Me pēhea te wikitoria i ngā take whakawhirinaki — E 9 ngā tohutohu a te kaiwhakaora hinengaro

E ai ki tā Ernest Hemingway, "Ko te huarahi pai ki te kimi mēnā ka taea e koe te whakawhirinaki ki tētahi ko te whakawhirinaki ki a rātou." Engari he tino ngāwari te whakawhirinaki ki te tangata, inā koa mēnā kua tinihangatia koe i mua? Kāore te whakawhirinaki e tino ngāwari. He nui ngā roimata, ngā tautohetohe, me te wā puku e hiahiatia ana i waenga i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine kia tae ki tētahi taumata whakawhirinaki e kore e taea te whakangaueue. Tērā pea ētahi wā ka kitea koe e pouri ana ki tō oranga aroha i a koe e rapu ana me pēhea te wikitoria i ngā take whakawhirinaki. 

I roto i tēnei tuhinga, ka hoatu e mātou he whakamārama poto mō ngā take whakawhirinaki me pēhea te pānga ki tō whanaungatanga, me te āwhina o ngā tirohanga a ngā tohunga hinengaro me te kaiwhakaora whanonga hinengaro o California. Tākuta Shefali Batra (MD i roto i te Hinengaro), he tohunga ki te tuku tohutohu mō te wehenga me te whakarere, te wehenga me te whakaipoipo, me ngā take hototahi i mua i te marena. 

He aha ngā take whakawhirinaki?

I mua i tā tātou haere tonu, me titiro tuatahi tātou ki te tikanga o ngā take whakawhirinaki. He rangirua noa iho rānei mēnā kei te pono tō hoa, mēnā rānei kei te pono? te māramatanga i roto i tō whanaungatangaHe take kino rawa atu rānei o te kore whakawhirinaki ka taea te whakangaro i tō hononga? E kī ana a Tākuta Batra, "Ko te raruraru whakawhirinaki ko te kore e taea te whakawhirinaki ki tō hoa rangatira kei te pono ia ki a koe, kei reira tonu ia mōu, ā, ka pono ki a koe i te wā tino kino e hiahiatia ana rātou." He maha ngā take ka puta mai i ngā take whakawhirinaki. Ko ēnei katoa e aro ana ki ētahi mahi, ki ētahi whakaaro rānei mō tō hoa rangatira e whakararuraru ana i a koe, e whakaohooho ana rānei i a koe. 

Te pānui e pā ana: Ngā Take Whakawhirinaki – 10 Ngā Tohu e He Uaua Ana Koe ki te Whakawhirinaki ki te Tangata

Hei tā Tākuta Batra anō, "Ko te tikanga o ngā take whakawhirinaki ehara i te mea ko te pātai noa i ā rātou kupu, i ā rātou mahi rānei. Engari ko te rongo i te āwangawanga me te whakapae tonu ka pā mai i ngā wheako o mua, i ngā whakaaro o ētahi atu tāngata, i ngā pāpāho rānei, ahakoa kei te ngana pono rātou kia mārama."

Ngā momo take whakawhirinaki

I mua i te haere tonu ki te kōrero mō te whakakore i ngā raruraru whakawhirinaki, me titiro tātou ki ētahi momo raruraru whakawhirinaki. Ka whakarārangihia e Tākuta Batra ētahi take pēnei ka whakararuraru i tō hinengaro, ka meinga rānei koe kia manukanuka:

Te wehi o te kore whakapono

Whakaarohia tēnei: ​​kei te noho koe i te ritenga atu o tō hoa, e kōrero ana mō ngā mahere mō te mutunga wiki. Ka kōrero mai rātou he haerenga mahi kei te haere mai, engari he āhua rerekē te āhua. Ka mahara koe ki tētahi kōrero i kōrerotia e tō hoa ki a koe i mua ake o taua rā mō tētahi hoa mahi pōuri i i tinihangatia i a tana hoa rangatira e haere ana i tētahi mea e kiia nei ko te 'haerenga mahi'. Ka puta he āwangawanga mō ngā kōrero a tō hoa rangatira. He take nui tēnei mō te whakawhirinaki e pā ana ki te pono. 

