He tino waimarie koe mēnā kua taea e koe te rapu haere i te ao whānui, ā, kua kitea e koe te tāne tino tika. E aroha ana ia ki a koe, e whakapau kaha ana, e pono ana, ā, e ngana tonu ana ki te pupuri i tō harikoa. Ehara i te mea ko koe anake, engari e tino aro nui ana hoki ia ki ō hoa me tō whānau. E mōhio ana ia ki a koe i roto i te hinengaro. He pai ake ia i ō rā kino. Ka whakapau kaha ia ki te whakapai ake i tō wairua.
Kāore he amuamu āu engari kotahi, kua hoha te whanaungatanga, he paku noa iho. Me pēhea e taea ai e koe te tāpiri i te hihiri ki roto i tō whanaungatanga? Kāore he kino ki te whakauru i te takaro ki roto i te whanaungatanga, me te whakapataritari i tō hoa tāne i ētahi wā. He mea whakakatakata te whakapataritari i tō hoa tāne mā te takaro. Ka kaha ake tō hononga, ka mura ake anō hoki te mura o te whanaungatanga. Ki te mea he kaitiaki ia, ka maioha tonu ia ki tētahi mahi whakakatakata pai. Mā tēnei hoki ka whiwhi koe i tana aro ina hiahiatia.
Kāore ianei e tino ngahau te kite i tō hoa tāne manawanui e riri ana i ētahi wā, ā, ka tono kia mutu ā kōrua mahi tinihanga? He pono ka hoatu he wā whakahirahira ki a kōrua hei whakaaroaro ā muri ake nei. Engari ko te mea nui ake, he tino ātaahua te rapu utu mōna mō te whakapataritari i a ia, tika? Ahakoa kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te whakapataritari i tō hoa tāne i te ao katoa, me pēhea rānei te whakamataku i tō hoa tāne mā te karere kuputuhi, kei a mātou ētahi tinihanga māu.
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Nō reira, kei roto koe i tētahi hononga ki tētahi tāne tino marino, ā, he marino hoki. Te āhua nei kāore ia e riri ki ō riri katoa, engari e mōhio ana ia me pēhea te whakapataritari i a koe. Āe, he maha ā mātou huarahi whakamīharo, ngahau hoki hei whakapataritari i tō hoa tāne, ka taea e koe te whai hei hopu i a ia i te ohorere me te whakapataritari i a ia.
Mai i ngā mahi whakakatakata aroha mā te hoa tāne mā te karere kuputuhi ki ngā mahi whakakatakata whai hua ka taea e koe te mahi hei whakaoho i a ia kia hiahia ki te kume i ōna makawe, ahakoa he aha tō momo kāhua, kei a mātou ngā mea katoa. Kei te hihiko koe? Me tīmata tātou me ā mātou tohutohu mō ngā mahi tinihanga 15 hei whakaweto i te marino o tō hoa tāne, me te matakitaki i a ia e haurangi ana:
Te pānui e pā ana: Te āhua o te kī a ngā tāne 'Kei te aroha ahau ki a koe' me te kore e kōrero i tetahi mea
1. Whakakorehia ia i a ia e tākaro ana i ngā kēmu
He nui te aroha o te nuinga o ngā tama ki ngā kēmu. Nō reira, ki te mea ko tāu tama tētahi o rātou, me pēhea rā ia e maia ai ki te hoatu i ētahi atu mea? te aro ki te petipeti ina kei reira koe, tika? Me pēhea te whakapataritari i tō hoa tāne i a ia e tākaro ana? Anei ētahi huarahi mohio: ka taea e koe te huna i tana papatohu tākaro, me te kore e aro atu ina pātai mai ia ki a koe mō taua mea, noho ki runga i tōna uma ina kei waenganui ia i te kēmu, ngana rānei ki te whakawai i a ia ina tino pukumahi ia ki te tākaro Call of Duty.
