Ananyenga chibwenzi chake ndi ine. Tsopano chiyani?

Mafunso ndi Mayankho Anga | February 1, 2024 | Wolemba Katswiri Dhriti Bhavsar , Katswiri wa zamaganizo
Kusinthidwa Pa: Meyi 3, 2024

Kufalitsa chikondi

Ndimakonda mnyamata uyu, koma ali ndi chibwenzi. Komabe, ankakonda cheza nane, ndipo ndinaona kuti amandikonda. M’kupita kwa nthaŵi, anandipereka chibwenzi ndi ine, ndipo kunena zoona, ndinasangalala kwambiri. Tsopano, ndikumva wolakwa komanso wosokonezeka pamene wabwerera kwa chibwenzi chake. Ndikumva ngati ndine mkazi winayo ndi chinsinsi chake. Amati amusiya chibwenzi chake ndipo amandikonda, koma satha kufotokoza zakukhosi kwake. Anzanga amandiuza kuti ndiyenera kupita patsogolo ndipo kuti khalidwe lake silili bwino kwa aliyense, osati kwa ine kapena chibwenzi chake. Iwo amangonena kuti, ‘Akakunyengererani, akunyengani,’ koma ndimangoona ngati zimenezi n’zosiyana. Kumbali imodzi, ndikumva wolakwa ndi wamanyazi pa zomwe tachita, koma kumbali inayo, ndikufuna kuti amusiye chifukwa cha ine.

Yankho:

Kukhala mkazi wina ndi malo ovuta kwambiri kukhalamo, chifukwa simulandira chikondi ndi chisamaliro chomwe mumalakalaka. Zimapangidwa kukhala zovuta kwambiri ndi momwe mumamvera kwa iye.

Chinthu choyamba chimene muyenera kuganizira apa n’chakuti mosasamala kanthu kuti mumamufuna zochuluka motani, kapena kumukonda, mukanakhala munthu amene amafuna kukhala naye pachibwenzi, iye adzakhala pachibwenzi. Ndikudziwa kuti kuzindikira kumeneku kumakhala kovuta kwambiri, koma mwayi woti mwamuna ngati uyu akuchitirani bwino ndi wochepa. Mwa kupitiriza kudzipereka kwa iye, mukudzivulaza. Izi zidzakhala ndi zotsatira za nthawi yayitali pa kudziona kuti ndinu wofunika komanso kudzidalira. Chikondi sichinthu chomwe munthu angachipeze kapena kupemphedwa, chifukwa nthawi zonse chimaperekedwa kwaulere. Mukuyenera kukhala ndi chikondi chomwe chimaperekedwa kwaulere kwa inu, ndi china chomwe simunavutike nacho.

Kuwerenga Kofananira: Kubera Kulakwa Zizindikiro Zomwe Muyenera Kuzisamala

Chachiwiri, pakapita nthawi, kulakwa ndi manyazi zidzawonjezeka ndikupangitsa kuti zinthu zikhale zovuta kwambiri kwa inu. Ngakhale atasudzulana kuti akhale nanu, malingaliro otetezeka omwe amadza ndi kudzipereka kotheratu adzakhala palibe mu ubale wanu. Amuna ena amabera chifukwa chakuti zimawasangalatsa kuposa kukhalabe paubwenzi wabwino. Ndipo ngati sakuganiza kuti akuchita chinachake cholakwika, kapena ngati akupitirizabe ndi khalidwe limodzimodzilo, sangadzisinthe yekha chifukwa cha inu. Azimayi ambiri amakhala ndi maganizo olakwika akuti ndi amene angasinthe munthu wina chifukwa cha chikondi, koma palibenso wina amene angasinthe. Kukhala naye limodzi sikungakubweretsereni mtendere kapena chimwemwe chimene mukuchilingalira.

Chinthu chabwino kwambiri chomwe mungadzipangire nokha ndikusiya munthu uyu ndikupitilira. Muyenera kukhala ndi munthu amene akufuna kukhala nanu nthawi zonse komanso nthawi zonse. M'zomveka, awa ndi mapiritsi ovuta kumeza, choncho chonde musazengereze kufikirana ndi sing'anga kapena phungu kuti akuthandizeni kuthana ndi malingaliro ovutawa.

Kuwerenga Kofananira: Kodi Mnyamata Amachita Bwanji Akachita Chinyengo?

Ibibazo

1. Kodi amanong'oneza bondo kunyenga chibwenzi chake ndi ine?

N'zosakayikitsa kuti amanong'oneza bondo chifukwa chachinyengo, chifukwa nthawi zambiri chigamulocho chimakhala chopanda chiweruzo. Ambiri amene amabera amamva chisoni ndi zimene anachita, kapena amamva chisoni chifukwa chogwidwa.

2. N'chifukwa chiyani mnyamata kunyenga chibwenzi chake pamodzi ndi inu?

Pali zifukwa zingapo zomwe zimapangitsa kuti mwamuna azibera bwenzi lake ndi inu:
1. Kubera kumasangalatsa kuposa kukhala paubwenzi wabwino. Ngati ali munthu amene sadziwa mmene angachitire zinthu m’chibwenzi chosungika, angayambe “kunyong’onyeka” muunansi wabwino.
2. Wataya kapena wataya kutaya kumverera kwa bwenzi lake.
3. Amadzimva kuti ali wokakamira kapena wosasunthika muubwenzi wake, kapena zosowa zake zonse (zamalingaliro kapena ayi) sizikukwaniritsidwa muubwenzi.
4. Amafuna kuchoka pachibwenzi koma alibe kulimba mtima kuti athetse chibwenzi.
5. Chifukwa ichi sichoona kwa amuna onse amene amabera, koma kwa ena ndi chizolowezi.

3. Ndikakhala ndi mwamuna wonyenga?

Kukhala ndi mwamuna womasuka ndi kubera sikuli bwino kwa inu. Zidzakupangitsani kukhala osatetezeka ku chisamaliro chake ndi chikondi chake kwa inu, ndipo zidzasokoneza kudzidalira kwanu. Izi zidzapangitsa kuti muyambe kudalira iye yekha ngati gwero la kudzidalira kwanu.

Kodi Mnyamata Amachita Bwanji Akachita Chinyengo?

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