Anei te kōrero a tētahi kaipānui ki a mātou: "I whakaaro ahau i tūtaki ahau ki taku hoa rangatira i taku tūtakitanga ki a ia. He tino pai ngā mea i te tīmatanga. I aroha ahau ki a ia me tōku kaha katoa. Ā, i whakaaro ahau he rite tonu tana aroha ki ahau. Engari i puta ko ia he tangata tinihanga. He hoa wahine anō tāna, ko tōna hoa noho, ā, i huna tonu ia i a ia i ahau. I hiahia ia kia whakarērea e au taku mahi nā te mea i pōuri ia mō ōku hoa mahi tari. Kei te ruarua tonu māua tetahi ki tetahi, ā, kāore i taea e māua te aro atu. Kua pouri māua, e pātai tonu ana tetahi ki tetahi, e whakaaro tonu ana kei te tinihanga tetahi." Ka taea e koe te pānui i tā rāua kōrero katoa. ki konei.

Ngā āwangawanga mō te pono o te pūtea

Ko tētahi o ngā momo take whakawhirinaki ko te wehi ki te puremu moni. Tērā pea ka puta ake tēnei ina kore te hoa rangatira e tino mōhio ki ngā āhuatanga pūtea, ā, ka waiho mā tetahi atu e whakatau. Ā, i te nuinga o te wā, ko ngā wāhine kāore i te tino mōhio ki ngā āhuatanga pūtea. ako kua whakaatu mai kei te noho tonu ngā wāhine i muri i ngā tāne ina tae mai ki te mātauranga pūtea. Heoi, i muri i tētahi wā, kāore te kuware e rite ki te harikoa, ā, ka whakaaro tetahi kei te tinihanga tetahi i a rātou i te taha pūtea. Ka kaha ake tēnei kare ā-roto ina puta mai ētahi atu take ki roto i te whanaungatanga.

Te pānui e pā ana: 21 Ngā Huarahi Hei Hoa Pai Ake Mō Te Hononga Pai Ake

Haumarutanga

Ka taea e koe te aroha ki tētahi tangata, ā, kāore e whakawhirinaki ki a ia? Ko te whakawhirinaki te tūāpapa o tētahi whanaungatanga, inā koa ngā whanaungatanga aroha. Ki te kore tēnei, ka rite pea te whakamārama, te whakapau kaha rānei a tō hoa ki tētahi tinihanga. Te whakapakari i te pono me te marama i roto i ngā whanaungatanga e hiahiatia ana te wā me te manawanui. Ko tētahi momo take whakawhirinaki ka whakararu i ngā wāhanga tuatahi o te whanaungatanga ko te take o ngā whakahoahoa.

Ki te kitea e koe tō hoa rangatira/hoa aroha e noho tahi ana me te tini o ngā hoa o te ira tangata kē (te ira tangata rānei e pai ana ki a rātou), e tuku karere ana, e waea atu ana rānei ki a rātou i te roanga o te rā, tera pea ka whakapae koe i ā rātou mahi i muri i a koe. Kāore pea e rite ki te tinihanga, engari tera pea ka whakakitea e tō hoa ō mea ngaro ki ā rātou hoa. 

Te whakakitenga o ngā mea ngaro

Ka taea hoki e ngā raruraru whakawhirinaki e pā ana ki te whakakitenga o ngā mea ngaro te whakangaro i ngā whanaungatanga. Hei tauira, ko Ashley, tētahi o ōku hoa, i whakawhirinaki ki tāna tāne mō āna mea ngaro katoa. I kōrerotia e ia ki a ia āna mahi o mua. Engari i te wā i tawai ai tōna auwahine ki a ia, i te whakahua i te maha o āna mahi i mua i te marena, ka tīmata a Ashley ki te mōhio kāore e taea e ia te whakawhirinaki ki tāna tāne mō āna mea ngaro. I mōhio ia kua mōhio pea ngā hononga whānau o tāna tāne ki āna mea ngaro katoa ināianei. Nā tēnei i tino manukanuka ai ia, i te mea i whakaaro ia ka taea e āna mea ngaro te horapa ki te marea, ki roto hoki i ōna hoa noho.