He nui noa atu te takaro noa i ana kēmu hei whakapataritari i tō hoa tāne. Me hiahia koe ki ētahi atu whakaaro hei whakapataritari i tō hoa tāne? Tirohia tēnei mea hou. Kia tū tahanga koe i mua i tō hoa wahine/wahine, kia kite ai koe i ā rātou tauhohenga TikTok wero. He huarahi mohio tēnei hei whakapataritari i tō hoa tāne i a ia e petipeti ana. Ā, ki te mea ia tino ki te tomo ia ki roto i a koe, tera pea ka miharo ia.
Ki te hiahia rānei koe kia haurangi tō hoa tāne i ngā karere kuputuhi i a ia e takaro ana i ngā kēmu pukumahi, ka taea e koe te tuku karere tonu ki a ia. Mai i ngā tukunga matapōkere ki ngā meme me ngā GIF, me tangi tonu tana waea. Ki te kore kōrua i te wāhi kotahi, ka taea e koe te tuku karere kuputuhi ki a ia me te kī, "Me tono atu ki a koe ināianei. He mea nui", kia mutu ai tana mahi. Ina waea mai ia, pātai atu ki a ia, "Me tono e au he pōtae reihi pango, he pōtae whero mātotoru rānei?"
2. Tuhia tōna mata hei whakapataritari i a ia i a ia e moe ana
Kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te whakapataritari i tō hoa tāne i a ia e moe ana? Pānuihia tonutia. Ka taea e koe te tuhi i tōna mata ki ngā taputapu pēnei i te paraihe niho, te peita, me te kanapa i a ia e moe ana, ā, ka taea e koe te tango pikitia pai mōna. Taria kia ara ake ia i te aonga ake ka kite i tana tauhohenga. He tino utu nui te āhua o tōna mata! Ka taea e koe te whakatakoto i ō makawe mākū ki tōna mata i a ia e moe ana, te whakakorikori rānei i a ia. He mutunga kore ngā mea ka taea.
Hei tauira, i whakamahia e Jenine tana mascara, tana eyeliner, tana taru, me tana rīpene ngutu whero hei peita i te kanohi whakakatakata ki tana hoa tāne i a ia e moe ana. Kātahi ka tangohia e ia ētahi whakaahua ka tohaina ki tētahi rōpū kōrerorero, he hoa noa iho ō rāua. Nui atu tōna riri i a ia e noho wehewehe ana – me ō rāua hoa katoa.
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3. Me tono atu ki a ia kia whiriwhiri i tāna e mahi ai mō te ahiahi
He uaua te whakatau i ngā mahere mō te pō. I te nuinga o te wā, ka kino ki ngā tāne te whakatūpato i a rātou mō tēnei kaupapa. E pai ake ana ki tāu tāne kia whakaritea e koe he mahere mō tētahi pō i waho o te tāone. Ki te hiahia koe ki te whakapataritari i tāu hoa tāne, me tono atu ki a ia kia whakamahere i tētahi mea hei whakarerekē, kātahi ka whakakore i tētahi wāhi/mahere e kīia ana e ia.
Ahakoa ka whiriwhiria e ia tētahi mea e pai ana ki a koe, me kī atu ki a ia kāore ia e mōhio ana ki a koe, i te mea kua mōhio kōrua ko ia te mea i whiriwhiria e kōrua. He mea tino pono tēnei hei kōrero hei whakapataritari i tō hoa tāne, ā, e kore e kore ka puta he hua. Waihoki, ko tētahi o ngā huarahi ngahau hei whakaoho i tō hoa tāne ki te karere kuputuhi ko te tono atu ki a ia kia tukuna atu he tūtohutanga wharekai mō tētahi tina, kātahi ka whakahē noa i tāna e kī ana, engari me te whakaari anō hoki kei te riri koe ki a ia ina mea ia, "Pai, whiriwhiria e koe."
