"'E Aman, mā te whānautanga o tētahi atu tamaiti ka ea ō raruraru marena katoa. Kaua e moumou taima i te pō. Me ngana tonu, ā, ki te kore a Swaroop e hapu, me toro atu koe ki tētahi tākuta wahine hei rapu otinga.' Koinei te whiu whakamutunga i roto i tō māua oranga marena. I haere atu ahau i te tēpu kai i taua rā, ā, i kī atu ahau ki taku wahine, ki a Swaroop, e kore rawa ahau e hoki tahi me tōna whaea ki te tēpu mō te kai."
I pai i te tīmatanga
Ripanga o Ihirangi
"He nui te tūranga o taku hungawai wahine i roto i tā māua marena; engari he nui tana awe ki taku wahine. I te tīmatanga i muri i te marena, i te wā i kōrero ai taku wahine ki tōna whaea mō ngā tohutao me ngā rongoā kāinga, i roto i ngā rohe katoa, ā, i pai ahau ki tēnā. Ko ngā tohutao a tōna whaea anake i tunua e Swaroop, ā, ko tōna whaea anō i whakatau i te tahua kai mā māua mō ia rā. I te pahemotanga o ngā marama, ka uru te pokanoa ki te rūma noho mai i te kīhini. Kātahi ka tīmata ngā kōrero katoa a Swaroop me te 'I kī mai a Māmā, i tono mai a Māmā kia pēnei taku mahi, e hiahia ana a Māmā kia haere tāua ki reira.' Ka tīmata ahau ki te rongo i te aroaro o taku hungawai wahine i roto i tō māua rūma noho."
"I te wā e noho herehere ana a Swaroop, ka haere mai tōna māmā ki te noho ki a mātou, ka tomo ki roto i tō mātou rūma moe, ā, mai i taua wā ko ia te wahine kē atu i roto i tō mātou marena. Mai i te tiaki i te tamāhine me te mokopuna, ka uru tōna whaea ki roto i ā mātou kōrero katoa. I tino pōuri ahau ki te whakaurunga ohorere. I ngā wā katoa ka whakaarahia e au te kaupapa ki a Swaroop, ka tahuri ia ka mea ko tōku whaea kei te pokanoa, kei te whakahaere. Heoi, ko tōku whaea e noho ana ki te US, ā, he onge tana noho ki a mātou, ahakoa ka toro atu ia ki Īnia."
He pānui e pā ana: He aha ahau i harikoa ake ai i taku mutunga ki te whakamanawareka i ōku hungawai
Kāore mātou i noho mokemoke
"I tīmata tōna whaea ki te haere tahi mai me mātou mō ā mātou haerenga kiriata me ngā tina katoa. I runga i ngā kaupapa atawhai tangata i pai ahau ki te mahi i te tuatahi; kātahi ka tae ki te wā i hiahia a Swaroop kia noho tahi tōna whaea me ia i ngā wā katoa. Nā tōna whaea anō hoki i whakarite kia noho tonu ia. Nāna i whakahaere tō mātou kīhini, tō mātou kai me ngā whakaritenga. Ka haere mai ia ki te tono tika mai ki ahau mō ngā whakapaunga o ia marama, ā, ka pupuri i ngā kaute. Tae noa ki te pononga wahine i raru ki te mahi ki ngā rangatira wahine e rua. He maha ngā pononga wahine i wehe atu, ā, i te mutunga ka whakatauhia ko tōna whaea anake te kaiārahi. I huri a Swaroop hei wahine me te whaea mangere, ko tōna whaea te kaiārahi kāinga."
He wahine, he whaea mangere a Swaroop, ko tōna whaea te kaiwhakahaere o te kāinga.
"Kāore he wāhi noho tahi mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine i roto i tō māua whare noho, ā, kāore hoki he wāhi mōku ake i te kāinga. I te huritau o tō māua marena, i taku whakaritenga i tētahi tina rama i roto i tētahi waka, ka kite ahau i tōna whaea i whakakakahu hoki hei haere mai. Nō reira, me neke te wāhi ki tētahi wharekai."
"I te ono marama o tā māua tamāhine, i whakaaro ahau ka hoki tonu taku hungawai ki te kāinga. Engari i noho tonu ia. Mai i taua wā ka kite ahau ka pokanoa tōna whaea ki ā māua kōrero tūmataiti katoa. I ngā wā katoa ka kōrero ahau ki a Swaroop i te rūma noho, i te rūma kai rānei, ka whai wāhi mai hoki tōna whaea, ā, ka uru mai ki tā māua kōrero. He maha ngā wā i kōrerotia ai e au tēnei kaupapa ki a Swaroop, engari kāore i whakarongohia. Hei pupuri i te tūmataitinga, i pupuri ahau i te tawhiti kōrero i te kāinga, ā, ka tīmata te kōrero WhatsApp mai i te mahi ki a Swaroop. Engari i te mutunga, ka tae mai tana whakautu, 'Ko te whakaaro o Māmā, e kī ana a Māmā kia pēnei te mahi, me pātai atu ahau ki a Māmā.'"
