He aha ngā tāne e whakatā ai? Ngā take me ngā huarahi hei whakatau i tēnei

I kōrero mai tētahi hoa ki ahau mō te wā i whakamārama atu ai tētahi tangata ki a ia mō te mahi a te taake umanga, ā, i haere tonu tana kōrero ki a ia he aha ia i kore ai e mārama ki tēnā nā te mea "he taitamariki rawa ia ki te noho hei kaikaute". E rua tau ia e mahi ana i PWC, engari me haere tonu, e te "tangata" whakaaro nui. 

I runga i tētahi taupānga whakaipoipo tēnei kōrero. Kotahi me te hawhe rā rāua e kōrero ana. Ko te mea nui, kāore ngā kaikōrero huna e aro ki te tangata e kōrero ana ki a rātou, kei hea rātou, he aha rānei tā rātou e kōrero nei. Kei konei rātou hei whakamanamana i ētahi mōhiotanga Wikipedia ki a koe, mō tētahi mea e mōhiotia ana e koe.

Kaua e pātai he aha i kōrero ai taku hoa mō te taake me tētahi tāne i runga i tētahi taupānga whakaipoipo (koinei pea te āhua o te takaro a ngā kaikaute). Me kōrero anō tātou mō ngā tāngata huna i ō rātou tuakiri. He aha te mea e hiahia ai ō rātou roro e kaha ana ki te whakaputa i ō rātou mōhiotanga iti ki a koe? 

He aha te Mansplaining?

Ko te mansplaining, i ētahi wā, ko te whakamārama a te tāne i tētahi mea (ki te wahine i te nuinga o te wā) i runga i te whakaiti, i te whakahihi rānei, me te whakaaro kāore ia i te mōhio ki tētahi mea mō te kaupapa e kōrerohia ana e rāua. 

A Reddit kaiwhakamahi i mea ko te aituā kino rawa atu o te whakakorekore tangata i pā ki a rātou ko "te kīnga mai me pēhea te mahi i taku mahi kua rima tau e au e tētahi taiohi i utua e mātou i te wiki i mua".

Kua whakaurua e koe tētahi kaupapa ki tētahi, ā, ka mea atu rātou, "Kāo, kāore au i te whakaaro koia te tikanga. Koinei taku tikanga..." Aroha mai, e tino mōhio ana ahau he nui ake aku mōhiotanga mō tēnei mea, i runga i tō whakaaro ki a koe. tika i rongo mō taua mea. 

Kāo, ehara i te mea ka mahia e ngā tāne tino haruru anake. Mena he tāne koe e pānui ana i tēnei, e mihi ana mātou ki te kī atu i tēnei, engari tera pea kua mahia e koe i mua (tērā pea kāore koe i te mōhio). Ahakoa he tāne e ngana ana ki te takaro ki te whare takaro mā te kōrero ki tētahi (kāore i tono āwhina) mō te "āhua tika", i te wāhi mahi rānei ina hiahia ngā tāne ki te whakamārama roa i ngā mea iti rawa. Kua kōrero roa koe mō ngā hākinakina, me te whakamārama i tētahi ture motuhake me te tino hiahia i mua i te kī a te kōtiro i kōrero koe ki a ia, "Āe, e mōhio ana ahau"? 

tetahi Reddit kaiwhakamahi i kōrero mai ki a mātou, "Kua whakamātau tētahi tangata ki te whakamārama i ngā pēke hau i runga i taku ake taraka, kātahi ka whakamanamana he nui ake te taraka a tōna pāpā i taku. Kua taurite te taraka a tōna pāpā, ā, kei runga i te ara hiki 4-inihi taku. I ngana ia ki te whakamanamana mō te taurite o te taraka nā te mea i whakaaro ia he teitei ake i te taraka he ara hiki."

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He aha ngā tāne e noho tāne ana?

He aha He rerekē rawa te āhua o tā rātou mahi. E whakaaro ana rānei ngā tāne he nui ngā kōrero mō te whakapai kanohi me te whakaaturanga pouaka whakaata tūturu e pā ana ki ngā mahunga o ngā wāhine, nō reira me nui ake ā rātou mōhiotanga i ngā wā katoa? 