4. Kaua e whakautu ki ana karere kuputuhi
Ko tētahi o ngā mahi tino whakarihariha a ngā hoa tāne ko te kore whakautu karere kuputuhi, te kore whakautu rānei ki āu karere kuputuhi me ngā kupu kotahi. Kei te hiahia koe ki te takaro ki tō hoa tāne mō ngā karere kuputuhi? He aha e kore ai e whakamatau i a ia i tana ake rongoā? Pānuihia ana karere, engari kaua e whakautu.
Ka pōrangi tō hoa tāne i tēnei, ka whakaaro ia kua hē tana mahi, ā, kua riri koe. Ko tētahi atu painga, kāore ngā tāne e pai ki te kore arohia i roto i ngā karere kuputuhi, nō reira me nui ake tōna riri. E ai ki a Sherry, he āhua whakarihariha tā tana hoa tāne ki te whakautu i ana karere kuputuhi mā te whakamahi i ngā emoji.
"Ka tuhituhi karere roa ahau, ā, ka whakautu mai ia me te rarangi o ngā emoji. I te haurua o te wā, kāore au i te mārama ki tāna e ngana ana ki te kōrero. Nō reira, ka mutu taku whakautu i ana karere mō te rā katoa. I te wā i tūtaki ai māua i muri i te mahi, kua tino riri ia, ā, tata tonu te riri." He mea nui anō hoki kia mōhio koe ki te aha e kōrero ai ki tō hoa tāne hei whakamataku i a ia i muri i tō waiho i a ia ki te pānui mō tētahi wā, ki te hiahia koe ki te kawe i ngā mea ki tētahi atu taumata.
He mea pēnei i te, "Kāore au i te whakapono kei te whakaari koe i a tāua anō he mahi noa iho i muri i tāu mahi", he huarahi pai pea tēnei hei whakaoho i tōna riri. Tērā pea ka whakaaro ia he aha tāna i mahi ai i tino whakapataritari ai i a koe. Tērā pea, me tere atu koe ki te kite i a koe. Ka taea e koe te whakahē i a ia kia whero rā anō tōna mata i te riri.
5. Kōrerotia ki a ia ngā tāne e takaro ana ki a koe
Ki te mea kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te whakapataritari i tō hoa tāne mā te tuku karere kuputuhi, he huarahi tino pai tēnei. Kōrerotia ki a ia ngā tāne katoa e uru mai ana ki ō karere kuputuhi, te tāne ātaahua rānei nō te kāreti e takaro puku ana ki a koe. I a koe e noho tahi ana me tō hoa tāne, ka taea e koe te kimi i tētahi wā pai me te tohu atu ki ngā tāne matapōkere, pērā i te hunga i te hūpermakete, i te wharekai, me ērā atu e tino tirotiro ana i a koe.
Kōrero ki ētahi atu tāne, kaua e aro ki a ia. Ahakoa ko ia te tāne tino marino o te ao, ka nui te wā ka riri ai ia. Ko tētahi o ngā mahi tinihanga engari he whai hua hei whakapataritari i tō hoa tāne ki ngā karere kuputuhi ko te tuku karere kuputuhi 'tūpono' ki a ia mā te tangata e kōrero ana ki a koe.
Heoi anō, he hoari mata rua ngā mahi tinihanga pēnei i te tuku karere kuputuhi ki tō hoa tāne. Whakamātauria ēnei mēnā e mōhio ana koe he tino haumaru tō hoa, ā, kāore he raruraru whakawhirinaki. Ki te kore, ka waiho taua tuku karere kuputuhi tūpono hei take tautohetohe i roto i tō whanaungatanga. Ka hinga te kaupapa katoa i tēnā, ko te whakaaro i konei ko te ngahau tahi me – ki tētahi taumata, engari ko te utu – o tō hoa, kaua e ara ake he raruraru whanaungatanga.
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6. Whakauruhia te PDA i runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori
Ko tētahi o ngā huarahi tino katakata ki te whakapataritari i tō hoa tāne ko te noho ki ngā wāhi katoa i runga i ana pāpāho pāpori. Ko te nuinga o ngā tama kāore i te tino pukumahi ki te tuku kōrero ki runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori. Me tuku tonu ngā kōrero orotika me ngā mea whakarihariha ki ana pou, whakaahua, me ngā ataata.
