I roto i tētahi hapori e huna ana te whakaaturanga aroha a Bollywood i ngā rārangi whakaae, he mea nui kia aro atu ki ngā whakaaro hē e mau tonu ana i roto i te ahurea rongonui. "Kei te homai e te aroha te mana ki a tātou ki te wareware i te whakaae? Kāo, ahakoa te kī a Bollywood!" e ruku ana ki roto i ngā kōrero kino e horahia ana e te kiriata Hindi e kī ana ko te "kāo" a te wahine he tīmatanga noa iho ki te wikitoria a te tāne. Mā roto i te tirohanga a ngā wheako whaiaro me te tātari arohaehae, ka tūhuratia e tēnei tuhinga nā Ankita Anand ngā āhuatanga whakararuraru o te whakaae me te ōritetanga i roto i ngā whanaungatanga. Ka werohia ngā tikanga tawhito o te mana tāne me te wahinetanga kore mahi, me te akiaki i te nekehanga ki te whakaute tahi me te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero pono. I a mātou e wetewete ana i ngā karere tinihanga i roto i ngā kiriata Bollywood, ka whakaū anō mātou kāore e taea te whiriwhiri i te whakaae, ā, kāore te aroha pono e takahi i te hiranga o te whakaae tahi.
He ōritetanga rānei mēnā ko te tāne tonu te tangata e whiriwhiri ana mēnā ka tono whakaaetanga ia, kāore rānei?
Ripanga o Ihirangi
I tētahi wā o te whanaungatanga ā-tinana, i taku whakaaro kei te kotahi te whakaaro o māua ko taku hoa noho roa, ka mutu tana kōrero, ka pātai mai, "Kei te pai koe ki tēnā, e tika ana? Nā te mea kāore au e hiahia ki te whāwhā i a koe." I tere tonu taku pāwera i te mea i rite ki te whakakino. "Ae, kei te pai ahau ki tēnā, ki te kore kua kore ahau e noho puku tae noa ki tēnei wā."
I mārama ahau kei te ngana ia ki te mahi i te mea tika. Kāore hoki ahau e whakapono me haere tahi te kupu "kāo" me tētahi mahi ā-tinana motuhake pērā i te takahanga Taekwondo. Kia rangona ai, kia whakaaetia ai hoki, kāore e hiahiatia kia kōrerohia te "kāo" i roto i tētahi reo motuhake, i tētahi reo kua tohua rānei.
Hei whakarongo mai, hei whakaae atu hoki, kāore e hiahiatia te kōrero "kāo" i tētahi teitei o te reo, i tētahi reo kua āta whakaritea rānei.
"Ka tukua koe e au nā te mea he tangata pai rawa ahau"
Engari ko tāna i kōrero ai te āhua nei i pakaru ai te whakaata tinihanga o te whanaungatanga ōrite mai i tētahi taha ki tētahi taha. I te āhua nei kei a au te mana whakahaere, engari kei a ia te mana—he whakaaro i tautokona e te ahurea rongonui mā roto i te kiriata Hindi.
I roto i ēnei kiriata, kua kite ahau i ngā "toa" o te whenua e kopikopiko ana i ngā wāhine o te tāone whai rawa, "whakapauaua" ki ngā wāhi motuhake, ā, ka whakamārama i a rātou ka taea e ngā toa te moepuku i ngā wāhine he tamariki pōrangi engari kāore i pena nā te mea he tino pai ngā tāne. Whai muri i tēnei, ka ako ngā wāhine i tā rātou akoranga, ka noho ki tō rātou wāhi mō te toenga o te kiriata.
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He mahi tūpato te tūranga o ngā wāhine
Ka whakahokia ahau ki taku raruraru ki ngā kupu kanga moepuku, e ahua ana he kaha ngā tāne katoa ki te whakaeke i ō rātou whaea me ō rātou tuahine, ā, ko te hunga kāore e pena, he tāne tino ataahua. Kāore he mahi a ngā wāhine; me whakaae rātou ki te takoto noa ahakoa te aha e pā mai ana ki a rātou.
