Kuthetsa chibwenzi si chinthu chapafupi kwa aliyense wa ife. Kaya ndi chifukwa cha chikondi chimene chimatsalira, kuopa kukhala wekha, kapena kumamatira mopanda chiyembekezo ku zikumbukiro, kulekana kumakhala kovuta nthawi zonse. Kamvuluvulu wamalingaliro ndi malingaliro atha kukuzingani ndikukupangitsani kufunsa mafunso ambiri m'moyo wanu.
Ndawonapo mabanja akutha pazifukwa zomvetsa chisoni kwambiri. Mtunda uyenera kukhala pamwamba pamndandandawo. Ndizovuta kuvomereza, koma nthawi zina mtunda ukhoza kukhala wochuluka kwambiri kotero kuti umangofunika kudutsa munthu yemwe simunakhalepo naye poyamba. Kusalankhulana pa zoyembekeza kungawonongenso kwathunthu chithumwa cha ubale. Nthaŵi zambiri, kutha kwa mabanja kumachitika chifukwa cha kusokonezedwa kwambiri ndi mabanja ndi mabwenzi. Kukakamizika kwawo, zofuna zawo, ndi kudzudzula kwawo kungawononge ubale wanu ndi tsogolo lanu ndi amene mumamukonda.
Nthawi zina anthu amakumana ndi mavuto ngakhale kuti palibe amene amafuna kuti banja lawo lithe. Ndipo amadabwa kuti, “Kodi mungathetse bwanji kutha kwa banja pamene palibe cholakwika?” Kuti tikupatseni chidziwitso pankhaniyi, tinakambirana ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo Namrata Sharma (Masters in Applied Psychology), yemwe ndi katswiri wa zaumoyo wamaganizo komanso wolimbikitsa SRHR ndipo ndi katswiri wopereka uphungu pa maubwenzi oipa, zoopsa, chisoni, nkhani zaubwenzi, nkhanza za amuna ndi akazi komanso nkhanza zapakhomo.
Namrata akutiuza kuti kukambirana kwamtima ndi wokondedwa wanu komanso kumvetsetsana ndi njira yabwino yothetsera kusweka komwe kunachitika kunja kwa buluu. Iye anati: “Tiyerekeze kuti muubwenzi wotalikirana, mwamuna ndi mkazi saonana kwa nthawi yaitali ndipo pamakhala mavuto ena ambirimbiri.” Choncho, ngakhale kuti panalibe cholakwika chilichonse ndi chibwenzicho, anthu amayamba kusokonekera.
“Kukambitsirana ndi anzanu kumakuthandizaninso kuti musiye kutha kwa chibwenzicho.” Mukudziwa, pali njira ina yothetsera chibwenzi pamene wina amathetsa chibwenzicho ponena kuti, “Si iwe, ndi ine.” Izi mwina zili choncho chifukwa chakuti ali m’kati mongodzipeza okha kapena amafunikira nthawi yoti aziganizira kwambiri za ntchito yawo. njira yothanirana ndi zowawazo kuti potsirizira pake mupitirize.”
Kodi Mungathetse Bwanji Chibwenzi?
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Nthawi zina, kupatukana ndikofunikira. Mwachitsanzo, mwakhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu wina chifukwa mumamukonda koma nonse mukufuna kukhala m'mizinda yosiyana ndipo simukuwonanso tsogolo labwino. Kutalikitsa ubale umenewo ndi kupsyinjika kowonjezereka komwe nonse mungathe kuthetsa.
Ngakhale kusweka kwa banja komwe kumafunika kumabwera ndi kuchuluka kwa kusweka kwa mtima. Kuti mupulumuke kusweka mtima kumeneko , kusunga nzeru zanu m'malo mwake kumakhala kofunika kwambiri. Kaya kusweka kwa banja chifukwa cha mtunda kapena malingaliro anu angogundidwa kumene ndi galimoto, mudzakumana ndi kusintha komwe kumawonekera.
