Te Hui Whakapūmau? Ngā Mea Katoa e Hiahia Ana Koe kia Mōhio

Porohia te aroha

He huarahi kē atu ngā hui whakapūmau mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e hiahia ana ki te whakapuaki i tō rātou aroha me te kore herenga ture. He rerekē ki ngā marena tuku iho, ko ngā hui whakapūmau e aro ana ki ngā oati whaiaro me ngā uara ōrite, kaua ki ngā whakaritenga ture, e whakarato ana i te ngāwari ki te waihanga i tētahi whakanui ahurei, ngākau nui. Mena kei te whakaarohia e koe tēnei kōwhiringa, anei tētahi aratohu whānui hei mārama me te whakamahere i tētahi hui whakapūmau.

He aha te Hui Whakapūmau?

Ripanga o Ihirangi

He tikanga whai tikanga te hui taumau, e whakaū ana ngā tāne me ngā wāhine i tō rāua aroha me tō rāua whakapau kaha ki te aroaro o te marea, me te kore he kirimana ture mō te marena. He momo marena kore ture tēnei e whakapuakina ai e ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ngā oati, he maha ngā wā ka whakaurua ngā āhuatanga wairua, ahurea rānei e pā ana ki tō rāua whanaungatanga. Ka taea e ngā tāne me ngā wāhine te whiriwhiri i tētahi hui pēnei hei whakanui i tō rāua whanaungatanga mō ngā take maha, tae atu ki ngā whakapono wairua, ngā here ture, ngā manakohanga whaiaro rānei.

Nā, he aha te tikanga o te hui taumau? Ko te kaupapa matua, he whakaatu i te taumau i runga i ngā tikanga ake, me te arotahi ki te hononga tohu me te hononga kare ā-roto , kaua ki ngā ture. Ko tēnei momo hui he mea mō te hunga e pātai ana, "Ka taea e koe te marena, engari kāore i te ture?" Mēnā he hui taumau, ko te whakautu he āe.

Kua piki haere te rongonui o ngā hui taumau i Hollywood i ēnei rā tata nei, nā te mea kua wehe atu ngā tāne me ngā wāhine rongonui i ngā marena ture. Ko ētahi o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine rongonui kua whiriwhiri i ngā hui taumau i ngā tekau tau kua pahure ake nei ko:

Ko te whetu rongonui a Lady Gaga me tana hoa a Taylor Kinney
Ko Djimon Hounsou, te kaiwhakaari o Blood Diamond, me Kimora Lee Simmons
Jennifer Aniston raua ko Justin Theroux
Ahakoa kua marena kē rāua, i whakahoutia e rāua ā rāua oati mā te hui taumau

te marena kore ture — Te hui whakapumautanga

Te hui taumau me te marena: Ngā rerekētanga matua

Mena kei te whakamahere koe i tētahi hononga tohu, ā, kei te whakaaro koe, "Te hui taumau me te marena: ko tēhea te mea tika mā tātou?", anei tētahi tirohanga whānui. Mā ngā kōwhiringa e rua ka taea e ngā tāne me ngā wāhine te whakaatu i te aroha me te ngākau pono, engari he rerekē rawa ngā kaupapa e whai hua ana. Ko te marena tuku iho he tikanga ture, ā, ka hua ake he hononga ture. I tētahi atu taha, ko te hui taumau he marena whaiaro ake, kāore i te ture, e whakanui ana i te here kare ā-roto me te kore he kirimana ture here.

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Mō te hunga e hiahia ana ki te marena wairua engari kāore i te ture, he rite tonu te anga o te hui taumau ki ngā marena, tae atu ki te whiringa mō te whakawhiti mowhiti, te oati, me te manaaki i tētahi whakanui—engari kāore ngā ture. Me ruku tātou ki ngā rerekētanga matua e rima e wehewehe ana i ngā hui taumau mai i ngā marena tuku iho.

Te mana ture: Ka hangaia he hononga ture e te marena, engari he marena kore ture te hui taumau.
Tuhituhi: Ko te mutunga iho o ngā marena he tiwhikete marena nā te kāwanatanga; ka taea e koe te tāpiri i tētahi tiwhikete marena tohu i roto i tētahi hui marena, kāore e whai mana.
Taumu'a: Ko ngā hui tukunga ka arotahi ki ngā kare ā-roto me ngā whanaungatanga wairua kaua ki te whakamanatanga ture
Ngā painga ture: Kāore e taea e ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e whiriwhiri ana ki te whakarite marena te whai hua i ngā painga mahi, i ngā painga taake rānei e puta mai ana i te marena ture.
Ngā painga inihua: He rerekē ki te marena tuku iho, kāore te marena kore-ture e āhei ai te tokorua ki te whai wāhi ki ngā painga inihua.

