Kulankhulana ndiye mzati wofunikira kwambiri womwe umapangitsa kuti ubale ukhale wolimba komanso wathanzi. Komabe, pamene ndandanda zotanganitsidwa ndi maganizo otanganitsidwa zikukhala zachizoloŵezi, kukambitsirana kwatanthauzo kaŵirikaŵiri kumakhala m’malo. Mukadakhala ndi mafunso ochepa okhudza ubale wanu, inu ndi mnzanuyo simuyenera kuthera masiku amasiku ano mukuyang'ana mafoni anu.
Chifukwa chake, ngati mukuwona kuti zokambirana zanu ndi SO yanu zikucheperachepera kuti mukambirane zofunikira kapena kupitilira zamba, muyenera kubwereza mndandanda wa mafunso 40 omanga ubale.
Mafunso omangirira awiriwa samangothandiza kumanga ubale wapamtima, koma mafunsowa adzakulitsa ubale wanu. Pamafunso omangira maubwenzi tikutanthauza mafunso omwe amamanga chikhulupiliro mu ubale komanso ubale wanzeru.
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M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
'Ndiye tsiku lanu linali bwanji?'
'Zinali bwino.'
Err...chabwino...
'Kodi ntchito inali bwanji?'
'Chabwino, ntchito inali…inu mukudziwa…yotanganidwa.'
Ummm...
'Muli bwanji?'
'Ndili bwino.'
Kodi zimenezi zikumveka ngati zodziwika bwino? Ngati ndi momwe zokambirana zanu ndi bwenzi lanu zimayendera nthawi zambiri, mumagwidwa mu 'Momwe Msampha'. Zikutanthauza kuti zokambirana zanu zimayenderana ndi kuyang'anana wina ndi mzake ndikukambirana za tsiku ndi tsiku. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti cholinga kulumikizana kudzera mu kulumikizana akusowa.
Komabe, nthawi zina ngakhale anthu olankhula kwambiri amadzipeza kuti akusowa mawu oyenera kuti zokambiranazo ziyende. Ngati ndicho chinthu chomwe muyenera kuchita tsiku ndi tsiku, vuto la kulingalira zinthu zosangalatsa zoti mukambirane limakhala lofunika kwambiri. Yesetsani kuthetsa vutoli ndi mafunso 40 osangalatsa omanga ubale. Mafunso awa adzakulitsa ubale wanu.
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1. Kodi mumakumbukira chiyani muubwana wanu?
Ili ndi limodzi mwamafunso omwe angazamitse ubale wanu pokupatsani chidziwitso pazaka zakukula kwa wokondedwa wanu. Mafunso otere oti athandizire kumanga ubale amakupatsirani chithunzithunzi cha moyo wa okondedwa wanu pamaso panu, ndikukuthandizani kumvetsetsa zambiri zamakhalidwe awo, zomwe amakonda, zomwe amakonda ndi zomwe sakonda.
2. Mukanakhala ndi makina a nthawi, kodi mungayendere zam'tsogolo kapena zam'mbuyo?
A quirky funso kuti ndithu kutaya mfundo zosangalatsa za mmene maganizo mnzanuyo ntchito. Mutha kukhala mukuganiza kuti funsoli lingathandize bwanji kuti mukhale paubwenzi koma yankho likupatsani chiwongolero cha mnzanuyo.
3. Kuyimba foni pavidiyo kapena kuyimba foni - kodi mumakonda iti?
Ngati mutalowa mu mtunda wautali zone, mudziwa zomwe mungayembekezere. Anthu ena amakonda mafoni a pavidiyo, pamene ena amawapezanso pankhope zawo. Izi zikuthandizani kudziwa ngati muli patsamba lomwelo. Mafunso omanga ubale ayenera kuyang'ana pa zinthu zazing'ono zomwe zimadumphira pamakambirano atsiku ndi tsiku, ndipo izi zimaterodi.
