Mufilimuyi Black Panther, Chadwick Boseman (T'Challa) ndi Letitia Wright (Shuri) ali mu labu yake pomwe amakuwa, 'N'chifukwa chiyani watulutsa zala zanu mu labu yanga?! Boseman akuyang'ana pansi pamapazi ake ovala nsapato ndi kunena, "Ndimaganiza kuti ndipite kusukulu yachikale tsiku langa loyamba" "Ndikukayikira kuti akulu ankakonda zimenezo!" amayankha choncho.
Zochitika ndi zokambirana pakati pa abale ndi zophweka, zodzaza ndi kutentha ndi kuseketsa, ndi chitsanzo chabwino ngati mukudabwa kuti 'kunyoza ndi chiyani.' Tsopano, banter kwenikweni ndikusinthana kwapakati pakati pa anthu omwe amadziwa bwino kale, kapena amathanso kukhala osweka kwambiri pakati pa alendo.
Kuseweretsa maliseche sikumangokhalira kukondana kapena kugonana, koma kungakhale chida chanu chachikulu chokopana ngati ndi momwe mukusewerera. Kubweza ndikukopana, tikukumva mukufunsa. Njira yabwino yofotokozera izi ndikuti banter ndi njira imodzi yokopana bwino. Kulankhula mwanzeru, kuphatikizika ndi mawu amthupi ndi kukhudzana ndi maso, zitha kukhala zomwe mungafune kuti mukope wokongola yemwe mwakhala mukumuyang'ana kwakanthawi.
Chifukwa chake, ngati mukuganiza kuti kupusa kumatanthauza chiyani, kubwebweta ndi msungwana kapena kubwebweta bwanji ndi mwamuna, tidakuchitirani zina mwantchito ndikukuzungulirani ndikutulutsa zamatsenga ndi zitsanzo zina kuti zisakhale zosavuta kwa inu.
Kodi Banter Amatanthauza Chiyani
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Banter ndikulankhulana ndi nthabwala zabwino, zonyoza. Zitha kukhala pakati pa gulu la abwenzi, anthu awiri pa tsiku (ngakhale a tsiku lenileni), kasitomala ndi woperekera zakudya, kapena ndi munthu amene mwangokumana naye kumene.
Banter safuna kukhala kukambirana mwakuya; kwenikweni, akamanena zake kuti ndi kuwala ndi zosavuta kukambirana kuti mwina kapena ayi kukopana, malinga ndi mmene zinthu zilili. Banter safunikira kukhala ndi cholinga chomaliza - kutha kungokhala kukambirana kwakanthawi komwe kumathera maphwando onse kukhala osangalala komanso osangalala.
Mwachitsanzo, tayerekezerani kuti muli paphwando ndipo mukucheza ndi munthu wina pa chakumwa. Mukufuna kuti muwadziwe bwino. Mwina zokambiranazo zitha motere:
Inu: Mukudziwa, ndine munthu wokonda kutumizirana mameseji padziko lonse lapansi. Ndikutanthauza, zalembedwa ngati luso pa CV yanga. Ndikadakhala ndi nambala yanu, mukadadziwonera nokha.
Izi: Ndiye, mwa kuyankhula kwina, zala zanu ndizomwe zili bwino kwambiri?
Iyi ndi njira yabwino komanso yotseguka yofunsira mauthenga awo, ndikuwadziwitsa kuti mwawapeza. kutumizirana mameseji mokopana. Zimawasiya mpata woti anene kuti inde kapena ayi popanda kudzimva kuti ali pakona. Chinthu chachikulu chokhudza banter ndikuti chifukwa cha kuwala kwake, chikhalidwe chake chosavuta, palibe amene amamva kupweteka.
Kodi Banter Ndi Yabwino Kwa Maubwenzi?
Kafukufuku wina akuti kunyoza ndikwabwino kwa maubwenzi apamtima chifukwa kumapangitsa mpata kuseka, kukambirana komanso kuseka kwabwino. Mwachitsanzo, mwina mnzanu ndi inu tangobwera kumene kuchokera ku bizinesi yotopetsa kwambiri ndi anzake.