Horoia te aroha nui atu ki a ia i runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori, e kore e taea e ia te keri. Ka taea e koe te whakamahi i tō pāpāho pāpori hei tohu i a ia i roto i ngā pou maha, hei whakapataritari i a ia ki te ngākau. Ka tino whakarihariha ia ki ngā PDA tino nui katoa kua whakamahia e koe. Ā, ki te kore e rite ki tō āhua, ka tino āwangawanga ia mō te take o tēnei whanonga.
"Kua tukuna e taku hoa tāne ētahi whakaahua tino whakarihariha o au ki tana Instagram. Ahakoa te nui o taku inoi kia tangohia e ia, kāore ia i kite he aha te hē o aua whakaahua. Kāore ia i pai ki te tango i aua whakaahua, me te kī, "Ko taku kōtaha, ko taku whiringa." Nō reira, ka whakatau ahau ki te whakahoki i a ia mā te tuku i ngā pou whakarihariha, tino kare ā-roto, me te tohu i a ia ki roto i aua pou katoa. I mōhio ahau ka akiaki ia i a ia ki runga i te pakitara, ā, i pērā tonu!" te kī a Monica.
7. Kōrerohia ngā mea e whakarihariha ana i a ia
Ina kei roto tō hoa tāne i te huru whaiāipo, tākaro tahi me ia, kia tino whakaohokia tōna ngākau i mua i te whakakino rawa i te kōrero mā te huri i te kōrero mai i te kaha ki te tino katakata. Kāore he mea hei whakapataritari i a ia i te werawera me te taumaha, kātahi ka tūtaki ki tētahi mea nui.
Ka taea e koe te whakapataritari i a ia mā te kōrero mō tētahi mea e whakarihariha ana ia, pērā i te pūngāwerewere. He whakarihariha ā tātou katoa, ā, ko te whakapuaki i aua mea i ngā wā kāore i te tika tētahi o ngā huarahi whakakatakata hei whakapataritari i tō hoa tāne. Āe, he whakakatakata ki a koe! Hei whakaoho i tō hoa tāne ki ngā karere kuputuhi, ka taea e koe te whakapuaki i tētahi mea whakarihariha, whakararuraru rānei i a koe e mahi ana i tētahi wā tuku karere kuputuhi wera.
Ki te whakautu koe ki tētahi karere whakaipoipo me te kī, "E kōrero ana mō, kua kite koe i te toto o te paheketanga i te taha tata", ka taea e koe te māia ka riri tō hoa tāne i ngā ara e ono mai i te Rātapu. Engari me haere koe me te kore e whiwhi i tō orgasm i puta mai i te mea noa (ka taea e koe te whakahaere i te take i ō ringaringa ake *kinokimo*).
8. Whakararuraru i a ia i a ia e mātaki ana i tētahi kiriata/pouaka whakaata
Kāore he tangata e pai ki te hoki whakamuri ki te mōhio ki ngā mea i tupu i roto i te kiriata, i te whakaaturanga pouaka whakaata rānei. Nō reira, i a tō hoa tāne e mātaki ana i tētahi kiriata, i tētahi pouaka whakaata rānei, ka taea e koe te noho ki tōna taha ka ngana ki te kōrero ki a ia. Ki te mea kei te mātaki ia i tētahi whakaaturanga nui e pai ana ki a ia, pātai atu ki a ia kia maha ngā pātai wairangi mō taua mea. Ka nui tēnei hei whakapataritari i te tangata.