Tinamufunsa Namrata kuti, “Kodi kuthetsa chibwenzicho n’kovutanso kwambiri?” Iye anati, "Ndithudi. Mudzawona m'maubwenzi ambiri okwatirana sakugwirizana pakapita nthawi ngakhale kuti amakondanabe. Mikangano yonyansa imapangitsa kuti pakhale mtunda pakati pawo. Apa muyenera kudziwa ngati mumazolowera poizoni. Kuti muthe kuthetsa chibwenzi ndi munthu amene mumamukonda, choyamba, muyenera kuyamba kutchula zovuta zomwe mukukumana nazo popanda kusokoneza chibwenzicho. mumalingalira zochitika zonse ngati panali zoipa zambiri kuposa zabwino.
"Zidzakupatsaninso malingaliro ngati panali chiyembekezo chokhala ndi tsogolo labwino ndi munthu uyu. Kodi mukufunadi kudziona choncho zaka khumi zotsatira? Dzifunseni nokha. Mukamvetsetsa kuzama kwa zomwe mukufuna, pamapeto pake mutha kulowa mu gawo loyamba la kuthetsa kusudzulana. Tsopano, muyenera kuyamba kuwona tsogolo popanda mnzanu . Ganizirani nokha ngati munthu m'modzi. Zidzakhala ngati kumanga umunthu watsopano kwathunthu."
Kuti athetse kutha kwachangu, anthu ena amapita ku mphamvu yakukhala chete pambuyo pa kutha ndipo ena amakonda kudzizungulira ndi achibale ndi abwenzi kuti machiritso akhale ofulumira. Palibe kanthu! Moyo uyenera kumangopitirira. Dziyeseni fumbi ndikutenga maphunziro ofunikira pakupatukana kwanu. Nazi njira zabwino zothetsera chibwenzi ndi munthu amene mumamukonda.
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1. Musamade nkhawa ndi mnzanu wakale
Kaya mukumva bwanji ngati mukufuna kungowaimbira foni ndi kuwauza kuti mumawakonda, muyenera kusiya kubwerera kwa iwo. Kuti muthane ndi kusudzulana msanga, muyenera kuonetsetsa kuti simukucheza kapena yesetsani kutsatira lamulo loti musalankhulane . Kuganizira zakale ndi kuganizira kwambiri za moyo wa wakale wanu kungokupangitsani kukhala kovuta kupita patsogolo m'moyo.
Kuti muchepetse chiopsezochi, muyenera kusiya kukambirana zam'mbuyomu ndi anthu ndikumakumananso ndi mavuto omwewo. Kufotokozera zowawa zanu ndi kukhumudwa kwanu kwa mnzanu ndi chinthu chimodzi. Koma ngati mukukhala m'masiku amenewo m'mutu mwanu, kukana kuvomereza kutsekedwa, ndiye kuti sikuli bwino mwanjira iliyonse. Nonse munatenga sitepe iyi pazifukwa. Dzichitireni chilungamo nokha ndi tsogolo lomwe liri patsogolo panu.
2. Khalani mtunda ngakhale pa chikhalidwe TV mbiri
Chimodzi mwa zinthu zofunika kwambiri kuti muthetse kusudzulana ndikudziwa momwe zithunzi ndi zolemba za wakale wanu zikukukhudzirani. Kutsatira wakale wanu pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti kuti muwone ngati ali ndi chibwenzi chatsopano kapena akuyenda bwino pa moyo wanu kudzakupangitsani kukwiya mtsogolo.
Kuti muthe kusweka mukadali kuwakonda, muyenera kusamala ndi zochita zanu kuti mupewe kupota kutsika. Kuwonera zithunzi ndi makanema awo ambiri ndi njira yeniyeni yowonongera kupita kwanu patsogolo. Ngati mwakwanitsa kupeza malingaliro anu, palibe chonga icho. Koma ngati mumaganizirabe za iwo nthawi zonse, lingakhale lingaliro labwino kuti mupume pa digito pamapulogalamu anu ochezera.
