Pambuyo popita ku maulendo ambiri, tonse takumana ndi vuto lalikulu m'chipindamo - Kodi ndife chiyani? Kodi tili kuti? Kuyankha mafunso awa kungakhale kovuta kwambiri.
Mumakhala pachiwopsezo chofunsa kuti "Kodi tili pachibwenzi?" Koma panthawi imodzimodziyo, simungachitire mwina koma kudabwa ngati muli. Chabwino, musadandaulenso. Nazi zizindikiro 12 zomwe mukufunikira kuti mukambirane TSOPANO!
Mwinamwake mwasokonezeka kuti mukambirane nkhaniyo kapena ayi, kapena mukuvutika ndi momwe mungayankhire. Mavuto onsewa atha ndi nsonga mukamaliza kuwerenga nafe pano.
Kodi Tili pachibwenzi? Zizindikiro 12 Zosonyeza Kuti Mukuchita Chibwenzi Mosavomerezeka
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Zizindikiro zomwe muli pachibwenzi mosavomerezeka zimakhala zovuta kuzigwira. Mutha kukhala mukuchita kale zinthu zonse zomwe maanja amachita limodzi, kaya kugula golosale kapena kupita ku kanema. Koma kachiwiri, kubisala kumbuyo kwa mawu akuti “mabwenzi apamtima” kungapusitse nonse awiri.
Komanso, kusiyana pakati pa zibwenzi wamba ndi "kungocheza" sikunakhazikitsidwenso mwala. Kodi abwenzi angapite kukacheza? Ngati atero, mwina ali kale ndi “chibwenzi” popanda kuzindikira, sichoncho?
Pali mpata pakati pa ubwenzi wapamtima/ubwenzi wachikondi ndi ubale. Malo a limbo ndi zomwe ndimakonda kuzitcha 'The Arena of Ambiguity'. Palibe chotsimikizika apa, chifukwa chake, chilichonse chikhoza kuchitika.
Kukula kwa zotheka mu Arena of Ambiguity ndikodabwitsa. Zinthu zitha kuyenda bwino kwambiri kapena zowopsa kwambiri. Momwe mungachitire ndi Arena zili ndi inu - koma ndikulangizani kuti musachedwepo nthawi yayitali.
Kukonda kwaposachedwa kwa chikondi popanda zilembo ndichinthu chomwe ndimayesetsa kumvetsetsa, koma pali nthawi zina pomwe okwatirana amakhala ogwirizana kwambiri kuti asapange! Ngati mukuyang'ana kutuluka mu Arena, ndikuyembekeza kufotokozera ubale wanu - sindikudikirani. Izi ndi zizindikiro 12 zomwe muli pachibwenzi mosavomerezeka. Adzakuuzani ngati mukufuna kufunsa, "Kodi tili pachibwenzi?!"
1. Anthu amaganiza kuti muli limodzi
Anyamata inu mukakhala limodzi, kodi alendo amakuuzani kuti mumapanga peyala yokongola? Mwina anzanu anzako amaganiza kuti muli pachibwenzi. Kapena mumalakwitsa ngati mbalame zachikondi mukapita kukadya.
Inde, si chizindikiro chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zoti ndinu okwatirana mwalamulo, koma anzanu akamakusekani chifukwa chokhala limodzi nthawi zonse , mwina pali chinachake pamenepo. Nthawi zambiri, anzanu adzakhala anthu oyamba kuzindikira zomwe zikuchitika pakati panu awiriwa.
Anthu omwe ali pafupi nanu amadziwa bwino za momwe zinthu zilili. Ngati anthu akuona kuti pali zinthu zambiri pakati panu - mukuyembekezera chiyani? Ichi ndi chizindikiro chotsimikizika chakuti muli pachibwenzi ndipo simukudziwa.
2. Banja lako likuwadziwa (ndi kutsutsana nawo)
Ngati munakumanapo ndi makolo a wina ndi mnzake nthaŵi zokwanira kunena kuti pali kudziŵana kwabwino, ndiye kuti simulinso 'kucheza' ndipo mwapyola siteji imeneyo. Amayi anu amamva mukuwatchula pafupipafupi ndipo mwina amavomereza!