4. Kodi lingaliro lanu la tsiku langwiro ndi lotani?
Lembani zolemba pamene mnzanu akufotokozera izi. Zidzakhala zothandiza mukafuna kuwakonzera zodabwitsa kapena kuwawononga ndi zambiri komanso zowakomera. Mafunso otere oti mupange ubale amatsegula mgodi wagolide wozindikira zomwe wokondedwa wanu amakonda, ndikukuthandizani kuti mumvetsetse bwino.
5. Kodi kukumbukira komwe mukufuna kuti mufufute ndi chiyani?
Ili ndi limodzi mwamafunso ovuta kwambiri omanga ubale omwe angabweretse mafupa ena kugwa kuchokera kuchipinda. Ngati wokondedwa wanu akubwera poyankha, ndiye. Mwina, mudzaulula zinsinsi zingapo munjirayi, ndipo izi zidzakupangitsani nonse kumva kuti ndinu olumikizidwa kwambiri.
6. Ngati mungasankhe aliyense padziko lapansi, kodi mungakonde kupita naye pa chibwenzi ndi ndani?
Funso losangalatsa lokha lomwe lingapangitse mayankho osangalatsa, bola ngati mnzanuyo sakusankhani. Ngati ndi nyenyezi yaku Hollywood ndiye mukudziwa kuti amakonda kukongola. Ngati zili ndi wolemba, wojambula kapena wamasewera, ndiye kuti mukudziwa komwe zilakolako zawo zagona. Ziribe kanthu kuti yankho lotani, ili ndi limodzi mwa mafunso omanga ubale omwe angakuthandizeni kudziwa bwino bwenzi lanu.
7. Kodi mumalankhula nokha?
Pali zinthu zina zomwe tonse timachita mmalo mwathu koma timadana nazo kuvomereza kwa ena. Kudziwa zinthu zing'onozing'ono izi kudzakuthandizani kukhala ndi mnzanu bwino. Kudalira mafunso oterowo kuti muthe kukulitsa chibwenzi kungakhale njira yabwino yolimbitsira ubwenzi wanu mutangoyamba kumene chibwenzi ndipo mukudziwanabe.
8. Kodi pali chifukwa cha chikhalidwe chomwe mumachikonda kwambiri?
Awa ndi ena mwa mafunso omwe akulitsa ubale wanu. Ngati wokondedwa wanu ali wokonda kwambiri chifukwa, mudzawalemekeza kwambiri chifukwa cha chidwi chawo komanso chifundo. Ndipo ngati muli patsamba lomwelo, mupeza chinthu chimodzi choti mugwirizane.
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9. Kodi munakomokapo mu bar?
Ndi limodzi mwamafunso a inde kapena ayi kwa maanja. Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti kuyankha kwa monosyllabic kuyenera kukhala kopanda pake. Mutha kumangapo nthawi zonse pofunsa zambiri. Ngati mutafunsa zotsatila zoyenera, mungakhale ndi mafunso angapo okhudza kumanga ubale.
10. Kodi mungakonde kukhala wotchuka ndi chiyani?
Kodi pali woyimba m'chipinda chimodzi kapena wofuna kulemba yemwe wabisala pakona penapake? Funsani, ndipo mudzapeza. Ili ndi funso lozama lomanga ubale lomwe limakuwuzani zokhumba zawo. Njira yabwino yovumbulutsira zokhumba zanu zobisika za SO ndi zokhumba zanu zomwe angakonde kuzibisa.
11. Ngati jini atakupatsani zokhumba zitatu, mungapemphe chiyani?
Tiyerekeze kuti mnzanuyo si munthu amene amati, 'Ndikufuna 3 zofuna zina!' *Kutembenuza maso*. Koma ngati amaseŵera nawo, mungadziŵe chikhumbo chimene ali nacho m’kati mwa mitima yawo. Kaya mukuyang'ana mafunso olimbikitsa maubwenzi kwa okwatirana kapena omwe angoyamba kumene chibwenzi, awa akukwanira bwino.