Kodi kuletsa chibwenzi chanu pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ndiyo njira yabwino yothetsera kutha kwa chibwenzi chanu? Malinga ndi Namrata, "Ndi funso lofunika kwambiri chifukwa ndi chisankho chaumwini. Ngati kutha kwa chibwenzi chanu kunali kwabwino ndipo awiriwa adasankha kukhalabe mabwenzi, kuchoka kwathunthu kungapangitse malo opanda kanthu m'moyo wanu. Chifukwa nthawi zambiri okwatiranawo amakhala m'gulu lofanana ndipo sangapewe wina ndi mnzake kotheratu. Koma ngati kupezeka kwawo pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti kukuoneka kuti kukuvutitsani kapena kukukopani kuti mubwererenso kwa iwo, palibe vuto kuletsa kapena kuchotsa zithunzi zawo."
3. Pewani miseche kuti muthetse chibwenzi
Mphamvu yakukhala chete mutatha kupatukana imakhudza kwambiri, mudzawona. Ngati inu ndi mnzanu wakale munali mu bwalo la bwenzi lomwelo, mwayi udzakhala wokambirana zambiri za moyo wanu ndi kutha kwanu. Kuti mupewe kugwidwa ndi mikangano ya mawu, nkhani, ndi miseche, khalani ndi nthawi yopuma yokambirana kapena kukambirana ndi anthu.
Malingaliro awo angakulepheretseni mphamvu zanu ndikukupangitsani kumva bwino. Maganizo amenewa nthawi zina sangakhale othandiza. Komanso, kumva za zochita zatsopano za wakale wanu, madeti, kapena mnzanu kungakupangitseninso kumva ngati munthu wosadziwika. Musadzipatule, koma dziwani nthawi yoti muthetse kukambirana za chibwenzi chanu chakale . Fotokozani malire anu ndi anzanu, ndipo ngati amakukondani, adzakumvetsani.
4. Osataya nthawi kuyesa kuchititsa nsanje wakale wanu
Kuthetsa kusudzulana mukamawakonda kungakhale kovuta kwambiri. Kuti mugonjetse kukhumudwako, mungafune kukhumudwitsa mnzanu wakale. Ndikofunikira kudziwa kuti zidzakupangitsani kuti mukhale oipitsitsa kuposa momwe mumamvera kale. Kuyika dala zithunzi ndi madeti atsopano kuti mukwaniritse cholinga chowapweteketsa sikukupatsani mtendere womwe mukufuna. Nsanje idzangowonjezera kusakaniza kwa mavuto. Siyani kupikisana ndikuyamba kuyang'ana nokha.
Namrata anati, “ Kuyesa kuchititsa nsanje kwa wakale wanu si njira yabwino yothetsera kutha kwa chibwenzi chanu. Ngati mnzanu wasankha kuthetsa chibwenzicho pazifukwa zinazake, mwanjira ina, n’kunyoza inu. Ndiye, bwanji mudzichepetsere kupusa koteroko pamene muyenera kuda nkhawa ndi kudzilemekeza kwanu? Muyenera kudziwa cholinga chanu chachikulu, kaya mukufuna kutha kwamuyaya kapena chinali chinthu chongochitika kamodzi kokha. Ngati chinali ndewu wamba, muthabe kudzilungamitsa. Kupanda kutero, kuwasiya okha kungakhale chisankho chanzeru.”