Te pānui e pā ana: Ngā Mea 10 Hei Mahi Ina Whakaaro Ana Koe Mō Te Wehe

Ngā whanonga kino me ngā waranga

Ka āraihia te whakawhirinaki e ētahi o ngā whanonga kino a tō hoa, ka arahi pea ki ētahi atu raruraru, pērā i te kore pono, te ngaronga moni rānei. Hei tauira, tera pea kei te petipeti tō hoa, kei te waranga rānei ki ngā raau taero, ki te waipiro rānei. Tērā pea kei te teka pinepine rātou ki a koe mō ō rātou wāhi noho, hei huna noa i tā rātou mahi, hei karo i te pakanga. Ā, ki te kitea tēnei e koe, kāore koe e whakawhirinaki anō ki a rātou. Pērā anō hoki mō ngā whanonga pēnei i te te whaiwhai i ngā wāhine i runga ipurangi me te tuku karere kuputuhi, te takaro rānei ki a rātou. Ki te ngaro te whakawhirinaki i roto i ēnei āhuatanga, e kore e taea te hoki ki te huarahi tika.

He aha ngā take e puta ai ngā raruraru whakawhirinaki?

Tērā pea ka pātai koe he aha i pēnei ai te hohonu o ngā raruraru whakawhirinaki i roto i ō whanaungatanga aroha. Kāore ngā raruraru whakawhirinaki e puta noa mai i te rangirua. He maha ngā āwangawanga ka puta ai ngā raruraru whakawhirinaki. E kōrero ana a Tākuta Batra mō tētahi take i whakahaerea e ia: "Kei te maumahara ahau ki te take o tētahi tokorua i reira ko te wahine, ko Angela, he tauira e hiahia ana ki te mahi, i te wā e whakahaere ana tana tāne, a John, i tētahi whare takaro ataata. Mārama noa iho, ko te kore whakawhirinaki i ahu mai i te taha o John, i te wā i whakamā ai ia ki tana whai wāhi ki ngā whakaahua, ki ngā pānuitanga, me ngā kiriata poto. 

Te pānui e pā ana: 13 Ngā Tohu Hei Mōhio Mēnā He Pai Te Tiaki i Te Hononga

"I āwangawanga ia mō tōna tata ki ētahi atu tāne, ā, ka piki haere tōna manukanuka me tōna kore whakamarie. I mea ia e whakawhirinaki ana ia ki a ia kia kaua ia e tinihanga i a ia, engari ko ngā whakaaro whakarihariha i taea e ia te mahi, kāore i mutu te whai i a ia, ā, he tino pānga ki te whanaungatanga." Nō reira, e kite ana koe, he te kore whakawhirinaki ki ngā whanaungatanga he tino kino. Engari kia taea ai te wikitoria i ngā take whakawhirinaki, me mārama koe ki ngā take o aua take. Anei ngā take e puta ai ngā take whakawhirinaki, e ai ki a Tākuta Batra:

1. Ka tukua koe e tō hoa

Āe, whakaarohia tēnei: ​​kua noho koe i roto i ngā whanaungatanga i oati ai ō hoa rangatira kia noho tonu ki tō taha. Heoi, i whakapōrearea tonu rātou i a koe i ngā wā tino nui. Anei ētahi tauira:

• I whakakorehia e rātou ngā mahere i te meneti whakamutunga hei whakapau wā ki ngā hoa
• Kua 'wareware' rātou i whakarite mahere māu
• Kāore i taea e rātou te tae atu i te wā i whakaurua ai tō whaea ki te hōhipera

E mea ana a Tākuta Batra, "I ia wā ka puta mai tētahi mea pēnei, ka pakaru ō tumanakohanga i ā rātou mahi, ā, ka waiho koe kia pōuri, kia māharahara hoki."

2. Te whakahaere i ngā kare ā-roto

E whakahua ana a Tākuta Batra i tētahi atu tauira: "Tērā pea kua noho koe i roto i ngā āhuatanga i whakapuaki ai koe i ō mataku hohonu, i ō moemoeā rānei ki tō hoa, ā, ka whakamahia e rātou aua mōhiohio hei whakahē i a koe i roto i tētahi tautohe ā muri ake nei." Ko te tikanga o tēnei te aronganui a whatumanawa, ka taea e tēnei te whakararu nui i tō kaha ki te whakawhirinaki ki ngā whanaungatanga piripono.