12. Kodi mumaganizapo za momwe mungafune kufa?
Inde, litha kukhala funso lovuta kufunsa mnzanu. Koma kodi tonsefe sitinaganizepo za kutuluka kwathu m'dziko lino panthawi ina. Dziwani komwe mnzako wayima pa izi. Kupatula apo, mfundo yonse ya izi ndikudzimva kukhala wapamtima komanso wolumikizidwa.
13. Kodi umakhulupirira za moyo wapambuyo pa imfa?
Pamene muli pa mutu wa moyo ndi imfa, afunseni zomwe akuganiza kuti ndizoposa moyo. Kodi pali moyo ukadzatha? Kapena kubadwanso kwina? Awa ndi ena mwa mafunso omanga ubale omwe ali m'malire auzimu. Iyenera kubweretsa mayankho osangalatsa.
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14. Kodi ndi zinthu zitatu ziti zimene mumasirira kwambiri mwa ine?
Mukuyang'ana mafunso ena owonjezera pakupanga ubale? Chabwino, ndani akunena kuti mafunso omanga ubale kwa maanja ayenera kuyang'ana kwa okondedwa anu okha! Pitirizani, tembenuzirani magome, ndi kupanga za inu nthawi ndi nthawi. Funso ili lidzakulitsa ubale wanu.
15. Ndi zinthu zitatu zomwe zikukukwiyitsani kwambiri?
Ili ndi limodzi mwamafunso ofunika kwambiri opangira chikhulupiriro mu ubale. Pofunsa mnzanuyo izi, mukuwapatsa malo otetezeka kuti akhale omasuka komanso oona mtima momwe amakuonerani. Muyenera kuphunzira kutenga zoyipa ndi zabwino. Yang'anani ngati mwayi wogwira ntchito nokha komanso sinthani ubale wanu.
16. Kodi ndi chinthu chimodzi chotani pa ubale wa makolo anu chimene mukufuna kuchichita?
Ndi iko komwe, makolo athu amakhudza kwambiri moyo ndi malingaliro athu. Funso ili lingakulimbikitseni kuti ubale wanu ukhale wabwino, wolimba, komanso wabwinoko. Kupatula apo, chilichonse mwamakhalidwe athu okondana muubwenzi wachikulire chimakhazikika momwe tinaleredwera. Mafunso olimbikitsa maubwenzi oterewa komanso mayankho a mnzanuyo adzakuthandizani kumvetsetsa bwino zomwe amakonda komanso zomwe amakonda.
17. Kodi inuyo mumaona kuti ndinu kholo lotani?
Ngati mulibe ana kapena ali achichepere, ili ndi limodzi mwamafunso omwe angakulitse ubale wanu pokupatsani lingaliro lomveka bwino la momwe tsogolo lanu ndi bwenzi lanu lidzawonekera. Kodi iwo adzakhala munthu wolanga kapena waubwenzi? Kodi udindo wopanga chikondi cholimba udzagwera pa inu?
18. Kodi mantha anu akulu ndi otani?
Ngati mukuyang'ana mafunso oti mukhale paubwenzi, ikani chizindikiro awa. Zidzatulutsa mbali yomwe ili pachiwopsezo cha mnzanu ndikukuthandizani kuti muyandikire kuposa kale. Mafunso oyenera kuthandiza kumanga ubale amakulolani kuti mukande pansi pamtunda ndikuwonadi mnzanu, warts ndi zonse. Izi zikukwanira bwino ndalamazo.
19. Kodi mumaona kuti anzanu amakukondani kwambiri?
Mafunso omanga ubale ayenera kulunjika pakumvetsetsa bwenzi lanu monga munthu payekha - zikhulupiliro zawo, ziyembekezo, maloto, zokhumba zake ndi zina zotero. Chinthu chimodzi chofunika kwambiri pa umunthu wa munthu aliyense ndicho ubwenzi umene ali nawo ndi ena. Lingaliro la aliyense laubwenzi ndi kufanana kwawo ndi anzawo ndizosiyana. Funsoli likuthandizani kumvetsetsa momwe bwenzi lanu limayamikirira zake.