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5. Samalani ndi zoyambitsa zowoneka zomwe zikuzungulirani
Pa psychology yotha kutha, malingaliro anu ayenera kukhala pamalo abwino. Ngati nthawi zonse mumazunguliridwa ndi zinthu za mnzanu wakale, malo odyera omwe mumakonda, kapena kuwonera makanema omwe amawakonda, mwayi ndi wakuti malingaliro anu akuthamanga. Zitha kukhala zophweka ngati zonunkhiritsa pa juzi kapena nsapato zomwe zili kuzungulira nyumba yanu. Simuyenera kutaya zinthu izi kapena kubweza mphatso zomwe adakupatsani. Mwina, zingakhale bwino kungochotsa zinthu izi pamaso panu.
Ngati mukuyesera kuthetsa kusudzulana kwanu mwachangu, ndiye kuti kukhala paubwenzi ndi anzanu akale si lingaliro labwino. Musayendetse galimoto kupita kumisewu yakale yomwe munkayenda pansi kapena kudya sushi yomwe amakonda ku lesitilanti yomwe amakonda. Pumulani pang'ono ndipo ngati n'kotheka, pangani malo ndi zochita zanu zatsopano zomwe mumakonda.
6. Kodi kubwezeretsanso kumathandiza kuthetsa chibwenzi?
Limenelo linali funso losamveka chifukwa ayi, sichoncho. Kuti muthetse chisudzulo ndi munthu amene mumamukonda, zingawoneke ngati lingaliro labwino kupeza munthu watsopano woti muzimukonda ndikulowa m'malo mwake. Muli ndi bala latsopano lotseguka ndipo mudzalakalaka kulumikizidwa munthawi ngati iyi. Koma kuwonjezera munthu watsopano pamalingaliro anu opitilira muyeso ndikopanda chilungamo kwa inu komanso kwa iwo.
Chisangalalo cha ubale watsopano sichiyenera kukhudzidwa ndi mabodza amalingaliro omwe mungakhale mukuwapanga. Ubale wobwereranso sungakhale njira yothawira msanga kutha kwa ubale ndi munthu amene mumamukonda kwambiri. Zingawoneke ngati mukukonda kwambiri munthu watsopanoyu koma kuti muthe kutha bwino kutha kwa ubale, mufunika nthawi yochulukirapo. Mukasakaniza malingaliro anu, mutha kuyambitsa ululu wochuluka kuposa momwe mungaganizire.
7. Pezani zinthu zomwe zimakupangitsani kuti muthane mwachangu
Popanda kuyankhulanso ndi bwenzi lanu lakale, mudzakhala ndi nthawi yochuluka yosungira m'manja mwanu. Mphamvu yakukhala chete mutatha kusudzulana sikungokhutiritsa m’maganizo komanso kungakupatseni danga ndi nyonga yochitira zinthu zomwe simunathe poyamba. Ndi nthawi yonseyi, dziko lapansi ndi oyster wanu ndipo muyenera kuligwiritsa ntchito bwino. Phunzirani luso latsopano, tulutsani mabuku anu akale ophikira, ndikuyamba masewera anu!
Namrata akuti, "Kuti muthane ndi vuto la kutopa mutatha kusudzulana , mutha kuyambitsa zokonda zina, zosangalatsa zina zomwe mudazisiya kwa nthawi yayitali. Chitani zinthu zonse zomwe zinali zoletsedwa muubwenzi - chilichonse chomwe chimakusangalatsani. Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndi njira yabwino yothanirana ndi kusudzulana ndi munthu amene mumamukonda chifukwa pali mbali ina ya thupi ndipo mahomoni ambiri abwino amatulutsidwa. Ngakhale mukumva kufooka nthawi zonse, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kumakupatsani mphamvu. Kwenikweni, mumapeza cholinga kudzera muzochita zonsezi."
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8. Lembani maganizo anu polemba ndi papepala
Kaya ndi kupatukana komwe munayambitsa kapena wina adakuberani, mutha kukhala mukungoganizira zomwe zidachitika m'mbuyomu. Sizingakhale zophweka kusiya malingaliro anu koma ndizosavuta kuwalemba m'malo mwake. Kuti muchepetse kutha kwa psychology, malingaliro anu ayenera kukhala abwino.
