Momwe Mungasungire Guy Chidwi? Njira 20 Zokuthandizani Kuti Muzichita Bwino

Kodi mungasunge bwanji mnyamata? Amandikumbutsa mawu a nyimbo ya Ali Gatie, "Chiyambireni ndikukumana nanu. Sindingakuiwale. Iwe wakhala ukuthamanga pamtima wanga, ukuthamanga m'maganizo mwanga." Koma mungatani kuti mukhale opanda rendi m'malingaliro a wina munthawi yomwe tili ndi chidwi chochepa, kuleza mtima kochepa, ndi zosankha zambiri?

Ndi zonsezi zikuchitika, ndithudi mungafune kudziwa momwe mungasungire mwamuna kukhala ndi chidwi ndi inu. Poyamba, sankhani munthu amene akufuna kukudziwani kwambiri kuposa bwenzi lanu ndipo mwachiwonekere palibe. Osathamangitsa munthu yemwe amasewera malingaliro. Pitani kwa munthu womveka komanso wowona mtima pa zolinga zake. Zingakhale zosavuta kupeza njira zopangira mnyamata kukhala mwa inu pamene mnyamata amene mwamusankhayo ndi woyenera kwa inu.

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Choyamba, kumbukirani, kumusangalatsa sikuyenera kukhala chinthu chokhacho chofunikira pamoyo wanu. Chifukwa ndiye, ngati mwachita zonse zomwe mungathe, ndipo sizikuyenda bwino, musweka mtima. Ndiye mutani? Ikani phazi lanu patsogolo, ndi zomwe. Koma kumbukirani izi, iye si mayeso a litmus pakufunika kwanu. Kutsimikizira kwake kusakhale maziko a momwe mukudzionera nokha. Ubale wanu ndi inu nokha sayenera kukhudzidwa ndi seweroli. Mukakhazikitsa izi m'malingaliro anu, nawa malangizo amomwe mungasungire mnyamata kukhala ndi chidwi ndi inu.

1. Osatsegula nthawi yomweyo

Ndiye mukudabwa momwe mungamusungire chidwi, chabwino? Chabwino, tengani nthawi yanu. Mafilimu akale akale sali olakwa pamene amatiuza kuti titenge pang'onopang'ono. Chinsinsi ndi chidwi ndi zomwe zimatipangitsa kuti tizipitabe. Tsegulani kukongola kwanu pang'onopang'ono. Kula pa iye pang'onopang'ono.

Ayenera kumva ngati akumwa vinyo wabwino m'malo mwa kumwa zakumwa za tequila zomwe zimamugunda nthawi yomweyo, zimamudabwitsa, ndipo zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuti azitha kuzipirira nthawi imodzi. Kuthamanga ndi chimodzi mwa zolakwa zomwe zimachitika kawirikawiri paubwenzi zomwe mungapewe . Zidzawononga chisangalalo osati kwa iye yekha, komanso kwa inu. Chifukwa chake, monga momwe nyimbo ya Russ imanenera, "Yendani pang'onopang'ono, inde inde…"

2. Musakhale opanda chidwi

Pamene mukumva ngati akutaya chidwi, zikhoza kukhala chifukwa chakuti munali otalikirana kale ndipo munapanga mtunda mosadziŵa. Yakwana nthawi yobweretsanso spark tsopano. Ngati mukufuna kuti chidwi chake, ndi kumveka ndi kukondedwa, muyenera kumva mnzanuyo komanso. Maubwenzi okulirapo sangakhale a mbali imodzi.

Izi ndi zomwe zimapangitsa chibwenzi kukhala chosangalatsa komanso chogwirizana. Kulankhulana kogwira mtima kuyenera kukhala pakati pa moyo wanu wachikondi. Nthawi zonse mnzanu akamagawana nanu zinazake, osangomubwereka khutu basi. Mpatseni chisamaliro chanu chonse. Nazi njira zina zomwe mungapewere kusayanjanitsika muubwenzi wanu:

• Manganinso zonse mitundu ya ubwenzi kuphatikizapo luntha ndi maganizo 
• Mpatseni malo aumwini nthawi iliyonse yomwe ikufunika
• Musataye chidwi ndi kusiyanitsa pamene akulankhula mwachidwi zomwe amakonda
• Mufunseni mafunso otsatila pakapita nthawi yocezayo kuti angodziŵa kuti munalipo m’maganizo 