20. Kodi mukuona kuti ubwenzi ndi wofunika pa ubwenzi?
Kunena zoona, maubwenzi okondana omwe onse awiri ali mabwenzi apamtima a wina ndi mnzake ndiwo mtundu wokongola komanso wokwanira. Kuti mukhomereze zimenezo mwa inu, choyamba muyenera kudziwa pamene mnzanuyo waima pa chiphunzitso chonsechi. Mafunso oyenera omangira maubale atha kukhala maziko omwe mungamangirepo ubale wabwino, choncho pindulani nawo.
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21. Nkaambo nzi ncotweelede kubelekela antoomwe anguwe?
Ili ndi limodzi mwamafunso otsimikizika khazikitsani chidaliro mu ubale. Mwayi ambiri abwenzi anganene chinachake pamzere wa 'Sindipumula mpaka nditakupezani'. Koma tcherani khutu kuti malingaliro ake amasokoneza bwanji mnzanuyo ndipo mudzadziwa ngati mungakhulupirire munthu uyu ndi moyo wanu kapena ayi.
22. Kodi ntchito yanu ndi yofunika bwanji kwa inu?
Palibe cholakwika ndi munthu kuyendetsedwa ndi kuyang'ana pa ntchito yake. Ndipotu, ndi zosiririka. Koma pali kusiyana pakati pa kutengeka ndi kutengeka mtima. Funsoli likuthandizani kudziwa komwe bwenzi lanu limagwera pamwambo wofuna kutchuka. Ili ndi funso lofunika kwambiri lomanga ubale.
23. Ndi sitcom iti yomwe mungawone mobwerezabwereza?
Kodi iwo a Friends zimakupiza? Kapena a Seinfeld wotentheka? Kodi amatsamira mokomera Mmene Ndinayambira Ndi Amayi Anu kapena kukumba quirky Big Bang Theory? Dziwani, chifukwa zidzatsimikizira zomwe mungadzachite pa Lamlungu masana ambiri aulesi.
24. Kodi ndi chinthu chimodzi chiti chomwe simungathe kuchita nthabwala?
Tonse tili ndi madera osapita m'miyoyo yathu. A kutha kowawa, mayanjano amphamvu, nkhani yomwe timakonda kwambiri. Gwiritsani ntchito funso lomanga ubaleli kuti mudziwe za mnzanuyo. Ndipo tsimikizirani kuti simudzapeputsanso mbali imeneyi ya moyo wawo.
25. Pizza kapena Chinese?
Chimodzi mwazofunikira kufunsa mafunso awa kapena apo. Izi zingathandize kupulumutsa kusagwirizana kwakukulu pazomwe mungatenge kuti mukawonere kanema kunyumba kapena madzulo komwe mumamva ulesi kwambiri kuphika. Zitha kuwoneka ngati zazing'ono poyerekeza ndi mafunso ena, ovuta kwambiri pakupanga ubale koma sizili choncho. Kupatula apo, simungayembekeze kupanga ubale wokhalitsa ndi munthu yemwe mumakangana naye potengera kutengerako. Kotero, ikani izo pabedi ndi funso ili.
26. Kodi ndi imfa iti yomwe inakusokonezani kwambiri?
Kutaya wokondedwa sikophweka. Pali mwayi woti mnzanuyo adakumana ndi vuto lotere. Ngati mukufuna kuwadziwa mkati, muyenera kukhala okonzeka kufunsa mafunso ovuta. Ili ndi limodzi mwa mafunso abwino opangira chidaliro paubwenzi, chifukwa zipangitsa kuti mnzanuyo azimasuka nanu. Mwa kuwatonthoza, mungawauze kuti angadalire inuyo.
27. Kodi nyimbo yanu yopita nayo ndi iti?
Aliyense ali ndi nambala yomwe amakonda kwambiri yomwe amakonda kusewera pa lupu m'galimoto, kuyimba mu bafa kapena pa bar ya karaoke. Kodi wokondedwa wanu ndi chiyani? Sindikudziwa? Chabwino, ndiye, ili ndi limodzi mwa mafunso omanga ubale omwe muyenera kuphonya pofunsa. Dziwani kuti nyimbo zomwe mumakonda zimafanana kapena zosiyana.