E ai ki ētahi, ka tino riri rātou ina whakawhitihia e ā rātou hoa wahine te hongere pouaka whakaata, ngā teihana reo irirangi rānei i roto i te motuka. Ka taea e koe te tū i mua i te pouaka whakaata, ka whakaari i a koe e tango ana i ngā kākahu mōna i te wā tonu e ahua ana ia e aro nui ana ki tētahi whakaaturanga whakahirahira. Kāore ia e ngākau nui ki te tono kia mutu koe, engari ka tino kanga koe i a ia anō.
Mena kei roto koe i tētahi hononga tawhiti, ā, e whakaaro ana koe, "Me pēhea te whakamataku i tō hoa tāne mā te karere kuputuhi?", anei tētahi māu. Tukuna atu he karere kuputuhi "Me kōrero tāua" ki a ia ina mōhio koe ka haere ia ki te whai i tana whakaaturanga tino pai, kei te whare pikitia rānei me ōna hoa. Ina waea mai ia, me te mataku kei mate ia, me kī atu kei te hiahia koe ki te whakarongo ki tōna reo ka mutu te waea. Ka tino hoha koe.
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9. Tukua atu he karere kuputuhi ki a ia i tētahi mea kāore e pā ana ki a ia
Ina haere ia me āna hoa, ina haere rānei ki tētahi huihuinga nui, tukuna atu he karere kōrero koretake, he karere matapōkere rānei mō tētahi pakanga i waenganui i a kōrua i ngā marama kua pahure. Mā tēnei ka waiho ia kia mirimiri i tōna mahunga, e ngana ana ki te whakaaro he aha tāu e kōrero nei, me te aha hoki te hē i tēnei wā. Whakaohokia ia ki ngā karere kuputuhi ina ngaro koe i a ia engari kia ngaro.
E mea ana a Juana, "I te mutunga wiki, i toro atu taku hoa tāne ki ōna mātua, ā, ko au anake i te kāinga. I te Rātapu, kua hoha rawa ahau, ā, kāore he mahere. Nō reira, ka tīmata ahau ki te tuku karere ngaro ki a ia mō te mamae o te ngākau, te aroha, te neke whakamua, te mutunga o te whanaungatanga. I mataku ia. I tana waea mai, me te āhua āwangawanga, kāore i taea e au te mutu te kata. Āe, ki taku whakaaro, koinei te huarahi pai rawa atu hei whakapataritari i tō hoa tāne mā te karere kuputuhi."
Tērā pea ka waiho ēnei karere matapōkere, kāore i te rite ki te horopaki hei mahi tinihanga māu ki tō hoa tāne o mua mā te karere kuputuhi. Engari kia tūpato. He whakaaro pai tēnei mēnā kua roa kē te wā mai i te wehenga, ā, kei te pai te whanaungatanga ki a kōrua. Ki te kore, ka hē pea ia ki te whakaaro ko te karere he tohu kei te hiahia kōrua kia hoki tahi anō.
10. Tuhia tana ngongoro, ā, me whakarongo ia ki taua ngongoro
Kāore he tangata e pai ana ki te kīia atu kei te ngongoro ia, ina koa ko ngā tāne. Mēnā ka ngongoro tō hoa, me hopu e koe tana ngongoro. Nō reira, ina whakakahore ia, ka taea e koe te purei māna ki te reo katoa. Kia mahara kaua e tohaina tana hopunga ki ōna hoa me tōna whānau, nā te mea ka takahia e tēnā te rohe, ā, ka whakama ia.
Engari, hei whakaiti i te riri o tō hoa tāne, ka taea e koe te pupuri i te riri. Hei tauira, ki te hiahia koe ki te kōrero ki tō hoa tāne mā te karere kuputuhi, ka taea e koe te tuku karere ki a ia e kī ana mēnā kāore ia e hoki mai ki te kāinga me ō parirau heihei tino pai, kei te tohatoha koe i te rekoata ki te rōpū whānau/hoa. Ki te aro nui ia ki a koe, ā, ka whakapau kaha ki te tiki parirau māu, ka rua ake te ngahau o te mahi whakakatakata.