Inu: Anyamata amenewo ndi otopa kwambiri.
Iye: Anyamata opusa amapanga amuna abwino kwambiri!
Inu: Zoona? Ndiyenera kuyang'ana imodzi ndiye!
Ndi kukambirana molunjika, koma inu nonse kuseka ngati achinyamata pawekha ndipo wina ndi mzake mwanzeru. Zingakhale zosavuta kuti akhumudwe chifukwa mumawatchula anzake kuti ali otopa. Koma, m’malo mokwiya ndi kuyamba ndewu, nonse mwaipanga kukhala mphindi yopepuka, yosavuta, komanso yosangalatsa.
Kuseka ndikwabwino kwa ubale uliwonse. Zimachepetsa mikangano ndipo zimabweretsa chisangalalo komanso mgwirizano. Ndipo pamene inu mukubwebweta ngati ofanana, anu mphamvu zaubwenzi osapotozedwa - ndinu anthu awiri okondana, akuseka wina ndi mzake m'malo motsutsana.
Ndi kuseweretsa maliseche, kukopana kungakhale pafupi. Ndipo m'buku lathu, kukopana ndikwabwino pankhani zachikondi zatsopano ndi zakale. Ikubikkilizya kasimpe mumizeezo yako naa kukukkomanisya. Ngati banter imakupangitsani kuti muyambe kukopana komanso kusangalatsa, zingakhale bwino bwanji!
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Monga nkhani zonse zazikulu, pali chiphunzitso ndipo pali ntchito. Ngati mwakhala mukuwerenga 'Banter for Dummies' (ayi, sizowona, tidapanga) ndikuyesa kubweza kwanu kutsogolo kwagalasi, zabwino kwa inu. Koma bwanji ngati mwapezeka kuti muli mumkhalidwe wosokoneza? Kodi mumaundana ngati nswala yogwidwa ndi nyali zakutsogolo, kapena mumayenda ndi swag yowonjezera?
Osadandaula, tili ndi nsana wanu. Taphatikiza njira zina zomwe mungagwiritsire ntchito mawu achipongwe pamoyo wanu weniweni, mwachiyembekezo popanda kuchita manyazi kapena kunena zomwe zingakuvutitseni kwa zaka zambiri lankhulani ndi wokondedwa wanu kapena wachibale.
1. Khalani ndi mizere yanu yotsegulira
Mukudziwa mwambi wakale uja wakuti 'zayamba bwino zatheka?' Chabwino, kaya ndi mawu achipongwe kapena osewerera, izo zikugwira ntchito kwa inu. Ngati mutayamba mwamphamvu, ntchito yanu yabwino imatheka. Nazi zinthu zina zomwe mungayambe nazo ngati mukudabwa momwe mungalankhulire ndi mnyamata, kapena momwe mungachitire ndi mtsikana.
'Ndikufuna kukuvutitsani, nanga inuyo?'
Ngati mungathe kutulutsa izi m'njira yochititsa chidwi, yosakhala yowopsya, zimapereka chithunzithunzi chakuti ndinu munthu wosangalatsa yemwe ali ndi chirichonse. Izi zitha kugwira ntchito paphwando pomwe mwangokumana ndi mnzanu wamwano ndipo mwina kugawana zosangalatsa. Mutha kutsata ndikulengeza zamasewera kapena kuyitanitsa kuwombera kwa aliyense.
'Kodi simumakonda nyama kwambiri kuposa anthu!'
Ma introverts okopa ndi okonda ziweto, iyi ndi yanu. Tikudziwa kuti pamapwando ambiri, mumakonda kukhala pakona, kumakalipira anthu, mwina kusewera ndi galu wa mwininyumbayo. Koma ma introverts ambiri ali ndi luso lodabwitsa la kunyoza. Ndipo ngati inu mwapeza mnzanu wonyoza ndi wokhala pakona, chabwino, ndani akudziwa zomwe zingachitike.
