Ina riro ko te hunga tonu i whakaarohia hei tautoko, hei whakaara i a koe hei pūtake o tō mamae nui, ka rite te ao ki tētahi wāhi nanakia, mokemoke hoki. Ka pakaru ngā moemoeā mō tētahi oranga whānau harikoa, ka whakakapia e te ngaronga nui me te koretake. He haerenga tēnei mō te kimi anō i te mana o te tangata, te whakatakoto rohe, me te kimi kaha i waenganui i ngā raruraru.
pātai:
Ripanga o Ihirangi
E kui,
E 32 ōku tau, e 37 ōku tau tāne. I mahi ahau i tētahi kamupene MNC. I te whiwhinga o tētahi whai wāhitanga mahi ā-rohe mō ngā tau e 6 i taku tāne, ka tono ia kia haere tahi māua. I whakarērea e au taku mahi, ā, i haere tahi māua. Kātahi ka tono ahau mō tētahi visa, engari nā tētahi mahi hē a taku tāne, kāore au i whiwhi visa, ā, hoki ana ahau ki Īnia.
I mua, he tino kaha te mana o taku hungawai wahine, ā, i uru tonu ia ki ā māua take whaiaro, ahakoa he tākuta ia, he wahine mātau hoki. Kāore he huarahi kē atu mā taku hungawai wahine i tua atu i te tautoko i tana wahine. I a au i te US, kāore i pai taku whanaungatanga ki taku tāne. Kāore māua i te piripono ā-tinana. I hiahia ia kia whānau he pēpi māua. Ka kī tonu taku whaea ki taku tāne kia akiaki ahau kia whānau he tamaiti, ki te kore ka tukua e ia he whakarere i ahau. Ko tana whakaaro, i muri i te whānautanga o te tamaiti, kāore he huarahi ki te whakarērea i tana tama, ā, ka taea e rātou te whakamamae i ahau. Kāore taku tāne e hoko whare ana i tēnei wā, nā te mea kei te whakaaro ia ka whakarērea ia e au, ā, ka tangohia e au te haurua o ana rawa.
I whakatau ahau ki te noho ki Inia, ā, ka tīmata ki te mahi. Engari kua mutu taku kaupapa, ā, kāore he mahi māku. Mō ngā rā torutoru, i ngā mea katoa, kei te whakawehi mai taku tāne ki ahau ka whakarere ia i ahau. Kua 1.5 tau te roa mai i te noho motuhake māua. Kei te US ia. I tēnei marama ka hoki mai ia, ka mea ka noho ia ki te whare manuhiri. I kī atu ahau ki a ia ka taea e ia te noho ki taku whare moe kotahi, engari kāore ia i whakaae. Ki taku whakaaro kei te whai ia i tētahi ... hononga taikaha, nā te mea kua maha aku kitenga i a ia e mātakitaki ana i ngā mahi pakiwaitara me te mahi whakaipoipo. Ka tino pouri ahau i tēnei, ā, ka pōuri ahau, ka warewarehia hoki. I kī atu ahau ki a ia kei te huna e koe tetahi mea i ahau, nō reira i āraia ahau e ia i ngā wāhi katoa - i runga i a WhatsApp, waea, Pukamata, īmēra. Ko ōna mātua hoki te whakawehi i ahau ki te whakarere. Tēnā koa, me whakaaro mai me aha ahau. He harakore ōku mātua engari nā te whanonga kino a ōku hungawai kāore rāua e kōrero ana tetahi ki tetahi. Kāore au i te mōhio me aha ahau.
E kī ana a Snigdha Mishra:
E te Wahine,
E mārama ana ahau he mea whakapoauau pea tēnei, ki te kore he mea kē atu. Kei te pēhea tā kōrua kōrero ki tāu tāne? Pērā i te, me pēhea tā kōrua kōrero ki a ia? He mea nui kia noho tahi kōrua, kia kite ai he aha te āhua o te whanaungatanga, me te heke mai.
I nāianei, wareware noa ki ō hungawai me ā rātou mahi, me ā rātou mea kāore e mahi. Kei waenganui i a kōrua te whanaungatanga to taneHe tangata pakeke ia, ka taea e ia te whakatau i tāna e hiahia ana, kāore rānei, me koe anō hoki.