Ki te mea kei te rapu koe i ētahi atu whakautu hou ki te pātai me pēhea te whakamataku i tō hoa tāne mā te tuhinga, tukuna atu tēnei ki a ia: "E tama, aroha mai. I tukuna pōhēhētia e au taua ataata ngongoro ki tō rangatira." Ka taea e koe te okioki ka mā ia i te wehi i te whakaaro noa ka tirohia e tōna rangatira tēnā.
11. Tākarohia ia me ana hoa
Me pēhea te whakamataku i tō hoa tāne mā te karere kuputuhi? Whakahoahoa ki tana tira ka takaro i tētahi mahi tinihanga ki a ia me tā rātou āwhina. Ka mōhio rātou me pēhea te whakapataritari i tō hoa tāne i ngā huarahi kāore e taea e koe te whakaaro. Tukua he karere kuputuhi ki a ia hei kī atu kei te hiahia koe i tana āwhina mō tētahi take nui, me kī atu rānei kei te waea atu koe ki a ia mō tētahi "āhua ohorere" me te mea rānei kei te mahi pērā anō tō hoa. Ka taea e koe te whakaari i tētahi "āhua ohorere" me te āwhina o ana hoa ka kite i a ia e tino mataku ana.
Kāore he mea tino nui rawa, kāore mātou e hiahia kia riro i a ia te wehi o tōna ao. He mahi ngahau noa iho, he ngākau pai ka whakapataritari i a ia i te tīmatanga engari ka pai ake i muri mai. Ko tētahi o ngā mahi tinihanga hei whakapataritari i tō hoa tāne mā te tuku karere kuputuhi ko te kī atu ki a ia me tere koe ki te haere atu i te tāone ki te mahi, ā, kua pakaru tō waka i waenganui o te huarahi.
Tērā pea ka tino mataku ia. Kia rite ki te whakarongo ina mōhio ia he "ngahau kore kino" anake. Engari ka angitu koe ki te whakaoho i tō hoa tāne ki ngā karere kuputuhi, ā, he mea tika kia whakaakona ia ki tēnā.
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12. Me mahi e ia ngā mea e kore e pai ki a ia
Hei tauira, tērā pea i mātaki ia i tētahi kiriata, i whakarongo rānei ki tētahi waiata i pai ki a koe mō te wā tuatahi. Engari ki te ngana koe ki te mea i a ia kia mātaki i taua kiriata anō, kia whakarongo rānei ki taua waiata anō i ngā wā katoa, tera pea ka riri ia. Ka taea hoki e koe te whakahua i ngā kōrero hei whakapataritari i a ia. Kāore e pai ki ngā tama ngā mea e akiakihia ana rātou ki te mahi, inā koa ka whakahaua ia e koe, ka whakaaturia te ngā tohu o te wahine whakahaere.
"E kino ana taku hoa tāne ki ngā kiriata romcom. Āe, ehara hoki ahau i te tangata pai ki tēnei momo engari ka taea e au te mātaki i tētahi kiriata kotahi i ia wā, i ia wā. I a māua e tīmata ana ki te whakaipoipo, ka whiriwhiria e au he kiriata aroha reka mō ā māua pō whakaipoipo hei whakapataritari i a ia, nā te mea i mōhio ahau ki tōna kino ki aua kiriata. Kāore i roa ka mau ia i ahau e mahi ana i taku mahi tinihanga. Āue!" te kī a Robin.
13. He roa rawa te wā e pau ana i a koe e whakarite ana
Ina whakaaro kōrua ki te haere ki waho, me ngangau mō ngā kākahu hei kakahu, ngā mea hei whakapai kanohi, me ērā atu mea. Whai muri i tēnā, whakamātauria tonutia ngā kākahu rerekē i mua i a ia, ā, me whai wā ki te whakatau ko tēhea te kākahu ka mau i a kōrua. Kātahi ka whakatau i te kākahu tuatahi i whiriwhiria e kōrua. Ka tino riri tō hoa tāne ki tēnei.