'Mnyamata/msungwana/munthu wabwino ngati iwe ukuchita chiyani pamalo otaya ngati awa'
Mnzanga amandigwiritsa ntchito izi nthawi iliyonse tikakhala pamalo odyera apamwamba kapena kunyumba yabwino kwambiri. Koma mutha kuyigwiritsa ntchito kuyambitsa kukambirana ndi munthu yemwe simukumudziwanso. Awa ndi ndemanga yolakwika pa malo omwe mumakhala, ndikuwonetsa nthabwala zanu popanda kupereka zambiri.
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2. Samalani ndi chilankhulo chanu
Tsopano, tikudziwa tidati banter nthawi zambiri imakhudzana ndi zokambirana, koma tiyeni tiyang'ane nazo, ngati mukuganizabe zomwe zili zitsanzo za banter ndi banter, chilankhulo cha thupi chidzawoneka kumeneko kwinakwake.
Izi nthawi zambiri zimakhala za nthawi yomwe inu ndi mnzanuyo mumakhala atsopano kwa wina ndi mzake, pamene mukudabwabe 'kodi kukopana?' Chilankhulo nthawi zina kungakhale chinthu chosankha pakati pa kuseweretsa maliseche ndi kukopana.
Kathleen ananena kuti: “Ndimakonda anthu olankhula mwachisawawa, ngakhale atakhala kuti amangofuna kukopana. "Koma pali mzere wabwino pakati pa kumenyana ndi kuwoloka malire, ndipo ndikudziwa ngati ndili pampando kapena kulandilidwa kwamatsenga.
“Ndinali pa malo osambira ndi gulu la anthu, ndipo mmodzi anali mnyamata amene sindinkamudziŵa bwino.” Iye anapitiriza kunena zinthu monga “Ndiwe munthu wochititsa chidwi kwambiri” ndipo tinkangokhalira kupanga nthano zoseketsa za anthu amene anali patebulo lotsatira.
Pophunzira zomwe ndi banter, ndikofunikanso kuphunzira zomwe banter si. Ndipo kubwebweta, kukopana ndi zina zotero kumafunika ulemu ndi chilolezo. Dziwani chilankhulo chanu komanso za munthu winayo ndipo musapitirire.
3. Osadzipweteka
Apanso, ili ndi phunziro lina la malire a ubale. Chifukwa mayankho ambiri ku funso loti 'chonyansa ndi chiyani' chimaphatikizapo kusangalala ndi kuseka, n'zosavuta kuganiza kuti ndi nthawi yotseguka kwa mnzanu wapamtima, ndipo musadandaule ndi zomwe munganene. Kulondola?
Zolakwika. Pali kusiyana pakati pa zabwino, zosangalatsa, zamatsenga ndi kuyika munthu pansi. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mnzanu amene amakunyozani ndi loya ndipo mukunena kuti, “Kodi chilichonse chimene ndinganene chidzagwiritsidwa ntchito motsutsana nane kukhoti?” ndiko kupusa. Ngati mungati, "Gee, monga azamalamulo onse, ndikubetcha kuti ndiwe wabodza," ndiwe wabodza. kunena zinthu zopweteka ndipo zidzamveka ngati mukupanga chiweruzo mwachangu ngakhale simukufuna kutero.
Izi ndithudi phunziro lofunika kwambiri ngati banter mnzanuyo ndipo simukudziwana bwino kwambiri. Koma musaganize kuti ngati mukusemphana maganizo ndi bwenzi lapamtima kapena mnzanu wapamtima, ndi bwino kunena chilichonse chimene mukufuna.
“Ine ndi mkazi wanga takhala tikuchita nthabwala kwa nthawi yaitali panjinga yolimbitsa thupi imene ndinagula ndipo sindinkaigwiritsa ntchito kamodzi.” Njingayo tinaitcha kuti 'Neverland' chifukwa sindinapiteko ndipo ankandifunsa kuti, 'Hey Pete, nanga bwanji ulendo wopita ku Neverland?' ndipo ndinkayankha kuti, ‘Sizichitika ayi,’” anatero Peter.
