(Kua whakarerekētia ngā ingoa hei tiaki i ngā tuakiri)
Ina nui atu te aroha nga rohe whakapono, he ahurei ngā wero me ngā whai wāhitanga e pā ana ki ngā tāne me ngā wāhine. Ka tūhuratia e tēnei haerenga ngā uauatanga me ngā angitu o ngā whanaungatanga whakapono-maha, e whakaatu ana me pēhea te hono a te aroha i ngā wehewehenga hohonu rawa atu.
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Ripanga o Ihirangi
I rite a Dina ki ngā wahine marena hou katoa e mataku ana. Whai muri i ngā tau o te aroha "kāore rātou e pai", te āhua nei kua tata te moemoeā. Engari i konatunatua te harikoa ki ngā pātai - ka uru atu rānei ia ki te ahurea hou? Ka tino manakohia ia e te whānau? Ka tumanako rānei tana tāne kia huri ia? I pehia e ia ēnei mea ki tahaki me te whakaaro he āwangawanga noa iho nō te hinengaro manukanuka. Nā te mea, kāore a Akshey i tono kia rerekē ia i a ia. Ko ō rāua rerekētanga whakapono me ō rāua ahurea te mea i hono ai rāua - kāore he whakahē, engari he rerekētanga. E rua tau i muri mai, ka hapu ia i tana tamaiti tuatahi.
"I hiahia ōna mātua ki te tapa i te pēpi. Ā, i pai ahau ki tēnā. Ko tāku noa i kī ai, ka mau te ingoa o taku tamaiti e whai ake nei ki te ingoa o tōku whānau. Nā te mea he tokorua hou māua – he aha ai ko tōna whakapono anake te mea e whakaaetia ana i roto i ngā tuakiri o ā māua tamariki?"
Koinei te whakatuwheratanga o te pouaka a Pandora mōna. "I huri whakarere ngā mea katoa. I whakaaro ōku hungawai, i whakaae tonu i tēnei wā, kei konei ahau hei pātai i tō rātou ingoa whānau, i ngā tikanga tuku iho, me ngā uara. Engari ko te mea tino mamae ko te wahangu o Akshey." I huri te wahangu hei tautoko i ōna mātua. E rua tau i muri i te whānautanga o tā rāua matamua, ka wehe te tokorua. Kāore a Dina e whakaaro kua kati katoa ngā rori, engari e whakaaro ana ia me i taea e te taha kē te huri i ētahi wā kia kore ai ia e waiho ko ia anake.
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Kotahi noa te ara o te katoa?
Wahine Muslim i Inia kei te tuwhera haere ki te rapu aroha i waho o ngā rohe o te whakapono. Ehara i te mea onge ngā kōrero aroha whakapono-rua. Heoi, i runga i ngā kōrero o nāianei, te āhua nei kotahi noa te ara e pupuhi ai te hau. "He tau noa iho. Tērā pea ka tūtaki tātou ki ētahi atu tama ehara i te Ihirama, inā koa mēnā i whakatipuria i roto i ngā tāone whakauru. Ā, he maha atu anō hei hono i a tātou i tua atu i ngā rerekētanga whakapono." Kei te tau tuatoru a Sumaiyya i Te Whare Wānanga o Delhi, ā, e kī ana ia kāore te whakapono i aukati i tōna oranga whakaipoipo. "Kāore he tangata e māharahara. Kua whakaipoipo ahau i te nuinga o te hunga ehara i te Ihirama, tae atu ki taku whanaungatanga whakamutunga i te taha o tētahi tāne Assamese. Mēnā he aha, e kiia ana ahau he tangata tauhou ake i ētahi huarahi!"
He mea nui tēnei mō te hinengaro mātau o te tāone nui? He maha ngā wā kua kitea i Īnia ngā tāne me ngā wāhine i patua mō te aroha i waho i tō rātou iwi, i tō rātou whakapono rānei. "Ki taku whakaaro, ehara i te whakapono te raruraru. Ko te mana rangatira. Ko te wahine i marenatia i waho, he kōpū kua pirau. Inaianei ka noho aua tamariki ki te whakapapa o te pāpā," te kī a Diksha, he tauira o te Sociology. "Whakaarohia tōku whānau - he whānau Hindu o te akomanga waenga. He whānau kāore e whakaae kia haere tahi ahau me ngā tama o tōku whakapono. Engari i kawea mai e tōku tuakana tana hoa wahine Muhirama ki te kāinga, ā, mātakitaki mai? I pai tōku pāpā - tata hemo a Māmā - engari me i kawea mai e au tētahi tāne Muhirama ki te kāinga, kua mura ngā pū!"
