Mu filimu ya Black Panther , Chadwick Boseman (T'Challa) ndi Letitia Wright (Shuri) ali mu labu yake pamene akulira, 'N'chifukwa chiyani mukutulutsa zala zanu mu labu yanga?!' Boseman akuyang'ana pansi mapazi ake ovala nsapato nati, "Ndimaganiza kuti ndipita kusukulu yakale tsiku langa loyamba" "Ndikuganiza kuti akulu anakonda zimenezo!" akuyankha.
Zochitika ndi zokambirana pakati pa abale ndi zophweka, zodzaza ndi kutentha ndi kuseketsa, ndi chitsanzo chabwino ngati mukudabwa kuti 'kunyoza ndi chiyani.' Tsopano, banter kwenikweni ndikusinthana kwapakati pakati pa anthu omwe amadziwa bwino kale, kapena amathanso kukhala osweka kwambiri pakati pa alendo.
Kuseweretsa maliseche sikumangokhalira kukondana kapena kugonana, koma kungakhale chida chanu chachikulu chokopana ngati ndi momwe mukusewerera. Kubweza ndikukopana, tikukumva mukufunsa. Njira yabwino yofotokozera izi ndikuti banter ndi njira imodzi yokopana bwino. Kulankhula mwanzeru, kuphatikizika ndi mawu amthupi ndi kukhudzana ndi maso, zitha kukhala zomwe mungafune kuti mukope wokongola yemwe mwakhala mukumuyang'ana kwakanthawi.
Chifukwa chake, ngati mukuganiza kuti kupusa kumatanthauza chiyani, kubwebweta ndi msungwana kapena kubwebweta bwanji ndi mwamuna, tidakuchitirani zina mwantchito ndikukuzungulirani ndikutulutsa zamatsenga ndi zitsanzo zina kuti zisakhale zosavuta kwa inu.
Kodi Banter Amatanthauza Chiyani
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Kuseka ndi kulankhulana ndi mawu oseketsa komanso osangalatsa. Kungakhale pakati pa gulu la abwenzi, anthu awiri omwe ali pachibwenzi (ngakhale pachibwenzi pa intaneti ), kasitomala ndi woperekera zakudya, kapena ndi munthu amene mwangokumana naye kumene.
Banter safuna kukhala kukambirana mwakuya; kwenikweni, akamanena zake kuti ndi kuwala ndi zosavuta kukambirana kuti mwina kapena ayi kukopana, malinga ndi mmene zinthu zilili. Banter safunikira kukhala ndi cholinga chomaliza - kutha kungokhala kukambirana kwakanthawi komwe kumathera maphwando onse kukhala osangalala komanso osangalala.
Mwachitsanzo, tayerekezerani kuti muli paphwando ndipo mukucheza ndi munthu wina pa chakumwa. Mukufuna kuti muwadziwe bwino. Mwina zokambiranazo zitha motere:
Inu: Mukudziwa, ndine munthu wokonda kutumizirana mameseji padziko lonse lapansi. Ndikutanthauza, zalembedwa ngati luso pa CV yanga. Ndikadakhala ndi nambala yanu, mukadadziwonera nokha.
Izi: Ndiye, mwa kuyankhula kwina, zala zanu ndizomwe zili bwino kwambiri?
Iyi ndi njira yabwino komanso yotseguka yofunsira zambiri zawo zolumikizirana, ndikuwauza kuti mukufuna kutumizirana mameseji okopana . Zimawapatsa mwayi woti avomereze kapena ayi popanda kumva kuti akukakamizidwa. Chinthu chabwino chokhudza nthabwala ndichakuti chifukwa cha kuseka kwake kosavuta komanso kosavuta, palibe amene amamva kupweteka.
Kodi Banter Ndi Yabwino Kwa Maubwenzi?
Kafukufuku wina akuti kunyoza ndikwabwino kwa maubwenzi apamtima chifukwa kumapangitsa mpata kuseka, kukambirana komanso kuseka kwabwino. Mwachitsanzo, mwina mnzanu ndi inu tangobwera kumene kuchokera ku bizinesi yotopetsa kwambiri ndi anzake.
