Malamulo 9 awa a Ukwati Wachimwemwe Adzakupangitsani Kuti Mupite "Ndizo?"

Mukakumana, mumayamba kukondana, mwaganiza zokwatira. Zowona, sizophweka monga choncho, koma zonse zimawoneka kuti zimadutsa mwachangu. Pakati pa zokonzekera ukwati ndi chisangalalo (werengani: mapazi ozizira) inu nonse mumakumana nazo, simukuganiziranso za humdrum ya moyo yomwe imayamba kamodzi nthawi yachisangalalo ikatha. Zimenezi zikachitika, mumazindikira kufunika kwa malamulo kuti mukhale ndi banja losangalala.

Mukachoka kuvala bwino Lamlungu lanu pa tsiku lanu la mlungu ndi mlungu kuti mukhale ndi wina ndi mzake mu kabudula wong'ambika, zomwe zimabwera ndi gulu la ndewu zazing'ono komanso phokoso lochepa. Ndewu zimakulirakulira, masiku amacheperako ndipo mabilu amawopsa mwezi uliwonse.

Pamene kusagwirizana kwa zinthu kumakupangitsani kuwona ukwati wanu mopepuka, ndizotheka kuti zinthu zingayambe kukhala zosasangalatsa, kunena mofatsa. Zikatero, malamulo a ukwati wachipambano adzakuthandizani, kukudziwitsani zomwe zikusowa.

9 Malamulo Osavuta Opangira Ukwati Wachimwemwe

Pamene simunakwatirane, mumaona kuti ndi limodzi mwa mabungwe opatulika kwambiri, oyenera kulemekezedwa ndi kukondedwa nthawi zonse. Mukakhala m'banja kwakanthawi, mumazindikira kuti ukwati ndi pamene mumasiya kupukuta nyumba yanu yonse mpaka apongozi anu adzakuchezerani kwa masiku angapo.

Kupatula nthabwala, ndewu zazing'ono komanso kukangana pafupipafupi zitha kusokoneza ubale wanu. Pazovuta kwambiri, kusalemekeza ndi kudalirana kungayambitse kuwononga, mwinanso a maubale oopsa. Ngakhale kuti palibe malamulo okhwima komanso ofulumira a ukwati, ofunikira kwambiri amachokera ku chidziwitso chodziwika bwino ndipo cholinga chake ndi kukonza mbali zonse za mphamvu zanu.

Malamulo apaukwati omwe timawanena si ovuta kwambiri, ndipo akuyenera kutsatiridwa ndi banja lirilonse posachedwapa. Kunena zowona, kusonkhezera popanda liliri lonse la malamulo ameneŵa ku ukwati wachimwemwe kungangovutika ndi mtundu wina wa kusakhutira. Kuti zimenezi zisakuchitikireni, werengani kuti mudziwe zimene simungagonjetse m’banja mwanu.

1. Dziwani kuti uwu ndiye ubale wofunikira kwambiri m'moyo wanu

Ubale uwu uyenera kukhala ubale wautali kwambiri m'moyo wanu ndipo uyenera kukhala wotsogola kwambiri. Ndipo inu muyenera kuchita izo monga choncho. Ukwati wanu ndi wofunika kwambiri kuposa maubwenzi omwe mumagawana ndi wina aliyense, kaya ndi anzathu, antchito anzathu, achibale athu, ngakhale ana athu.

Mwamuna kapena mkaziyo ayenera kukhalabe pakati pa chilengedwe chonse, ngakhale kuti kupatuka kwa kanthaŵi kungachitike. Nthawi zonse zimathandiza kuwoneka ogwirizana kunja (mosasamala kanthu kuti kusiyana kwanu kuli kotani). Kukangana kapena kusonyeza mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu pansi pamaso pa anthu, ngakhale pamene mukuseka, zingasokoneze ubwenzi wanu mosadziwa.

2. Kulolerana ndikofunikira

Ine ndi mwamuna wanga timachokera kumadera ndi zikhalidwe zosiyanasiyana (Iye ndi Mtamil ndipo ndine Mpunjabi). Mabanja athu ali ndi zinthu zambiri zofanana malinga ndi mfundo zazikuluzikulu, koma palinso malingaliro osiyanasiyana. Izi zimapanga momwe timapangira nthawi yathu, njira yathu yolankhulirana, zomwe timakonda, ndi zina zotero. Ndi za kukumana penapake pakati.

Tayesera mozindikira kuti tisasinthe munthu winayo koma tayesetsa kuthana ndi kusiyanako. Ankakonda kukhala kunyumba Loweruka ndi Lamlungu kuti apumule pambuyo pa mlungu wopsinjika kuntchito, ndipo ine ndinkalakalaka kupita kukadya nditadya kunyumba mlungu wonse. M'zaka zoyambirira zaukwati, zinali zovuta, koma tayesetsa kuti tifike panyumba tsiku limodzi kumapeto kwa sabata koma tiyesetse kuyesa malo odyera atsopano ena.

Ngakhale mutakhala kuti mulibe zikhalidwe zosiyanasiyana, mudzazindikira momwe wokondedwa wanu adaleredwera mutangoyamba kukhala nawo. M'malo mouma khosi, perekani phindu ku kunyengerera ndipo mudzawona zanu ubwenzi kukhala wolimba ndi wosangalala. Malamulo a ukwati sakhala ophweka kuposa awa.

3. Kusagwirizana mwaulemu

N’kwachibadwa kusagwirizana ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu. Mapeto a 'mosangalala mpaka kalekale' amapezeka mu nthano chabe. Okwatirana sayenera kugwirizana nthawi zonse kuti apewe ndewu. M’malo mokangana kapena kukhumudwa, kambiranani nkhaniyo modekha. Muzipatsana mwayi wolankhulana.

Kukambitsirana kusakhale kopanda ulemu. Komanso, musatengere ndewu zanu pogona - palibe ndewu kapena kukangana komwe kuli koyenera kutaya tulo. Konzani musanagone. Kumbukirani, mu ubalewu, sikuyenera kukhala malo odzikuza. Mwataya zambiri pamene mukuganiza kuti mwapambana mkangano wapakhomo ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu.

Mwina imodzi mwa malamulo ofunikira kwambiri paukwati wabwino ndikuti musalole mkwiyo wanu kukugonjetseni, ndikugwiritsa ntchito njira zothetsera kusamvana.

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4. Kulinganiza pakati pa zochita za munthu payekha ndi pamodzi ndizofunika kwambiri

Pali zinthu zomwe ndimasangalala nazo zomwe mwamuna wanga sachita nazo chidwi (monga malo ogulitsira) komanso mosemphanitsa (monga kutsatira tennis Grand Slam). Timasangalala ndi zochitika izi patokha kapena ndi anzathu omwe ali ndi zokonda zathu, ndipo timathandizirana kuti tipeze nthawi yochita zinthuzo pafupipafupi.

Koma timagawananso zomwe timakonda / zomwe timakonda (monga kuonera limodzi makanema) ndipo tapeza njira yoti titha kulinganiza nthawi yokhala patokha ndi nthawi ya limodzi. Muzosintha zilizonse, kulola danga lanu ndizofunikira kwambiri ngati mukufuna kusunga ubale wanu. Mukaloledwa danga kuti likule panokha, ubwenzi wanu umakula chifukwa cha zimenezi.

5. Musamayembekezere zinthu zimene mukuyembekezera

Ndife opanda ungwiro ndipo sitiyenera kuyembekezera kuchita zinthu mwangwiro kwa ife eni kapena kwa mwamuna kapena mkazi wathu. Ukwati umafunika kuleza mtima, chilimbikitso, ndi kukhululukirana. Kusunga chakukhosi sikuthandiza. Ngati mukuyembekeza kuti mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu awerenge malingaliro anu ndi kuzindikira chomwe chiri cholakwika, muli ndi zochitika zosasangalatsa.

Kaya akhale malamulo aukwati kapena ubale uliwonse womwe mungakumane nawo m'moyo wanu, onetsetsani kuti zomwe mukuyembekezera sizikhala zazikulu mopusa. Mpaka mutapempha, simudzalandira chimene mukufuna. Pokhapokha mutakambirana, mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu sangadziwe zimene mukufuna. Izi zimatifikitsa ku mfundo yathu yotsatira, kulankhulana.

6. Kulankhulana ndiye chinsinsi

Ndinkayembekezera kuti mwamuna wanga awerenge malingaliro anga ndipo ndikuthokoza kuti ndinaphunzira (zaka zingapo muubwenzi wathu) kuti kuyembekezera kuti "angondipeza" nthawi zonse ndizopusa. Nthawi zina ndimayenera kumufotokozera zinthu, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimawathandiza kwambiri kuposa kukhala chete.

Tsopano timamvetsetsa ndi kulemekeza njira zolankhulirana za wina ndi mnzake. Ndinamulimbikitsa kuti atsegule zambiri ndipo amandinyoza m'njira yoti ndimuuze zomwe ndikufuna. Kuyambira pamene tinakumana, wakhala wodabwitsa pondipangitsa kudzimva kukhala wapadera ndi kundisangalatsa pamasiku apadera.

Kupititsa patsogolo kulankhulana m’banja mwanu mudzakhala chinthu chabwino koposa chimene mungachite paukwati wanu. Tikadayenera kusankha lamulo lofunika kwambiri kuti mukhale ndi banja losangalala, kukakhala kuonetsetsa kuti nonse mukuwongolera kulumikizana kwanu.

7. Kumvetsetsa kalembedwe ka wina ndi mnzake ndikothandiza kwambiri

Mwamuna wanga amasonyeza chikondi chake tsiku lililonse, kaya ndi mawu othokoza ndi oyamikira kapena ndi manja osavuta monga kundipezera chinthu chimene ndikulakalaka. Chilankhulo changa chachikondi ndi chachikulu komanso chachikulu kuposa moyo ndipo chimaphatikizapo kumupatsa mphatso zamtengo wapatali, kuchita chikondwerero chilichonse, kapena kukonzekera chakudya chambiri.

Tsopano timamvetsetsa izi ndipo nthawi zina timasinthana maudindo kuti tisangalatse wina ndi mnzake. Kudziwa zimenezi podziwa zimene zili zofunika kwa mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu kumathandiza kulimbikitsana kwambiri. Kumvetsetsa momwe wokondedwa wanu amasonyezera chikondi chake kudzakupangitsani kukhala tcheru kwambiri ku malingaliro awo kwa inu ndi zomwe amaganiza za inu.

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8. Kugawana maudindo

Ine ndi mwamuna wanga timagaŵana ntchito zonse zapakhomo ndi za ana. Ambiri timachitira limodzi ndipo kwa ena timasinthana. Izi zimatithandiza kugwira ntchito zapakhomo popanda kunyong’onyeka. Sitivuta kukangana kuti ndi ntchito ya ndani. Timayamikira zopereka za wina ndi mzake tsiku lililonse ndikupeza mwayi wofotokozera zomwezo.

Zingawoneke ngati zazing'ono, koma kugawana ntchito zapakhomo zimatha kupangitsa moyo wanu kumva ngati makina opaka mafuta. Pamene 70% ya Lamlungu lanu ikupita kukamaliza zinthu zapakhomo, mudzadana ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu chifukwa chosakuthandizani. Malamulo a ukwati amafuna chichirikizo pa sitepe iliyonse, kuphatikizapo ntchito zapakhomo.

9. Chikondi chimagonjetsa mikhalidwe yonse

Khalani wowolowa manja ndi chikondi pankhani ya mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu. Kungoti nonse mukudziwa kuti mumakondana sizitanthauza kuti simunganene. Nenani mawu atatuwa nthawi zonse momwe mungathere - ponyamuka kupita kuntchito, musanagone kapena masana.

Matsiku ochezera kapena maulendo apadera ndi ofunika chimodzimodzi, komwe mumachoka pazochitika zanu zanthawi zonse ndikumangocheza ndi wina ndi mnzake.

Monga akunena, maukwati angapangidwe kumwamba, koma ayenera kupangidwa kuti agwire ntchito padziko lapansi. Zimenezi zimafuna khama, kukhulupirirana, ulemu, kulankhulana, ndi chikondi. