Ukukhohliswa kuyisipiliyoni esibi kakhulu noma ubani angadlula kukho. Ukukhaphela othile omethembayo kulimaza kakhulu. Ngithembe awuwedwa. Abantu abaningi badlule kulokho okuzwayo. Ekubhekaneni nobuhlungu kanye nentukuthelo yokukhashelwa, badale inqolobane yezingcaphuno zokukopela ezingakunikeza ithemba nenduduzo kulesi sikhathi esivivinyayo.
Ukuthi kukhona oke washo lokhu kuwe noma cha — bekungelona iphutha lakho. Ukukopela kwabo akukona ukuphawula kwakho, kuwubufakazi bobuntu babo obunamaphutha nokuzibophezela kwabo. Ungazishayeli ngakho.
57 Izilinganiso Zokukopela Ukukusiza Unqobe Ubuhlungu Futhi Uqale Ukuphulukisa
Uma ukhohliswa, ongacabanga ngakho nje ukube ubungenze okuthile okuhlukile. Uzithola udlula ngaso sonke isikhathi owawunabo uzama ukuthola ifulegi elibomvu ongazange ulishaye indiva, okungachaza ukuthi kungani bekopela.
Isinyathelo sokuqala sokuya ku- siqhubekela phambili iyakhipha umoya. Udinga ukukhipha konke ukudabuka nenzondo ohlelweni lwakho. Ngakho-ke, nazi izingcaphuno ezimbalwa zokukopela esithemba ukuthi zizokusiza uzizwe ungcono:
- “Ungalokothi ulithathe kancane ikhono lendoda lokukwenza uzizwe unecala ngamaphutha akhe.” — URihanna
Lona ephelele ukukopela izingcaphuno ngaye ukuthi nonke nina besifazane laphaya ungasho ukukopela amasoka nabayeni bakho. U-Rihanna uhlala ekhona!
- “Ukukopela kwakulula kodwa kungenzeki ukukubuyisela.” - UDean Osborne
Lena enye yama-classic wabanjwa ukukopela izingcaphuno. Kufakazela ukuthi ezinye izinto azikwazi ukuhlehliswa.
- “Uma umuntu ekopela ebudlelwaneni, asikho isizathu sokuhlala. Ukube ubekuthanda ngokweqiniso ngabe akakaze akhohlise.” - Anurag Prakash Ray
Ngisho nabaqola abahamba phambili bahlale bebanjwa izingcaphuno yibona abakutshela ukuthi uzikhethele wena. Futhi lokhu kungenye yazo. Abakufanele, futhi akufanele uhlupheke.
- “Kwaqala kanjalo ukungathembeki nokukhaphela, hhayi emangeni amakhulu kodwa ngezimfihlo ezincane.” - U-Amy Tan, Indodakazi kaBonesetter
Manje nansi enye yezingcaphuno zamanga nabakhohlisi okufanele uhlale uyikhumbula. Qaphela izimpawu. Ngokuzayo kuzoba ngcono.
- “Awuzange nje ungikhohlise, usiqhathile. - USteve Maraboli, Unapologetically Wena: Ukuzindla Ngempilo kanye Nokuhlangenwe nakho Komuntu
Impela. Lezi zinhlobo zamaqola azilokothi ziphumelele izingcaphuno ezibonisa ukuthi ukulahlekelwa kwabo, hhayi okwakho.
Ukufunda Okuhlobene: Izinhlobo ezingu-8 Ezivame Kakhulu Zokukopela Ebudlelwaneni
- “Okulandelayo nokulimaza umndeni wami, ukungikhohlisa kuyinto embi kakhulu umuntu angayenza.” - URobert Buckley
Ekhuluma ngezingcaphuno zokumkhohlisa, lena cishe izobe ihlobene kakhulu nonke nina bafana laphaya.
- “Lo wesifazane wavumela umyeni wakhe ukuba aqole, futhi wayengamenzeli lutho namunye wabo, esikhundleni sokumshiya, wayemyisa ekhaya, amthethise, aqhubeke nomsebenzi njengenjwayelo, kodwa ngaphakathi wayebuhlungu.
Akekho umuntu wesifazane ongathanda umkhohlisi kodwa angayikhokhi imali yakhe.” - URose Wynters, Incithakalo Ebucayi
Kuyadabukisa futhi kulukhuni, kodwa kuyiqiniso. Kwezinye izinga, kungenzeka ukuthi unike amandla ukuziphatha kwabo. Mhlawumbe ubanikeze amathuba amaningi okwesibili lapho bengakufanelekeli ububele bakho.
- “Okwangicasula kakhulu phakathi naso sonke leso simo kwakuwukuthi ngangingazizwa ngilulazekile, noma ngicasukile, noma ngikhohlisiwe ngisho nokukhohliswa. ― Danka V., Impilo Engakhethiwe
Lezi zinhlobo zezingcaphuno zokukopela ezibanjwe ziveza ukuthi kubuhlungu kangakanani uma othile omthandayo kuyisizathu senhliziyo yakho echotshoziwe. Kodwa uthando luhlala lukuvulela ubuhlungu. Kuyiqiniso elibuhlungu.
- "Abantu bayakopela uma besaba. Uma kungekho zindleko zokuba nephutha noma ukuvuma ukungazi, asikho isizathu sokukopela noma ukukhohlisa ukuqonda." ― Leah Hager Cohen, Angazi: Ekudumiseni Ukuvuma Ukungazi
Lesi sisho sokukopela siyimpendulo yazo zonke izizathu zakho. Kungani bekopela? Kungani bakukhaphela? Kungani kwadingeka ukuba izinto ziphele ngale ndlela? Babethukile futhi kwakulula ukubaleka bese beya clean.
- “Amaqola ayaphumelela kuze kube abanele ababambele amagqubu ukuqinisekisa ukuthi awaphumeleli.” - UPeter Singer, Umbuthano Okhulayo: Izimiso Zokuziphatha kanye Nezenhlalakahle
Lokhu kuphakathi kwabakopela abahlale bebanjwa izingcaphuno ezikhuluma iqiniso. Kukhumbule, futhi kungase kukwenze kube lula kuwe ukuthi ukwenze phulukisa ebuhlungwini.
- "Uma umuntu engumkhohlisi, uhlala ephindaphinda." - UMelissa Edwards
Akulona iqiniso lelo!
- “Okunginyakazisile akukhona ukuthi ungiqambele amanga, kodwa ukuthi angisakukholwa.” ― UFriedrich Nietzsche, Ngale Kokuhle Nokubi
Yiqiniso, isikhathi esesabeka kakhulu. Ukuthembana okuphelile kungenye yezinhlekelele ezinkulu zokukopela ebuhlotsheni.
- “Umqambimanga uyazikhohlisa ngaphezu kwanoma ubani, ngoba ukholelwa ukuthi angakwazi ukuhlala engumuntu olungile lapho engakwazi. - URichelle E. Goodrich, Ukwenza Izifiso: Izingcaphuno, Imicabango, Nenkondlo Encane Yazo Zonke Izinsuku Zonyaka
Awukwazi ukuba nazo zombili izindlela. Lena enye yalabo abaqamba amanga nabakhohlisi izingcaphuno okufanele wonke umuntu azikhumbule.
- “Ukukopela kuwukungahloniphi kakhulu umuntu angakwenza komunye, uma ungajabulile ebudlelwaneni, buqede ngaphambi kokuqala obunye.” - Abhishek Tiwari
Manje, ingabe lokho kunzima ukukuqonda?
- "Ukukopela kuyinketho. Isikhathi." - Charles J. Orlando
Azikho izingxabano lapha.
- "Ungakhohlisi uma ungafuni ukukhohliswa. Ubudlelwano buyasebenzisana. Lona umthetho obalulekile wabo bonke ukuxhumana okuhle." — Israelmore Ayivor, Shaping The Dream
Bonke ubudlelwano buhamba ngezindlela ezimbili. Uma umlingani wakho wokukopela ecela ukuthi uwabuyisele, kodwa awuzizwa sengathi ungamthethelela, khumbula lesi sisho sokukopela ukuze uhlale uqinile esinqumweni sakho.
17. “Uma indoda yeba umkakho, akukho ukuziphindiselela okungcono kunokumvumela ukuba amgcine. - Sacha Guitry
Enye yezinto ezinonya kakhulu, ezilula, nezishaya kanzima zabakhohlisi zihlala zibanjwa izingcaphuno.
- "Asikho isizathu sokuthandana nomuntu." - Shanola Hampton
Kuwukukhaphela. Ilula futhi ilula. Alikho inani lokulungisiswa elizokushintsha lokho.
- “Ngisho nenkohliso encane ayihlonipheki uma isetshenziselwa izizathu zobugovu noma ubugwala.” - UMnu Penderwick (Jeanne Birdsall), The Penderwicks on Gardam Street
Lesi ngesinye salezo zicaphuno zokukopela ze-WhatsApp ongazithumela kumuntu obhekene nesikhathi esinzima.
- “Uma ungakwazi ukuzinikela komunye umuntu, okungenani zibophezele emcabangweni womlingiswa futhi ungakohlisi.” - UJerry Springer
Impela! Yenza okufanele futhi yephule. Ungahambi ukhohlisa. Kuyichilo.
- "Ukwethenjwa, lapho sekulahlekile, bekungatholakali kalula. Hhayi ngonyaka, mhlawumbe ngisho nokuphila konke." - UJEB Spredemann, Imfihlo Engenakuthethelelwa
Angeke uze umthembe umuntu okuqhathe ngendlela obujwayele ukukuqhatha ngayo. Lokho kuyiqiniso.
- “Ukungathembeki kubuhlungu ngokwengqondo, ngokomzwelo nasemzimbeni kumngane womshado okhashiwe. Yiba mnene kuwe njengoba ululama.” - UDkt Karen Finn
Thatha isikhathi sakho. Yenza noma yini eza ngokwemvelo kuwe. Ayikho indlela efanele yokwelapha.
- "Amanga awodwa anele ukubuza lonke iqiniso." — Akwaziwa
Zakhala impisi manje akusekho ukubuyela emuva. Lezi zinhlobo zabaqambimanga nabakhohlisayo zikutshela ukuthi akufanelekile.
- “'Kube yiphutha,' kusho wena.” Kodwa into enonya yayiwukuthi, kwakubonakala sengathi iphutha ngelami, ngokukwethemba.” — David Levithan, The Lover’s Dictionary
Ungawavumeli akukhohlise. Iningi labakhwabanisi libheka iziphambeko zabo njengephutha kuphela lapho libanjiwe. Phuma, ngoba ungenza kangcono kakhulu.
- "Awukwazi ukulondoloza ubudlelwano ngaphandle uma bobabili abantu betshalwe imali ngokulinganayo. Kudinga umzamo ohlanganyelwe ukuze busebenze. Umuntu oyedwa ozamayo ngeke kwanele." - UTony Gaskins
Kubo bonke nina abafana lapho izinhliziyo zabo zanyathelwa phansi, lokhu kungenye yezingcaphuno ezingcono kakhulu zokukhohlisa ongazisho kumngane wakho othandana naye. Khumbula uma engenandaba, hamba. Ungenza kangcono kakhulu.
- “Uma ushada nendoda eqola umkakhe, uzoshada nendoda ekhohlisa umkakhe.” - U-Ann Lander
Idube aliyishintshi imithende yalo. Kunzima ukwakha ubudlelwano obusekelwe ekwethembeni nomuntu oke wakopela, noma ngabe ubunawe.
- “Ayikho into okuthiwa ukujola engasho lutho.” — Amanda Robson
Yebo, uma kwenzeka kwakusho okuthile. Ungabavumeli bakutshele ngenye indlela. Okubaluleke nakakhulu, ungabakholwa uma bekwenza ngoba kukwenza uzizwe ungcono.
- “Kungani ungamane ushaye sengathi imbongolo yafa, awukwazi ukufonela noma ubhalele umuntu ofile. Beka amakhandlela ambalwa phambi kwesithombe sakhe, usho amazwi ambalwa, uqedele. ― Isabel Lopez, Hand-Me-Down Dreams ka-Isabel
Lokhu kungasiza, cabanga nje ukuthi bafa. UNkulunkulu uyazi ukuthi emva kwalokhu abakwenzile bafile kuwe noma kunjalo, kungani ungatholi induduzo kulowo mcabango.
- “Kungase kuzwakale kuyinto evamile ngowesifazane ukuthola ukuthi umyeni wakhe uyamkhohlisa, kodwa hhayi uma ungowesifazane futhi engumyeni wakho.” - UMelissa Bank
Uma kunguwe, kubuhlungu. Kwenza amahemuhemu alula abe ngokoqobo kakhulu. Umqondo wokuthi wakho umyeni uyakujolela into enzima kakhulu ukugoqa ikhanda lakho nxazonke.
- Akekho owake wazibulala ngenxa yengalo ephukile, kodwa nsuku zonke, izinkulungwane zabantu zibulala ngenxa yenhliziyo ephukile. ― U-Oliver Markus Malloy, Ukukhetha Okubi Kwenza Izindaba Ezinhle (Omnibus): Ukuthi I-Great American Opioid Epidemic of the 21st Century Yaqala Kanjani - A Memoir
Ubuhlungu bomzwelo bunzima kakhulu ukubhekana nabo kunokulimala ngokomzimba. Kodwa uzophuma kulokhu unamandla futhi uhlakaniphe. Ngakho, kukhona okuhle okuzophuma esihogweni okuso.
- “Uthando akufanele nanini lukulimaze. Uthando kufanele lupholise, lube isiphephelo osizini, lwenze ukuphila kube nenjongo.” - UMia Ashe, u-Arsen: Indaba Yothando Ephukile
Uma kungeyona indawo yakho ephephile, akulona uthando. Udinga ukuqaphela ukuthi ukuze ukwazi ukususa ubuthi obuzenza uthando.
- "Ukuzama ukwenza umqondo wokusangana kuzokuhlanyisa. Bayeke bahambe." — Karen Salmansohn
Awukwazi ukuqonda izizathu zabo. Ngisho noma bezama ukuchaza uhlangothi lwabo lwendaba, asikho isizathu esizothethelela isenzo sabo sokukhaphela ukwethenjwa kwakho. Vele uqhubeke.
- “Ukukopela kujabulisa kuphela labo abangakwazi ukubona ubuhle ngokwethembeka.” - UMichael Bassey Johnson, I-Infinity Sign
Bangabantu abalimele kakhulu. Bane-gpne ezintweni eziningi ezimbi ezibashiye nazo izinkinga ezinkulu zokuthembela. Ungavumeli ukuthi bakwehlise nabo.
- "Noma yini engcono kunamanga nenkohliso." - Leo Tolstoy, Anna Karenina
Akudlalwa. Iqiniso, noma lilukhuni kangakanani, lingcono kunamanga amnandi njengoju. Kungani abantu bengakwazi ukwethembeka kakhulu?
- Ukuqamba amanga kulula. Kodwa kuyisizungu.
"Usho ukuthini?"
“Uma uqamba amanga kuwo wonke umuntu ngakho konke, yini esele?
“Lutho,” ngisho.
“Impela.” - UVictoria Schwab, I-Archived
Ufuna abakhohlisi abaphelele abasoze baphumelela izingcaphuno? Lona ushaya isikhonkwane ekhanda, awusho?
- "Izindaba zokulala ngaphandle komshado zenzeka engqondweni nasekamelweni." - UDkt Gary Smalley
Ukungathembeki ngokomzwelo kuyinto yangempela. Kulapho konke kuqala khona. Ungavumeli umlingani okhohlisayo akushaye eceleni njengento engelutho futhi ubalekele kukho.
- "Uma ukhohlisa umuntu ozimisele ukukwenzela noma yini, empeleni uzikhohlise ngobuqotho beqiniso." — Akwaziwa
Bacekele phansi into ebaluleke kakhulu neyigugu. Bayakwazi, kanjalo nawe. Kodwa khumbula, ekugcineni, ukulahlekelwa kwabo. Lesi ngesinye sezingcaphuno zokukopela ezikukhumbuza lelo qiniso kahle.
- “Ngiyaziqhenya ngenhliziyo yami, kudlaliwe, igwaziwe, iqhathiwe, yashiswa futhi yaphulwa, kodwa noma kanjani isasebenza.” - Alcatraz Dey
Unamandla kakhulu kunalokho ozaziyo. Yiba nokholo kuwena, uzodlula kulokhu.
- “Yeka ukucabanga ngaye, ngoba akakucabangeli.” — Akwaziwa
Izingcaphuno zokukopela kuye azikwazi ukuthola ukwethembeka ngesihluku kunalokhu. Darling vele ukhohlwe ngaye ufanelwe okungcono kakhulu.
- "Akukho lapho okushiwo khona ukuthi ukungathembeki noma ukungathembeki kuhlobene nesenzo somzimba kuphela." - Dena B. Cashatt
Ukukopela kuqala emqondweni futhi yileso sigaba kuphela lapho kungathethelelwa khona. Uma isiphenduke isenzo, i-Game Over. Ukwakha kabusha ubudlelwano nokuthembana emva kokungathembeki kuthatha umzamo omkhulu. Kufanele uzibuze, "Ingabe kuyafaneleka?"
- "Bushwhacked, ngihlola izandla zami. Izandla ezifanayo. Indandatho isekhona kodwa ayisasebenzi." ― USuzanne Finnamore, I-Split: Isikhumbuzo Sesehlukaniso
Imizwa yokudideka nokuphelelwa ithemba ingokoqobo. Hlala lapho, izinto zizoba ngcono.