Te pānui e pā ana: 15 Ngā Tauira o te Whakamahi Kino i roto i ngā Hononga

3. Te tinihanga

Ki te kore koe e mōhio me pēhea te whakawhirinaki ki tō hoa, ko te tinihanga pea tētahi o ngā take mō tēnā. Nā, he aha te mea ka puta ina kitea e koe kei te mahi tō hoa i tētahi mea i muri i a koe, me te kore e kōrero atu ki a koe, me te mōhio ka taea e ā rātou mahi te whakangaro i tō kōrua whanaungatanga mō ake tonu atu? 

Āe, hei tīmatanga, ko te ohorere o te kitenga te tinihanga i roto i te whanaungatanga ka taea e tēnei te wawahi i tō whakawhirinaki ki tō hoa rangatira, tae atu ki ngā whanaungatanga ā muri ake nei. He maha ngā āhua o te tinihanga. Ka puta mai pea ngā raruraru whakawhirinaki i ngā momo tinihanga e whai ake nei:

• Te tinihanga pūtea: Whakaarohia kua kitea e tō hoa rangatira ētahi nama nui, ētahi whakatau pūtea nui rānei, kāore koe e mōhio.
• Kare e aro: Tērā pea ka oati tō hoa ki te noho tahi me koe i ngā wā e hiahiatia ana, engari ka ngaro atu i te wā e tino hiahiatia ana ia e koe.
• Te kōrero ki tō hoa o mua i muri i tō tuara: Tērā pea i oati tō hoa kia noho pono, kia pono tonu. Engari i kitea e koe kei te kōrero puku rāua ki tō hoa o mua i muri i a koe.

4. Te pouri noa, te mamae o mua rānei

E mea ana a Tākuta Batra, "He maha ngā wā ka puta ake ngā raruraru whakawhirinaki mai i ngā wā maha o te pouri me te tinihanga i roto i ngā whanaungatanga aroha. Ka hangaia e ia wheako mamae he taiepa huri noa i tō ngākau, ka uaua haere te tuku i ētahi atu ki roto, te whakapono rānei ki te pono o ā rātou kupu me ā rātou mahi. I roto i te wā, tera pea ka kitea e koe kei te whakarite ā-tinana koe mō te mea kino rawa atu, me te wehi kei arahi noa te ngoikore ki te mamae nui atu." Ko te nui ake o tō tūtakitanga ki te hunga kua tuku i a koe ki raro, kua tinihanga rānei i a koe i mua, ka kaha ake te kaha o ō raruraru whakawhirinaki.

Te pānui e pā ana: Te Peeke Hinengaro – Ngā Take, Ngā Tohu, Me Ngā Huarahi Hei Whakatutuki

Me pēhea te wikitoria i ngā raruraru whakawhirinaki i roto i te whanaungatanga: 9 ngā tohutohu i tūtohutia e te kaiwhakaora hinengaro

E mea ana a Tākuta Batra, "Ko te whakaora i ngā take whakawhirinaki me aro tika ki ēnei mamae o mua, me te poipoi i te korero tuwhera, me te hanga anō i te wairua haumaru me te pono ki a koe anō me tō hoa.” Anei tana mahi i te āwhina i te tokorua (i kōrerotia i mua i roto i te tuhinga) kia whakakorea ō rāua raruraru whakawhirinaki. E mea ana ia, “I tangohia e au te take a Angela me te Whakaora Whanoke Hinengaro mō ngā Tāne me ngā Wahine e 8-wiki te roa. I hoatu e au ki a rāua he mahi motuhake. Hei tauira, me kōrero rāua tetahi ki tetahi i te 2 ki te 3 ngā wā i te rā hei whakawhitiwhiti kōrero mō ō rāua kare ā-roto, te āhua o te haere o tō rāua rā, me ngā mea e pai ana ki a rāua te mahi tetahi ki tetahi i te pō ina tae rāua ki te kāinga. 