Kulemba zakukhosi kwanu kungakuthandizeni kuchita zimenezo. Zomverera zanu nthawi zonse zimakhala zomveka ndipo kuzifotokoza m'mawu olembedwa zitha kukulolani kuti muwakonzenso bwino. Nthawi zonse mukamaganiza mopambanitsa kapena pamphepete mwa kusweka, gwirani cholembera chanu ndi pepala ndikuchepetsa malingaliro othamangawo.
"Mukandifunsa malangizo othetsera chisudzulo, ndinganene kuti kulemba nyuzipepala ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yofotokozera, kutulutsa mawu, ndi kuvomereza malingaliro anu. Muyeneranso kumvetsetsa kuti kukhala ndi maganizo oipa ndi kulemba ndi bwino kusiyana ndi kuwathetsa," akutero Namrata.
9. Ganizirani mozama za tanthauzo la moyo wanu
Kudziletsa kuchita zinthu zatsopano kungakhale bwino pakapita nthawi, koma moyo wanu umafunika kukhala ndi cholinga chachikulu kuti ukuthandizeni kukula m'tsogolo. Popeza tsopano muli ndi katundu wambiri wamaganizo , ndi nthawi yabwino kuganizira cholinga cha moyo wanu kuyambira pano kupita mtsogolo.
Kuti mumangenso mphamvu zanu, dziwani kuti ndinu ndani ndipo mukufuna kukhala. Nthawi zina kupatukana kwathu kumabwera chifukwa cha kusasangalala kwathu m'miyoyo yathu. Ganizirani pomwe mukuyima paulendo wamoyo wanu ndikuwunika ngati muli okondwa pomwe mukuyima.
10. Lowani nawo masewera
Kupsinjika kokhazikika kumatha kuchotsedwa bwino potulutsa magazi anu ndikuyenda. Panthawi ngati iyi, dopamine yowonjezera ikhoza kukuchitirani zabwino. Tennis, kickboxing, mpira, kukonzanso umembala wa masewera olimbitsa thupi, kapena yoga yosangalatsa ya mbuzi sizimangopangitsa thupi lanu kukhala lotanganidwa komanso malingaliro anu. Kulankhula koteroko kungakuthandizeni kuti musiye kutengeka maganizo. Idyani zakudya zabwino, thamangani maulendo amenewo, ndipo mumve ngati mutha kutengera dziko lapansi.
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11. Osachita manyazi ndi anthu
Anthu ndi anthu ocheza nawo ndipo ngakhale mutatenga nthawi yochuluka bwanji kuti muganizire nokha, timamva kuti timatsitsimutsidwa kwambiri pamaso pa anthu ena. Kuti muthane mwachangu, khalani ndi kampani yabwino. Ngati palibe, zidzachotsa malingaliro anu pa zowawazo kwakanthawi.
Mutha kuyimbira abwenzi anu akale, ndikuyamba kunena kuti "inde" kumaphwando ogwira ntchito kuofesi, kapena kuponyera pizza yanu ndi masewera usiku. Chiyembekezo cha anthu okondwa chimafika pa anthu ena, choncho onetsetsani kuti mukuzungulira ndi mphamvu zabwino.
12. Kumbukirani kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo si njira yabwino yothetsera
Kuti anthu adutse magawo othawira kutha kwa chibwenzi, nthawi zambiri amabwerera m'dzenje lamdima la kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Kaya ndi uchidakwa kapena kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo , kuchita mopitirira muyeso ndi mtundu uliwonse wa kuledzera kungakhale koopsa. Chifukwa chiyani? Tiyeni timve kuchokera kwa katswiri wathu kuti yankho lathu likhale lodalirika.
