Te Whakaipoipo me te Teití | He aha te rerekētanga o te Whakaipoipo i te Teití

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Te whakaipoipo me te whakaipoipo: he aha te rerekētanga i waenganui i ngā mea e rua? E mōhio ana te katoa ki te kupu 'teiti' engari ko te kupu 'te whakaipoipo' he rite ki te mea nō te wā o Shakespeare. Heoi, ehara te whakaipoipo i te mea tawhito pērā i te whakaaro. Engari he aha te rerekētanga o ngā mea e rua? Ā, he tikanga whakawhiti rānei te ahu whakamua mai i te whakaipoipo ki te whakaipoipo kia whanake ai te whanaungatanga?

Hei whakataurite i ngā rerekētanga o te whakaipoipo me te whakaipoipo, whakaarohia tēnei: Kua tae atu koe ki tētahi wā tuatahi ka whakaaro koe ka marena koe ki taua tangata? Kua tae atu rānei koe ki tētahi āhuatanga e hiahia ana koe ki te 'noho tahi' engari kua tere rawa te whai whakaaro o te tangata kē atu?

Ae, he maha ngā wā ka puta tēnei. Koia te mea nui kia kotahi te whakaaro o tō hoa. Ko te mea whakamutunga e hiahia ana koe ko te tuku mai i tētahi mowhiti taumau ki roto i tō champagne, i te mea ko tāu i hiahia ai ko te "Netflix n Chill, e hoa!"

Kua rongo koe i tō whaea e kī ana, "E tama, ko te wā whakaipoipo te mea tino nui"? Kei te akiaki tonu rānei ō hoa i a koe kia hoki ki te 'ao whakaipoipo'? Te whakaipoipo, te whakaipoipo rānei? He aha tō wairua? Ko tēhea o ēnei e rapu ana koe? Ā, he aha ngā rerekētanga o tētahi ki tētahi? Anei ngā whakautu ki ō pātai katoa e pā ana ki te whakaipoipo, te whanaungatanga rānei.

He aha te tikanga o te whakaipoipo i tētahi?

Ripanga o Ihirangi

Te whakaipoipo me te whanaungatanga: ko tēhea te mea e tata atu ana ki te marena? He tika te kī a William Congreve, "Ko te whakaipoipo he rite ki te marena, he kupu whakataki tino whakakatakata ki tētahi whakaari tino hoha." E ai ki tāna, he rite tonu ki te cheri i runga i te keke, ko te keke ko te marena.

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Nā, he aha te whakaipoipo? E whakamārama ana te papakupu i te 'whakaipoipo ki tētahi' ko te "hononga aroha ki (tētahi), me te whakaaro ki te marena." Ko te tikanga o tēnei ko te whakaipoipo ki tētahi he taumata o te whakaaro nui me te whakapau kaha ā muri ake nei. He whakaaro mārama ki te noho tahi me tētahi, me te anga whakamua ki te huarahi e noho tahi ai koe me tētahi.

Kua kōrerotia atu rānei e ō mātua ki a koe ngā marama i mua i tō rāua marena, ā, ka mahi tō pāpā ki a rātou? tuhi reta aroha ki tō māmā, ki te huna rānei i a ia kia mōhio ai koe ki a ia? Ae, koinā te wā i whakaipoipo ai rāua.

He aha te tikanga o te whakaipoipo i tētahi? He aha rānei ngā wāhanga whakaipoipo? Ko te tikanga o mua, ki te pai te tāne ki tētahi kōtiro, ka haere ia ki te tono i te ringa o tōna pāpā. I muri i te whakaae a tōna pāpā ka taea ai e rāua te whakahaere i tā rāua hononga. Ko te whakaaro matua, i roto i te tikanga whakapono, kia tapu te hononga, kia whakahaerehia hoki i raro i te tirotiro a te mana whakahaere – ahakoa he whānau, he hāhi rānei.

Kia mahara ki ngā mea ka tupu i te mutunga o Tuhinga Whakamoemiti, i te haerenga atu o Mr. Darcy ki te matua o Elizabeth ki te tono whakaaetanga, i muri tonu i tana whaki i tana aroha ki a ia? I muri i te whiwhinga i ana manaakitanga, ka watea raua ki te whakaipoipo. Koinei ngā wāhanga whakaipoipo.

Heoi, rangahau E whakaatu ana tēnei i te rerekētanga o ngā ture whakaipoipo i roto i te wā. Kei te ngoikore haere te tūranga o ngā mātua me ngā kaumātua o te whānau hei kaiwhakatau. Inaa, kei te piki haere te tokomaha o ngā tāngata kāore anō kia marena neke atu i te 40 tau te pakeke i ngā whenua Āhia. Waihoki, kua tino hurihia e ngā taupānga whakaipoipo te ao o te whakaipoipo me te whakaipoipo.