"I ētahi wā, ka kī atu ahau kia waea atu ia ki a ia mō te whakaahua mēnā he wā, he hiahia hoki tōna. I hoatu e ahau he tohutohu me he rautaki hei pupuri i te mura o tō rāua whanaungatanga. I whakaū anō ia he pakihi tūturu te pakihi. Nā tēnei māramatanga, te pono me te tuwhera, me te whakapuakitanga o te manukanuka me te āwangawanga, i āwhina i te whakamama i te manukanuka. I whakaritea hoki e rātou ngā mahi pēnei i te uku, te peita, me te tunu kai tahi i te mutunga o te rā i roto i ētahi rā. Kāore i roa ka mate te kore whakawhirinaki." Waihoki, e iwa ngā tohutohu a Tākuta Batra, mēnā kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te wikitoria i ngā raruraru whakawhirinaki i roto i te whanaungatanga:

Te pānui e pā ana: 15 Ngā Uara Matua o te Hononga mō te Here Harikoa, me te Here Pūmau

1. Kaua e tukua kia pau koe i ngā whanonga ipurangi a tō hoa

E mea ana a Tākuta Batra, "Kaua e tukua ngā mahi a tō hoa rangatira i runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori, i ngā taupānga kōrerorero, i te ipurangi rānei kia riro i a koe, kia whakahaere rānei i ō mahi. Ahakoa kāore koe e tino whakawhirinaki ki a rātou, whakatikahia ngā mea mā te kōrero, kaua mā te urupare tonu." Hei tauira, koinei te huarahi hei whakahoki mai i te whakawhirinaki:

• Kia mōhio koe he pikinga, he hekenga hoki ngā whanaungatanga tūturu. Kati te whakarite i tō whanaungatanga ki ngā whakaaturanga koretake o ngā whanaungatanga i runga i ngā pāpāho pāporiWhakaaetia ō rerekētanga me ō pakanga 
• Kati te mataku ki te maha o ngā kōwhiringa a tō hoa wahine i runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori. Kia maumahara he take tō rātou whiriwhiri i a koe, ā, tērā pea kāore rātou e tuku i a koe nā te mea he ngoikore noa iho ngā kōwhiringa i runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori.
• Kati te tirotiro i ngā waea a tō hoa, te pātai atu rānei mō ā rātou kupuhipa pāpāho pāpori. Ngāna kia kōrero tuwhera.

2. Whakatakotoria he rohe, ā, kia mau tonu te tūmataitinga hauora

Mena kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te wikitoria i ngā raruraru whakawhirinaki i roto i te whanaungatanga, kia mahara, he mea tino nui ngā rohe hei pupuri i te whakawhirinaki. E kī ana a Tākuta Batra, "Mā te whakatū rohe mō te tūmataitinga ka taea te hanga whakawhirinaki." Hei tauira, matapakihia he aha ngā mōhiohio e tika ana kia tohaina ki ngā hoa me te whānau. Mena kua whara koe i te tohatoha a te hoa i ngā taipitopito whaiaro me te kore whakaae mai i a koe, me whakapuaki noa i ō kōrero. ngā rohe i roto i te whanaungatanga ka taea te ārai i ngā māramatanga hē a muri ake nei, me te hanga hoki i te wairua haumaru. 

Te pānui e pā ana: 18 Ngā Tohutohu Whakapūmau hei Ora i te Whakaponokore i roto i te Hononga — Mō te Kaituku me te Kaituku

3. Kia mau te rongo ki o mua 

Kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te whakawhirinaki katoa ki tō hoa? Kaua e tukua tō hononga o mua whakararuraru i tōu āhua o nāianei. E kī ana a Tākuta Batra, "Whakatūpato atu ki ō wheako o mua. Hei tauira, mēnā i tinihangatia koe e tētahi hoa o mua, mā te aro ki te pānga o tēnei ki tō whanaungatanga o nāianei ka ārai i a koe ki te whakapae hē i tō hoa o nāianei." Koinei tētahi o ngā huarahi pai mēnā kāore koe i te mōhio me pēhea te wikitoria i ngā take whakawhirinaki.

Me whai rongoā, me whai whakaaroaro rānei koe hei āwhina i a koe ki te tukatuka i ēnei kare ā-roto, kia kore ai e pakaru tō whanaungatanga o nāianei. Koinei te huarahi pai mēnā kāore koe i te mōhio me pēhea te wikitoria i ngā raruraru whakawhirinaki.

