Mwamuna wanga anandinyenga ndi mwamuna ndipo sindikudziwa momwe ndingachitire. Kodi mwamva za amuna okwatira akunyenga ndi akazi, koma kodi ndapeza mwamuna wanga akunyenga ndi mwamuna wina? Zikumveka ngati kumenyedwa kawiri. Ndinapeza mauthenga pafoni yake. Akulumbira kuti chinali chinthu cha usiku umodzi, cholakwika chopusa chomwe chimayambitsidwa ndi nkhawa kuntchito komanso iye akumva kuti sakugwirizana nane. Gawo lina la ine likufuna kumukhulupirira, chifukwa cha mwana wathu wamkazi. Koma gawo lina likumva ngati laperekedwa, ngati kuti chilichonse chomwe ndimaganiza kuti ndimachidziwa chokhudza iye ndi ukwati wathu ndi bodza.
Kodi izi zikutanthauza kuti ndi gay? Kapena amangogonana ndi amuna awiri? Sindikukhulupirira kuti sindinkadziwa kuti amakopeka ndi amuna. Ngati wandibisira chinthu chachikuluchi, zimandipangitsa kudabwa kuti ndi chiyani chinanso chomwe sindimachidziwa. Kodi ndingaganize bwanji kukhala naye pambuyo pa izi? Kumamveka ngati kubera koipitsitsa mwanjira ina. Mwana wanga wamkazi ndiye nkhawa yanga yayikulu. Kodi ndingathane ndi vutoli bwanji popanda kumuvulaza?
Yankho:
Kuchita chinyengo pakokha n'kopweteka komanso kopweteka. Funso lanu kugonana kwa mwamuna zimasokoneza zinthu, chifukwa zingamve ngati simukumudziwa. Kungowona malembawo pafoni yake kungakhale kokhumudwitsa.
Zingakhale bwino ngati mungafune uphungu waukwati kwa nonse a inu, popeza pakhoza kukhala ma nuances angapo oti muwulule omwe angangochitika payekhapayekha. Uphungu waukwati ungakuthandizeninso kudziwa zomwe muyenera kuchita kapena zomwe mukufuna kuchita.
Kupatula kufunafuna thandizo la akatswiri, zinthu zingapo zomwe mungakumbukire zingakhale:
- Sangalalani ndi kudzisamalira. Nkhaniyi iyenera kuti inakudabwitsani kwambiri, ndipo ndithudi, ingakhale yopweteka kwambiri. Zikatero, ndikofunikira kuika patsogolo thanzi lanu ndi malingaliro anu. Mungathe kuchita izi mwa: kuonetsetsa kuti mukusamalira bwino chakudya chanu ndi kugona (momwe mungathere), kufunafuna chithandizo kuchokera kwa munthu amene mumamukhulupirira kuti asaweruze ndikudzilola kuti mumve maganizo anu.
- Dzikumbutseni kuti palibe njira yolondola kapena yolakwika yomvera. Malingaliro anu ndi omveka.
- Kungakhale bwino kukhazikitsa malire kuti muthe kukonza izi mokwanira kuti muganizire mozama. Kaya ndi malo ndi nthawi kutali ndi mwamuna wanu, kapena chilimbikitso kuchokera kwa iye.
- Ganiziraninso za chithandizo chaumwini, ngati m'banja uphungu si njira, chifukwa chithandizo chingathe kukuthandizani kuti muzitha kuthana ndi zovuta izi. Zingakuthandizeninso kuthana ndi kusatsimikizika kwatsopano kokhudza tsogolo lanu ndi la mwana wanu wamkazi.
- Onetsetsani kuti musadziimbe mlandu pa izi. Mwina munalipo mavuto ena m’banja mwanu musanachite chinyengo, koma amenewo samakhululukira khalidweli.
Pali maanja ambiri omwe amasankha kukhala limodzi ndikuchita zinthu pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika, ndi kutuluka mwamphamvu mbali inayo. Mabanja amene apambana ali ndi zifukwa zomveka zochitira zimenezi: amakondana, amakonda mabanja awo komanso ndi mabwenzi apamtima. Zifukwa zobwera chifukwa cha kudziimba mlandu ndi manyazi nthawi zambiri sizimagwirizanitsa banja ndipo pamapeto pake zimayambitsa mkwiyo. Kusunga ukwati pamodzi kumafunanso khama kuchokera kwa onse awiri kuti ayambitsenso kukhulupirirana ndi ubwenzi muubwenzi.
Choncho, m'malo mofunsa zomwe muyenera kuchita, dzifunseni ngati muli ndi mphamvu yomanganso ukwati wanu komanso ngati mwamuna wanu angathe kupereka zomwe mukufunikira kuti ukwatiwu ugwire ntchito. Mosiyana ndi zimenezi, ndikofunikiranso kuganizira ngati mungathe kupereka zomwe akufunikira.
Nkhawa yanu kwa mwana wanu wamkazi ndi yomveka bwino komanso yomveka. Ngakhale kuti sikuli koyenera kapena kotheka kumubisira kwathunthu kuti pali mavuto pakati pa makolo ake, mukhoza kusamalira zinthu zingapo kuti mukhale ndi moyo wabwino kudzera mu khalidwe lovutali.
