Mfundo 8 Zokonzera Ukwati Zimene Simunazidziwe

Kufalitsa chikondi

Maukwati okonzeratu, ngakhale akuchepa, akupangabe 55% ya maukwati onse padziko lapansi. Ziŵerengero za zisudzulo m’maukwati opanikizana zimangokhala 6 peresenti, likutero Statistics Brain Research Institute. Ichi ndi chifukwa chake anthu ambiri padziko lapansi amakwatirana ndi munthu amene makolo awo amawasankhira-kupangitsa kuti mgwirizano waukwati ukhale waukulu ngakhale lero. Musatikhulupirire- chabwino, tiyeni tikupatseni mfundo zochititsa chidwi za m'banja.

Kodi 'Ukwati Wolinganizidwa' N'chiyani Kwenikweni?

M'ndandanda wazopezekamo

Maukwati ndi momwe alili - mgwirizano pakati pa mabanja awiri ndi anthu monga mboni zawo. Ndipo mukamvetsetsa tanthauzo laukwati limeneli, maukwati okondera amamvekanso bwino. Chiwongoladzanja chaukwati wokonzeratu chimayenda bwino chifukwa palibe amene amangochita zimenezi mwachisawawa.

Anthu omwe akutenga nawo mbali amaona zinthuzi mozama. Amakonzekera, amasamala kenako amafika pagawo lomaliza. Imeneyo ndiyo njira yabwino kwambiri yokonzekera kukhala limodzi kwa moyo wonse. Ndipo pali njira zomwe mungachite kuti mgwirizano ukhale wolimba pakapita nthawi. Inde, chikondi chimachitikanso m'mabanja okonzedweratu , chifukwa chakuti zochitika zimasiyana.

Kodi Mlingo Wopambana wa Ukwati Wokonzedwa Ndi Chiyani?

6.3% ndi chiwerengero chomwe Wikipedia imatchula za kuchuluka kwabwino kwaukwati. Tsopano, chiŵerengero cha chipambano chimenechi chingatanthauze chikhutiro chaukwati kapena sichingatanthauze, koma ndithudi chimatanthauza kuti maukwati olinganizidwa amakhala okhazikika kwambiri kuposa maukwati ena. Kaŵirikaŵiri, pakhala mikangano ngati chiŵerengero chochepa cha chisudzulo chimasonyeza kukhazikika muukwati kapena kusoŵa kuvomerezedwa ndi anthu ndi mantha a chisudzulo. Komabe, ichi n’choonadi kuti anthu amene ali m’mabanja opanikizana sangapatuke.

Maukwati ambiri amene anakhala kwa nthaŵi yaitali, maukwati ambiri amene anapulumuka vuto lotchedwa moyo, ndiwo olinganizidwa. Sizikutanthauza kuti zisudzulo sizichitika m’maukwati okonzeratu – koma zimakhala zochepa kwambiri. Chifukwa chimene maukwati okonzedweratu amakhala opambana kwambiri ndi chakuti okwatiranawo amagwirizana m'madera omwe ali ofunika kwambiri m'moyo - umunthu, zikhulupiriro zachipembedzo, udindo wa chikhalidwe ndi zauzimu ndi zina zotero. Ndipotu, ku India, chiwerengero cha kusudzulana kwa maukwati achikondi chimakhala chokwera kwambiri kuposa cha maukwati okonzeratu. Kumbukirani, tikukamba za maukwati okonzekera pakati pa akuluakulu ovomerezeka, osati ukwati wokakamiza kapena maukwati a ana.

Kodi maukwati okonzeratu amayenda bwanji?

Maukwati okonzekeredwa amagwira ntchito ngati maukwati ena aliwonse - amatsamira pa mfundo zofunika kwambiri za kulemekezana ndi chikondi. Chifukwa chakuti m’banja lolinganizidwa si munthu amene akupanga chosankha, mpata wolakwika umakhala wocheperapo. Banja lonse limabwera palimodzi kuti likusamalireni inu, mwana wanu wam'tsogolo ndikuwonetsetsa kuti mumagwirizana pakati pa inu ndi mnzanu. Vuto lalikulu kwambiri m’mabanja a zida za nyukiliya pakali pano n’lakuti palibe amene angasonyeze okwatirana njira yoyenera pakakhala mkangano waukulu. Koma ngati makolo anu ndi banja lanu analinganiza ukwati wanu, ndiye kuti amaloŵetsedwamo ndi kuthetsa mavuto apakati pa okwatiranawo. Nthawi zina mumafunikira thandizo lowonjezera.