3. AYI kwambiri mpaka kusimidwa

Ngati mukufuna kuti wina azikukondani, dziwani kuti kusimidwa ndi vuto lalikulu. Taganizirani izi. Ndi liti pamene munayamba mwafunako kupita pachibwenzi ndi munthu amene amasefukira ma DM anu usana ndi usiku ndikuwonetsa chidwi kwambiri, osakudziwani? Osadzikuza, koma osaumirira; Musamayembekezere yankho lake. Pitani inu. Ndikhulupirireni, vibe ya kudzikonda ndi kukhala wokondwa pakhungu la munthu zimangowoneka. Apanso, izi sizikutanthauza kuti mumamunyalanyaza dala ndikusewera masewera amphamvu. Zimangotanthauza kuti musapezeke kwa iye nthawi zonse pamtengo wa ntchito yanu, anzanu, ndi zomwe mumakonda.

Muli ndi chizolowezi. Kungakhale kupita ku kalasi yovina, kupita ku maphunziro, kapena kugwira ntchito mwakhama pa ntchito yanu. Osaikira kumbuyo zochitikazo kapena kutaya chidwi chanu chifukwa chakuti ali m'moyo wanu. Iye sali pakati pa dziko lanu. Iye ali chabe chitumbuwa pamwamba pa keke, keke kukhala moyo wanu wokhutitsidwa kale. 

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4. Funsani mafunso

Imodzi mwa njira zomwe mungapangire mwamuna kukhala mwa inu ndikupitilira zomwe muli. Osapanga zokambirana zonse za inu nokha. Dziwani mbali zake zomwe anthu sangazidziwe. Khalani womvetsera wabwino. Osamangonamizira chidwi koma tengerani chidwi cha munthu pomvetsera moona mtima. Ngati nonse mwakhala mukukambirana kwakanthawi ndipo mwayamba kukambirana momasuka, mutha kuyamba kudziwa malingaliro ake. Palibe njira yolakwika kapena yolondola yofunsira mafunso oterowo. Nazi zitsanzo:

• Kodi zina mwazokonda zanu ndi ziti?
• Kodi mumakhulupirira kuti kuli Mulungu?/N’chiyani chinakupangitsani kukhala wosakhulupirira kuti kuli Mulungu?
• Kodi n’chiyani chimakupangitsani kukhala wosangalaladi?

5. Khalani osadzikhululukira nokha

Ngati mukufuna kukhala pachibwenzi chokhalitsa, simuyenera kumanamizira kapena kuvala chigoba kuti chikondi chanu chikhale chosangalatsa kwa inu. Simukuyenera kudzilowetsa mumunthu yemwe mukuganiza kuti angafune chifukwa munthu woyenera adzakukondani momwe mulili. Ndipotu, palibe chinthu chokongola kwambiri kuposa anthu omwe ali enieni, opanda mantha, ndi osatetezeka. Kotero, chirichonse chimene inu muli mkati, chisonyezeni icho kunja. 

6. Khalani owona mtima

Masewera amisala ndi ovuta kwambiri. Kodi mungamupangitse bwanji kukhala ndi chidwi? Pewani kusewera masewera, makamaka ngati ndi chibwenzi chomwe chikuyamba kukula. Mutha kupambana mwamuna kudzera mu nzeru zanu zamaganizo ndi kuwona mtima kwanu. Tsopano, zimenezo ndi kusintha kwa khalidwe la mkazi wamtengo wapatali . Khalani oona mtima kwambiri pa zomwe mukufuna kuchokera kwa iye ndi zonse zomwe mwakumana nazo. Simuyenera kunama, kubisala kapena kunyenga kuti mumusunge pachibwenzi. Komabe, ngati mukunena zoona pa zakale zanu, musamusandutse kukhala katswiri wothandiza.

Ndinu mkazi wodzidalira ndiye mukasemphana naye mungomudziwitsa. Mkhalidwe wokondweretsa anthu ndi matamando abodza si njira zopangira mwamuna kukhala mwa inu. Ngati mukuganiza kuti akhoza kuchita bwino ndi luso lake lomvetsera, muuzeni zomwe mukufuna mofatsa. Ingogwiritsani ntchito mawu anu moyenera. Choncho, pali zambiri zimene tingapindule tikamalankhula mokoma mtima.

7. Myamike;

Ngati muli paubwenzi wautali, pali mwayi wachikondi ndi chikondi kuzimiririka. Mutha kudabwa momwe mungasungire munthu chidwi popanda kugona naye, makamaka ngati kugonana ndikofunikira kwa nonse. Mutha kusungabe spark wamoyo ndikumupangitsa kukhalabe ndi chidwi ndi chibwenzicho, pomuthokoza nthawi zonse.