- Limbikitsani kulankhulana momasuka pouza mwana wanu wamkazi kuti mukufuna kumupangira malo otetezeka, komanso kuti akhoza kukufunsani mafunso aliwonse omwe angakhale nawo. Nthawi zambiri ana amakhala anzeru komanso ozindikira kuposa momwe timawayamikira. Mwana wanu wamkazi angakhale ali ndi mafunso ndi nkhawa zakezake ndipo amafunikira mpata wabwino woti afotokozere makolo ake.
- Kumbukirani kugawana naye malongosoledwe olingana ndi msinkhu wake ndikupewa kumufotokozera zambiri zomwe zingasokoneze kumvetsetsa kwake. Kulankhulana momasuka sikutanthauza kuti muyenera kumuuza chilichonse. Zomwe ayenera kudziwa.
- Onetsetsani kuti mwamutsimikizira kuti mosasamala kanthu za chimene chimachitika pakati pa makolo, inu ndi mwamuna wanu mumamkonda kwambiri. Pamaso pa mwana wanu wamkazi, ndikofunikira kuwonetsa ngati mgwirizano. Chinthu chimodzi chimene mungagwirizane ndi mwamuna wanu ndicho kudera nkhaŵa mwana wanu wamkazi. Nthawi zambiri ana amadziimba mlandu chifukwa cha mavuto a makolo awo.
- Yesetsani kupereka kukhazikika kwachizoloŵezi kwa iye momwe mungathere. Ngati chizoloŵezi chake chachotsedwa pazifukwa zilizonse, onetsetsani kuti akulandira chisamaliro choyenera ndi chithandizo kuchokera kwa inu, banja lina ngakhale sukulu yake.
- Dzisamalireni nokha kuti mukhale zopezeka mwamalingaliro- kusamalira mwana wanu wamkazi. Ngati simuli bwino m'maganizo, mwanayo adzachoka panyumba, ndipo sanachitepo kanthu kuti ayenerere zimenezo. Choncho, ngati n’kovuta kudzisamalira chifukwa cha inu nokha, chitirani mwana wanu wamkazi.
- Ngati mudakali ndi nkhawa, lingalirani zokonzekera msonkhano ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo a ana kuti akwaniritse zosowa za mwana wanu wamkazi.
Ibibazo
Osati kwenikweni. Kugonana ndizovuta ndipo sizingadziwike potengera zochitika kapena khalidwe limodzi.
Ngati mwamuna wanu amagonana ndi mwamuna wina, zikhoza kusonyeza kuti ali ndi chidwi ndi amuna, koma sizikutanthauza kuti amadziwonetsa ngati gay. Anthu amatha kukhala ndi zokumana nazo kapena machitidwe omwe sagwirizana ndi zomwe amakonda kapena zomwe amakonda, ndipo patha kukhala zifukwa zosiyanasiyana zochitira zinthu ngati izi, chidwi, kuyesa, kapena zinthu zina zaumwini.
Ndikofunika kwambiri kulankhulana momasuka ndi moona mtima ndi mwamuna wanu za malingaliro anu, nkhawa zanu, ndi mafunso okhudzana ndi vutolo. Kufunafuna chithandizo kuchokera kwa dokotala kapena mlangizi yemwe ali wodziwa bwino za nkhani zokhudzana ndi kugonana ndi kusakhulupirika kungakhalenso kothandiza poyendetsa mutu wovuta komanso wovutawu. Pamapeto pake, ndi mwamuna wanu yekha amene angadziwe ndikuulula zomwe amakonda komanso zomwe amakonda, ndipo ndikofunikira kuthana ndi vutolo ndichifundo, kumvetsetsa, ndi ulemu kwa inu nokha ndi mwamuna wanu.
Chopereka chanu sichikutanthauza chopereka chachifundo . Chidzalola Bonobology kupitiliza kukubweretserani chidziwitso chatsopano komanso chaposachedwa poyesetsa kuthandiza aliyense padziko lonse lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.
zimaimbidwa
Chifukwa chiyani sindingathe kusiya kumuganizira?
Momwe mungathetsere chibwenzi chokhudzidwa ndikukhalabe mabwenzi?
N'chifukwa chiyani chibwenzi changa chimandida?
N’chifukwa chiyani ndimakopeka kwambiri ndi munthu amene wandikhumudwitsa?
Kodi ndimakondana ndi bwenzi langa lapamtima? Kodi nditani?
Kodi ndimukhululukire mwamuna wanga chifukwa chachinyengo?
Ndinanyenga chibwenzi changa. Kodi ndingakonze bwanji?
Mwamuna wanga ananyenga ndipo anabala mwana ndi mkazi winayo
Mnyamata wanga adandinyenga koma ndimafunabe kukhala naye. Kodi nditani?
Mwamuna wanga nthawi zonse amandikwiyira komanso amandichitira mwano
Chifukwa chiyani nthawi zonse ndimaganiza kuti bwenzi langa akunyenga
Ndinkafuna chisudzulo. Chifukwa chiyani ndili wachisoni?
Mwamuna wanga amalankhulabe ndi mkazi yemwe adandinyenga
Mwamuna wanga anandinamiza. Ndimukhulupiriranso bwanji?
Mwamuna wanga adandinyenga nditani?
Ndinabera Koma Ndikufuna Kusunga Ubale Wanga
Ndimukwiyiranji mwamuna wanga chifukwa chosagwira ntchito. Kodi nditani?
Mwamuna wanga amandinyenga ndi mnzanga wapamtima
Mkazi wanga amadana ndi bwenzi langa lapamtima. Kodi nditani?
Ananyenga chibwenzi chake ndi ine. Tsopano chiyani?