Muukwati wokonzeratu kuyambira nthawi yoyamba, mumakumana mwadongosolo okondedwa ndi mabanja amadziwa zomwe zimayembekezeredwa kwa wina ndi mzake. Kumveka uku kumakuthandizani nonse kukonza miyoyo yanu molingana ndi zomwe mukuyembekezera.

M’chenicheni, ku India, ziŵerengero za kusudzulana kwa maukwati achikondi nzokwera kwambiri kuposa za maukwati olinganizidwa.

8 Zowona Zaukwati Wokonzera Palibe Amene Akunena

Akatswiri ndi anthu ophunzira akhala akukangana kwambiri kuti ngati mabanja oti apiteko ndi osangalala, olemekezeka ndi achikondi kapena amalimbikitsa maganizo a makolo akale komanso kuphwanya ufulu wa amayi makamaka. N’zosakayikitsa kuti anthu amene ali m’banja lopakira anthu ena amapeza thandizo la ndalama kuchokera kwa okondedwa awo, koma amakhala osangalalanso. Chabwino, iwo mwina ali. Zomwe zili m'munsizi zaukwati zikhoza kusintha maganizo oipa omwe mungakhale nawo. Madera osiyanasiyana, zikhalidwe, zipembedzo zavomereza lingaliro laukwati wokomera anthu kuti ukhale bata.

1. Kugwirizana pa zinthu zazikulu

Maubwenzi mamiliyoni ambiri amasweka tsiku lililonse chifukwa amafuna zinthu zosiyana ndi moyo. Kugwirizana si kanthu mukamathamanga mbali zosiyanasiyana. Kukonda zinthu zomwezo, monga nyimbo ndi makanema ndikwabwino koma kufunanso zinthu zomwezo m'moyo ndikofunikira. M’banja lokonzeratu banja, inu ndi mnzanuyo mumachokera ku chikhalidwe chofanana, mocheperapo muli ndi zolinga zofanana. Izi zimapanga zinthu zazikulu m'moyo.

Chifukwa cha kumvana, zikhulupiriro za chikhalidwe ndi ziyembekezo, maukwati okondera amayenda bwino ndipo mikangano pakati pa anthu okwatirana imakhala yochepa.

2. Cholowa ndi ufulu

Ukwati ndi mgwirizano wapagulu. Kugawana nawo kumabwera phindu la katundu wogawana. Ukakhala ukwati pakati pa anthu ofanana tsogolo limakhala lokhazikika. Pamene banja lanu likuyang'anira ukwati wanu, iwonso amayang'anira tsogolo lanu. Ukwati ukakonzedweratu, nkhani ya zachuma siimasiyidwa m’magawo onse aŵiri a makolo amaonetsetsa kuti ana awo ali osungika. Nthaŵi zina, anthu akamakwatirana popanda mabanja awo n’kuthetsa maubwenzi awo, amasiyidwa kuti akakumana ndi mavuto.

M’nthaŵi zovuta, anthu a m’banja lolinganizidwa amapeza chithandizo, chichirikizo ndi chitsogozo m’zokumana nazo za akulu awo. Anthu amene amakwatira kapena kukwatiwa mosiyana ndi mabanja awo nthawi zina amavutika kwambiri akafuna thandizo.

3. Zimakupulumutsani nthawi!

M'moyo wamakono wotanganidwa ndi ndani ali ndi nthawi yosunga ubale? Choyamba, imaphunzira kenako imabwera ntchito, ndizovuta zingapo. Tikukhala moyo wodumpha kuchoka pamavuto kupita kumavuto. Komanso, kuyang'ana anthu osiyanasiyana monga oyembekezera kukhala okwatirana kumaoneka ngati kovuta. Ndiyeno ndi masiku angati omwe alidi okwanira kuti alowe? Nanga bwanji zosweka mtima? Chimodzi mwazinthu zochititsa chidwi kwambiri zaukwati zomwe zimakonzedwa ndikuti zimakupulumutsirani nthawi, kusweka mtima ndi zowawa.

Ukwati wokonzedweratu wakhala njira yabwino kwa nzika zapadziko lonse lapansi masiku ano, makamaka kwa anthu olemera kwambiri omwe alibe nthawi yochita chibwenzi. Bollywood yalandiranso njira yakale iyi ya mgwirizano waukwati ndipo yatipatsa mafilimu abwino okhudza maukwati okonzedweratu.

4. Maukwati okonzerana amathandiza kuti chikhalidwe chikhalebe chamoyo

Chikhalidwe ndi maziko omwe munthu amadalira zikhulupiriro zake, kukhulupirika kwake, ziyembekezo zake, zikhalidwe ndi mfundo zake. Komanso, mantha. Amwenye akhala nzika zapadziko lonse lapansi. Anzeru monga Amwenye, amapeza mwayi wophunzira ndi kukagwira ntchito kunja mosavuta. Koma inu mukhoza kuwachotsa Amwenye ku India koma inu simungakhoze konse kuwachotsa India mwa Amwenye. Kwa nzika za NRI, ukwati wolinganizidwa ndi njira yosungitsira India kukhala wamoyo m'mitima yawo ndi moyo watsiku ndi tsiku. Zosatchulidwa, nthawi zambiri zimatchulidwa, koma makamaka ngati mukuganiza, chimodzi mwa mfundo zofunika kwambiri zaukwati - kusunga chikhalidwe chamoyo.

Nkosavuta kwambiri kupatsira ana anu miyambo, miyambo, zikhulupiriro zanu ngati nonse inu ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu ndinu ochokera m’mikhalidwe yofanana.

5. Ukwati umachitika pa nthawi yoyenera

Wachoka ku koleji ndikuganiza zokwatira bwenzi lako? Kapena mukulota kukwatiwa ndi munthu wina ngakhale kuti wakhala osagwira ntchito kwa chaka chimodzi? Ngakhale mungayambe kuchitapo kanthu, kuzitcha chikondi, ndi kudzanong'oneza bondo pambuyo pake, palibe mwayi wotero muukwati wokonzeratu. Banja lanu limayamba kuganizira za ukwati wanu kokha pamene mwakhazikika ndiponso m’maganizo mwanu kukwatira. Amakudziwani bwino ndipo amadziwa kuti ndinu wokonzeka kutenga udindo wa munthu wina asanayambe kukunyengererani kuti mukwatirane. Koma akatero, muyenera kumvera.

6. Zamakono-komabe-zachikhalidwe

Kwa anthu aku India, moyo wamakono umagwirizana ndi miyambo, zomwezo zimayenderana ndi ukwati. Ndi miyambo yakale ya ukwati, payenera kukhala mgwirizano wa malingaliro amakono. Koma sizili chimodzimodzi kwa aliyense. Ukwati wokonzedwa umakuthandizani kuti mugwirizane ndi munthu amene ali ndi mgwirizano wofanana ndi momwe munaleredwera komanso makhalidwe a m'banja lanu. Izi zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zosavuta kupitirira nthawi ya ukwati ikatha.

7. Maudindo amagawidwa

Makolo anu akasankha ukwati wanu amakhala ndi chidwi pang'ono, okhudzidwa ndi udindo kuti ukwati wanu ugwire ntchito. Amapereka chithandizo chowonjezera kuti akonze zinthu mwachiwongola dzanja chawo. Ukwati wachikondi ukhoza kusokoneza makolo koma pali mwayi wochepa wa zimenezo muukwati wokonzeratu.

8. Kutsogola

Chimodzi mwazinthu zodziwika bwino zaukwati zomwe zimasanjidwa ndikuti lavomerezedwa ndi zikhalidwe ndi zipembedzo zosiyanasiyana padziko lonse lapansi kuyambira zaka mazana ambiri - ndipo pali chifukwa chake. Kukhazikika panyumba kumathandiza anthu kuchita bwino m'miyoyo yawo. Ukwati wokonzeratu ndiye chitsanzo chosavuta kwambiri cha kukhazikika koteroko. Makolo anu angakhale achita zimenezo ndipo mwaziona moyo wanu wonse. Tsopano ndi nthawi yanu. Tsopano mwapatsidwa mwayi wobweretsa mbadwo watsopano mwa kuwapatsa bata ndi chitsimikizo.

Sitikunena kuti maukwati okonzeratu ndiwo njira yokhayo yothetsera vutoli, koma mwachionekere ndi njira yabwino. Mfundo zaukwati zomwe zafotokozedwa pamwambapa n'zamphamvu kwambiri moti zimachititsa munthu kuganizira zimene akufuna kuchita. Amwenye okhazikika padziko lonse lapansi a m'nthawi yamakono akuzindikira kuti ochulukirachulukira m'moyo wotanganidwa wosungulumwa womwe akuyesera kupulumuka. Ngakhale Raj wochokera ku The Big Bang Theory amafunsa makolo ake kuti amukwatire ngakhale anali wasayansi wokhazikika yemwe amagwira ntchito ku Caltech. Mwambo wakale uwu ukadali wotchuka. Ndipo akatswiri a Bollywood Shahid Kapoor ndi Neil Nitin Mukesh atha kupereka malangizo amomwe mungakhalire osangalala komanso otetezeka muukwati wokonzedwa.

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