Mayamiko ena okoma komanso okopa kwa amuna omwe mungayesere ndi awa:

• “Kodi sindiwe munthu wanzeru kwambiri amene ndinamuyang’anapo!
• “Ndimakonda mmene umasamalirira anzako”
• “Ukumva fungo labwino, ndikumva ngati ndikunyambita”
• Ukuwoneka wokongola kwambiri, ndikudabwa momwe ukuwonekera wopanda zovala.
• "Ndimakonda momwe umaseka"

Amuna amakonda kuyamikira monga momwe akazi amachitira. Kumadzutsa kudzidalira kwawo, kudziona kukhala ofunika, ndi kudzidalira. Kuyamikira kumagwira ntchito modabwitsa makamaka ngati muli pachibwenzi chatsopano. Zimapangitsa munthuyo kudziwa kuti simukuyesera kusewera molimbika kuti mupeze. M'malo mwake, mukukhala omasuka, olunjika, ndi oona mtima, ndipo mukufuna kukhala ndi ubale wautali. 

8. Gawani zosangalatsa

Macheza nthawi zambiri amatha kuwoneka ngati atalikirana. Chifukwa chake, kulumikizana ndi zinthu zabwino kumatha kukhala kotsitsimula. Mutha kumudziwitsa za dziko la Janelle Monáe ndipo atha kukudziwitsani za dziko la Khalid. Mutha kumudziwitsa za nthabwala za Ashley Gavin ndipo atha kukudziwitsani za kanema wake wapadziko lonse lapansi.

Muthanso kunjenjemera pachilichonse chosangalatsa chomwe mudapanga. Zitha kukhala zomwe wina wa inu adalemba, kujambula, kuyimba, kapena kujambula. Ikhoza kukhala kanema wovina kuyambira ali mwana. Kwenikweni, dziwani kukoma kwake ndipo mulole kuti adziwe zanu. Kuvina pa zaluso ndi anthu osankhika. 

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9. Mgwirizano pa ubwana

Ubwana wa munthu ungakuthandizeni kwambiri kuwamvetsa. Ndipotu, ubale wathu ndi anthu nthawi zambiri umachokera ku ubale womwe tinali nawo ndi makolo athu kapena umene makolo athu anali nawo. Dziwani komwe akuchokera. N’chifukwa chiyani ali momwe alili? Kodi sadzidalira pa chiyani? Kodi ndi zinthu ziti zomwe amavutika nazo? Mafunso amenewa angakhale ovuta kufunsa mnyamata , koma muloleni alankhule nanu ndipo akhale wotetezeka kwa inu.

Aliyense ali ndi mavuto ake. Osamupatsa malangizo osawapempha. Ingosiyani zonse zomwe zili m'botolo zituluke. Mwatsoka amuna amaphunzitsidwa kupondereza malingaliro awo. Pamapeto pake, zomwe amafunikira ndi munthu yemwe amawalola kumva malingaliro awo onse.

Zimandikumbutsa za filimu ya Before Sunrise , yomwe kwenikweni imangokhudza zokambirana pakati pa anthu awiri. Pali chochitika chomwe Celine akuuza Jesse kuti, "Ndikukhulupirira kuti ngati pali Mulungu wamtundu uliwonse, sizingakhale mwa aliyense wa ife, osati inu kapena ine koma malo ochepa chabe pakati. Ngati pali matsenga amtundu uliwonse padziko lapansi, ziyenera kukhala poyesa kumvetsetsa wina, kugawana china chake. Ndikudziwa, sizingatheke kupambana ... koma ndani amasamala kwenikweni? Yankho liyenera kukhala poyesa."

10. Mufunseni maganizo ake

Izi zimamudziwitsa kuti ndi wofunika. Kodi simukonda akavala malaya omwe mumakonda kwambiri paulendo wanu? Kapena akamayitanitsa chakudya chanu chomwe mumakonda? Mofananamo, mutha kumufunsa kuti “Ndiyenera kuvala chiyani ku phwando lotsatira?” (ndi kumupatsa zosankha zingapo) kapena “Ndi chithunzi chiti mwa izi chomwe ndiyenera kuyika pa Instagram?” Zingakhale zofunika kwambiri kwa iye. Musamulole kuti akhale ndi zifukwa zoti anene kuti, “Sindikumva kuti ndikukondedwa kapena kulemekezedwa.”

11. Adziwe kuti si iye yekha

Kafukufuku wachitika pa ophunzira aku koleji omwe anali pachibwenzi chokhalitsa asanakwatirane, kuti adziwe mgwirizano pakati pa nsanje ndi kuyandikana kwa ubale. Kafukufukuyu adafotokoza makhalidwe abwino ndi oipa a nsanje yachikondi, ndikusiyanitsa bwino nsanje yamaganizo/yochitapo kanthu ngati nsanje “yabwino” ndi nsanje yokayikitsa/yokayikitsa ngati “yoipa. ”

“Nsanje pang'ono muubwenzi wabwino ndi yabwino,” akutero katswiri wa zamoyo komanso mphunzitsi wa maubwenzi Helen Fisher, Ph.D., wolemba buku lakuti Why We Love . Iye akuwonjezera kuti, “Zidzakudzutsani. Mukakumbutsidwa kuti mnzanu ndi wokongola komanso kuti muli ndi mwayi, zingakulimbikitseni kukhala wokoma mtima [ndi] wochezeka. Komabe, nsanje ikakhala yosatha, yofooketsa, komanso yowonekera - chabwino, pamenepo imakhala vuto. Munthu woyenera sadzalola nsanje kuwononga ubale wabwino.”

Choncho, musachite manyazi kunena mobisa za anthu omwe akukutumizirani uthenga wa pafoni kapena kukumenyani m'moyo weniweni. Palibe vuto kugwiritsa ntchito njira zanzeru kuti mumupangitse kukhala ndi nsanje . Ndipotu, ayenera kudziwa kuti ndi mwayi kukhala nanu ndipo sayenera kunyalanyaza ndikukutengani ngati chinthu chopepuka.

12. Khalani wokhazikika ndipo yesetsani kuchitapo kanthu

Nthawi ndi nthawi, munyamule ndikutuluka naye pa tsiku losangalatsa. Muloleni iye kukhala pampando wokwera nthawi zina ndi kutsogolera. Kupatula apo, si udindo wake kupanga ntchito zonse zokonzekera tsiku nthawi zonse.

Adadabwa ndi maluwa ndi chokoleti kuntchito. Mutsegulireni chitseko. Kokani mpando kwa iye. Mgwireni zikwama zake zogulira. Ndi kuti kumene kwalembedwa kuti iye ndiye amene angachite zonsezi? Chivalry sikuti ndi mwayi wamtundu wachimuna, mukudziwa.

13. Yang'anirani kuchipinda

Kodi mwatenga udindo wa goody-two-shoes mwapadera masiku ano? Ngati ndi choncho, ndiye kuti n’zosadabwitsa kuti anayamba kuganiza zoona munthu wina. Yakwana nthawi yoti ayambenso kukukondani poyang'anira kuchipinda. Dziwani kuti izi zibweretsanso gawo la honeymoon. Pansipa pali zina zomwe mungachite kuti moyo wanu wogonana ukhale wosangalatsa:  

• Tulukani m'malo anu otonthoza ndikuyesera kuyesa zinthu zosiyanasiyana
• Mufunseni zomwe zimamusangalatsa ndipo fufuzani malingaliro ake
• Momwemonso, mumamuuzanso zomwe mumaganiza komanso zokhumba zanu
• Yesani sewero kapena zoseweretsa zogonana 

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14. Kodi mungatani kuti mukhale ndi chidwi ndi mnyamata? Kusewera

Mukukumbukira khalidwe la Barbara mu Don Jon ? Anali katswiri pa luso lokopa. Sungani munthu amene akukukondani mwa kumuseka pang'ono. Kusangalala mochedwa sikulakwa. Mupangitseni kuti agwire ntchito. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zosavuta zomwe mungachite kuti amuthandize kumva bwino za inu.

Choncho musachite mantha kusewera. Kafukufuku wina amalankhula za machitidwe okopana omwe amasonyeza kukopana kwa thupi monga kupingasa miyendo, kugwirana chanza, kuwerama patsogolo, kusewera ndi zinthu, kumwetulira monyodola apa, ndi kuseka ndi kuseka pamenepo, ndi zina zotero.

15. Kuyamikira ndi kutsimikizira

Kodi mungatani kuti mwamuna akhale ndi chidwi popanda kugona naye? Onetsani kuyamikira zinthu zazing'ono zomwe amachita. Tikukhala kale m'dziko lovuta. Kuyang'ana pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti kungatipangitse kumva kuti sitingakwanitse. Choncho, musaiwale kukhala osamala komanso oyamikira zabwino zomwe ali nazo. Kutsimikizira mnzanu ndi njira imodzi yolimbikitsira chitetezo chamaganizo muubwenzi wanu.