28. Ndi iti pakati pa khofi ndi chokoleti yomwe mungasankhe?
Ubale wina wosangalatsa uwu kapena funso lija lomwe lingapemphe mayankho okhudzika. Izi zidzakuuzani ngati nonse mumakhulupirira mankhwala omwewo. Ngati malingaliro anu amasiyana, konzekerani nkhondo ya mawu.
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29. Kodi mukuona chiyani m’tsogolomu?
Limodzi mwamafunso omangirira olephera omwe angakupatseni chidziwitso chomveka bwino cha momwe wokondedwa wanu amawonera ubale wanu. Komanso, kaya muli patsamba lomwelo za komwe ubalewo ukulowera. Awa ndi ena mwa mafunso othandiza kumanga ubale womwe ungakupatseni lingaliro lomveka bwino la momwe mungachitire khazikitsani ndikuwongolera zomwe mukuyembekezera za tsogolo lanu ngati banja.
30. Kodi maloto anu tchuthi ndi chiyani?
Mafunso omanga maubale atha kukhalanso olunjika pakuwunika zochitika ndi zochitika zomwe mungayesere limodzi. Mwachitsanzo, funso lolota ili liyenera kubweretsa yankho losangalatsa. Ngati mumakonda zomwe mukumva, mutha kuziwonjezera pamndandanda wa ndowa zanu.
31. Ngati mungathe kulemba kalata kwa mwana wanu, kodi munganene chiyani?
Ili ndi limodzi mwa mafunso ovuta omanga ubale omwe angakuuzeni zomwe mnzanuyo amawona ngati kumenyedwa kwakukulu ndi kuphonya kwa moyo wawo mpaka pano. Ngati mukuwona kuti mnzanu wasiya kungokhala wowonekera kwathunthu ndi inu ndipo pali gawo lomwe simungakhudze, funso ili ndi njira yabwino yoyesera kuswa makomawo.
32. Kodi mndandanda wa ndowa zanu zaka 10 zikubwerazi ukuwoneka bwanji?
Kodi akukonzekera kukwera pachimake asanakwanitse zaka 40? Kapena kukhala CEO ndi 35? Kodi dongosolo lawo la moyo limaphatikizapo kukhala pafamu kumidzi yodabwitsa? Yang'anani mozemba za mapulani amtsogolo a mnzanuyo ndi funso ili.
33. Kodi ndi nthawi iti yomwe inali yovuta kwambiri pamoyo wanu?
Ili ndi limodzi mwamafunso omwe angakupangitseni kuti mukhale okondana muubwenzi wanu. Ngati mnzanuyo sanathe kukutsegulirani za mphindi yamdima kwambiri m'moyo wawo, izi zidzawapatsa mwayi woti athetse zopinga zawo ndikulankhula.
34. Kodi chisoni chanu chachikulu ndi chiyani?
Kulephera kulimbana ndi wovutitsayo kusukulu. Kupereka mwayi waukulu wa ntchito. Kusakhalapo kwa mnzako wosowa. Tonse tili ndi mndandanda wachinsinsi wa zochita zomwe timanong'oneza nazo bondo. Ameneyo ndi chiyani amalangidwa zomwe zimapangitsa wokondedwa wanu kugona usiku? Onjezani pamndandanda wamafunso omanga ubale kuti maanja adziwe ndikumvetsetsa SO bwino.
35. Ndi mphamvu yanji imodzi yomwe mungafune kukhala nayo?
Kodi angakonde kukhala munthu wosaonekayo kapena kuchiritsa njala yapadziko lonse? Ndi funso losangalatsa lomanga ubale koma litha kubweretsa zinthu zina zosangalatsa. Nthawi zina mafunso omwe amawoneka ngati opanda vuto pakumanga ubale amatha kubweretsa mavumbulutsidwe ambiri, chifukwa chake musawalole kuti asunthike.