Inu: Anyamata amenewo ndi otopa kwambiri.
Iye: Anyamata opusa amapanga amuna abwino kwambiri!
Inu: Zoona? Ndiyenera kuyang'ana imodzi ndiye!
Ndi kukambirana molunjika, koma inu nonse kuseka ngati achinyamata pawekha ndipo wina ndi mzake mwanzeru. Zingakhale zosavuta kuti akhumudwe chifukwa mumawatchula anzake kuti ali otopa. Koma, m’malo mokwiya ndi kuyamba ndewu, nonse mwaipanga kukhala mphindi yopepuka, yosavuta, komanso yosangalatsa.
Kuseka ndi kwabwino paubwenzi uliwonse. Kumachepetsa nkhawa ndipo kumabweretsa ubale wabwino komanso mgwirizano. Ndipo mukamalankhulana ngati ofanana, mphamvu za ubale wanu sizimasokonekera - ndinu anthu awiri omwe amakondana, kuseka wina ndi mnzake m'malo moseka wina ndi mnzake.
Ndi kuseweretsa maliseche, kukopana kungakhale pafupi. Ndipo m'buku lathu, kukopana ndikwabwino pankhani zachikondi zatsopano ndi zakale. Ikubikkilizya kasimpe mumizeezo yako naa kukukkomanisya. Ngati banter imakupangitsani kuti muyambe kukopana komanso kusangalatsa, zingakhale bwino bwanji!
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Monga nkhani zonse zazikulu, pali chiphunzitso ndipo pali ntchito. Ngati mwakhala mukuwerenga 'Banter for Dummies' (ayi, sizowona, tidapanga) ndikuyesa kubweza kwanu kutsogolo kwagalasi, zabwino kwa inu. Koma bwanji ngati mwapezeka kuti muli mumkhalidwe wosokoneza? Kodi mumaundana ngati nswala yogwidwa ndi nyali zakutsogolo, kapena mumayenda ndi swag yowonjezera?
Musadandaule, tili nanu thandizo. Tasonkhanitsa njira zina zomwe mungagwiritsire ntchito nthabwala pa moyo wanu weniweni, tikukhulupirira kuti popanda kuchita manyazi kapena kunena china chake chomwe chingakuvutitseni kwa zaka zambiri mukamalankhula ndi mnzanu amene mumamukonda kapena amene mumamuseka.
1. Khalani ndi mizere yanu yotsegulira
Mukudziwa mwambi wakale uja wakuti 'zayamba bwino zatheka?' Chabwino, kaya ndi mawu achipongwe kapena osewerera, izo zikugwira ntchito kwa inu. Ngati mutayamba mwamphamvu, ntchito yanu yabwino imatheka. Nazi zinthu zina zomwe mungayambe nazo ngati mukudabwa momwe mungalankhulire ndi mnyamata, kapena momwe mungachitire ndi mtsikana.
'Ndikufuna kukuvutitsani, nanga inuyo?'
Ngati mungathe kutulutsa izi m'njira yochititsa chidwi, yosakhala yowopsya, zimapereka chithunzithunzi chakuti ndinu munthu wosangalatsa yemwe ali ndi chirichonse. Izi zitha kugwira ntchito paphwando pomwe mwangokumana ndi mnzanu wamwano ndipo mwina kugawana zosangalatsa. Mutha kutsata ndikulengeza zamasewera kapena kuyitanitsa kuwombera kwa aliyense.
'Kodi simumakonda nyama kwambiri kuposa anthu!'
Anthu okonda ziweto komanso okonda ziweto, iyi ndi yanu. Tikudziwa kuti pa maphwando ambiri, mumasangalala kukhala pakona, kunyoza anthu, mwina kusewera ndi galu wa mwininyumba. Koma anthu ambiri okonda kukhala pakona amakhala ndi luso lodabwitsa loseka. Ndipo ngati mwapeza munthu wokonda kukhala pakona komanso wosamalira ziweto, chabwino, ndani akudziwa zomwe zingachitike.