He aha te Teití?

Hei mārama pai ki ngā rerekētanga i waenganui i te whakaipoipo me te whakaipoipo, me mārama hoki koe ki te tikanga o te whakaipoipo i tētahi. He huarahi hou ake te whakaipoipo. I te tipu haere o te kaupapa mō te Whakatairanga Wahine me ngā Tika Wahine, i whakahuatia anō ehara te tamahine i te 'taonga' o tōna pāpā, nō reira kāore e hiahiatia he whakaaetanga mai i a ia mō te aroha ki tētahi tāne.

I tēnei ao hou, ko te kupu "teití" he kupu e whakamahia ana mō ngā whanaungatanga katoa, mai i ngā whanaungatanga noa ki ngā whanaungatanga nui. Ina kī mai tetahi "Kei te teití māua", ko te tikanga kei te rapu huarahi rātou mō te take. Tērā pea ka arahi te teití ki te marena, i runga i te nui o te whanaungatanga me te hototahi o te tokorua.

He aha te whakaipoipo? E ai ki te ingoa, ka haere tahi te tokorua ki te "whakaipoipo" me te mahi tahi i ngā mahi ngahau pēnei i te mātakitaki kiriata, te hokohoko, te haereere i runga i te motuka, me ētahi atu. Tērā pea ka mōhio ngā whānau, kāore rānei, engari ko te taunekeneke a ngā whānau o ngā tokorua ka puta i muri tata mai, kāore rānei, i runga i te ahunga o te whanaungatanga.

Nō reira, he whānui rawa te kupu "te whakatau tau", e kapi ana i te tini o ngā whārite. Ka taea te noho noa i te wā whakaipoipo? Kāore e taea te noho motuhake? Kāore e taea te noho pono? Kāore e taea te noho hei mea nui. Kei runga i tā kōrua whakaaetanga me tō hoa, ā, ko te whakaipoipo he whai wāhitanga mō te tangata ki te mārama ki tā rātou e rapu ana i roto i tētahi hoa. He whakamātautau pea tēnei hei ako i ngā akoranga, hei arahi rānei i a koe ki te kimi i te aroha o tōu ao.

I roto i tana pukapuka, nā Moira Weigel Te Mahi a te Aroha: Te Hanganga o te Teití, e kī ana, "Mēnā ko te marena te kirimana roa e tumanako tonu ana te nuinga o te hunga e whakaipoipo ana, ko te whakaipoipo tonu te ahua kino rawa atu, te momo mahi tino mōrearea o ēnei rā: he mahi tauira kore utu."

E kōrero ana hoki tēnei pukapuka mō te whanaketanga o te whakaipoipo mai i te "Ka tiki atu ahau i a koe i te 6?" ki te "Kei te ara tonu koe?" nā te mea kāore he mahi pumau me ngā hāora pumau a te tangata i ēnei rā; he wā tēnei o te mahi kirimana me te wā ngāwari. He "kaimahi motuhake moepuku" tātou katoa ināianei, e ai ki tā Moira. Ināianei, e mōhio ana tātou ki te tikanga o te whakaipoipo. Engari he aha te rerekētanga i waenga i te whakaipoipo me te whakaipoipo? Kia kite tātou.

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E ai ki tā Carolyn See, "Ko te ao he mea whakaipoipo, he whakawai, he takaro, he kōrero." He rerekē ngā huarahi e whakaatuhia ai te aroha, ahakoa he whakaipoipo ki tētahi, he whakaipoipo rānei. Te whakaipoipo me te whakaipoipo - he rite tonu, he rerekē rānei? Anei ētahi o ngā rerekētanga i waenga i te whakaipoipo me te whakaipoipo.

1. Te whakaipoipo me te whakaipoipo - he mea nui ake te whakaipoipo

He rite tonu te whakaipoipo me te whakaipoipo? Kāore. Ko tētahi o ngā rerekētanga nui i waenga i te whakaipoipo me te whakaipoipo ko te mea he nui ake te hiranga o te whakaipoipo i te whakaipoipo. He aha te tikanga o te whakaipoipo i tētahi? A wāhanga pāpori e whakaahua ana i te whakaipoipo hei wā whakaipoipo tuku iho i mua i te taumau me te marena. Ko te tikanga o tēnei, i tēnei wā, ka haere ngā tāngata tokorua ki te whakaipoipo (ahakoa ngā whakaipoipo mariko) ka mōhio tetahi ki tetahi. Kia pahure te wā, ka whakatau rāua mēnā e hiahia ana rāua ki te marena, kāore rānei.