Kodi abambo awo adatumiza pempho laubwenzi pa Facebook? Ngakhale iye akuyembekezera inu nonse kutenga sitepe yotsatira patsogolo. Makolo amadziwa bwino - kumvetsera kwa iwo. Komanso, makolo anu akayamba kukusekani chifukwa chokhala ndi munthu ameneyu nthawi zonse, mukhoza kumangoona ngati chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zoti muli pachibwenzi. Amatha kuyizindikira patali patali, mwina simunadziwebe.
Ngati mwasokonezeka kwambiri poyesa kuyankha funso lakuti, “Kodi tili pachibwenzi kapena tikucheza?” mwina pitani mukafunse makolo anu kuti akuganiza bwanji za munthu ameneyu. Mawu omwe amasankha adzakuuzani zonse zomwe muyenera kudziwa.
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3. Nonse mumakhala limodzi, ndizopusa
Mumakhala maola 24 patsiku, masiku 7 pa sabata. Komabe mukumva kufunika kofunsa kuti “Kodi tili pachibwenzi?” Kupatula nthawi yochuluka, khalidwe lake ndi lofanana kwambiri. Mwina mukuchita kale zinthu za awiriawiri monga kudya chakudya cham'mawa, kuyenda maulendo ataliatali, kuyenda pagombe…
Ngati wina ayang'ana kunja, amangoganiza kuti muli pachibwenzi chenicheni. Zoonadi, mabwenzi apamtima amathera nthawi yambiri ali ndi wina ndi mzake, koma nthawi zonse samakhala ogwirizana. Mwatsala pang'ono kukhalira limodzi pamlingo womwe mukupita. Zonsezi ndi zizindikiro kuti muli pachibwenzi mosavomerezeka.
4. Mumadziwana ndi mabwalo a anzanu
Ndipo anzanu amakutumizani nonse! Mafotokozedwe ophimbidwa kapena kunyodola kofala nthawi zonse pamene dzina la munthu wina likubwera pokambirana. Mwakumana ndi ma bffs anu ndipo mwina mumatumizirana mameseji ndi iwo.
Pali mwayi wotsimikizika kuti abwenziwa akuyang'ana momwe ubale wanu ukuyendera ngati sitcom. Mwina akudziwa kale kuti inu awiri ndinu ochulukirapo kuposa abwenzi, komanso kuti ubale wanu umawoneka kwa wina aliyense koma inu. Musadabwe kwambiri anzanu akamakuuzani kuti, “Ndinakuuzani” mukamaliza chibwenzi.
5. Amathamanga m'maganizo mwanu nthawi zonse
Aaaaa...ndipo tsopano zafika zenizeni. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zosonyeza kuti muli pachibwenzi mosadziwa. Nthawi iliyonse ndikatsala pang'ono kuyamba chibwenzi ndi munthu wina, ndimadziona kuti ndili ndi maganizo olakwika...Nthawi yonse! Ndipo ndizovuta kwambiri! Mukayamba kukondana ndi munthu wina, mumakumana ndi zofanana.
Ngati mukuyang'ana zizindikiro kuti muli pachibwenzi mosavomerezeka ndipo mwachita bwino kunyalanyaza nthabwala zonse zomwe anzanu amachita za inu awiri, mupeza yankho mumutu mwanu. Kodi mumaganizira kangati za munthuyu masana? Mwayi wake, mwina mukudziwa kale kuchuluka kwa zomwe mumachita.
Ngakhale kusokoneza maloto kumakhala kosangalatsa, ndimadzikumbutsa kuti ndiyenera kupita kukafunsa - kodi tili pachibwenzi? Koma ine kubetcherana inu mukudziwa kale zimene ine ndikunena. (*kuseka*)
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6. Nonse ndinu munthu wongoyenderana
Izi ndi zokongola. Ndimakonda kwambiri ngati okondedwa athu ali anthu omwe timawauzira zakukhosi. Mwina amalandila zosintha zofunika za tsiku lanu, ndipo palibe vuto lomwe sangawathetse.
Chikhulupiriro chomwe muli nacho ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zabwino kwambiri zoti muli pachibwenzi chosaloledwa. Ubale wanu uli ndi makhalidwe onse omwe amabweretsa chimwemwe ndi chikondi.