'Mnyamata/msungwana/munthu wabwino ngati iwe ukuchita chiyani pamalo otaya ngati awa'
Mnzanga amandigwiritsa ntchito izi nthawi iliyonse tikakhala pamalo odyera apamwamba kapena kunyumba yabwino kwambiri. Koma mutha kuyigwiritsa ntchito kuyambitsa kukambirana ndi munthu yemwe simukumudziwanso. Awa ndi ndemanga yolakwika pa malo omwe mumakhala, ndikuwonetsa nthabwala zanu popanda kupereka zambiri.
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2. Samalani ndi chilankhulo chanu
Tsopano, tikudziwa tidati banter nthawi zambiri imakhudzana ndi zokambirana, koma tiyeni tiyang'ane nazo, ngati mukuganizabe zomwe zili zitsanzo za banter ndi banter, chilankhulo cha thupi chidzawoneka kumeneko kwinakwake.
Izi zimachitika makamaka pa nthawi imene inu ndi mnzanu amene mukuchita nthabwala simuli atsopano, pamene mukudabwabe kuti 'kodi kusekana n'kosangalatsa?' Nthawi zina mawu a thupi angakhale chifukwa chachikulu chokhalira pakati pa kusekana koseketsa ndi kusekana.
Kathleen ananena kuti: “Ndimakonda anthu olankhula mwachisawawa, ngakhale atakhala kuti amangofuna kukopana. "Koma pali mzere wabwino pakati pa kumenyana ndi kuwoloka malire, ndipo ndikudziwa ngati ndili pampando kapena kulandilidwa kwamatsenga.
“Ndinali pa malo osambira ndi gulu la anthu, ndipo mmodzi anali mnyamata amene sindinkamudziŵa bwino.” Iye anapitiriza kunena zinthu monga “Ndiwe munthu wochititsa chidwi kwambiri” ndipo tinkangokhalira kupanga nthano zoseketsa za anthu amene anali patebulo lotsatira.
Pophunzira zomwe ndi banter, ndikofunikanso kuphunzira zomwe banter si. Ndipo kubwebweta, kukopana ndi zina zotero kumafunika ulemu ndi chilolezo. Dziwani chilankhulo chanu komanso za munthu winayo ndipo musapitirire.
3. Osadzipweteka
Apanso, ili ndi phunziro lina la malire a ubale. Chifukwa mayankho ambiri ku funso loti 'chonyansa ndi chiyani' chimaphatikizapo kusangalala ndi kuseka, n'zosavuta kuganiza kuti ndi nthawi yotseguka kwa mnzanu wapamtima, ndipo musadandaule ndi zomwe munganene. Kulondola?
Zolakwika. Pali kusiyana pakati pa kuseka kwabwino, kosangalatsa, komanso kochenjera ndi kunyoza munthu. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mnzanu wonyoza ndi loya ndipo inu mukuti, “Ndiye, kodi chilichonse chomwe ndinganene chingagwiritsidwe ntchito motsutsana nane kukhothi?” ndiko kuseka. Ngati mukuti, “Eya, monga maloya onse, ndikutsimikiza kuti ndinu wabodza wabwino,” mukunena zinthu zopweteka ndipo zidzamveka ngati mukupanga chiweruzo mwachangu ngakhale simukufuna kutero.
Izi ndithudi phunziro lofunika kwambiri ngati banter mnzanuyo ndipo simukudziwana bwino kwambiri. Koma musaganize kuti ngati mukusemphana maganizo ndi bwenzi lapamtima kapena mnzanu wapamtima, ndi bwino kunena chilichonse chimene mukufuna.
“Ine ndi mkazi wanga takhala tikuchita nthabwala kwa nthawi yaitali panjinga yolimbitsa thupi imene ndinagula ndipo sindinkaigwiritsa ntchito kamodzi.” Njingayo tinaitcha kuti 'Neverland' chifukwa sindinapiteko ndipo ankandifunsa kuti, 'Hey Pete, nanga bwanji ulendo wopita ku Neverland?' ndipo ndinkayankha kuti, ‘Sizichitika ayi,’” anatero Peter.