I tētahi atu taha, he wā whakamātautau te whakaipoipo, ā, tera pea ka arahi, ka arahi rānei ki te whakapau kaha. He aha te whakaipoipo? He kupu e whakamahia ana i ētahi wā hei whakaahua i te hunga e whai hononga aroha ana ki ngā tāngata rerekē. He wāhanga tūturu tēnei e tūhuratia ai te ira tangata me te momo tangata e hiahia ana koe kia whakapau kaha atu.

2. He nui ake te whai wāhi o ngā whānau ki te whakaipoipo

Te Whakaipoipo me te Teití: Ko te whakaipoipo he mea nui ake ki te whakauru i ngā whānau i te whakaipoipo. Nā te mea e pā ana te whakaipoipo ki te here ā muri ake nei, he whakaritenga whaimana ake me ngā ture motuhake. He maha ngā wā ka tukuna ngā hoa pea ki tētahi tangata e te hapori, te whānau, te kaiwhakatau hoa rānei. He whakamahara tēnei ki ahau i tētahi wāhanga mai i Te Whakataetae Inia i runga Netflix.

Kei te paunatia e koe ngā painga me ngā huakore o te whakaipoipo me te whakaipoipo? Āe, ko tētahi painga nui o te whakaipoipo ko te kore e whakaarohia te hototahi o ngā whānau, i te tīmatanga rānei. He tino āwhina tēnā ki te whakaiti i te taumahatanga. Ko te whakauru i tētahi hoa e whakaipoipo ana koe ki ō mātua ka roa ake i muri mai. He rerekē te arotahi ki te whakaipoipo me te whakaipoipo. Ko te whakaipoipo he mea katoa mō te whakaipoipo, he aha te mea hei pātai i te wā whakaipoipo, he aha te mea hei kakahu i te wā whakaipoipo, he aha te mea kāore e kōrerohia i te wā whakaipoipo, me ērā atu mea... He māmā ake, he hauhautanga ake i te whakaipoipo.

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3. Te whakaipoipo me te whakaipoipo: he rerekē ngā pakanga

He rite tonu te whakaipoipo me te whakaipoipo? Kāore, ā, kei te mārama kē pea koe ki tēnā. Ko tētahi o ngā take o tēnā, ko te āhua o te whakapuakitanga me te whakatau a ngā tāne me ngā wāhine i ō rātou rerekētanga i roto i ēnei hononga.

Ko tētahi rerekētanga tawhito i waenga i te whakaipoipo me te whakaipoipo ko te tautohetohe a ngā tāne me ngā wāhine mō ngā mea tino rerekē. Ina whakaipoipo koe i tētahi, ko ngā pakanga tuatahi he mea nui ake, "He aha koe i tirotiro ai i taua kōtiro?", "Kāore e taea e koe te whakautu i te wā tika, kaua e whakatau tata?"

Engari ko te whakaipoipo i tētahi tangata ka uru pea ki ngā tautohetohe mō ngā pātai nui me ngā pātai nui, pērā i te, "Kei te hiahia koe ki te whānau tamariki? Ka noho ō mātua ki a tāua i muri i te marena? Me pēhea tāua e whakatau ai i ā tāua pūtea?" me ētahi atu.

4. He nui ake te pōhēhē o te whakaipoipo

Mō te whakaipoipo me te whakaipoipo, he iti ake te wehi mō te mutunga o te whakaipoipo. Nā te mea e mōhio ana te tangata ki te huarahi e ahu atu ai te whanaungatanga, kāore te pouri me te whakaaro nui, "Kei hea tāua?" "Kei hea tēnei e ahu atu ana?", e haere tahi ana me te whakaipoipo, i roto i te whakaipoipo. Ina whakatauritea te whakaipoipo me te whakaipoipo, ko te mea tuatahi te āhua nei he iti ake te whakamataku, inā koa mō te hunga e whakaaro ana kua rite ki te noho tahi.

Kotahi te mea kāore i roto i te whakaipoipo – kei te whakaaro tahi ngā tāngata e rua, arā, kei te rapu rāua i tētahi mea nui. Engari he maha ngā wā ka tīmata te whakaipoipo me te "Āe, kāore au e rapu ana i tētahi mea nui i tēnei wā" ā, kāore au i te mōhio, ka tau ki te "Āe, kei te mau te aroha ki a koe." Teití me te Hononga - ngā rerekētanga he tino ngawari, ā, he uaua ki te wehewehe. Koia te take he nui ake te pōhēhē o te whakaipoipo i te whakaipoipo.

5. He rerekē te huarahi ki te whanaungatanga piripono

He aha te whakaipoipo? Te whai i tētahi hiahia aroha me te whakaaro mārama kia noho tahi rāua i tō oranga katoa. Nō reira, he maha ngā wā ka noho te hiahia hei wāhanga o te whārite, ehara i te mea ko tōna mana tautuhi. Mena kei te whakaaro koe he aha te rerekētanga i waenga i te whakaipoipo me te whakaipoipo, he mea tino kitea te rerekētanga o te momo matū moepuku.