Ngati wokondedwa wanu ndi munthu amene mumamukhulupirira, ndiye kuti mufunse funso lofunika kwambiri; "Tili pachibwenzi kapena ndi anzathu?" koma tikukulangizanibe kuti muchite zimenezo mosamala. Zedi, kukhala wokhoza nthawi zonse kuululira zakukhosi kwa munthu kungasonyeze kuti inu nonse ndinu “oposa abwenzi,” koma n’zothekanso kuti munthuyu angangokuonani ngati bwenzi osati zambiri.
Chifukwa chake ngati mukukakamira kwambiri poyesa kupeza zizindikiro zomwe muli pachibwenzi popanda kudziwa, mutha kulola kuti kukondana kwanu kukhale momwe zilili kale. Ngati zili zomveka, mwina simuyenera kufunsana mafunso ngati, “Kodi tili pachibwenzi kapena tikucheza? ndipo zinthu zidzafika pochitika.
7. Mukuyang'ana mwachangu zifukwa zokhalira nawo
Kodi 'mwangozi' munayiwala chojambulira chanu pamalo awo? Kapena 'mwadzidzi' mumalakalaka ayisikilimu pafupi ndi nyumba yawo. (Ayi, sindinachite chilichonse mwa zinthu izi, siyani kundivutitsa.)
Mwina kuyendetsa kunyumba kwawo tsiku lililonse kwakhala mwambo, ndipo mumadziwa kale kuti muli pachibwenzi chachikulu.
Ngati simukupeza chifukwa chowaonera, mumapanga chimodzi. Ine ndikudziwa izi, inunso mukudziwa izi, ndipo iwonso amadziwa. Chikondi chanu chosalakwa ndi mnzanu chakhalapo kwa nthawi yayitali. Ingovomerezani kuti simukungocheza.
8. Lingaliro la iwo ndi munthu wina limakusandutsani kukhala chilombo chamaso obiriwira
Tsopano ndiroleni ine ndimveketse china chake apa – sindikutanthauza kuti musandulike kukhala chilombo chamaganizo, chodzala ndi ukali. Ndikungotanthawuza kuti chiyembekezo chakuti iwo ali pachibwenzi ndi munthu wina - aliyense - amakupangitsani kukhala osamasuka. Kusapeza bwino uku ndikungopereka kwakufa - chizindikiro kuti muli paubwenzi ndipo simukudziwa.
Mumawakhulupirira kuti asayang'ane kwina kulikonse, koma ngati munthu wokongola atawagunda, maso anu amachepera nthawi yomweyo. Ndikukupemphani kuti muwafunse (chifukwa nthawi yakwana kale), "Kodi tili pachibwenzi, sweetie?"
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9. Ndiwe wopambana (ndi wowona mtima kwambiri) mtundu wa wekha mozungulira iwo
Ichi ndiye chiyamikiro chabwino kwambiri chomwe mungapatse munthu - kutsimikizika. Mukulolera kukhala pachiwopsezo chowazungulira, kuwapatsa chidziwitso chaumwini wanu weniweni. Ichi ndi chizindikiro cholimba kuti muli pachibwenzi popanda kudziwa.
Taganizirani izi, mukakhala paubwenzi ndi munthu wina, nthawi zina mukhoza kupeŵa kulankhula zinthu zingapo chifukwa sadziwa kuti adzachita chiyani. Koma ngati ubale wanu ndi munthuyu uli wovuta kwambiri kuposa "abwenzi okha," mwina simukuganiza zachiphamaso. Ndinu omasuka nawo kale - mwakuthupi komanso m'malingaliro.
Kuchuluka kwa chidaliro chomwe ichi chimafuna ndi chosaneneka. Ngati mukuyang'ana zizindikiro mtheradi muli unofficially pachibwenzi munthu, izo sizikhala bwino kuposa inu kutha kwathunthu kukhala nokha pamaso pa munthu uyu. Tingonena kuti anyamata muyenera kusonkhana mwachangu!
10. Simusamala za anthu ena mwachikondi
Mapulogalamu anu opezera chibwenzi ndi akale ndipo mumakana mlendo aliyense wokongola amene angakuyandikireni. Palibenso mabwenzi kapena macheza ausiku umodzi omwe mudzanong'oneza nawo bondo pambuyo pake . Mukudabwa chifukwa chake? Chifukwa mukukonzekera nokha kuti mupange ubale wanu.