Koma kenako mkazi wake, Katy, anayamba kunena mawu akuti, “Mukudziwa, ku Neverland n’kumene anthu sakula.” Zinachokera ku nthabwala zotentha, zamkati kupita ku nthabwala zowopsa ndipo zidadzetsa mkwiyo pakati pa awiriwa.
4. Dziwani nthawi yoti muyime
Izi sizimangotanthauza kuyima mutazindikira kuti mukupwetekedwa kapena ngati mwadutsa. Ndikonso kudziwa kuti pali chinthu chabwino kwambiri komanso kuti bwenzi lanu la banter limafuna malo ndi nthawi kuti ayankhe nthawi zina.
Ngati mukuganiziradi za nthabwala, kumbukirani kuti si mndandanda wa nthabwala ndi mawu osatha. Dziwani kuti zinthu zopusa muubwenzi nthawi zina zimatha kugwira ntchito, koma zitsanzo zabwino kwambiri za nthabwala zidzakuwonetsani kuti zonse ndi za kubwerera m'mbuyo pamene mukupitirizabe.
Mwachitsanzo, tiyerekeze kuti mupereka moni kwa wina ndi 'pano pakubwera vuto' atangolowa m'chipindamo, ndizoseketsa koyamba. Koma ngati mupitirizabe kwa nthawi yaitali, ndikupita kuti 'Chabwino, ngati si Little Abiti Troublemaker kachiwiri' mobwerezabwereza, zidzakwiyitsa ngakhale munthu amene akukhudzidwayo ndi mnzanu.
Komanso, dziwani momwe mukuyankhira nthabwala zanu. Ngati mukuyesera kulankhula ndi wonyoza ku shopu yanu ya khofi yomwe mumakonda ndi mawu akuti 'Mukuwoneka ngati mwadzaza nyemba!', koma akuyang'anani mopanda chidwi, kapena kumwetulira mwaulemu ndikuyang'ana kwina, dziwani kuti nthawi yakwana yoti musiye. Mofananamo, ngati mukuyesera kunyoza munthu wina pa phwando kapena kuntchito ndipo mwapatsidwa mwayi woti akukuyang'aneni mopanda chidwi, yesetsani kubwerera m'mbuyo mwachangu. Kumbukirani, kuvomereza ndikofunikira, ngakhale zinthu zitakhala zosavuta bwanji.
5. Kwezani masewera anu alemba
Sitingathe kusiya mbali yofunika kwambiri ya mawu onyoza! Kutumizirana mameseji ndi gawo lalikulu la kucheza kwathu (kapena asocial!), ndipo mutha kulowa mumasewera ena osangalatsa kudzera pa meseji.
Tsopano, uyu akhoza kukhala munthu amene mwakumana naye kale maso ndi maso kangapo, kapena munthu amene mwakumana naye pa pulogalamu yopezera chibwenzi , kapena ngakhale mnzanu kapena mnzanu wakale. Chinthu chabwino kwambiri chokhudza nthabwala ndichakuti mutha kuchita nawo nthabwala ndi aliyense.
Ngati uyu ndi munthu amene mudapangana naye kale zamwano zamtengo wapatali, mwachitsanzo, kubwebweta ndi ndalama zotsimikizika kapena zachikondi kapena cholinga m'malingaliro, mutha kupeza mawu olimba mtima komanso okopana. Tiyeni tiyang'ane nazo, tonse ndife oletsedwa pang'ono palemba.
Chinachake chotsatira, 'Mukunditumizira chiyani mochedwa kwambiri' ndi emoji yoyenera ikhoza kukhala chitsanzo chabwino kwambiri pamawu. Mwina amayankha kuti 'Chabwino, mutani pamenepo?' kuti mpira upite patsogolo.
Osapeputsa mphamvu ya zilembo ndi ma emojis mu banter. Kufuula modzichepetsa kumasonyeza chisangalalo ndikuwonetsa kuti ndinu okondwa kulankhula nawo. Ndipo zowonadi, ma emojis ndi ma gif ali ndi malo awoawo apadera padziko lapansi lolemba mameseji.