Te pānui e pā ana: Me pēhea te whakatau i te hungawai wahine uaua?
He aha tāu e hiahia ana mai i tēnei tangata me tēnei whanaungatanga?
Kāore anō kia whakahuatia e koe ō hiahia me tāu e rapu nei. Ko te whanaungatanga katoa e ahu mai ana i te whakawhirinaki, te whakaute me te whakaae tahi, kei te kite koe i tēnā i roto i tō whanaungatanga me tō tāne? Ehara ahau i te tūranga hei kī atu ki a koe me aha koe, engari me tino paunatia e koe ō whiringa me te kimi i tāu e hiahia ana mai i tēnei whanaungatanga me tō tāne. Kōrerohia ki a ia mō tō heke mai.
Te pānui e pā ana: Ko tāu hunaonga ahau; ehara i te mea ko tāu tamāhine. Kia pono tāua!
Ahakoa te whakarere, te kore whakarere rānei, he aha te mea e rapua ana e kōrua? Ā, he aha hoki te take e whakawehi tonu ai tōna whānau kia whakarere? He aha tāna e hiahia ana? He aha tā kōrua e hiahia ana? Kōrerohia ēnei mea katoa ki a ia, tēnā.
te papai katoa,
Snigdha
Pātai Auau
1. Me aha ahau mēnā kei te wehea ahau e taku tāne me ōku hungawai i tōku whānau me ōku hoa?
He mea nui te pupuri i ngā hononga ki tō pūnaha tautoko. Ngāna kia mau tonu te whakapā atu ki ō whanaunga mā te waea, mā te kōrerorero ataata, mā te toro atu rānei i ngā wā katoa e taea ai. Mena kei te aukati tonu ō hungawai i a koe kia kaua e kite i tō whānau me ō hoa, whakaarohia te rapu āwhina ngaio, te rapu tohutohu ture rānei.
2. He aha aku kōwhiringa mēnā ka whakawehi taku tāne i ahau kia whakarere?
He mea nui kia rapu tohutohu ture koe kia mārama ai koe ki ō tika me ō kōwhiringa. I runga i ō āhuatanga, ka taea e koe te whakaaro ki te tuku tohutohu mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine, te wehe, te whakarere rānei. Kia maumahara, kei a koe te tika ki te noho i te ao kāore he wehi me ngā tūmomo whakawehi.
3. Me pēhea taku hanga anō i tōku whakaaro nui ki a au anō i muri i te wheako i tēnei momo maimoatanga?
He nui te wā me te kaha hei whakaora i a koe mai i te tukino kare ā-roto. Ātaahuahia koe ki te hunga tautoko, uru atu ki ngā mahi e pai ana ki a koe, ā, whakaarohia te rapu rongoā hei āwhina i a koe ki te tukatuka i ō kare ā-roto me te hanga anō i tō whakaaro nui ki a koe anō.
Opaniraa
Ko te manaakitanga o ō hungawai me tō tāne ki a koe anō he tangata ke, me te tūponotanga hoki o te whakarere, ka puta he āhuatanga tino pōuri, tino kino hoki. He mea nui kia mahara koe kāore koe i te he, ā, e tika ana kia atawhaitia koe me te aroha me te whakaute.
Ki te kitea koe i roto i tēnei āhuatanga, me whakaaro ki tō oranga tinana. Whakapā atu ki ngā hoa pono, ki te whānau, ki ngā tohunga ngaio rānei mō te tautoko. Whakatakotoria he rohe mārama, ā, kaua e mangere ki te rapu tohutohu ture mēnā e tika ana.
Kia maumahara, kei a koe te kaha ki te wikitoria i tēnei raruraru. Mā te mahi me te whakarite i tō ake mana, ka taea e koe te waihanga i tētahi heke mai kanapa ake mōu. Tā mātou rōpū kaiwhakaora hinengaro kei konei hei tautoko i a koe i nga huarahi katoa.
E hiahia ana ōku hungawai kia whakarērea e au taku mahi, kia noho ki te kāinga ki te tiaki i ahau ratou
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Nō Īhipa koe, e Mishra?
Kāore i te tino pai te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero i waenganui i te tokorua nei. Tuatahi, ki taku whakaaro me noho tahi rāua ki tērā taha o te tēpu, ka kōrero tika.