4. Whakatakotoria ō whāinga whanaungatanga

Ko te whakatakoto whāinga whanaungatanga te huarahi pai rawa atu mēnā kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te wikitoria i ngā raruraru whakawhirinaki. Nā te mea ka āwhina ngā whāinga i a koe ki te whakataurite i ō huarahi me te mahi tahi hei rōpū. E kī ana a Tākuta Batra, "Me mārama ō whāinga mō te heke mai." Hei tauira:

• Whainga oranga: Kōrerohia ki tō hoa rangatira te ahunga whakamua o tō kōrua whanaungatanga, me ngā mea e hiahiatia ana e kōrua mō te wā roa. 
• Ngā whāinga pono: Mena kua ruarua koe i mua mō te whakapau kaha o tō hoa, kōrerohia ngā tumanakohanga me te hanga whakawhirinaki tahi.
• Ngā whāinga pūtea: Whakatakotoria ētahi mea e taea te tā whāinga moni pērā i te hunga e whakapau ana i te nui, ko ēhea ngā hoko nui me kōrero tahi kōrua, ko wai e koha ana i te nui, me ērā atu. Ka whakakorea tēnei i te tūponotanga o te kore whakawhirinaki ki ngā pūtea.

Te pānui e pā ana: 17 Ngā Mea Kāore e Taea te Whiriwhiri i roto i ngā Hononga Kaua rawa e Whakarerekētia

5. Whakauru atu ki tō hoa

Ki te mea he maha ngā wā ka pātai koe ki a koe anō me pēhea te whakawhirinaki ki tō hoa, me whakawhitiwhiti kōrero tuwhera mō ō kare ā-roto. Hei tauira, ki te mea kei te whakapae koe mō ngā hoa o tō hoa, kōrerohia marietia, ā, whakarongo ki ō rātou tirohanga kia kore ai e puta he māramatanga. E kī ana a Tākuta Batra, "Mā te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero auau ka whakatairanga i te whakawhanaungatanga kare-a-roto ā, ka whakaiti i ngā whakapae koretake.” Koinei tētahi o ngā huarahi hei whakatika i te take 'me pēhea te wikitoria i ngā take whakawhirinaki i roto i te whanaungatanga'. 

6. Kia tu motuhake

Koinei tētahi o ngā huarahi pai hei whakatata atu ki tētahi āhuatanga kāore koe i te mōhio me pēhea te wikitoria i ngā raruraru whakawhirinaki. He mea nui kia whai i tō ake oranga, i tua atu i tō whanaungatanga. Ka taea e tēnei tū motuhake te toro atu ki:

• Te whai i ō ake hoa
• Te whakawhanake i ō ake mahi whakangahau
• Te whai i ō ake pūtea

E whakamārama ana a Tākuta Batra, "Mā te pupuri i te mana motuhake ka whakatairanga i te whakawhirinaki me te māia ki a koe anō. Hei tauira, mēnā i mua kua whakaaro koe kei te whakawhirinaki koe ki tētahi hoa mō te whakamana, te tautoko pūtea rānei, mā te whakatipu i ngā hiahia takitahi me ngā whakahoahoa ka taea whakanui i te kiritau"Mā te whai pūtea motuhake me te wāhi whaiaro ka whakapakari ake i te mana motuhake, ka whakaiti hoki i ngā raruraru e pā ana ki te whakawhirinakitanga."

Te pānui e pā ana: Te Tuhi i te Rārangi i waenganui i te Aroha me te Tūmataitinga i roto i te Hononga

7. Kati te whakaatu i ngā āhuatanga kore haumaru

Koinei tētahi o ngā otinga pai rawa atu hei whakahoki mai i te whakawhirinaki ki roto i tētahi whanaungatanga. E kī ana a Tākuta Batra, "Mā te mōhio me te aro atu ki ngā āwangawanga ka ārai i te tuku atu i aua āwangawanga ki tō hoa. Hei tauira, mēnā kua tekahia koe e tētahi hoa o mua, ā, kua kī mai tō hoa o nāianei he kaupapa mahi kei te haere tomuri, tera pea ka kitea e koe ngā āhuatanga kei reira aua āwangawanga." te takaro ki tētahi atu "hei utu mō te mahi." Ka taea e ēnei whakaaturanga o te kore haumaru te arahi ki:

• Te pātai tonu ki a rātou
• Te tirotiro i tā rātou waea mō ngā karere, ngā waeatanga rānei
• Te whakapae i a rātou me te kore he taunakitanga pakari

