Ndifuthaniselwe ekhayeni lam lomtshato

Andazi ukuba mandiqale ngaphi. Ndiziva ndophukile ngokupheleleyo. Kwintsapho emanyeneyo yamaGujarati eDelhi, ndatshata nentsapho yamaKutchi Jain (yenyukliya) eMumbai. Vele uzive ngathi ubaleka kwaye ungaze ujonge ngasemva. Nantsi into eyenzekayo.

Andizange ndiyenze nayiphi na imisebenzi yendlu ebomini bam obungatshatanga njengoko ndazalwa kwaye ndakhuliswa kwintsapho edibeneyo eDelhi apho sasinabasebenzi abagcweleyo. 

Emva kokutshata ngo-2015 mna nomyeni wam safudukela e-USA unyaka. Andizange ndifumane ncedo apho kodwa ndakwazi ukuzenzela indawo yokuhlala ndedwa. Njengoba ndandikwi dependent visa khange ndikwazi uphuma ndiye emsebenzini ndasuka e USA ndahlala I 1month no mazala wam kuqala eMumbai then 1 month eDelhi with my family.

Ukufika kwam eMumbai, ngoko nangoko ndacelwa ukuba ndenze umsebenzi wasekhaya. Ndiye ndazama kangangoko ukuba ndenze into endingayihoyiyo iJet lag yam. Kodwa ndandingazi kwanto- nditsho nezinto ezisisiseko ezifana nendlela yokucima isitovu segesi apha okanye yintoni iKapur (into esetyenziselwa umthandazo) kunye nomqhaphu oxutywe weKapur). Umamazala ebephumile endlini wabe utatazala endikhwaza kakhulu ndingazi kwanto. Ndaphendula ndathi ndixube umqhaphu kunye neKapur kuba asizange siyisebenzise kusapho lwam (njengoko utat'omkhulu engahambisani nayo). Yamcaphukisa lento utatazala. Wathi mandingabuyi ndiphendule emva koko wandibetha.

Umyeni wam naye uyamoyika uyise ngoko akakwazi ukundimela. Wandixelela ukuba une-tension eyaneleyo eyeyakhe. Oozala bam abalugcini uncedo lwasekhaya, kuchasene nemithetho yasekhaya. Yonke into kufuneka yenziwe ngumamazala wam nam. Ndibeka iiyure ezimbini ekuseni nangokuhlwa ukuze ndincede umamazala, kodwa utatazala uhlala ehleli ukukhala ngento okanye enye. Kuyaphazamisa kakhulu. Wayekutya okutsha kathathu kwaye akunakuphinda kutshiswe kwaye kunikwe. Umsebenzi wakhe uthi ngamanye amaxesha usebenzela ekhaya aze angxolisa abasebenzi ngalo lonke ixesha. Utata nomyeni wam bayazi kuphela indlela yokukhwaza, ukugweba, ukugxeka, ukuhlalutya nokuthelekisa umntu ngamnye kunye nezinto ezincinci-ezincinci. Batsibela kwizigqibo bengakhange bacinge banyaniseke ngokukhohlakeleyo ebusweni bomntu wonke ngaphandle kokucinga ukuba omnye umntu uziva njani/ucinga njani. Yiyo loo nto till date, umyeni wam akanguye nomhlobo wam osenyongweni. Ndiyakukhumbula ukuhlala nosapho lwam oluhamba lula.

Umyeni wam ubuyele eMumbai. Ndifuna ukusebenza ngoku. Ndiligcisa, ndiligcisa (umzobi), imvumi kunye nomkhweli wehashe ngokomsebenzi. Bendihlala ndihamba ndisenza imiboniso yobugcisa eyahlukeneyo kulo lonke elaseIndiya emva kokuphumelela kwam eSingapore ngo-2011. 

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Umbuzo wam ngoku uthi, ndenze ntoni? Ndiyayenza kodwa andikonwabeli ukwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya kwaye andikwazi ukwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya nokusebenza kunye – andilolo hlobo konke konke. Andikafumani nkxaso kumyeni wam nangoku. Omazala nomyeni wam bafuna nam ndiphangele kodwa ndinemeko ezingaqhelekanga. Bafuna ndisebenze ukususela ngo-10 okanye 11 kusasa ukuya ku-3pm. Ngubani obonelela ngemisebenzi ngamaxesha anjalo?

Kunzima ukundifumanela indawo yesitudiyo sobugcisa kwesi sixeko. Ndisifakile isicelo somsebenzi kodwa andikhange ndifumane mpendulo nakubani na ngaphandle kwe-internship. Andazi ukuba mandiqhubeke njani. Ndicela uncedo.

Izinto ziya kuhlala zahlukile emva komtshato kwaye kwiintsapho zemveli zaseIndiya, oomolokazana kulindeleke ukuba bangene kwinkqubo. Wonke umntu kufuneka abe negalelo entsatsheni. Ukupheka nokuqhuba ikhaya ligalelo elibalulekileyo.

Ukusukela eyakho umyeni akaxhasi wena nawe awukawufumani umsebenzi okwangoku, ukuhlala kwakho noobawo bakho kuya kwandiswa. Ngoko ufanele ube nomfanekiso ocacileyo wento oza kuyenzela intsapho uze uyenze ngentliziyo iphela.

Ukubetha umolokazana ayivumelekanga. Apho kufuneka uthabathe inyathelo elingqongqo lokuba akuyi kukunyamezela ukungcungcuthekiswa ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo. Oku kuya kuxhomekeka ekubeni womelele kangakanani na ngokwasemoyeni kunye nokuba unokumelana kangakanani na wedwa.

Ngokubhekiselele kumphambili wakho wobugcisa, qhubeka ujonge. Ufundile, ufanelekile kwaye usemncinci; ekugqibeleni, uya kufumana umsebenzi kwaye ufumane ubomi bakho. Izinto ziya kuba ngcono ngoko.

Ingcebiso yam kuwe iyakuba kukumisa isiseko sakho apho kubalulekile kwaye uyeke imiba engenamsebenzi.

Umnqweno omhle,

UJaseena Backer
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