Namrata akuti, "Kuledzeretsa kumakhala ndi zotsatira za nthawi yochepa kwambiri. Zimaphatikizapo kuchepetsa mphamvu ya mitsempha yapakati, kotero imakulepheretsani kuganiza. Malingaliro anu amakhala dzanzi koma samachoka kwenikweni mu mpweya wochepa kwambiri. Simumakhala ndi chidziwitso chofulumira kuti muthe kuganiza za munthuyo. Mukabwerera kuchokera ku chifunga, chowonadi chimakugundani kwambiri.
Aliyense wogwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo angakuuzeni kuti ngati mumwa kamodzi, nthawi ina mudzafunikanso kuchuluka kwambiri kuti mukhutiritse vuto lanu. Ndiponso, thanzi lanu limawonongeka panthaŵi imodzi.
13. Yesani ntchito zomanga maganizo
Ndi zachibadwa kuti pamene mukupita kupyola mu kusweka koipa, malingaliro anu ndi ubongo nthawi zonse zimakhazikika pa zowawa ndi maganizo oipa. Zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuti musinthe malingaliro anu kuchokera pamenepo ndikuyang'ana ntchito kapena china chilichonse kwa mphindi zopitilira 10-15. Zotsatira zake, kuchuluka kwa zokolola zanu ndi mtundu wa ntchito zimatsika kwambiri.
Kuti mubwezeretsenso chidwi chanu ndikuthana ndi kuvutika maganizo mutasiya kusudzulana , ulendo woganizira bwino wosinkhasinkha udzakhala wopindulitsa. Yang'anani kwambiri mpweya uliwonse womwe mumapuma. Poyamba, zingakhale zovuta kukhala pansi kwa mphindi zoposa zisanu koma musataye mtima. Muthanso kusewera masewera osangalatsa okumbukira ndi m'bale wanu! Kapena, mwina tulutsani buku pashelufu ndikuyamba kuwerenga nthawi zonse.
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14. Tulutsani mtima wanu
Limodzi mwa malangizo abwino kwambiri othana ndi kutha kwa chibwenzi - kambiranani. Fotokozani mavuto omwe akukuvutitsani. Kwa anthu ena, zimadza mwachibadwa, pomwe ena zimawavuta kufotokoza zakukhosi kwawo. Komabe, izi ndizofunikira kwambiri. Ndipo ngati mukuona kuti pakufunika kulowererapo kwa akatswiri, pitani ku Bonobology Counseling Panel nthawi iliyonse kuti mukafunse gulu lathu la alangizi olemekezeka ndi akatswiri a zamaganizo.
Namrata akupereka lingaliro lakuti, "Kambiranani zifukwa zomwe zinapangitsa kuti banja lanu lithe ndi munthu wosalowerera ndale, mwinamwake mnzanu wamba yemwe amakudziwani bwino nonse. Kumvetsetsa zomwe zinalakwika paubwenzi kuchokera kwa munthu wachitatu kumakuthandizani kuti mutseke. Pitani kwa achibale anu ndi anzanu chifukwa pamene mukumva chisoni, mumafunikira chithandizo chochuluka. Aliyense amene mungalankhule naye, onetsetsani kuti ali odalirika komanso okhwima kuti athe kuthana ndi vuto lanu."
15. Yendani ulendo
Momwe mungathetsere chisudzulo pomwe palibe cholakwika? Tikukupemphani kuti mukhale masiku angapo ndi chilengedwe kuti muchepetse ululu wosapiririkawu. Chilengedwe chimakhala ndi machiritso omwe palibe mankhwala padziko lapansi angapereke. Kukula, kukongola kumakupatsani malingaliro atsopano kuti muwone mavuto anu mwanjira ina.
Nyamulani zikwama zanu ndikugunda misewu yoyenda nokha kapena pitani ndi anzanu. Sokera pakati pa mapiri. Sewerani ndi mafunde pagombe. Khalani madzulo kutsogolo kwa moto m'khola. Kudzipatula kwamasiku angapo pazonse zomwe zimayambitsa bala kukuthandizani kwambiri kuti mubwerere kudziko lamphamvu kwambiri kuposa kale.
