Siye sathandana sonke, ayikokubaxa izinto xa ndisithi eyona nto ibisoyikwayo luninzi lwethu kukuqhatha umntu esithandana naye. Ewe, laa mvakalelo yothusayo yokubona ubudlelwane bakho obubonakala bugqibelele buwohloka phambi kwakho yile nto ndithetha ngayo. Ubuhlungu kunye nengqumbo yokungcatsha iba mbi ngakumbi xa iqabane lakho liza nezizathu zokukopela ukuthethelela izenzo zabo.
Ukukopa kuxhomekeke kule mihla kunye neminyaka. Isibini ngasinye sinokuqonda kwaso oko sikuthatha "njengokuwela umda ukuya ekungathembeki". Ukanti, enoba luluphi na “uhlobo” lokuqhatha, sekunjalo ngamava adandathekisayo emntwini xa ethe wangcatshwa. Into yokugqibela oyidingayo kwiqabane eliqhathayo luluhlu lwezizathu ezinokuthi, 'Lityala lakho ukuba ndibe nobudlelwane'.
Ukanti, olu tyekelo luqhelekile. Isazi ngengqondo Mallika Pathak ijonge nzulu kwezinye zezona zizathu zixhaphakileyo zokuqhatha ekufuneka uzilumkele.
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Isiqulatho
Amaqabane amaninzi anendlela yokuwujikeleza umba wokungathembeki ngokutyhola amaqabane awo ngezenzo zawo. Eli licebo eliqhelekileyo elisetyenziselwa ukukhohlisa ngokweemvakalelo iqabane esele lisentlungwini ekubeni likholelwe ukuba likhokelela ngokuthe ngqo okanye ngokungathanga ngqo kweli xesha lentlekele kubudlelwane.
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Zilumkele ezi zizathu zimbi zokuqhatha ezidla ngokusetyenziswa njengeyelenqe lokukubhidekisa kwaye ubutyala ngenxa yokungathembeki kweqabane lakho. Eli lelona qhinga lidala kwincwadi yokudlala yabaqhathi ukuthethelela izenzo ezigwenxa abathe bazifaka kuzo. Nazi izizathu ezihlanu eziqhelekileyo zokuqhatha iqabane lakho elinokuthi lisebenzise ukuzama ukubethelela ityala lezenzo zabo ezigwenxa kuwe:
1. Awundithandi njengoko wawundithanda!
Esi sesinye sezona zithethe zixhaphakileyo zokuqhatha eziphoswayo xa ukreqo luvela ekukhanyeni. Nangona amadoda enokubhenela kuyo nawo. Ngelinge lokudlulisela ngokuthe ngqo i-baton yezenzo zabo kwiqabane, iqabane elikhohlisayo liya kubeka ityala ngqo kwiqabane.
Bayithethelela baze bayithethelele indlela abaziphatha ngayo ngokuthi bacinge ukuba ukungabi naluthando kwakungunobangela wokungathembeki. Nokuba uthando kunye nothando luthathe isihlalo sangasemva kubudlelwane, aluniki naliphi iqabane isizathu sokuqhatha.
Indlela efanelekileyo isoloko ijongene nokusombulula imiba yakho kunokuba ufune into engekhoyo kubudlelwane bakho kumntu wesithathu.
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Le yimeko eqhelekileyo yokukhohlisa, apho iqabane eliqhathayo lisebenzisa ukungabi nangqiqo ukulungisa ukuziphatha kwabo (okuhlekisayo, kulungile!). Ukusetyenziswa koku kunye nezinye iingxelo ezinjalo ezingenangqondo ukuphambukisa ingqalelo kwimpazamo yabo ukuya kwezo zeqabane ikwayindlela yokunciphisa eyabo. ukukopela ubutyala.
Esi sesinye sezizathu zokukopela ezimbi kakhulu, njengoko kungekho mntu ulungele ukuqonda ukuba kubuhlungu kangakanani ukuqhathwa kunomntu oye wazifumana kuqala.
3. Uhlala uxakekile, ndiyadikwa
Esi sizathu sisetyenziswe kukukopela amaqabane kubudlelwane apho iqabane elibhinqileyo nalo linomsebenzi kunye nezinye izibophelelo ezimgcina exakekile. Sesinye sezizathu eziqhelekileyo zokuqhatha indoda esetyenziselwa ubutyala-ukukhubekisa umfazi ukuba akholelwe ukuba ngandlel' ithile, wayenoxanduva lwesenzo sokukopela.
Kulungile, ukuba uxakeke kakhulu ukuba angaziniki ixesha lakho kunye nobudlelwane bakho, kutheni ungangeni kwaye unciphise umthwalo wakhe, Mnu? Ukuba indoda yakho isebenzisa le ngqungquthela kuwe, mxelele oku: Ukuba wenze umzamo wokuhlala kwaye uncede ekhaya kunokuba ukhangele izizathu zokuphuma endlwini ukudibana nesithandwa sakho, umbuzo wokungabi nexesha elaneleyo kunye ngengazange uvele.
4. Awundiniki butsha. Bendifuna ikhefu kwi monotony.
Mhlawumbi enye endala ukuqhatha indoda izizathu kwaye ngokwenene akaze abe mdala kubo. Amadoda amaninzi azama ukutyhola ityala lokungcatshwa kwawo “kwibhayoloji” kunye “nesidingo sawo sangaphakathi sobutsha”, kunokuba aphendule ngezenzo zawo.
