Andisamthandi; kunzima ukwenza.
Ndive abafana ababini bephambi kwam besemgceni bethetha, umgca wokugqibela uphuma phezulu ngenxa yonxunguphalo. Iindlebe zam zaba mbi.
“Khawube nomfanekiso wakhe (igama lomdlali we-Bollywood). Vala amehlo akho uqhubeke. Umhlobo wacebisa ngokuluncedo.
Kwinyanga ephelileyo, omnye wabathengi bam ababhinqileyo wandibuza ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokucinga omnye umntu ngelixa esabelana ngesondo nomyeni wakhe. Ngaba wayengathembekanga? Yandenza ndacinga. Wayeziva enetyala ngokucinga ngomnye umntu. Yayixhaphake kangakanani ingcamango yezesondo phakathi kwabantu abanamaqabane okwabelana ngesondo rhoqo? Bangaphi kubo abayivumayo loo nto? Bangaphi ababephila netyala le ukungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo?
Yintoni ingcamango yesondo?
Nokuba ngumfanekiso wengqondo okanye uthotho lweengcinga malunga neyakho icala lekinky evuselela iminqweno yakho yesini, ixhaphake kakhulu kunokuba ucinga. Ingcinga ngesondo liphupha lasemini elikhanukayo oliqhuba ngendlela ofuna ngayo. Kukufezekiswa komnqweno ovuselela inkanuko. Ngokutsho kweJenali yoPhando lwezesondo, i-98% yamadoda kunye ne-80% yabasetyhini baphupha ngokulala nomnye umntu, ngaphandle kwalowo babandakanyekayo. Kwaye yenye yeengcamango ezilishumi eziphezulu zamadoda nabasetyhini.
Yaye kuthekani ngokuphupha ngomnye umntu ngoxa ulala neqabane lakho? Njengoko ngokwe Encyclopedia of Human Relationships, yenye yeendlela 'zesondo se-extradyadic'. Ukucinga ngomnye umntu ngoxa usebhedini okanye ucinge ngomnye umntu ngoxa ukubudlelwane yinto eqhelekileyo.
Kuxhaphake kangakanani ukucinga ebhedini?
Uphando olwenziwe e-UK lufumene i-42% yamadoda kunye ne-46% yabasetyhini cinga ngomnye umntu ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo. Abaninzi baphupha ngomhlobo osondeleyo okanye umntu osebenza naye. I-15% yabasetyhini bathi bakwenza oku rhoqo. Uphononongo lukwafumanise ukuba abantu abaninzi bayaphupha malunga nokuba kuya kuba njani isondo nomnye umntu phambi kokuba babelane ngesondo. I-60% yamadoda nabasetyhini baneengcinga zabathandi bangaphambili. Isinye kwisithathu kuphela esasicinga ukuba olu luhlobo lokungathembeki. Ndicinga ukuba ngelixa amanani esenokungatshintshi kakhulu eIndiya, amanqanaba etyala aya kuba phezulu ngokubonakalayo. Ndiqinisekile ukuba amaIndiya acinga ngomnye umntu ngelixa esenza uthando kodwa indlela ahlala ngayo; baziva benetyala ngokwenza oko.
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Ngaba kulungile ukuba neengcinga zesondo ngelixa uthandana?
Nokuba kungenxa yolonwabo okanye ukukruquka, umbuzo wokuba kulungile okanye akunjalo ayingowomntu endinokuwuphendula kwincwadi yam yokufunda. Ndiqinisekile ukuba akukho mntu uthanda ingcamango yakhe / iqabane lakhe ecinga ngomnye umntu phakathi kweyona nxalenye yobudlelwane.
Ngexesha lesigaba sokuqala, kungokwemvelo ukutsaleleka kakhulu kwiqabane lakho kwaye ungacingi ngomnye umntu. Kodwa emva kwexesha elithile Ukwabelana ngesondo kuba yinto eqhelekileyo, umntu usenokuzibona ecinga ngomnye umntu. Ngexesha lesenzo, abantu abaninzi batshatile kwaye bacinga ngomnye umntu. Kwaye naliphi na ithuba, ukuba kukho imiqondiso yokuba iqabane lakho liphupha ngomnye umntu, ngoko unokucinga ukuba ukulimaza iqabane lakho liya kuziva njani. Oku kwenzekile ngokwenene. Ngelixa efikelela kuvuthondaba abantu baye bakhala ngegama laloo mntu bebemphupha.
Makhe siqwalasele ityala.
Ukucinga ngomnye umntu kulungile. Ukuba kanye enyangeni blue uzifumana ucinga ezinye guy handsome okanye intombazana entle, ukuba akukho sizathu ukuqhuba isibonda entliziyweni yakho. Kodwa ngaphandle kokuba udlala indima ethile, ezinye iimpawu kufuneka zikhale iintsimbi ze-alam yakho...
Ukuba uphupha ngomnye umntu rhoqo kunokuba ungenzi
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Okanye ukuba ucinga ukwenza ezinye izinto ngaphandle kokwabelana ngesondo nomntu
Ayizizo ezi kuphela iimpawu zokuqhawula unxibelelwano phakathi kwakho neqabane lakho kwaye kufuneka wenze njalo ziqhole izinto, kodwa kunye nesalathiso sokuncamathela nomntu ocinga ngaye. Xa kunjalo, ukucinga ngomnye umntu akulunganga. Ngokukodwa ukuba impendulo nguewe kuyo nayiphi na kwezi zintathu zokugqibela, oko kuthetha ukuba kuya kufuneka uhlale phantsi nawe okanye omnye umntu ukuze ucazulule izizathu ezisemva koku.
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Esinye sezizathu eziqhelekileyo kukuba ubudlelwane bakho buhamba kwisigaba esidala okanye esingathandekiyo. Ukongeza intlantsi kubomi bakho bezesondo kunokuvuselela izinto kancinci. Ungahlala kwaye uxoxe neqabane lakho ukuba kukho nantoni na ongathanda ukuyitshintsha.
Nantoni na oyenzayo, ungayihoyi ukuba uzifumana uphupha ngomnye umntu ebhedini rhoqo. Kwaye ungacingi ukuba kulungile. Ukucinga ngomnye umntu akusoloko kulungile, ngakumbi ukuba utshatile kwaye uziva unetyala ngalo lonke ixesha. Kuba luphawu lokuba kukho into ebalulekileyo engekhoyo kubomi bakho bezesondo, isebenza njengesixhobo sokuzikhusela, ukubaleka kubunyani bobudlelwane bakho, kodwa hayi obusempilweni. Ubudlelwane bakho obusondeleyo buba ngamava epilisi ekrakra ekufuneka ifakwe iswekile ngentelekelelo. Uqalisa ukuziva unetyala ngokucinga ngomnye umntu, yaye oku kuyenza ibe nzima ngakumbi imeko.
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Umnikelo wakho awuquki isisa umnikelo. Iya kuvumela i-Bonobology ukuba iqhubeke nokukuzisela ulwazi olutsha nolwangoku kwiphulo lethu lokunceda nabani na osehlabathini ukuba afunde ukwenza nantoni na.
Molo mama
Umbuzo wam uthi qho xa ndilalana ndive ndigabha kwaye emva kokwabelana ngesondo ndimane ndikhala . ngathi ndenze into engalunganga okanye andizimiselanga ukuyenza..