleka, kodwa ukudibanisa ukuncoma kuzo zombini ezi mpawu lelona cebo lifanelekileyo. Mxelele ukuba uyamthanda ngenxa yengqondo kungekhona umzimba kuphela.”

• Nika ingqalelo kwimpumelelo yakhe kwaye uqhayise ngayo kwabanye. Yi indlela entle yokwenza intombi yakho izive ikhethekile
• Phawula oko akuthethayo ngenyameko uze ukukhumbule. Yizise kamva xa engayilindelanga

16. Uzicingela kakhulu

Ukuzithemba kwahlukile kukuzithemba ngendlela yokuba ukuzithemba yinto enokuphuhliswa njengoko umntu ekhula kwaye efumana ubuchule obungakumbi, kodwa ukuzithemba kubangelwa kukuziva uxabisekile. Ukuzithemba kunokufunyanwa ngezinto zangaphandle, kodwa ukuzithemba kunokuphuculwa kuphela ngokusebenza ngaphakathi.

Studies bonisa ukuba ukuzithemba okukhulu emadodeni kunomtsalane kakhulu emfazini. Umntu onesidima esiphakamileyo ukhuselekile ngaye kwaye unokubonelela ngemekobume ezinzileyo kulwalamano. Nantsi indlela onokuthi ubonise ngayo iqabane lakho ukuba ukuzithemba kwakho okuphezulu: 

• Mbonise ukuba uyayazi indlela yokuxabisa ubudlelwane obunempilo kwaye uyeke abo bangenampilo
• Mbonise ukuba ulindele okusengqiqweni kuwe
• Musa ukucinga ngexesha elidlulileyo kwaye ujonge kwixesha elizayo

17. Izinto eziguqula abafazi - Umqondo omhle wokuhlekisa

Isizathu esikhulu sokuba kutheni uBarney Stinson evela Indlela endiyifumene ngayo noMama wakho amanqaku ngabafazi abaninzi yayibuburharha bakhe. Research uye wacebisa ukuba uburharha bunokwenza umntu abe nomtsalane ngokwesini. Abaphandi bakholelwa ukuba uburharha butyhila ubukrelekrele, ubuchule bokuyila, kunye nezinye ‘imizila yemfuza elungileyo’ okanye ‘umzali olungileyo’, nto leyo eyenza kube nguthunywashe ekukhetheni isini. 

Research ikwacebisa ukuba ukuhlekisa okuzijongela phantsi, ngakumbi ngamadoda akwinqanaba eliphezulu kunokuphucula umtsalane wabo njengoko kucebisa ukuzithemba okuphezulu, enye into ekukhetheni ngokwesondo. Ngoko, 

• Gxininisa kuburharha bokuziva bonwabile, okanye kwezona zinto zimbi ukuzeyisa. Kuphephe ukuhlekisa ngabanye
• Uburharha buxhomekeke kodwa kuyacetyiswa ukuba ukhwebuke kwimixholo ephikisanayo
• Gxininisa kumgangatho, hayi ubungakanani. Ufuna ukubonakala unomtsalane, hayi i-clownish. 
• A uburharha owomileyo ixabisa amakhulukhulu eziqhulo zokunkqonkqoza

18. Unomdla

Kukho into enomtsalane ngokwemvelo malunga nokubona umdyarho webhayisekile esondeza kufutshane okanye ukubukela umntywizisi ochwepheshile ejula. Ifumana intliziyo yakho ukubaleka, ikuzalisa ngeadrenaline, kwaye ikwenza ufune ukukhotha ibhodi yakhe yokuhlamba. Ngoba? Kuba kuyingozi. 

Imingcipheko esekelwe kumzingeli-umqokeleli wendaleko yomntu, njengemidlalo egqithisileyo okanye ukuhlala endle, ibonakala inomtsalane. Research ikwacebisa ukuba abasetyhini basenokutsaleleka kwindoda enesimo sengqondo esifana nesabo ngomngcipheko. Nantsi indlela onokuziveza ngayo njengokuthatha umngcipheko ngononophelo:

• Thatha imingcipheko ebaliweyo emngqongileyo
• Ziphephe iingozi zale mihla ezinjengokungcakaza okanye ukuqhuba ngaphandle kwebhanti lesihlalo
• Mbuze amacebiso malunga nezinto eziye zenzeka hamba kabini ningaphonononga kunye. Zama ukuyenza into ehambelana noko akhululekileyo kuyo
• Zizenzekela. Zama izinto ezintsha, ngakumbi ezo angazange azizame ngaphambili

Okokugqibela, ndibuze uShivanya ukuba kutheni abafazi bevulwa ngabalinganiswa abangeyonyani abanjengoChristian Grey okanye uDamon Salvatore abanganyanisekanga. Uyachaza, "Amaxesha amaninzi, ngumfazi owenzakeleyo ophendukela kwindoda enjalo ngenxa yokuba ubudlelwane obungasebenziyo buyinto eqhelekileyo kuye. Kodwa nangona umfazi onengqondo efuna ubudlelwane apho efuna khona ubukhosi, indoda kufuneka ikhumbule ukuba ngumdlalo owufunayo.

Kufuneka ukhathalele ukuba umfazi ucinga ntoni xa uceba ukungena kubudlelwane naye. Nokuba lixesha elifutshane okanye ixesha elide, kufuneka uhlale ugxile kwindlela omenza ngayo akhululeke. Abantu banokukucebisa ukuba abafazi njengendoda yealpha kwaye ke kufuneka usebenzise imigca yokufotokopa okunje-kwaye kufuneka uncume ngendlela ocinga ukuba ishushu (kodwa akunjalo). Nangona kunjalo, into ehlala isebenza kukuba wenza unxibelelwano nengqondo yakhe ngaphezu komzimba wakhe.

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