Ko te kiriata whakahihiri-whakamataku o te tau 2015 NH10 e ngana ana ki te noho hei mea motuhake, me te wero i tēnei whakaaro. I roto i tēnei kiriata, ka whawhai te kaiwhakaari matua-kaihanga a Anushka Sharma ki te tiaki i tētahi atu wahine, i a ia anō, me tana hoa rangatira. I mātakitaki ahau i tēnei kiriata i roto i tētahi whare pikitia, ā, ko te mamae i puta mai i roto i ngā tāne i roto i te whare pikitia i kitea i roto i tā rātou kata i te wā i ngana ai a Anushka ki te muku i te kupu "randi" (he kupu kanga mō te wahine kairau) i roto i tētahi wharepaku tūmatanui, i te mea rānei kei te tata ia ki te hopukina e ngā tāne e whakawehi ana ki te whāwhā me te kōhuru i a ia. Ka toro atu ēnei tama-o-te-oneone ki te whare tapere hei whakangahau, hei mātakitaki i ngā whakaari mahi hei mea i a rātou kia kaha ki te aro atu ki ngā Mane e haere ake nei. Ā, ki te kite i tētahi wahine i "tō rātou" wāhi, kāore rātou e harikoa; kāo, ka pōuriuri tō rātou mutunga wiki.
Nō reira, kāore i miharo ngā kitenga o te rangahau o te tau 2014 a te Geena Davis Institute on Gender Media, me te mea ko te kiriata Inia te mea nui rawa atu i roto i te whakaipoipo i ngā wāhine. i mawhiti te tangata i Ahitereiria i te whakawakanga i te wā i tautohe ai tana rōia kua pāngia tana kiritaki e ngā kiriata Hindi, e whakatairanga ana i te pūrākau ko te "kāo" a te wahine he pakiwaitara e tono ana kia whakatoihia, kia whakatoihia, kia kōrerotia kia "āe". Ngā waiata pēnei i te "Te kākahu dupattapeela a Neela. . .” mai i te kiriata o te tau 1997 Hamesha ranei "Appun bolatu meri. . .” mai i Josh o te tau 2000 he rārangi e tohe ana kia pānuitia te whakakahoretanga a te wahine hei whakaae. Ā, ki te whāngai i ngā wāhine i tēnei āe, ki te kore rānei e aro ki tā rātou kāo, kua raihanahia ngā tāne ki te whakamahi i ō rātou mana pakari tūturu, hangai rānei ki ngā wāhine kāore i te whakaarohia kia whai mana.
Kei ngā tāne anake te kawenga
Ka whakakorengia hoki te ōritetanga e tēnei ariā o te whakaae i tētahi atu huarahi mā te whakatakoto i te kawenga o te tono ki ngā tāne anake. Nō nā tata nei ahau i tūtaki ai ki tētahi tauira o te whare wānanga i whakaae mai nā ngā kōrero tata nei mō te whakaae i mōhio ai ia i tana wā e haurangi ana i ngā pāti, kua hara ia ki te kihi i ngā tāne me te kore i tono atu ki a rātou. I kōrero mai tētahi atu hoa o te mano tau, i te wā i tono ai tana hoa ki a ia i mua i te kihi, i pouri ia nā te mea i pakaru te taiao aroha i tana kōrero whaihua. I a ia e haere ana ki te whare rongoā, i te wā i pātai mai ai taku hoa mēnā he pai ki ahau tētahi waitohu ure motuhake, ka mahara ahau ki te wiri. I whakaaro ahau he hapa tetahi mea mēnā koinā taku urupare ā-roto ki tētahi tāne e whai whakaaro ana ki te hiahia me te ahuareka o te wahine.
He mea noa i roto i te kiriata te whakapuaki a te tāne i te hiahia, ko te wahine ia ka menemene puku, ka huri i ōna kanohi, ka ruru i tōna māhunga. Ko te karere e tukuna ana, mehemea ka whakaae ia ki te tono a te tāne, he mahi noa iho tēnei māna hei whakatutuki i te hiahia o te tāne me tana mahi e whakaaro nei ko tana ake kawenga.
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Kei te "aroha" te mana ki te wareware i te whakaaetanga?
I whakaaroaro ahau ki tēnei mea, ā, i kite ahau kua nui ake te whakauru a ngā pāpāho rongonui i a tātou ki te aroha o te mahi aroha, engari kāore i te nui ake ngā kōrero mō te moepuku haumaru me te whakaae tahi. I roto i ngā kiriata pēnei i Jagga Jasoos (2017), Tanu Weds Manu (2011) me Te ora i roto i te Metro (2007) e ai ki te kōrero kua ahu whakamua ngā tāne matua mai i te whakahihi ki te noho hei tāngata ngākau aroha, whakahihi. Heoi anō, ka whiwhi rātou i te urunga kaiwhakahaere ki te kihi i ngā wāhine e whaia ana e rātou i a rātou e moe ana, ā, kāore i te tūranga hei whakaae, hei whakahē rānei i tā rātou whakaae. Kāore he wāhi o ngā kōrero e kīia ana he raruraru tēnei whanonga, nā te mea kua whakapumautia kētia ko ngā mahi a ngā tāne ehara i te mea nā te "hiahia" engari nā te "aroha pono".