He āhua rānei tēnei nō te āhua o te noho tahi a te hapori, e tumanakohia ana kia mōhio ngā tāne ki ngā mea katoa? He tapanga rānei tēnei e tohu ana i te āhua tauhokohoko o ngā whanaungatanga i waenganui i ngā tāne me te hunga e karapoti ana i a rātou, kaua ki ngā whanaungatanga whakaute?

Ahakoa he kupu hou tēnei, kāore te whanongaKo ngā tūranga ira tangata kua whakatūria e tātou hei hapori kua whakamātauhia i roto i te huarahi e whakatata atu ai ngā ira tangata ki te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero tetahi ki tetahi. E ai ki rangahau, he nui ake te tūponotanga o ngā tāne ki te whakakore i te kōrero a te tangata e kōrero ana, ā, he nui ake te tūponotanga ka whakararuraruhia ngā wāhine i a e kōrero ana. 

I roto i tana tuhinga whakahauora, "Nā ngā tāne e whakamārama mai ngā mea ki ahau", ka kōrero a Rebecca Solnit mō te wā i kōrero ai ia ki tētahi tāne e kōrero ana rāua ko tana pukapuka hou mō te kaiwhakaahua a Eadweard Muybridge. I taua wā tonu, ka whakamutua tana kōrero e ia, ka kōrero atu mō tētahi "pukapuka nui" mō te kaiwhakaahua me pānui e ia. 

Koia rā, koia konei te pukapuka i kōrerotia e ia. Kāore ia i pānui. I roto i tana tuhinga, e kī ana a Rebecca, "Nā te tino aro nui ki taku tūranga i whakaritea hei ingenue, i tino pai ahau ki te whakaaro mehemea kua puta mai tētahi atu pukapuka mō taua kaupapa i te wā kotahi, ā, kua ngaro i ahau." 

I roto i te poto, ko te take e kore ai ngā tāne e tono tohutohu he rite tonu ki te take kāore rātou e tono tohutohu. E whakapono ana ētahi, hei tāne, e tika ana kia mōhio rātou ki ngā mea katoa, ā, ki te whakaae rātou kāore he mōhiotanga mō tētahi mea, he tohu ngoikore tēnei, he mea pea i tukinotia ai rātou i roto i ā rātou tīma whutupaoro i a rātou e tipu ake ana. 

Ko ētahi kāore e whakaaro ana ka mōhio te tangata e kōrerohia ana e rātou. Ahakoa he nui ake te whakaaro mō te mana o te tangata (he hoa tāne whakahihi(āe?) he tirohanga whakaiti rānei ki te hunga e noho tahi ana rātou, i ahu mai katoa i ngā kare ā-roto "kāore i te tino pai". 

He whakahāwea ira tangata te whakahāwea i te tāne? He aha ngā tāne ka whakaiti i te mana o ngā wāhine? Ka taea e ngā wāhine te whakahāwea i te tāne?! Kaua e hurihia tēnei tuhinga hei kōrero hangarau mō te moe roa, engari me titiro ki ngā mea ka taea e koe te mahi i te wā e ngana ana tētahi tāne ki te whakararuraru i a koe, ka whakaako i a koe ki tāu mahi whakangahau kua mōhiotia e koe mai i mua i tōna mōhio. 

Me pēhea te whakaweto i tētahi Mansplainer

Kia mahara ki te wā i haere mai ai te kaimahi ki te pātai me pēhea te kai, ā, ahakoa te makuku o te taro i tae mai me tō rimurapa, kāore koe i kōrero mōna? Tērā pea i whakaaro koe kāore he utu mō te raruraru, ā, ehara i te mea e whakakino ana i tō rā. "Tukua kia pērā," tika?

Engari, ki te mea kei te hiahia koe ki te aukati i tētahi kaikōrero kino, me waiho koe hei tangata e whakahoki mai ana i te kai. Nāu i utu, kei te kai koe. He aha koe me whakaae ai ki te taro mākū? Waihoki, kāore koe i tono i āna tohutohu, tera pea he nui ake ōu mōhiotanga mōna i a ia, kāore koe e hiahia ana ki tēnā. He aha koe me whakaae ai ki tana reo whakaiti? 