Ngā take i whiriwhiri ai i tētahi hui whakapūmau i tētahi marena

I ngā wā o mua, he rongonui ngā hui taumau i waenga i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine takatāpui, tae atu ki ngā tāne me ngā wāhine iwi-rua, nā te mea kāore i whakaaetia kia marenatia rātou e te ture. Ahakoa kua rerekē ngā ture i te nuinga o ngā wāhi, he maha tonu ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e whiriwhiri ana i ngā hui taumau kāore i te ture mō ngā take rerekē. Tērā pea ka hiahia ētahi ki te herekore ki te whakapuaki i te aroha i waho o ngā rohe ture, ko ētahi ia ka kukume pea ki te āhua piripono, ngāwari hoki o te hui taumau.

E kī ana tētahi tokorua kei roto i ō rāua tau 30, i whiriwhiria he hui taumau, "E whakapono ana mātou ko te marena he hononga o ngā wairua e rua. He wāhanga tino whaiaro o ō mātou oranga, ā, kāore te kāwanatanga e tika kia mahi i tetahi mea ki tēnei. Koinā te mea i hiahiatia e mātou mā mātou anō."

Kei te piki haere te ia o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e whakatairanga ana i ngā hononga wairua, i ngā hononga whaiaro rānei i runga i te mana whaimana, ā, e hiahia ana ki te mōhio me pēhea te marena me te kore whai wāhi a te kāwanatanga, e pai ake ana rānei ki te hui oati. Kua piki haere hoki te rongonui o tēnei huarahi marena kore-ture i waenga i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e whakanui ana i te whakaurunga, te pumau, me ngā momo āhua noho rerekē.

Ngā marena kore ture — I mua, i whiriwhiria e ngā tāne me ngā wāhine takatāpui te whakarite i ngā hui whakapūmau

Ki ētahi atu, he āhua whaiaro ake, he āhua pono ake te hui taumau, ā, ka tukuna ki a rātou te mana ki te hoahoa i ngā āhuatanga katoa o tā rātou whakanuinga. Anei ētahi take e rima e whiriwhiri ai ngā tāne me ngā wāhine i te hui taumau i te marena tuku iho:

Nga here ture: I ngā wāhi kāore anō kia whakaaetia te marena i waenga i te ira tāne me te ira wahine, ka taea e ēnei tāne me ngā wāhine te whiriwhiri i tētahi hui whakapūmau hei tohu i tō rāua hononga.
Tūmataiti: Ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e hiahia ana ki tētahi hui oati whaiaro, kaua e tirotirohia e te ture
Whakaaetanga: Ka taea e ngā tāne me ngā wāhine te hanga i tētahi hui motuhake e rite ana ki ō rātou tuakiri, me te kore he anga kāwanatanga.
Pūnaha whakapono: He pai mō te hunga e hiahia ana ki tētahi marena wairua, kāore i te ture
Whakauru: E manaaki ana i ngā tikanga ahurea me ngā tikanga wairua kanorau, kāore he here
Tohu tohu: He mea mō te aroha me te hononga, kaua mō te whakatutuki i ngā herenga ture.

Ngā painga me ngā huakore o te hui whakapūmau

Ahakoa he huarahi ataahua ngā hui whakapūmau hei whakanui i te aroha , he painga me ngā herenga motuhake kei roto. He pai te mahi a tēnei momo hui mō te hunga e hiahia ana ki tētahi hononga whaiaro, piripono hoki, engari ka raru pea ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e rapu ana i ngā mana ture, i ngā tiakitanga rānei. Mā te arotahi ki ngā oati o te hui whakapūmau me ngā āhuatanga auaha, he maha ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e kite ana i tēnei momo whakanui e whai hua ana, e whai tikanga ana hoki.

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Mō te hunga e pātai ana "Ka taea te marena, engari kāore i te ture?", ka whakautua he whakaae e te hui taumau, ka taea e ngā tāne me ngā wāhine te whakatinana i tā rāua hononga me te kore he tikanga. Heoi, he mea nui kia whakaarohia ngā painga me ngā ngoikoretanga pea, inā koa mēnā kei te whakamahere koe i tētahi heke mai mō te wā roa me ngā rawa tiritahi, inihua, mahere tuku iho rānei. Anei ētahi painga me ngā ngoikoretanga nui hei āwhina i a koe ki te paunatia ō whiringa:

AtAKi	raruraru
Ka taea e ngā tāne me ngā wāhine te whakarite i tētahi hui whakapūmau tino whaiaro	Kāore he ārai ture mō ngā taonga, mō ngā taonga tuku iho rānei
Ka taea e rātou te arotahi anake ki te whanaungatanga me te kore e manukanuka ki ngā whakaritenga ture	Kāore he mana ture pēnei i ngā painga tāke
He pai mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e hiahia ana ki tētahi marena ture kore e hangai ana ki ō rātou whakapono	Kāore pea te whānau, ngā hoa rānei e mōhio ki te hiranga o te hui
He tino whaiaro ngā oati o te hui taurangi, ā, he maha ngā wā ka tino piripono ake te wheako.	Nga here inihua