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Sikophweka kuthetsa kusudzulana ndi munthu amene mumamukonda ndipo mungavutike kwa miyezi ingapo ndi kudzimva wopanda pake komwe kungapitirire zaka zambiri. Ngati nkhani yanu yachikondi inali ya mbali imodzi, ndiye kuti mwina zimakhala zovuta kuthetsa kusudzulana ndi munthu amene simunakhalepo naye kapena amene simunakhalepo naye pachibwenzi. Nthawi zambiri, anthu amatenga miyezi 6 kuti amve chisoni chifukwa cha kutha kwa chibwenzi.
Tikayang'ana za maganizo okhudza kutha kwa chibwenzi, timaona kuti nthawi yoyamba ya chisoni ndi mkwiyo itatha, munthu amayamba kuyesetsa kuti abwerere ku moyo wabwinobwino mwa kuyang'ana kwambiri ntchito yake komanso ubale wake ndi abale ndi abwenzi. Anthu ena amatenga nthawi yayitali kuti achire akatha chibwenzi ndipo amayambanso chibwenzi . Ena amafufuza mphamvu ya chete kuti athetse ululu womwe akukumana nawo. Ena amagwiritsa ntchito kusinkhasinkha ndi yoga kuti achire.
Mosiyana ndi malingaliro odziwika, pali mwayi woti mutenge nthawi yayitali kuti mubwererenso ngati munayambitsa. Ngati mukufuna kuchoka pachibwenzi, sizikutanthauza kuti mwasiya chikondi. Mutha kukhalabe m'chikondi ndi munthuyo ndikusankha zothetsa banja. Zikatero, kuthetsa banja mukamakondabe munthuyo kungakhale kovuta. Zitha kutenganso nthawi yayitali.
Ibibazo
Ngati mukuyesera kuthetsa kusudzulana mofulumira, ndiye chinthu choyamba chimene muyenera kuchita ndichotsatira lamulo lopanda kukhudzana, pumani pamasewero ochezera a pa Intaneti kuti musatengeke ndi wanu wakale, ndikuyesera kuchita zinthu zatsopano ndikuchoka pazikumbukiro.
Nthawi zambiri timakhulupirira kuti munthu amene wayambitsa chibwenzicho savutika kwambiri. Koma zimenezo si zoona. Onse okwatirana amatha kupweteka kwambiri ndipo nthawi zina anyamata amavutika kuti athane ndi kusudzulana.
Mukudziwa kuti kupatukana kumakhala komaliza pamene mungakhale mukupwetekedwabe mutatha kupatukana koma lingaliro lobwerera limodzi limakuchotsani. Zikatero, mumadziwa kuti ubwenziwo sungathe kutha.
Mu kafukufuku wina , ofufuza ochokera ku Binghamton University ndi University College London adapempha ophunzira 5,705 m'maiko 96 kuti ayese ululu wamaganizo ndi wakuthupi wa kutha kwa chibwenzi pa sikelo imodzi (palibe) mpaka 10 (yosapiririka). Adapeza kuti akazi nthawi zambiri amakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi kutha kwa chibwenzi, zomwe zikuwonetsa kuti ululu wa thupi ndi wamaganizo ndi wokwera kwambiri. Ngakhale kutha kwa chibwenzi kumakhudza akazi kwambiri m'maganizo ndi m'thupi, akazi nthawi zambiri amachira mokwanira ndipo amatuluka ali olimba mtima. Koma amuna, kumbali ina, samachira mokwanira - amangopitirira.
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Chopereka chanu sichikutanthauza chopereka chachifundo . Chidzalola Bonobology kupitiliza kukubweretserani chidziwitso chatsopano komanso chaposachedwa poyesetsa kuthandiza aliyense padziko lonse lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.