Munganene kuti: “Ndaona kuti mwakhala mukugwira ntchito mwakhama kwambiri. Kapena “Ndikudziwa kuti simuphika nthawi zambiri, koma sipaghetti imeneyi ndi yodabwitsa kwambiri.

16. Dziwani mabwenzi ake

Popeza kuti anzake ndi ofunika kwambiri kwa iye, zingakhale bwino kuti akuoneni inu nonse mukugwirizana. Kodi sizodabwitsa pamene bwenzi lanu lapamtima livomereza mwamuna wanu? Zomwezo zimapitanso kwa iye. Ngati mumalemekeza mabwenzi ake ndi kuyamikira malo awo m’moyo wake, zidzam’dziŵitsa kuti ndinu wofunika kwambiri kwa iye.

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17. Kugawana zofooka wina ndi mzake

Maubwenzi okondana sangakhalepo osaulula zenizeni zanu kwa wokondedwa wanu. Ndicho chifukwa chake ndikofunikira kwambiri kugawana zofooka zanu ndi kusatetezeka kwanu ndi mwamuna amene mumamukonda. Chifukwa ngati sutero, iye sadzakudziwani inu weniweni. Limbikitsani ubale wanu mozama mwa kukulitsa chiwopsezo, motero muuzeni kuti mumamukhulupirira kwambiri.

Komanso, mungamulimbikitse kuti achitenso chimodzimodzi. Pangani malo otetezeka kuti atsegule ndikusiya tcheru chake. Osamukankhira ndipo musagwiritse ntchito zofooka izi motsutsana naye. Khalani thanthwe lake mwa kupereka chichirikizo chamalingaliro ndi mwa kungokhala pamenepo kwa iye. 

18. Sungani zokometsera pa mameseji 

Kodi mungamupangitse bwanji kukhala ndi chidwi? Konzani masewera anu otumizirana mauthenga . Ngati simungathe kukhala ndi nthawi yocheza pamasom'pamaso chifukwa cha zochita zambiri, ndiye kuti muzisangalala kuposa mauthenga. Mutha kumukopa ndikumutumizira mauthenga oipa kuti muwonjezere chikondi. Mutumizireni chithunzi chokongola cha inu. Kapena chokongola. Zonse ziwiri zimagwira ntchito ngati chithumwa!

19. Muphikireni iye 

Ngakhale mutasankha kuchita zinthu pang'onopang'ono, mutha kuchitabe zinthu zomwe zingamupangitse kupenga za inu. Chimodzi mwa zinthu zomwe mungachite ndi kuphika chakudya chokoma. Sichiyeneranso kukhala chakudya chomwe amachikonda kwambiri. Ingophikani chilichonse chomwe mukudziwa kukonzekera bwino, ndipo adzamva kuti ndi wapadera komanso wothokoza. Iyi ndi imodzi mwa njira zochepa zomwe mungasonyezere kuyamikira ndi chikondi kwa wokondedwa wanu.

20. Yang'anani bwino kwa iye 

Sungani mwamuna wanu akukufunani poyang'ana bwino kwa iye. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kumangosilira nthawi zonse. Tikutero chifukwa n’kwachibadwa kukhala womasuka ndi bwenzi lako lomwe wakhalapo kwa nthawi yaitali n’kuyamba kumuona ngati bwenzi lakale. Icho si chinthu choipa. Zikutanthauza kuti nonse muli ndi chisamaliro chabwino komanso gulu. 

Komabe, ndikofunikira kuti mupitirize kukopa mtima wa mwamuna wanu nthawi ndi nthawi ndikumupangitsa kuti ayambenso kukondana mwa kusunga mawonekedwe abwino kwambiri nthawi zina. Mukumbutseni chifukwa chake adakukondani poyamba. Valani bwino, nunkhirani bwino, ndipo zinthu zizikhala zosangalatsa.

Cody Francis ankadziwa zomwe ankayimba: "Tikhoza kuchita pang'onopang'ono. Onetsetsani kuti tachita izi moyenera. Ndinathetsa zolinga zanga zonse. Kuti ndikhale nanu usikuuno. Choncho khalani ndi ine. Mulankhule mpaka m'mawa. Kumanga chemistry ... "Tiyeni titsirize ndi mawu awa, "Kuti timvetsetse ndizotheka mtundu waukulu wa chiyanjano." Chifukwa chake, kuyesa kwanu kumumvetsetsa ndikokwanira kuti akhale wokondweretsedwa. Khalani wodziwikiratu, woona mtima, wofuna kudziwa zambiri, komanso woona mtima kwambiri, wosakhululuka. Inu muli nacho ichi.

Izi zidasinthidwa mu Meyi 2023.

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