Kāore i te miharo ko te 60 ōrau o tata ki te 9000 ngā tāne i uiuitia i Inia e te International Centre for Research on Women i whakaae kua mahi tutu rātou ki ō rātou hoa i tētahi wā. Ā, he I kitea i te pūrongo a te WHO i te tau 2015 Ko Īnia te whenua i nui rawa atu ngā hāputanga kāore i te hiahiatia o te ao (17.1 ōrau).
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Kāore e hiahia, kaua e pātai
Ko ēnei āhuatanga anō hoki e whakaatu ana he aha te take e tika ai kia whakaarohia te tono whakaaetanga he kawenga tahi. Kaiwhakahaere Inia Te kiriata poto a Paromita Vohra, Ngā Haerenga Aroha a Megha rāua ko Shakku,He mahi tino pai tā te kaupapa nei ki te whakatū i tēnei. Ka akiaki i ngā wāhine o ngā reanga katoa kia whakarērea ō rātou āhua noho (te hononga o te whakama me te hē ki te whakaaro o te wahine e whakapuaki ana i tana hiahia) ā, ka akiaki i a rātou kia whakapuaki noa i ā rātou āe, kāo, me ētahi atu, i runga i te āhua o te take.
Te kiriata 2016 Lipstick I raro i taku Burkha E whakaatu ana hoki i te kaha o te hapori Inia ki te pupuri i te hiahia me te whakaae kia matara atu i ngā wāhine. Ko te meka i whawhai te kiriata i tētahi pakanga uaua ki te aukati kiriata, i te wā e whakaatuhia ana ngā wāhine hei taonga pau mā ngā tāne, ka whakaaturia wawetia te tohu matomato e te poari tiwhikete kiriata, e whakaatu ana i te whakaaro ira tangata o te umanga kiriata Hindi.
Ka tapahia e te whakaaetanga ngā taha e rua
Pērā i te kore e hiahiatia kia noho ko te tāne te tangata tuatahi ki te tono i te wahine kia haere tahi, kia piripono rānei ki tētahi whanaungatanga, ko te wahine pea te tangata tuatahi ki te pātai atu mēnā he pai ki a ia.
Pērā i te kore e hiahiatia kia noho ko te tāne te tangata tuatahi ki te tono i te wahine kia haere tahi, kia piripono rānei ki tētahi whanaungatanga, ko te wahine pea te tangata tuatahi ki te pātai atu mēnā he pai ki a ia.
Ā, ki te whakaaro rāua me tono, kāore tetahi e kite i waho o te tirohanga a te whanaungatanga aroha. Mā tēnei anō hoki ka pakaru te whakaaro tawhito, ā, mōrearea hoki, mō te koretake, te kore whakaute rānei o te tāne ki te kī kāo ki ngā wāhine. (I kite ahau i tētahi i whakamārama i tana tinihanga hei wāhanga o tana whanonga rangatira, i te mea he toa rawa ia ki te whakahē i ngā tono a te wahine.)
Me ahu mai te whakaae i te whakaute ki te hunga katoa e karapoti ana i a tātou, i te aro nui ki te āhua o tā tātou taunekeneke tetahi ki tetahi. Kaua e whakawhirinaki ki te tangata ka kaha ake te kaha tinana i roto i tētahi āhuatanga, ki te whakaatu rānei i te tere nui ake ki te oma atu i taua āhuatanga. Ina kī tātou paiKi te kore e takahi i tētahi, me rite tonu ki te kī kāore e taea, nā te mea e wiri ana tātou i te whakaaro. Me ako tonu te nuinga o ngā kiriata Hindi matua i tēnei.
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Kāore rawa ahau i te whakaae atu. He pātai tonu tēnei kei roto i tōku hinengaro, arā, me pēhea e taea ai e ngā tāne e 'tuku ana i a koe' me te kore e whāwhā i a koe i te wā e wātea ana te wā, te kī he 'tāne pai'. He mea whakamataku te whakaaro i puta ake i roto i ō rātou hinengaro!
Ahakoa tērā, e whakapono ana ahau he pai ngā taha e rua o te whakaaetanga. Kāore e taea te whakapae i ngā tama me ngā tāne i ngā wā katoa.