Komanso, mungaipeze bwanji nthawi yocheza ndi anthu ena okondana, popeza mumathera nthawi yonseyi ndi munthuyu? Zedi, kuthera nthawi yochuluka ndi munthu sizikutanthauza kuti ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro kuti ndinu okwatirana mwalamulo, koma mu mtima mwanu, mumadziwa kale yankho la funso lakuti, "Kodi tili pachibwenzi kapena mabwenzi?"
11. Moyo wopanda iwo ndi wosayerekezeka
Kupatula nthawi ndi okondedwa kumatulutsa mahomoni osangalatsa monga serotonin omwe amalumikizidwa ndi moyo wathu wabwino. Anthu awa amakhala gawo lofunikira m'miyoyo yathu ndipo sitingayerekeze kudutsa tsiku popanda iwo.
Kumapeto kwa tsiku lalitali kuntchito, kodi kulingalira kukhala ndi ulesi ndi munthu ameneyu kumabweretsa kumwetulira pankhope pako? Simufunikanso kukhala katswiri ubale kudziwa kuti ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro muli pachibwenzi popanda kudziwa panobe. Ngati lingaliro la kusakhala kwawo liri lodetsa nkhaŵa, ndiye kuti ndabwera kudzakuuzani kuti mufunikira kukambitsirana tsopano!
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12. Zambiri mwazomwe mukukonzekera zam'tsogolo muli nawo pachithunzichi
Si mapulani okwatira ndi kukhala ndi ana. Duh! Zikondwerero kapena mapulani a kumapeto kwa sabata kapena ngakhale maholide. Mwina tchuthi chachikondi ku Bahamas kapena ulendo wopita kukagona m'nkhalango usiku wonse. Miyezi 5-6 yotsatira ya moyo wanu imapangitsa kuti izi zigwire ntchito yofunika kwambiri. Konzekerani kufunsa kuti, "Kodi tili pachibwenzi?"
Ngati simunaganizire za nthawi yayitali, ganizirani za nthawi yapakati m'malo mwake. Iwo ali mmenemo, sichoncho? Hmmm…ndinaganiza choncho!
Monga mukuonera, simufunikanso kugwedezeka mwachisawawa kuti pakhale china choposa kungokhala mabwenzi. Zonse, ndikuganiza kuti mndandandawu uyenera kuti udakupatsani chidziwitso chomwe mumafuna. Kodi mwachonga mabokosi angati? Kodi mukuwonetsa zizindikiro zopitilira 5 zakukhala pachibwenzi popanda kudziwa? Chonde, chonde yambani kudabwa ngati muli pachibwenzi kapena anzanu.
Mukawona zizindikiro zokwanira kuti muli pachibwenzi mosavomerezeka, pamabwera gawo lomwe muyenera kudziwa zoyenera kuchita. Tiyeni tipitirire ku gawo lachiwiri la kuthetsa mavuto!
Ndiye...Muzibweretsa Bwanji??
Ndikumva malingaliro akuthamanga m'mutu mwanu ndipo ndikuwuzani kuti mukhale mtendere. Ngakhale kuti ntchito imeneyi yofotokozera ubale wanu ikuwoneka ngati yovuta, ikhoza kutheka ndi chithandizo chochepa. Ndabwera kudzapereka chithandizo chimenecho.
Simungapite kwa mnzanu/mnzanu amene angakhale mnzanu/chibwenzi chanu n’kufuula kuti “KODI TILI PACHIBWENZI KAPENA NDIFE MABWENZI ONSE?” Ndipo pali maganizo ambiri amene mkazi amakhala nawo asanachite zimenezo. Tidzakambirana izi pang’onopang’ono.
1. Choyamba ziwongolereni zonse m'maganizo mwanu - ganizani!
Kudzimveketsa nokha ndi sitepe yoyamba yothetsera vuto lililonse laubwenzi. Chisangalalo chokhala pachibwenzi chosavomerezeka chingakhale chokulirapo chifukwa mumasangalala ndi chidwi chomwe mumapeza. Yakwana nthawi yomwe mudakhala pansi ndikufunsa ngati mukufunadi ubale wautali pompano.