8. Kia mau tonu te mura o te aroha

E mea ana a Tākuta Batra, "Mā te pupuri i te whanaungatanga ā-tinana, ā-hinengaro hoki ka whakapakari i te whakawhirinaki. Hei tauira, ki te mea kua raru koe i te noho motumotu mai i tō hoa, mā te whakarite i ngā pō whakaipoipo, i ngā mahi tahi rānei, ka taea te whakaoho anō i te whanaungatanga." Anei ētahi atu tohutohu mō te tuku i tētahi ki roto me te kore whakawhirinaki:

• Me mahi ngā tohu aroha me te maioha iti, pērā i te reta i tuhia ā-ringa, i te kāri whakawhetai rānei. Ka whakapakari i ngā hononga kare ā-roto, ka hanga whakawhirinaki hoki i roto i te wā.
• Kia rite tō whanaungatanga ki tētahi kōmeke aroha, me ngā ohorere ātaahua me ngā hui tina
• Whakakīia te tinana ki te mea kakara i runga i te moenga. Whakatā i waenganui o te wiki mai i te mahi, ka awhi, ka moe i te rā katoa.

Te pānui e pā ana: 7 Ngā Huarahi Hei Whakahoki Mai I Te Aroha I Muri I Te Whānautanga

9. Kōrero ki tētahi hoa, ki tētahi tohunga rānei

E whakaaro ana tēnei mahi mēnā kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te tuku i tētahi ki roto, me te kore whakawhirinaki. Ina tīmata koe ki te whakawhanake i te kore whakawhirinaki, kāore e taea e koe te titiro matatau ki ngā mea. Ka tīmata koe ki te whakaaro kino, ā, kāore pea e taea e koe te whakatau tika. E kī ana a Tākuta Batra, "I ngā wā pēnei, ka taea e koe te kōrero ki tētahi mema kaumātua o te whānau, ki tētahi hoa, ki tētahi tohunga hauora hinengaro rānei." Whakapā mai ki Te rōpū kaitohutohu raihana a Bonobology.

Mā tēnei koe e āwhina ki te titiro ki ngā mea i runga i te tirohanga whaitake, me te tirohanga arorau. Nō reira, koinei tētahi o ngā huarahi pai ki te whakahoki mai i te whakawhirinaki ki roto i tētahi whanaungatanga. Kaua e tukua te kore whakawhirinaki kia whakararu i tō whanaungatanga.

He Whakaahua Mō Te Hiranga o Te Whakawhirinaki I Roto I Te Hononga

Nā te mea kua mōhio tātou ki te āhua o te whakararuraru o ngā take whakawhirinaki i ngā whanaungatanga, me tahuri tika tātou ki te take he kaupapa tairongo tēnei. He aha tō whakaaro he mea nui te pupuri i te whakawhirinaki i roto i te whanaungatanga? Anei ētahi o ngā take:

Pātai Auau

Thoughts Final

Ka taea e koe te aroha ki tētahi tangata, ā, kāore e whakawhirinaki ki a ia? Kāore rawa, nā te mea ko te whakawhirinaki te pou matua e taurite ai te whanaungatanga. Nō reira, he mea 'kāore e taea te whiriwhiri' i roto i ngā whanaungatanga me ngā hononga mahi tahi katoa. Ā, kua mōhio koe i nāianei he aha te hiranga o te whakawhirinaki i roto i te whanaungatanga, me pēhea hoki te wikitoria i ngā take whakawhirinaki. Ko te tumanako ka wikitoria koe i te kore whakawhirinaki i roto i tō whanaungatanga, ā, kāore koe i te ruarua mō te wikitoria i ngā take whakawhirinaki i roto i te whanaungatanga. Haere tonu ki te kōrero ki tō hoa mēnā kei te whakararuraru i a koe ā rātou mahi. 

Te Herekore i roto i ngā Hononga - He aha tōna Tikanga, me ōna Kāore e Tikanga

Ngā Kaupapa Taketake e 7 o te Tautoko i roto i te Hononga

7 Ngā Huarahi Hei Hanga Pono i roto i te Hononga

Kāore tō koha e kiia he kaupapa aroha takohaMā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata katoa o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.

Tirohia ta maatau Tukanga Etita

Tutaki ki ta maatau Poari Arotake

Tiri Urupare

He aha ō urupare?

×

āwhina Pūrongohia he Hapa He mea anō (kōrerohia mai he aha te horopaki)

Tuku