- "Indoda ingakuthanda ngokusuka ekujuleni kwenhliziyo yayo, futhi iphinde itholele umuntu othi akayena umuntu indawo ephezulu." - Kiki Strack
Ziningi izingcaphuno zokumkhohlisa ongaziduduza ngazo kodwa lokhu kuyiqiniso ngesihluku. Enye futhi izingcaphuno ezinonya zabakopela.
- "Ngokusobala, uma ama-bastards ekukhohlisa, ngakho-ke abakufanele. Uma lokho kuwukwesaba okusemthethweni, cishe akufanele ube nabo, kusukela ekuqaleni." — Kody Keplinger, Shut Out
Ukuqala kufanele kube okulungile. Awukwazi ukuqala ubudlelwano ngokungabaza. Uma kunezinkinga zokwethembana phakathi kwakho nomlingani wakho, udinga ukubuza ukuthi yini eyenza kube nzima kuwe ukumethemba.
- “Abukho ubuhlobo obuvele buchithe isikhathi, uma bungazange bukulethele into oyifunayo, bufundise into ongayifuni.” — Akwaziwa
Okungakubulali kukwenza ube namandla. Ukukhohliswa mhlawumbe kungesinye sezehlakalo ezibuhlungu kakhulu empilweni yakho kodwa uzovela uhlakaniphe kakhudlwana ngakolunye uhlangothi lwakho.
Ukufunda Okuhlobene: Umkami Wayenendaba Kodwa Akulona Iphutha Lakhe Konke
- “Ukukopela nokuqamba amanga akukona ukulwa, yizizathu zokuhlukana.” - UPatti Callahan Henry, Between the Tides
Amanga ahlala ephela ngenhlekelele. Ukuxhumana kuwukuphela kokhiye ebudlelwaneni obuyimpumelelo.
- "Into esabisa ngempela ngamanga angakatholwa ukuthi anamandla amakhulu okusinciphisa kunalawo avele obala. Aqeda amandla ethu, ukuzethemba kwethu nesisekelo sethu." - UCheryl Hughes
Yebo, zingamayini agqitshwayo obudlelwano. Ezinye izingcaphuno zokukopela ziyasiza ngempela ekubekeni konke okuhlangenwe nakho ngendlela efanele.
- "Kungcono ukuvala inhliziyo yakho ngendwangu engenasihe, kunokuthandana nomuntu ongamazi ukuthi uqondeni kuwe." - UMichael Bassey Johnson, I-Infinity Sign
Yiqiniso, akukho lutho olungalungile ngokulinda. Kungcono kunokuphinde ubhekane nobuhlungu.
- “Ukuzamazama komhlaba kuyenzeka nje, iziphepho ziyazenzakalela. Ulimi lwakho alumane luwele emlonyeni wenye intombazane!” ― Gemma Halliday, Ukuphola Okubulalayo
Impela! Manje, lokhu kuphakathi kwezingcaphuno ezinonya kakhulu zabakopela laphaya. Uma eyakho ukukopela umlingani iphonsela inkulumo ethi “Kuvele kwenzeka” ukuze bathethelele izenzo zabo, lokhu kungaba ukubuya okuphelele.
- “Bazothi umubi
noma mhlawumbe uyahlanya
noma okungenani wena
kufanele ahlale ecashile.
Umqondo wakho kufanele ube sobala
uma ungalokotha
ukucabanga ukuthi ungathanda
ngaphezu kwesithandwa esisodwa.”
- UDavid Rovics
Shumayela! Ukuzibophezela akulona ikhekhe ongalisika libe yizicucu futhi wabelane nawo wonke umuntu. Kuphakathi kokuthi ukwethembeka kumuntu oyedwa noma ukwethembeka komunye.
- “Ngokuvamile abantu babengakopele ebuhlotsheni obuhle.” ― Emily Giffin, Something Blue
Sekuyisikhathi sokuthi uhlukane nokuphika futhi wamukele ukuthi kungenzeka kube khona okungalungile ngobudlelwano bakho.
- “Ngazama ukuziqhelelanisa naye ngokusebenzisa amagama anjengathi “ukwethembeka” kanye “nokuphinga”, ngokuzitshela ukuthi uzongiphazamisa emsebenzini wami, ukuthi nginaye ngingajabula kakhulu ukubhala. ― Erica Jong, Ukwesaba Ukundiza
Hhayi-ke, uma uphikiswana, khona-ke okuwukuphela kwento efanele ongayenza ukuthola okubalulekile kwakho futhi uqonde ukuthi yini oyifunayo ngempela. Abukho ubudlelwano obungasebenza uma ungazi ukuthi uthanda bani.