He pānui e pā ana: Te āhua o ngā mahi a ōku hungawai ki te hanga i ahau hei pari pai rawa atu
I haere rawa ia
"I tētahi rā ka pātai atu ahau ki a Swaroop, mēnā he tino pokanoa taku whaea, ka manawanui rānei ia. Ka whakahoki mai ia, i roto i ngā whānau Inia, he manaakitanga tonu te whiwhi tohutohu me te tautoko a ngā mātua. I te mutunga ka noho puku ahau mō Swaroop, ā, koira te wā i puta mai ai te tohutohu a tōna whaea kia haere ki tētahi tākuta wahine kia tirohia māua mō te whānautanga. Kāore au i te mōhio he aha ngā kōrero a taku wahine mō tō māua oranga whaiaro me tōna whaea, engari nō hea ia i whakaaro ai ka taea e ia te haere mai ki te kōrero ki ahau mō te whānautanga o tētahi atu tamaiti? Kua hoatu e ahau ki taku wahine te whakamutunga kia hoki tōna whaea ki te kāinga, nā te mea e pōuri ana ahau i roto i taku ake wāhi."
Ehara i te kōrero tangi a te hunaonga wahine anake
I Inia, he mea noa te rongo i te kōrero pakiwaitara saas-bahu , ā, ko te nuinga o aua kōrero mai i te taha o te hunaonga wahine me te hungawai wahine e pokanoa ana. He nui ngā tuhinga mō tēnei pakaru o te whanaungatanga me ngā tohutohu mō te whakatika. Anei tētahi kōrero pakiwaitara mai i te hunaonga me ōna raruraru ki te hungawai wahine me tana pokanoa ki tōna oranga marena. Ka uaua ake ina kotahi anake o ngā hoa rangatira e rongo ana i te taumaha o te pokanoa, ā, e koa ana tetahi ki tēnā. I ētahi wā, kāore e taea e te hoa rangatira e mamae ana te kōrero ki te hoa rangatira e kore e mōhio.
He mea whakamanawa te whai wāhi mai o ngā mātua ki te tautoko i te tokorua i te tīmatanga, engari kāore e whakaaetia te whakararuraru katoa. Me whai wāhi ngā mātua o ngā taha e rua ki te marena o ngā tamariki ki te nui e hiahiatia ana e rātou. Me whai wāhi tonu te tokorua hou ki te whakawhānui i tō rāua oranga marena ki te huarahi e hiahia ana rātou. Kaua tetahi mātua e roa te noho ki te kāinga, ahakoa ko wai, ko wai.
Ko te whai wāhi he āwangawanga, ko te pokanoa he whakahaere.
He āwangawanga te whai wāhi, he whakahaere ia te pokanoa. He mea tono te whai wāhi a ngā hungawai ki te oranga o te tokorua, engari ki te whiti i ngā rohe, ā, ka uru ki te pokanoa, me pupuri tonu he rohe. Kia mahara ko te aroha te pūtake o tēnei pakanga. Engari ki te tukinotia koe, ki te kore whakautehia, whakatakotoria he rohe.
Me pēhea te hanga i te rohe
- Whakaarohia te āhuatanga i runga i te whakaaro nui, kaua i runga i te kare ā-roto.
- Mā ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e whakatau te whakatau mō te marena, ko ngā whakaaro anake a ngā kaumātua e mihi atu.
- Whakautehia ngā kaumātua mā te whakaute i a rātou, kia kore ai rātou e hiahia ki te whiti i ngā rohe hei pupuri i te whakaute.
- Me kaha te hononga kia tū atu ai i ngā ngangau a ngā whānau.
- Kōrerohia ki te hoa rangatira mēnā ka pokanoa te mātua, engari me piri ki ngā whanonga o te tangata.
- Kaua e aro ki ngā aromatawai whaiaro.
- Whakatakotoria te take ki mua i te hungawai, kaua e whakapae whaiaro.
- Kaua e tīmata pakanga ki ō hungawai. Kia tū pakari.
- Aroturuki i ia āhuatanga. Kaua e whakapataritari, kaua hoki e āwangawanga.
- Kia māia, kaua e hangai ki tētahi whanaungatanga kāore i te tūturu.
- Whakaarohia te whakahe, kaua e aro ki te whakapae whaiaro.
- Ki te paitini te pokanoa, me takai e koe tō whāriki powhiri mō te wā poto, ka tango wā okioki mai i a rātou.
Ka puta pea te whakararuraru mai i ngā taha e rua o ngā mātua, engari ahakoa ko tēhea taha e whiti ana i te rohe, he whakaekenga tēnei ki te tapu o te marena, ā, he takahi i te tikanga 'whakaae me te piri' mō te marena. Me whakaute ngā mātua, engari kaua e whakararu i te rangimarie o te marena.
Ehara tō takoha i te koha aroha . Mā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe tonu mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.
Kei te pā mai te raruraru kotahi ki ahau i te tau kua hipa. I muri tata mai i te marama kotahi ka moe māua, ā, ka hapu taku wahine, ā, ka tae mai tōna whaea ki tōku kāinga i roto i te wiki, kāore he kōrero ki ahau. I muri i tērā, ko tāu i kōrero ai i roto i tō pou, kua tīmata anō ki ahau. Kāore e taea e au te whakatenatena i taku wahine. Ināianei, kua tae mai anō tōna pāpā, ā, kei te noho katoa rātou ki ahau.
Kua ngaro taku wāhi whaiaro i roto i tōku ake kāinga.
E ai ki taku wahine me whiwhi ia i ēnei tae noa ki te pakeketanga o tā māua tamaiti ki te kotahi tau te pakeke. Engari ko te āhua inaianei kāore e taea e au te noho tahi me ia i roto i tēnei āhua.
Homai koa ētahi tohutohu mō tēnei mea.
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