Intombi Yami Ishaywe Ngoba Sifuna Ukuganana

Nginentombi engu-3 edlule. Ngingowomphakathi waseBrahmin osezingeni eliphezulu, kodwa intombi yami ingeyesigaba esiphansi. Sobabili siyathandana kakhulu. Sifuna ukuba nomshado wezinhlanga.

Uthando lwethu lwe-Inter-Caste Seluphendule Udlame Lomndeni Wakhe

Okumangazayo ukuthi abazali bami bavumile ukushada kwabantu bezizwe ezahlukene kodwa abazali bakhe abavumelani nakho konke. Bamvalele ekamelweni futhi baqhubeka nokumshaya . Abafowabo baze bazama nokungishaya kabili. Ngizinzile, kodwa abavumelani. Angimboni ehlupheka kanje, futhi angikwazi ukuphila ngaphandle kwakhe. Kufanele ngenzenjani?

Nakhu okudingeka ukwenze. Okokuqala, kuzodingeka uvumelane neqiniso lokuthi ukushintsha indlela yokucabanga, okubaluleke kakhulu ukuchema kwabantu abathile, kuwumsebenzi cishe ongenakwenzeka.

Kufanele ubike udlame

Abantu abavamile ukwenza izinto ngaphandle kwesizathu. Kuphephile ukusho ukuthi awuvumelani noma awukwazi ukuvumelana ngokuphelele nezizathu zomndeni wakhe zokungavumi ukuthi nishade. Kubalulekile ukuthi ubike noma yiziphi izenzo zobudlova eziphathimandleni ezifanele ngokushesha nje lapho uthola ithuba lokwenza kanjalo.

Ukufunda Okuhlobene: Umshado Wezizwe Ezihlukene: Abazali Bami Basongela Ukuzibulala

Uhlelo lwe-caste lungokoqobo ongeke ulubaleke

Ubulungiswa be-Vigilante busebenza kahle iziqephu zama-movie kodwa ubulungiswa emhlabeni wangempela bubandakanya ukubamba iqhaza kwabanye abantu futhi kuyindlela enqunyiwe enezici eziningi. Uhlelo lwe-caste lungenye yezinsalela zakudala zezinhlelo ezithile zendabuko zokuhlukanisa zesikhathi lapho impilo yasemadolobheni ingakazalwa. Abantu babelwa izindima nemisebenzi futhi labo baqhubeka nokuchaza imisebenzi yabo kwaze kwaba yilapho kwaba yinto engathandeki kakhulu lapho abantu baqala ukuzizwa bevaleleke futhi bebandlululwa ngenxa yezigaba zabo.

Bonana nomelaphi womndeni

Uma uyithanda ngempela intombi yakho, kuzodingeka usekele lawo mazwi ngesenzo esithile. Abazali bayo kungenzeka ukuthi bebengavumelani ngomshado ngezizathu ezahlukene kodwa ukudlala imidlalo yokuqagela ukuthi lezo zizathu zingaba yini ngeke kukusize ekuhleleni kwakho ukushada nale ntombazane.

Kungase kudingeke ukuthi umeme izinsizakalo zomlamuleli ngesimo sochwepheshe wezokwelapha umndeni ozimisele ukuba nengxoxo eqotho nesebenzayo nabazali bentombazane - ikakhulukazi ukuqonda ukuthi umoya uvunguza ngakuphi nokuthi yini engenziwa ukuze kuncishiswe izinhliziyo zabo noma kulungiswe ukungakhululeki kwabo (uma kukhona) ngendodakazi yabo eshada nawe.

Ingabe besaba ukuthi 'bangase balahlekelwe' indodakazi yabo noma ukuthi ingase iphathwe ngendlela engafanele ngenxa yohlobo lwayo? Ingabe ukhona umuzwa othile womhawu okhulayo nobutha obungenakushiwo ngokusobala? Lezi zizodinga ukuthi ziphenywe.

Uzimisele ukuya kude kangakanani

Kumelwe uqonde ukuthi imvume yabazali ibalulekile uma kungeyona into ephoqelekile yokuhlangana kwendoda nowesifazane. Kunemibhangqwana eminingi ephikisana nezifiso zemindeni yabo futhi iqhubeke nokuba nempilo ejabulisayo emshadweni ngoba ikhululekile ukulwela lokho ekufunayo ngaphandle kokuzama ukujabulisa wonke umuntu. Kumelwe kwenziwe imihlatshelo njengoba kunezindleko okufanele zithwalwe yizo zonke izinqumo esizenzayo kanye nazo zonke izinqumo esihlulekayo ukuzenza noma esizilibazisa ukuzenza. Azikho izimpendulo ezilula ezimweni ezinzima. Akukho futhi isiqinisekiso sokuthi abazali bayo bangase babone ukukhanya bese befika. Khuluma nesithandwa sakho bese umbuza ukuthi yiziphi izindleko azimisele ukuzithwala uma ebengaphikisana nabazali bakhe futhi akushade noma kunjalo?

Msekele

Lokhu kungenzeka kumphathe kabi futhi kumphazamise ngezindlela eziningi ukuze isineke sakho nozwela lwakho luzomsiza kakhulu ekulungiseni lokhu kuye futhi umbonise ukuthi uzimisele ukumeseka kunoma iyiphi inkinga elandelayo okuzodingeka nidlule kuyo ndawonye uma ‘imvume yomzali’ ingafinyeleli.

Awukwazi ukujabulisa wonke umuntu

Abantu bangaba lukhuni njengoba nje bengaba noshintsho. Ayikho indlela yokuphoqa abantu ukuba bashintshe imibono yabo. Azikho izindlela ezinhle zokungafaneleki izimo kodwa futhi kuyiqiniso ukuthi asiphethe ukujabulisa wonke umuntu njengoba leyo ndlela ivame ukuholela ekuphileni kokukhathazeka, ukwedelela, ukungezwani, ukukhungatheka kanye nokuhlazeka. Uhlobo lwakho alusho ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngomunye nomunye kodwa alulindeli ukuthi wonke umuntu aqonde ukujula kweqiniso enhliziyweni yakho njengoba abazali bakho bengabafundi bezingqondo.

Yenza ukukhetha kwakho

Ukweleta ukwethembeka ezinhlelweni zakho nakumlingani wakho. Udlame olubhekiswe kuwe noma olubhekiswe kuye lungabikwa njengecala lobugebengu futhi ukuvikelwa kungadluliselwa kini nobabili ngendlela efanele. Yazi ukuthi noma iyiphi inketho oyisebenzisayo, udinga ukulungele ukukhetha okungajabulisi okunzima ukufakazela imiphumela engase ivele.

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