Ehara i te Whakapono, engari he Mana Matua
Kāore ngā wehewehenga o te hapori Inia e kōrero takitahi ana. Tērā pea he maha atu ngā āhuatanga ōrite i tā rātou e whakaaro nei. E kiia ana tēnei e ngā wāhine he whakawhitiwhitinga. He maha ngā ture e whakaurua ana e te mana tāne ki roto hei whakatau i tā tātou e whakapono nei he tika, he hē rānei i roto i te hapori. Whakaarohia te tautohetohe 'Love Jihad'. He aha te take anake hei whakaara ake ko te āhua o te marena a ngā tāne Muhirama ki ngā kōtiro Hindu? Ā, mēnā he Muhirama te kōtiro, ā, he Hindu te tama? Ka pai ake te whakaae? Kāti, ehara i te whakapono te take, engari ko te ira tangata me tana mahi mana.
I whakaaro a Saba kei te aroha ia ki tētahi tāne mātau, whakaaro nui. "He tirohanga pai tōna mō te ao, he rerekē rawa atu ki te pakari o tōku ao tūturu. Kāore rawa he aha ki a ia ō māua rerekētanga whakapono. I whakahīhī ia ki te noho ki runga ake i aua mea. Engari i te wā i pakaru ai tō māua whanaungatanga, ka tere tana pēhi i te pātene puta - kāore e pai i te wā roa, e mōhio ana koe, nō ngā ao e rua tino rerekē tāua - e kī ana ia. Ka kata ahau inaianei mō te taka ki tētahi tohunga whakaaro rūpahu!" Ae, ehara i te mea ko ngā whanaungatanga whakapono-maha katoa ka rahua, ahakoa ngā whakapono e whai wāhi ana. Ko te iwi e tautuhi ana i tō rātou whakapono me ō rātou hononga. Ko te iwi e tautuhi ana i tō rātou whakapono me ō rātou hononga.
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He mea nui te aroha?
Kei te harikoa a Atul ki te neke ki te wāhanga e whai ake nei o tana whanaungatanga. "Kua whakaritea he mowhiti me tētahi tono marena uaua. Ahakoa ehara i te mea ngāwari te whakatenatena i ngā whānau – engari kua rite ahau mō te wero. I a au e inoi ana ki ngā atua katoa ka whakaae ia!" Ko te tikanga o te 'Jihad' i roto i te reo Ārapi ko 'te tohe'. Ā, koinei pea te aroha mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e whiriwhiri ana i tētahi hoa ahakoa ngā rerekētanga me ngā wero. Heoi, ko te wero tūturu ko te nui o te hiranga o tēnei pakanga pumau e whakaarohia ana e rātou.
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Ki taku whakaaro, kāore he pānga o te whakapono ki te aroha. Tērā pea ka pā ki a koe te mea i tupu i roto i te pūrākau, i tētahi atu mea pai ake rānei, engari i te mutunga, nāu te whiriwhiri ko tēhea te wāhi e hiahia ana koe ki te kōrero mō te whanaungatanga.
I a au e tipu ake ana, kāore rawa ahau i te mārama ki tēnei - me pēhea te whakapono hei paearu mō te aroha? Ā, i te mea kua pakeke ahau ināianei, e tino mārama ana ahau. Me pēhea te whakatakoto a te whakaaro matua i ēnei ariā wairangi ki roto i ō tātou hinengaro hei pono mutunga kore. Engari kei raro i te karāhe te pono. Ko te pono ko te aroha ki te tangata, ehara i te ingoa whānau, i tōna whakapono rānei. Ā, ko te ngākau e hiahia ana ki tāna e hiahia ana. Ā, ki te pono tō aroha, tera pea he pai te utu. Ko taku hiahia kia toa tō aroha.
Nō reira, he uaua rawa atu, he hohonu rawa atu ngā wero o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine whakapono-hāngai.
Ko tāku noa iho he kī atu, "Kaua e tukua he hapori hei hanga i tō tuakiri, hei whakatau i ō whakatau, hei whiriwhiri rānei i tō hoa rangatira; he tangata hei hoa pai māu, ā, kia ako hoki koe ki te whakanui i te tangata, kaua te whakapono hei mea whakatau."