Kodi muli m'malo oyenera kugawana moyo wanu ndi wina? Kuchita zinthu mopupuluma kungakhale kulakwitsa kwakukulu ndipo muyenera kupewa chilichonse. Choncho, musanalankhule nawo, lankhulani nokha.
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2. Funsani mafunso ofunika ochepa: Kodi ndi onse awiri? Kapena wathanzi?
Musanadumphe ndikufunsa kuti, "Kodi tili pachibwenzi?", Muyenera kuyankha mafunso ena angapo poyamba. Mukuwunika zizindikiro 12 zomwe muyenera kuyankhula - munali ndi cholinga? Kapena munangoganizira mmene mukumvera?
Onetsetsani kuti zokopazo ndizogwirizana ndipo simukuwerenga zinthu zomwe kulibe. Izi ndi zolakwika m'bale wanga wokondedwa ndipo ndatopa kumuuza zina.
Komanso, ganizirani ngati mphamvu zomwe nonse muli nazo ndi zabwino. Kodi mukungokondana , kapena muli pachibwenzi ? Kodi kulowa muubwenzi kudzakhala kwabwino kwa inu nonse? Kaya mukuchita bwino limodzi kapena ayi ndi udindo wanu kusankha.
3. Khalani owona mtima ndi achindunji m'machitidwe anu
Kukambirana ngati zimenezi kungakhale kochititsa mantha kuyambitsa, koma musamangokhalira kukangana. Khalani olunjika komanso achindunji - "Kodi tili pachibwenzi kapena ndi anzathu?", "Tikuwona kuti izi zikupita kuti?", "Kodi mukuganiza kuti ndi nthawi yoti tifotokoze ubale wathu?"
Kukhala oona mtima n’kofunika, chifukwa amene timacheza naye amakhudza kwambiri moyo wathu. Lolani munthuyu adziwe zonse zomwe mwawona pofufuza zizindikiro zomwe muli pachibwenzi mosavomerezeka ndipo onetsetsani kuti musabise momwe mukumvera. Simukufuna kuyambitsa ubale watsopano pamapazi osadziwika bwino, kuwopa kuti awirinu mungotsala pang'ono kugwedezeka, zomwe zimangopangitsa kuti zinthu zikhale zovuta kwambiri.
4. Musaope zotsatira zake - lankhulani zonse
Pali njira ziwiri zomveka bwino zomwe zokambiranazi zidzachitike. Nonse nonse mungaganize zopangana mwalamulo, kapena mudzasiyana. Chifukwa chofala chimene anthu sayambitsa kukambirana kumeneku n'chakuti 'safuna kuwononga mmene zinthu zilili.'
Ngati mwakonzeka kukhala pachibwenzi chapadera , muyenera kuyambapo. Kumbukirani kuti kusweka mtima kumachira (tikuthandizani) koma kukhala nthawi yayitali mu Arena of Ambiguity sikokhazikika. Musaope zotsatira zake - nenani chilichonse chomwe chili m'maganizo mwanu.
5. Onetsetsani kuti zokambiranazo zikutenga nawo mbali mofanana
Kukambirana kumbali imodzi sikuthandiza konse. Onetsetsani kuti ndi otenga nawo mbali mofanana muzokambirana. Kambiranani zizindikiro zonse zosonyeza kuti muli pachibwenzi osadziwa. Aloleni anene maganizo awo ndi kukaikira kwawonso.
Kumvetsera n'kofunika mofanana ndi kuthandizira! Osakweza mawu kapena kukwiya - nonse muli gulu limodzi chifukwa mukufuna zomwe zili zabwino kwa inu.
Zili ngati zomwe Trent Shelton ananena, “ Ubwenzi umatanthauza kuti mumagwirizana kuti muthandizane, Sizokhudza inu nokha, ndipo sizikhudza iwo okha. Zonse zimakhudza ubale.”
Ndiye inu mukupita. Zikumveka zophweka, chabwino? Ndili ndi chikhulupiriro chonse mwa inu ndipo ndikudziwa kuti mwakwanitsa ntchitoyi!
Muli ndi zokhumba zanga zabwino pazokambirana zomwe mwatsala pang'ono kukhala nazo… Yakwana nthawi yoti mubwere ku Arena of Ambiguity.
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