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36. Lingaliro lanu la ubale wangwiro ndi chiyani?
Kuphatikizidwa kwa mafunso omanga ubale sikungakhale kokwanira popanda iyi. Zingakuthandizeni kuphunzira zambiri za zomwe zikuyenda muubwenzi wanu ndi zomwe ziyenera kukonzedwa.
37. Maganizo anu ndi otani pa zachinyengo?
Ngati mukuyang'ana mafunso oti mupangitse kukhulupirirana muubwenzi, simungalole kuti awa asinthe. Kumene, m'malo mwachindunji, koma pankhani nkhani za kukhulupirika, ndi bwino kufunsa ndi kupeza kuposa kukhala mu mdima ndi nthawi zonse kuda nkhawa ngati mnzanuyo adzapereka chikhulupiriro chanu. Ngati muli patsamba lomwelo, chabwino komanso chabwino. Ngati sichoncho, yankho lawo likhoza kukupatsani chakudya chochuluka choganizira za tsogolo lanu limodzi.
38. Mukufuna chiyani muubwenzi?
Kodi mukuwona kuti kwatsala pang'ono kuyimba "Ndiye, ndife chiyani?" funso? Chabwino, ingofunsani izi m'malo mwake. Mafunso osavuta otere omanga maubale atha kukhala njira yabwino yodziwira zomwe okondedwa wanu amayembekeza pachibwenzi. Kodi amawona ngati ubale womwe ungakhalepo kwanthawi yayitali kapena amautenga tsiku limodzi?
39. Kodi chinsinsi chimodzi chimene simunauze aliyense ndi chiyani?
Uwu ndiye muyeso wagolide wamafunso omanga ubale. Ngakhale achenjezedwe kuti sangakhale omasuka kugawana nanu chinsinsi, ndipo simuyenera kuwatsutsa kapena kuchitenga ngati mawu amtundu wina pa mphamvu ya ubale wanu. Koma ngati ataya nyemba, ganizirani momwe zingakufikitseni nthawi yomweyo.
40. Kodi mungakonde kusintha chiyani pa ubale wathu?
Awa ndi ena mwa mafunso olimbikitsa omanga ubale kwa maanja komanso omwe mwangoyamba kumene chibwenzi. Pofunsa mnzanuyo maganizo awo, mukuwasonyeza kuti ndinu okonzeka kusintha. Komabe, onetsetsani kuti simukudzitchinjiriza akakuyankhani mochokera pansi pamtima kapena angakukaikireni ngati angakukhululukireni.
Pofunsa mafunsowa, musamapangitse mnzanuyo kumva ngati akufunsidwa mafunso. Agwiritseni ntchito ngati zomangira zolumikizirana mozama komanso watanthauzo. Bweretsani ndi zolowetsa ndi mayankho anu, lolani zokambiranazo zisokonezeke.
Ibibazo
Anthu okwatirana akhoza kuseŵera limodzi masewera, kupita kokayenda kapena kuphika ndi kuchitira limodzi ntchito zapakhomo kuti ayandikirena.
Mumalumikizana mozama ndi wokondedwa wanu kudzera muubwenzi, pochita zinthu limodzi kapena kuchita zinthu zomwe amakonda kwambiri monga kumvetsera nyimbo kapena kusewera chida.
Mafunso aliwonse omwe amapangitsa ubale wawo kukhala wosangalatsa ndikuwapatsa kanthu kukambirana ndi kukambirana.
Mumalumikizana ndi ena ofunikira mukamapanga chikondi, mukamapita masiku, mukamayendera limodzi komanso mukamakondana zomwe mumakonda monga nyimbo ndi masewera.
Zopereka zanu sizikupanga zachifundo Mphatso. Zilola kuti Bonobology ipitilize kukubweretserani zidziwitso zatsopano komanso zaposachedwa pakufuna kwathu kuthandiza aliyense padziko lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.