Kutumizirana mameseji ndi njira yotetezeka ngati banter sabwera kwa inu mwachibadwa ndipo ndi njira yopulumukira ngati simuli mwa munthu amene mukumenyana naye. Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, zala zanu zitha kukhala mabwenzi anu abwino kwambiri padziko lonse lapansi.
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Pamene Banter Imasanduka Zowopsa
Pokhala ndi zokamba zambiri za zomwe ndi banter, ndikofunikiranso kuyang'ana zoyipa zake. Banter ikhoza kukhala yovulaza kapena yovulaza ngati onse awiri sali patsamba limodzi. Ndiko kuti, ngati munthu mmodzi amasangalala ndi kuseka, koma winayo satero, palibe kufanana ndipo palibe amene angasangalale nazo.
Banter kuntchito ingakhalenso mdima chifukwa malire ndi mafunso omwe ali oyenera ndi osiyana. Zomwe zimaoneka ngati zopepuka ndi zonyoza kwa munthu wina zingakhale zosayenera kwa wina.
Komanso, 'kunyoza' kungagwiritsidwe ntchito molakwika kupangitsa wina kudzimva kuti ndi wamng'ono kapena kumuchititsa manyazi chifukwa cha maonekedwe ake kapena momwe alili. Kumbukirani, kunena mawu achipongwe onena za maonekedwe a munthu, kavalidwe kake, malingaliro ake, ndi zina zotero, sizitanthauza kunyoza.
Pomaliza pake, nthabwala zimafuna kufooka kwakukulu komanso kutseguka. Ngakhale simukuyembekezera zotsatira zachikondi kapena zogonana, mukuyamba kuchitapo kanthu ndikudziika nokha pamalo abwino. Chiwopsezo chokumana ndi kukanidwa , kapena kusayankhidwa, chimakhalapo nthawi zonse, ndipo simungathe kuthawa zimenezo.
M'mawonekedwe ake abwino komanso oyera, banter ndi njira yosangalatsa yopitira kumakambirano opindulitsa ndi maubale, odzazidwa ndi kumasuka komanso kuseka. Chifukwa chake, ngati mukuyang'ana kubwereketsa kuchipinda, kukambirana, kapena ngakhale m'moyo wanu, musayang'anenso zamatsenga abwino.
Ibibazo
Kuseka kungakhale njira yabwino yopezera chibwenzi chifukwa nkhani zake ndi zosangalatsa komanso zosavuta. Pezani njira yabwino yoyambira, musapereke mphamvu zowopsa, komanso dziwani nthawi yoti musiye. Ndikofunikiranso kuyeza chilankhulo cha thupi la munthu winayo ndi mayankho ake kuti muwonetsetse kuti simukupitirira malire.
Kunyoza kwamtengo wapatali ndi pamene mukukangana ndi ndalama zenizeni zachikondi kapena zamaganizo ndi/kapena zolinga. Choncho, ngati inu anakantha kukambirana ndi munthu pa chibwenzi app, kapena ndi munthu kale chikondi umagwirira ndi, inu mukudziwa kuti muli ndi chidwi pa wina, kapena mukufuna kukhala, ndi kuti banter izi si chifukwa cha izo.
Yesetsani kusokoneza mawu anu potumiza ma emojis kapena ma gif okongola. Sewerani nawo powauza kuti mwawona mphaka wokwiya ndipo wakukumbutsani. Asekeni ndi nthabwala za corny kapena kukopana ndi memes.
Kulankhulana mopanda mawu ndi njira yabwino yoyambira kukambirana, kapena kupitiriza zomwe mudakumana nazo pamaso ndi maso. Gwiritsani ntchito zilembo zanu kumanja (zifukwa zingapo sizimapweteka!) ndipo khalani owolowa manja ndi ma emojis anu. Koposa zonse, kumbukirani kuonetsetsa kuti ndizosangalatsa komanso zosangalatsa kwa nonse.
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