Ka taea e koe te whakapai ake i tēnei mā te pātai atu ki a ia mō ōna whakaaro mō ngā kākahu me ngā āhua rerekē e whakamātauria ana e koe. Ina kī mai ia he pai ki a ia tētahi kākahu motuhake māu, whakawhitia tonutia. Ko tētahi o ngā mahi whakakatakata whakarihariha engari he mea aroha mā te hoa tāne mā te karere kuputuhi ko te tuku tonu i ngā whakaahua o ngā kākahu rerekē hei whiriwhiri māu mō tō kōrua tina i te roanga o te rā.
Ina tata ia te puta atu ki tō tatau, tukuna atu he pikitia o koe i roto i ngā kākahu moe whakahirahira, me te karere, "Kāore au i te mōhio he aha te kākahu hei kakahu. Ki taku whakaaro ka noho tāua ki te whare i tēnei pō." Engari kia rite koe ki te haere atu i te tatau ina tae atu ia ki tō whare, ki te kore ka huri wawe ia i te riri ki te riri.
14. Waea atu ki a ia i ngā wā katoa
Waea atu ki a ia kia rua, kia toru rānei ngā wā karapīpiti, inā koa kei te pukumahi ia. Me waea atu anō ki a ia. Ina waea mai anō ia, ā, ka rongo koe i te mataku i roto i tōna reo, pātai atu ki a ia, "Kei te hiahia koe ki te kōrero Hainamana i tēnei pō?" Mā te waea atu hei whakararuraru i a ia, ā, kāore he mea e tika ana hei kōrero, ka riri ia. He mea ngahau tēnei mena kāore ia e taraiwa ana, he pukumahi rānei tana wā.
Kāore koe e manukanuka ki te aha e kōrero ai ki tō hoa tāne hei whakawehi i a ia. Mā te maha noa o ngā waea ngaro i runga i tana waea ka tere ai tōna ngākau. Kia rite, ka pupuhi ia ina mōhio ia kei te mahi tinihanga noa koe i a ia, nō reira kia rite he rongoā mō tōna riri.
15. Kia rite ki te hoa wahine hae porangi
He mea whakarihariha ki ngā tāne te pātai a ā rātou hoa wahine ki a rātou kei hea rātou, ā, ko wai hoki ō rātou hoa. Nō reira, me whakaari koe he hoa wahine hae, ā, me ārai i a ia kei mahi i ētahi mea. Hei whakapataritari i tō hoa tāne mā te tuku karere kuputuhi i roto i te āhua ātaahua, ka taea e koe te kī atu i tētahi mea pēnei i te "Ki te aroha koe ki ahau, ka ngaro koe i te kēmu, ā, ka noho tahi tāua i te pō".
Kaua e tino mau ki te mahi tinihanga, kaua hoki e tino nui rawa, nā te mea ka waiho hei take tautohetohe i roto i te whanaungatanga. He kupu whakatūpato: Ahakoa ngā mahi tinihanga e whakamahia ana e koe hei whakapataritari i tō hoa tāne, kia tūpato kei takahi i te rohe, kia mahara hoki kia noho harikoa, kia harikoa hoki ngā mea katoa i roto i te whanaungatanga.
Ina whakaaro koe me pēhea te whakamataku i tō hoa tāne mā te karere kuputuhi, kia maumahara he rārangi angiangi kei waenganui i te whakapataritari me te mamae. Kaua e whiti atu. He mea ngahau tonu te whakapataritari i tō hoa tāne mena kāore koe e mahi ana i te wā kāore i te tika, e whakauaua ana hoki i tō hoa. Kia tino pānui koe i te rūma i mua i te whai i ēnei mahi tinihanga katoa.
Mai i te Āwhina i ahau ki te Whakaipoipo i ētahi atu Tama ki te Noho hei Tāne māku
Kāore tō koha e kiia he kaupapa aroha takohaMā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata katoa o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.
Ngā mihi nui ki a koe e Sara, ka whakamātau ahau i aua mea katoa.