- “Ngazama ukuziqhelelanisa naye ngokusebenzisa amagama anjengathi “ukwethembeka” kanye “nokuphinga”, ngokuzitshela ukuthi uzongiphazamisa emsebenzini wami, ukuthi nginaye ngingajabula kakhulu ukubhala. ― Erica Jong, Ukwesaba Ukundiza
Hhayi-ke, uma uphikiswana, khona-ke okuwukuphela kwento efanele ongayenza ukuthola okubalulekile kwakho futhi uqonde ukuthi yini oyifunayo ngempela. Abukho ubudlelwano obungasebenza uma ungazi ukuthi uthanda bani.
- Kwadingeka ngime phezu [kuye]. Sekuphele izinyanga eziningi itshe lihlezi enhliziyweni yami. Ngangikhala izinyembezi eziningi ngenxa [yakhe], ngilahlekelwe ubuthongo obuningi, ngidle inhlama yekhekhe eningi. Ngandlela-thile, kwadingeka ngiqhubekele phambili. [Ukuphila] bekuyoba isihogo uma nginganyakazi ekubambeni ayenakho enhliziyweni yami, ngangifuna ukuzigcina ngedwa ngale ndlela. uthando okuhloswe ngababili. Noma ngabe uzizwa njengoThemba. Noma bengihlale ngicabanga ukuthi sizogcina sindawonye. Noma ngabe useneketanga eliklinywa enhliziyweni yami." ― Kristan Higgins, Konke Engake Ngikufuna
Hamba, ntombazane! Kunzima kodwa ukudedela zonke izinhlelo zakho nabo kuyisinyathelo sokuqala esisendleleni yokululama. Ubunemizwa futhi ayizange isebenze. Kulungile uma wenze iphutha, uzokwenza kangcono ngokuzayo.
- Okuwukuphela kwento isoka elaliyilungele kwakuyinhliziyo edabukile. ― Becca Fitzpatrick, Crescendo
Shwi nomtekhala uyawazi lomuzwa. Pho uma bekungeyena 'yena'. Kufakazela nje ukuthi ungenza kangcono kakhulu kunaye.
- “Yebo, ngiyasiqonda isizathu sokuba kwenzeke ngalendlela, ngiyasiqonda isizathu sakhe sokungizwisa ubuhlungu. Kodwa ukuqonda nje akukuxoshi ubuhlungu. Alibizi ilanga lapho amafu amnyama engigubungele. Imvula mayifike uma kufanele ifike! Futhi mayigeze uthuli olulimaza amehlo ami!” - UJocelyn Soriano, Mend Inhliziyo Yami Ephukile
Lokhu kunengqondo kakhulu. Udinga ukuvuma ukudabuka nentukuthelo onayo. Akumele ubalekele kunalokho vumela inhliziyo yakho iqonde okwenzekile. Nalokhu kuzodlula. Zivumele ululame futhi alulame ekungathembekeni kwabo. Izinto zizoba ngcono ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
- "Ngicabanga ukuthi usangithanda, kodwa ngeke sikubalekele ukuthi angeke nganele ngawe. Bengazi ukuthi lokhu kuzokwenzeka. Ngakho-ke, angikusoli ngokuthandana nomunye umuntu wesifazane. Angithukuthele, nami. Kufanele ngithukuthele, kodwa anginjalo. Ngizwa ubuhlungu. Ubuhlungu obuningi. Ngangicabanga ukuthi ngingacabanga ukuthi kubuhlungu kangakanani lokhu, kodwa nganginephutha." ― Haruki Murakami, South of the Border, West of the Sun
The umunyu wokukhaphela kubi kakhulu kunalokho abantu abakucabangayo. Yinto ongeke uyilungiselele. Ongakwenza wukuvuka ekuseni uhlale unethemba lokuthi ekugcineni kuzoncipha. Futhi, ngithembe, kuzokwenzeka, ngakho vele uhlale lapho.
- “Ngoba lokho kuyikho ukungathembeki, akunjalo? ― Matt Dunn, Incwadi Yesandla Yesoka Langaphambili
Ukuthi usothandweni akusho ukuthi abanye abantu bayeke ukuthandeka. Usengumuntu. Kodwa ukulwa nalo muzwa wokukhangwa yilokho okuphathelene nokwethembeka nothando.
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