He mea nui te whanaungatanga ā-ira tangata i roto i ngā whanaungatanga e rua, engari i roto i te whakaipoipo, kāore koe e aro nui ki tēnā. I te wā e whakaipoipo ana, i ētahi wā ka arotahi te hononga katoa ki te taatai. I a koe e tūhura ana i te ao whakaipoipo, i te mutunga o te taiohi, i te tīmatanga rānei o te rua tekau tau, ka nui ake tō hiahia ki te ariā o te taatai, ki te whakaritea ki tētahi e hiahia ana ki te noho tahi.

Nō reira, ina tae ki te whakaipoipo me te whakaipoipo, he rerekē te huarahi e whakatata atu ai ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ki te kaupapa o te whanaungatanga piripono. He wāhanga tūhura te whakaipoipo, nō reira, he nui te whanaungatanga ā-tinana e haere tahi ana me te whanaungatanga kare ā-roto. Tērā pea nā te mea ka roa ake te wā whakaipoipo; ka taea e te tokorua te whakaipoipo mō ngā tau e rima, engari he onge te roa o te whakaipoipo i te tau kotahi, e rua rānei.

Kia mārama tātou ki ngā rerekētanga o te whakaipoipo me te whakaipoipo mā te kīanga a Seth MacFarlane, "E hiahia ana ahau ki te marena, engari ehara ngā kaiwhakaari i te hunga ngāwari ki te whakaipoipo. Ka mutu, ka tohaina e koe taua tangata ki tētahi atu hoa wahine, ko tā rātou mahi tēnā. He tino pai ki ahau te tikanga whakaipoipo tuku iho mō te whakarite i tētahi whakaipoipo. Koinei tā rātou mahi i ngā wāhi noa, engari ehara a Hollywood i te mea noa." Mō te whakaipoipo me te whakaipoipo, ahakoa he kaiwhakaari rongonui e pai ake ana ki te mea tuatahi. Ā, ko koe?

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FAQs

1. He aha nga wahanga e 4 o te whakapoapoa?

Kāore he ture pakari mō te whakaipoipo. Engari koinei te tikanga. Ka tūtaki tuatahi koe ki te tangata, koinei te wāhanga tuatahi. Kātahi ka aroha koe ki a ia, ā, ka hiahia koe ki te mōhio atu mōna – ko te wāhanga tuarua. Ko te wāhanga tuatoru ko te aroha ki a ia, ā, ka taumau ki a ia. Ko te wāhanga whakamutunga ko te herenga whakamutunga, arā, te marena. Koinei ngā wāhanga o te whakaipoipo i tētahi.

2. Ko tēhea te mea tuatahi, te whakaipoipo, te whakaipoipo rānei?

He rerekē rawa ngā mea e rua, nā te mea he maha ngā wā ka arahi te whakaipoipo ki te marena, ā, ko te whakaipoipo pea ka arahi ki te marena, kāore rānei. Me kī pēnei, tera pea ka uru te whakaipoipo ki te whakaipoipo, engari ehara i te mea ke. Nā te mea, i te wā e whakaipoipo ana, ka mahi ngā tāne me ngā wāhine i ngā mahi pēnei i te haere ki te whakaipoipo (te mātaki kiriata, te kai tina tahi, te toro atu ki ngā whare taonga, me ētahi atu).

3. He aha te pai ake o te whakaipoipo i te whakaipoipo?

Ina kōrerohia te whakaipoipo me te whakaipoipo, ehara i te mea he pai ake tetahi i tetahi. He pātai kei hea koe. Mena kua rite koe mō tetahi mea nui, ko te whakaipoipo te mea māu. Engari ki te mea kua whati tō ngākau, kua tinihangatia rānei koe, he pai ake pea te whakaipoipo hei tīmatanga.

4. Kia pēhea te roa o te wā e tika ana kia roa ai te whakaipoipo?

Tērā pea ka roa mō ētahi marama, tae atu ki te tau, e rua rānei, i runga i te āhua o te tokorua me ō rāua whānau. E ai ki te kōrero tika a Nargis Fakhri, "He rite te whakaipoipo ki te mīti hipi e koropupū ana. Ka tunu koe mō ngā hāora, mō ngā hāora kia reka ai te mīti ngohengohe. Kāore e puta i roto i ngā hēkona e rua!" I whakanui anō a Joseph Addison, "Ko aua marena e tino ki tonu ana i te aroha me te pumau, ā, i mua i tēnā ka roa te whakaipoipo."

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