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Ahakoa he whakahāwea i te wāhi mahi, i te wā rānei e kore e mutu tana ngana ki te whakaako i a koe mō tō tohu paerua i a koe e ako ana i te whare wānanga. ra tuatahi, anei te huarahi hei aukati i te tangata kōrero kino: 

1. Pātaihia ngā pātai whai kiko 

Ki te mea kei te hiahia koe ki te ārai i te tangata kōrero teka me te mahi mānumanu hoki, pātai atu ki a rātou mō ō rātou mōhiotanga. Ki te mea kua takaro kē koe i te kēmu chess mai i mua i tō rātou mōhio ki ngā mahi a ia wāhanga, ka nui noa atu te mōhiotanga kei a koe hei "kāti te kōrero".

Ahakoa kāore koe e tono atu, kei te kōrero mai rātou ki a koe mō te mahi a te paheketanga me ngā mahi me mahi i a rātou e pā ana ki aua mahi? Mā te pātai noa iho, "He tākuta koe?" ka ea te mahi. Kei te ngana rātou ki te whakaatu kei te mōhio rātou ki tētahi mea kua roa koe e mahi ana? "He aha ō tohu mātauranga, ā, kia pēhea te roa o tō rangahau i tēnei kaupapa?" he pai pea. 

Pātai atu ki a rātou he aha tā rātou e tumanako ana kia tutuki mā te tuku atu i ā rātou tohutohu kāore i tonoa. Pātai atu ki a rātou he aha rātou i kōrero ai, pātai atu rānei he aha ō rātou wheako. 

2. Kōrerotia ki a rātou he aha te mansplaining 

Ahakoa he uaua, me whakaaro pea koe ki tētahi kāore i te tino whakarihariha. Tērā pea kāore anō ia kia rapu i te kupu "He aha te mansplaining?" i runga i a Google, ā, kāore ia i te mōhio kei te mahi ia i tēnei wā. Kōrero atu ki a ia. 

"E mōhio ana koe he aha te mansplaining? Me rapu e koe" he pai pea. Tētahi atu tāra, tētahi atu rā. 

3. Karangatia rātou 

Ki te mea kei te mahi tāne tetahi i te wāhi mahi, ki te hiahia rānei koe kia mōhio ake tēnei tangata ki āna whanonga, me riria rātou. Me whai tautohetohe, he kōrero whakamā pea i te mahi, engari me mahi. Kāore he wāhi mō te whakaiti i te wāhi mahi, ā, ahakoa he torutoru ngā hapa reo tinana i te mahi, ka puta pea he whakaaro kore whakaute.

Kōrerotia atu tā rātou mahi, me pēhea tā rātou mahi, me tō hiahia kia mutu tā rātou mahi. Tāpirihia ngā meka me ngā tatauranga me tō wheako mō te kaupapa (tērā pea ka angitu ā rātou) ā, tera pea ka mārama rātou ki tō whakaaro. 

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4. Whakakorehia 

Mena he tangata kei runga i te miro pātai Reddit, he matua kēkē rānei kāore koe i kōrero ki a ia, ka taea e koe te wehe atu i te aro ka neke atu. Kāore koe e herea ki te whakaako i a rātou, kāore koe e herea ki te whakaako i a rātou ki tā rātou e mahi ana. 

Ehara i te mea ngāwari te whakapā atu ki tētahi kairīpoata i ngā wā katoa, ā, ki te mea he tangata kāore e nui ana te aroha ki a koe, ehara pea i te mea kino te wehe atu i a koe. Ka mihi atu tō hauora hinengaro ki a koe mō tēnā. 

Ko te whakautu i ngā pātai pēnei i te "he aha ngā tāne e whakaiti ana i ngā wāhine" me nui ake pea i te tuku tuhinga rangitaki mō te whakahāwea i te wahine. I tēnei wā, ko te mōhio ki te whakatika i tēnei āhuatanga ka hua pea ngā hua i te wā poto. Ko te tumanako, nā te mea kua mōhio koe ki te whakamutu i te whakahāwea i te wahine, kāore koe e hiahia ki te whakarongo ki a ia ina hoatu ana e ia he tohutohu kāore rawa koe i tono. 

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