Basekela ingxabano kwiingxelo ezinjengokuthi "Awuzange undanelise ngendlela endifuna ngayo" ukukhusela ukukopela kwabo, kanti indlela efanelekileyo yokujongana nobomi bobulili obunganelisekiyo kukuthetha neqabane lakho malunga neemfuno zakho zesini kunye neemvakalelo.
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5. Ubudlelwane bethu buphelile ixesha elide elidlulileyo, ndenze oku ukutsalela ingqalelo yakho kwinyani
Oku kufuneka kube izandla phantsi esinye sezizathu ezihlekisayo zokukopela umntu. Ewe, ayikushiyi kukwahlukana okuhlekisayo, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo kuyahlekisa kwaye kuyahlekisa. Ukanti, isesinye sezizathu zokuqhatha ezisetyenziswa ngokubanzi zokubeka ityala kwiqabane likabani.
Ukusebenzisa ukukopela njengendlela "yokufuna ingqalelo" kunokuba bathethe inkxalabo yabo malunga nemiba kubudlelwane ngokucacileyo akuyona indlela eluncedo kakhulu yokujongana nomba. Oko kuthethiweyo, ayikakholeleki ukuba bangaphi abantu abawela kwesi sizathu siqhwala kwaye baqale ukuqikelela indima yabo kulo mzuzu wobudlelwane obuyintlekele.
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Okokuqala, qonda ukuba akukho ndlela yokuba uthabathe uxanduva ngenxa yokuba iqabane lakho likuqhathile. AWUNALO uxanduva ngayo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba sisiphi na isizathu iqabane lakho elikunika lona. Kwenzeka ngenxa yokuba iqabane lakho likhethe ukukopa, kungekhona ngenxa yento oyenzileyo.
Okwesibini, zibuze ukuba uyazibona ukwazi ukudlula kwesi siganeko. Ngaba esi sisihlandlo sokuqala ukwenzeka? Ngaba uyayibona imvakalelo yokwenyani yokuzisola kwindlela iqabane lakho eliziphethe ngayo emva kokuba uye wadibana nalo? Ngaba bawugqibile umcimbi? Ngaba bakulungele ukuthwala uxanduva ngezenzo zabo?
Iimpendulo zale mibuzo ziya kukunika ingcaciso ethile ekuqondeni into ekufuneka uyenzile ngokulandelayo. Ungoyiki ukufuna uncedo kugqirha wengqondo, ugqirha wengqondo, okanye umsebenzi wengqondo oqinisekisiweyo. Thetha neqabane lakho malunga nokuya kwiingcebiso zabatshatileyo kunye nokuzama ukulungisa iingxaki zobudlelwane bakho.
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Hayi, asikho isizathu esibambekayo sokukopa. Nokuba ubudlelwane bakho buzaliswe yimiba, indlela elungileyo kuzama ukulungisa iiyantlukwano zakho okanye uyibize. Nokuba zithini na iimeko zakho, ukukopela akusoze kube yimpendulo echanekileyo.
Into ayithethayo umqhathi xa edibene nayo ixhomekeke ekubeni uyazisola na ngokungcatsha ithemba leqabane lakhe kwaye ufuna ukwenza ubudlelwane busebenze. Ukuba benjenjalo, baya kuvakalisa ukuzisola kwabo baze benze izithembiso zokulungisa. Ukuba akunjalo, baya kuzama ukuzithethelela izenzo zabo ngokubeka ityala kuwe.
Ewe, kuqhelekile ukuba umqhathi azikhusele aze azame ukuthethelela izenzo zakhe. Oku kunokuba ngenxa yokuba baziva bevalelwe kwaye abakwazi ukujongana netyala kunye neentloni zokukopela okanye ngenxa yokuba baye basebenzisa ezi zizathu zokuthethelela ukukopela ixesha elide kangangokuba bakholelwa ukuba bayinyaniso.
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Umnikelo wakho awuquki isisa umnikelo. Iya kuvumela i-Bonobology ukuba iqhubeke nokukuzisela ulwazi olutsha nolwangoku kwiphulo lethu lokunceda nabani na osehlabathini ukuba afunde ukwenza nantoni na.
Ukukopela lityala elingenakuthetheleleka kwiqabane lakho, akukho singxengxezo esinokuthethelela ukophulwa kwentembeko nokwenzakalisa iqabane lakho. Nangona kunjalo ukukopela mhlawumbi luphawu lwengxaki enkulu kubudlelwane bakho. Ke ukuba ucinga ngokuxolela iqabane lakho, kwaye uvuselele ubudlelwane bakho, kufuneka uthethe neqabane lakho kwaye ufumanise iingxaki ezinkulu.
Akulunganga ukuthandabuza iqabane lakho kodwa akulunganga ngokufanayo ukungathandabuzi xa unezizathu. Bendifuna into enje ndayifumana apha. Kuhle ukuba nayo.
Akulunganga ukuthandabuza kwiqabane lakho kodwa akulunganga ngokufanayo ukungathandabuzi xa unezizathu. Bendifuna into enje ndayifumana apha. Kuhle ukuba nayo.