Me pēhea te whakarite i tētahi hui whakapūmau

Mā te whakarite i tētahi hui taumau ka taea te whai i tētahi huarahi tino whaiaro e kore e taea e ngā marena tuku iho te tuku. He haerenga tēnei e raranga ana i ngā uara ōrite, e waihanga ana i ngā wā whai tikanga , me te whakarite i tētahi whakanui e whakaata ana i te mauri ahurei o tō whanaungatanga. Me te herekore ki te whakauru noa i ngā huānga e tino pārekareka ana, he maha ngā wā ka kitea e ngā tāne me ngā wāhine he hua tēnei huarahi. Ahakoa he hiahia ki ngā whakaaro mō te hui taumau hei whakarei ake i te huihuinga, he whakaaro noa rānei me pēhea te marena me te kore whai wāhi a te kāwanatanga, anei tētahi aratohu taahiraa-i-te-taahiraa hei hanga i tētahi hui ataahua, e kore e warewaretia:

Tautuhia to tirohanga: Whakatauhia mēnā e hiahia ana koe kia wairua, kia tohu, kia kaupapa rānei te hui. Tūhurahia ngā āhuatanga e hiahia ana koe ki te tāpiri atu ki ō marena pēnei i ngā hoa wahine/tāne marena hou, ngā whakaaro tohu pae, ngā kawa tuku iho, me ērā atu
Kōwhiria he wāhi: Kōwhiria he wāhi e rite ana ki ō hiahia, ahakoa he takutai moana, he māra, he wāhi ahurea rānei. Tērā pea ka taea e koe te whiriwhiri i tētahi mea tino rerekē, pērā i tā taku hoa a Alisha. He hunga mōrearea ia rāua ko tana hoa. Nō reira, i whakatau rāua ki te rere rangi hei hui whakapūmau. I whakawhitiwhiti rāua i ā rāua kupu taurangi i runga i te waka rererangi, ka kihi, kātahi ka peke tahi. He pono, ko te tokorua tino pai rawa atu tēnei kua mōhiotia e au!
Whakaritea ngā kupu taurangi mō te hui whakapūmau: Waihangahia ngā kupu whakaari whaiaro e whakaata ana i te mauri o tō whanaungatanga
Waihangahia he tiwhikete whakanui i te marena: Whakaarohia te hanga i tētahi tiwhikete hei taonga maumahara
Kōwhiria he kākahu me he whakapaipai: Whakaaturia ō tuakiri mā roto i ngā kākahu me ngā whakapaipai e whakarei ake ana i te momo o tō hui whakanui
Te rere o te mahere hui: Whakaritea he kaupapa tae atu ki ngā whakawhitiwhiti kupu taurangi, ngā pānui, me ngā tikanga tohu katoa
Pōhiritia ngā manuhiri: Tukuna he pōhiri ki ngā hoa me te whānau e mārama ana, e tautoko ana hoki i tāu whiringa.
Whakaritea kia tuhia te rā: Utua he kaiwhakaahua, he kaitango ataata rānei hei hopu i ngā wā
Whakaritea ngā kaiwhakanui, ngā kaiwhakatū rānei: Ka whiriwhiri ētahi tāne me ngā wāhine i ngā kaiārahi wairua, i ngā hoa tata rānei hei kaiwhakahaere
Kia pai to ra!

Ngā Whakaahua Mō Ngā Whakaaro mō te Hui Whakapūmau

Mā te whakarite i tētahi hui marena ka huaki ngā huarahi auaha me te whakawhaiaro. Mai i ngā kawa i ahu mai i ngā tikanga tawhito ki ngā whakaaro ahurei, hou, ka rerekē ngā whakaaro mō te hui marena, pērā i te whakamahere a ngā tāne me ngā wāhine. Ka tono tēnei momo hui i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ki te whakanui i tō rātou hononga i ngā huarahi kāore pea e uru ki te anga marena tuku iho, ka waihanga i tētahi rā e kore e warewaretia, he rā tūturu nō rātou.

Hei whakahihiko i tō whakamahere, anei ētahi whakaaro ahurei mō ngā hui whakapūmau e hopu ana i te wairua o te aroha me te whakapau kaha:

Ngā whakaaro mō te hui whakapūmau — Ko nga whakaaro o te hui whakapumautanga

Tohutohu Matua

Ko te hui whakapūmau he mea mō te marena wairua engari ehara i te mea ture
Nā te mea kāore he mana ture, kāore koe e whiwhi tiwhikete marena, painga tāke, painga inihua rānei me te hui taumau.
Ka taea e ngā tāne me ngā wāhine te whiriwhiri i tētahi hui taumau mēnā kāore rātou e hiahia ki tētahi raruraru ture, e rapu rānei i te ngāwari.
He rite te whakarite i tētahi hui taumau ki tētahi marena, me tatari ki te wāhanga ture, ka taea e koe te whiriwhiri i te huānga tuku iho e hiahia ana koe ki te pupuri me te tāpiri i ngā mea hou mēnā e hiahia ana koe.

Thoughts Final

He rerekē ngā hui whakapūmau i ngā marena tuku iho, e whakanui ana i te aroha me te kore here o ngā ture. Ahakoa kei te hiahia koe ki te tūhura i te ariā o te marena kore-ture, he mutunga kore ngā huarahi e tukuna ana e te hui whakapūmau hei whakaatu me te whakanui i tō hononga ahurei.

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