Koma kenako mkazi wake, Katy, anayamba kunena mawu akuti, “Mukudziwa, ku Neverland n’kumene anthu sakula.” Zinachokera ku nthabwala zotentha, zamkati kupita ku nthabwala zowopsa ndipo zidadzetsa mkwiyo pakati pa awiriwa.
4. Dziwani nthawi yoti muyime
Izi sizimangotanthauza kuyima mutazindikira kuti mukupwetekedwa kapena ngati mwadutsa. Ndikonso kudziwa kuti pali chinthu chabwino kwambiri komanso kuti bwenzi lanu la banter limafuna malo ndi nthawi kuti ayankhe nthawi zina.
Ngati mukuganiza kwenikweni za banter, kumbukirani kuti si mndandanda osatha wa mizere cheesy ndi nthabwala. samalani, zinthu zosangalatsa mu mgwirizano ikhoza kugwira ntchito nthawi zina, koma zitsanzo zabwino kwambiri za banter zikuwonetsani kuti zonse ndizovuta kubwerera mmbuyo mukadali nazo.
Mwachitsanzo, tiyerekeze kuti mupereka moni kwa wina ndi 'pano pakubwera vuto' atangolowa m'chipindamo, ndizoseketsa koyamba. Koma ngati mupitirizabe kwa nthawi yaitali, ndikupita kuti 'Chabwino, ngati si Little Abiti Troublemaker kachiwiri' mobwerezabwereza, zidzakwiyitsa ngakhale munthu amene akukhudzidwayo ndi mnzanu.
Komanso, dziwani kuyankha komwe mukupeza kwa wotsutsa wanu. Ngati mukuyesera kucheza ndi barista pamalo ogulitsira khofi omwe mumawakonda kuti 'Mukuwoneka ngati mwadzaza nyemba!', koma amangoyang'ana mopanda kanthu, kapena kumwetulira mwaulemu ndikuyang'ana kumbali, dziwani kuti nthawi yakwana yoti muyime. Mofananamo, ngati mukuyesera kuchita chipongwe ndi munthu wina paphwando kapena kuntchito ndipo mwadalitsidwa ndi kuyang'anitsitsa kozizira, thamangani mofulumira. Kumbukirani, chilolezo ndizofunikira, ziribe kanthu momwe zinthu zilili zopepuka.
5. Kwezani masewera anu alemba
Sitingathe kusiya mbali yofunika kwambiri ya mawu onyoza! Kutumizirana mameseji ndi gawo lalikulu la kucheza kwathu (kapena asocial!), ndipo mutha kulowa mumasewera ena osangalatsa kudzera pa meseji.
Tsopano, uyu akhoza kukhala munthu amene munakumanapo naye kale panokha kangapo, kapena munthu amene mudakumana naye pa pulogalamu ya chibwenzi, kapenanso bwenzi lanu lalitali kapena mnzanu. Ubwino wa banter ndikuti mutha kuchita nawo aliyense.
Ngati uyu ndi munthu amene mudapangana naye kale zamwano zamtengo wapatali, mwachitsanzo, kubwebweta ndi ndalama zotsimikizika kapena zachikondi kapena cholinga m'malingaliro, mutha kupeza mawu olimba mtima komanso okopana. Tiyeni tiyang'ane nazo, tonse ndife oletsedwa pang'ono palemba.
Chinachake chotsatira, 'Mukunditumizira chiyani mochedwa kwambiri' ndi emoji yoyenera ikhoza kukhala chitsanzo chabwino kwambiri pamawu. Mwina amayankha kuti 'Chabwino, mutani pamenepo?' kuti mpira upite patsogolo.
Osapeputsa mphamvu ya zilembo ndi ma emojis mu banter. Kufuula modzichepetsa kumasonyeza chisangalalo ndikuwonetsa kuti ndinu okondwa kulankhula nawo. Ndipo zowonadi, ma emojis ndi ma gif ali ndi malo awoawo apadera padziko lapansi lolemba mameseji.
Kutumizirana mameseji ndi njira yotetezeka ngati banter sabwera kwa inu mwachibadwa ndipo ndi njira yopulumukira ngati simuli mwa munthu amene mukumenyana naye. Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, zala zanu zitha kukhala mabwenzi anu abwino kwambiri padziko lonse lapansi.
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Pokhala ndi zokamba zambiri za zomwe ndi banter, ndikofunikiranso kuyang'ana zoyipa zake. Banter ikhoza kukhala yovulaza kapena yovulaza ngati onse awiri sali patsamba limodzi. Ndiko kuti, ngati munthu mmodzi amasangalala ndi kuseka, koma winayo satero, palibe kufanana ndipo palibe amene angasangalale nazo.
Banter kuntchito ingakhalenso mdima chifukwa malire ndi mafunso omwe ali oyenera ndi osiyana. Zomwe zimaoneka ngati zopepuka ndi zonyoza kwa munthu wina zingakhale zosayenera kwa wina.
Komanso, 'kunyoza' kungagwiritsidwe ntchito molakwika kupangitsa wina kudzimva kuti ndi wamng'ono kapena kumuchititsa manyazi chifukwa cha maonekedwe ake kapena momwe alili. Kumbukirani, kunena mawu achipongwe onena za maonekedwe a munthu, kavalidwe kake, malingaliro ake, ndi zina zotero, sizitanthauza kunyoza.
Banter, pamapeto pake, amakhala pachiwopsezo komanso kumasuka. Ngakhale simukuyembekezera zotsatira zachikondi kapena zogonana, mukuchitapo kanthu ndikudziyika nokha. Chiwopsezo cha kukumana ndi kukanidwa, kapena kusayankhidwa, kumakhalapo nthawi zonse, ndipo simungathe kuthawa.
M'mawonekedwe ake abwino komanso oyera, banter ndi njira yosangalatsa yopitira kumakambirano opindulitsa ndi maubale, odzazidwa ndi kumasuka komanso kuseka. Chifukwa chake, ngati mukuyang'ana kubwereketsa kuchipinda, kukambirana, kapena ngakhale m'moyo wanu, musayang'anenso zamatsenga abwino.
Ibibazo
Banter ikhoza kukhala njira yopezera kukopana chifukwa ndizosangalatsa, kukambirana kosavuta. Bwerani ndi mzere wabwino wotsegulira, osataya mphamvu, ndipo dziwani nthawi yoti muyime. Ndikofunikiranso kuyeza thupi la munthu winayo ndi mayankho ake kuti muwonetsetse kuti simukudutsa. malire.
Kunyoza kwamtengo wapatali ndi pamene mukukangana ndi ndalama zenizeni zachikondi kapena zamaganizo ndi/kapena zolinga. Choncho, ngati inu anakantha kukambirana ndi munthu pa chibwenzi app, kapena ndi munthu kale chikondi umagwirira ndi, inu mukudziwa kuti muli ndi chidwi pa wina, kapena mukufuna kukhala, ndi kuti banter izi si chifukwa cha izo.
Yesetsani kusokoneza mawu anu potumiza ma emojis kapena ma gif okongola. Sewerani nawo powauza kuti mwawona mphaka wokwiya ndipo wakukumbutsani. Asekeni ndi nthabwala za corny kapena kukopana ndi memes.
Kulankhulana mopanda mawu ndi njira yabwino yoyambira kukambirana, kapena kupitiriza zomwe mudakumana nazo pamaso ndi maso. Gwiritsani ntchito zilembo zanu kumanja (zifukwa zingapo sizimapweteka!) ndipo khalani owolowa manja ndi ma emojis anu. Koposa zonse, kumbukirani kuonetsetsa kuti ndizosangalatsa komanso zosangalatsa kwa nonse.
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