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Isiqulatho
Not to generalize but amadoda ayathanda xa uwateketisa. Ayikokudlala kwayo kodwa kukunxanelwa kwabo ukwazi. Bathanda ukuzibandakanya nezinto abazaziyo (funda: ipsychology yabantu). Ukufikeleleka ngokweemvakalelo kuyasebenza nje ukuba unokunxibelelana nomnye umntu ngendlela ehambelanayo. Indoda iya kuhlala ijonge ezothusayo ezincinci, ezingenamsebenzi, kodwa ezibangela umdla kubo ukuba bazibambe ngakumbi. Ukuba yintlondi kunokuyifaka entliziyweni yomntu kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ayisiyiyo yodwa indlela. Indoda ithanda ukuba ncinci kancinci kwaye ukuba ayinjalo, ke ayikabikho kakuhle ngokwaneleyo ukuba ikhulule igagasi lobuntwana bayo. Ewe, sonke singabantwana entliziyweni emva koko. Kwaye khumbula indlela esasidla ngokudlala ngayo lonke ixesha singabantwana, kodwa sasingakwazi ngakumbi njengoko sasikhula? Apha kulapho ufumana khona ukudlala, kwaye kuwe amathuba okuba nobuchule awapheli.
Kodwa unokuba ngumhlekisi njani?
Abantu bathanda ukudibanisa "ukuqhula" kunye nento enesondo kakhulu. Nangona oku kungekobuxoki ngokupheleleyo, ukuba yintlekisa ebhedini kunokwahluka kancinane ekubeni yintlekisa ngokweemvakalelo, zombini zibaluleke kakhulu kwiimeko ezilandelelanayo.
Udlala ngothando ngobuchule kwaye ukwenze uzive unomvuzo ngakumbi
Ukudlala ngothando kusempilweni njengokusasazwa kweavokhado kwi toast.
Kuthatha nje intwana yobuchule bakho kunye nexesha elifanelekileyo lokuqalisa iprotocol yokudlala ngothando. Funda ngezinto azithandayo, wenze iziqhulo ezichuliweyo ngazo ngelixa uzobe ungqamaniso phakathi kwakhe nezo zinto. Ubukhulu becala nguwe omqinisekisayo kumatyeli aliqela, kodwa ukuqinisekisa indoda kusebenza njengokuyipha ipleyiti ezele yinyama yenyama, ngaphandle kokuba uyi vegan, kunjalo. Yenza kube nomvuzo nakuye kwaye uzibambe kancinci, kuba ukuba iba lula kakhulu, uya kuqhelana ne-patter. Qhubeka utshintsha ipateni ngamaxesha athile kwaye uya kwenza kakuhle.
Ingcebiso yePro: Sukucinga ngayo njengomsebenzi, ungagqibela ngokwenza uninzi lweepuns ezimbi.
Ungakhathali ngayo, kodwa ungakhathali kakhulu
Abafana banoburharha obungaqhelekanga xa bekunye neqela labo “lomfana”.
Iziqhulo kunye nokudlala kuya kukunceda ukuba uthethe naye ngokuphandle, kodwa awuyifuni loo nto. Ukukhululeka kuthetha ukuba uwela kumgca wokubalisa izinto. Kodwa usenokwenza ukuba aphendule ngakumbi ngokuqinisekiswa okungathanga ngqo okuvela kuwe. Ukuba uyamqinisekisa ngokwaneleyo, uya kuvula, kodwa umzuzu evula, thandabuza kakhulu ngezinto athetha ngazo. Basenokuthi bathethe ngemidlalo yevidiyo okanye malunga nomboniso bhanyabhanya abawubone kwiiveki ezithile emva, banqwale nje kwaye babe nombulelo ngokubanzi, kodwa bangabi nomdla kakhulu, kuba oko kuya kubonisa ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukwazi ngezi zinto wayethetha ngazo. Nyathela ngononophelo ngeli xesha kwaye umenze azive engakhuselekanga malunga nento aza kuyithetha. Kanye ngelo xesha, zama ukumxabisa uze umangale.
I-Passion spikes kunye nokukwazi kwakho ukugcina oko
Umdla wenza izinto zicace kakhulu, kodwa zenza ubudlelwane bukhethekileyo.
Unokugcina uthando kuphela ukuba usebenzela kubudlelwane bakho. Umdla udla ngokuphuma kwindawo engaqondakaliyo ekufuneka igcinwe nguwe. Awunakukwazi ukuba yi-monotonous ukuba umfana wakho uqala ukuqhelana nayo. Umbono apha kukwenza ukuba ibe yinto engaqhelekanga ngakumbi ukuze bangalindeli nantoni na. Okukhona becinga ngenyathelo lakho elilandelayo, kokukhona beba nomdla ngawe. Oku kudlala kuya kukunceda ugcine inkanuko inyukile, kodwa ungadlali ngezinto ezihlekisayo, kuba oko kunokubangela ukungakhuseleki phakathi kwakho nendoda yakho. Uya kuqaphela ukuba uye wabandakanyeka njani ekuhambeni kwexesha. Kulapho uya kuqonda impumelelo yakho ekuzuzeni intliziyo yendoda.
Lawula kodwa ungachithi
Ukuqhula akuthethi ukuba ninesandla esiphezulu kubudlelwane, oko kuthetha ukuba nifuna ubuhlobo benu bukhule bube yinto enkulu kunani nobabini. Kodwa ukuba le nto iba yityhefu, yiyeke. Qaphela nje kwaye akukho nto ibaluleke ngaphezu kokuzazi ngalo lonke eli xesha.
Umnikelo wakho awuquki isisa umnikelo. Iya kuvumela i-Bonobology ukuba iqhubeke nokukuzisela ulwazi olutsha nolwangoku kwiphulo lethu lokunceda nabani na osehlabathini ukuba afunde ukwenza nantoni na.
Enye yezibakala ezininzi ukuba umtshato wam sisizathu ukubamonela abaninzi abahlobo kunye nezalamane zam. Ndikholelwe ukuba iyawenza amalungu ayo ukugcina ubudlelwane buphila. Ndiyamgezela kuba ndimthanda. Uyayazi loo nto, uyayonwabela kwaye ude aphinde abuye. 😉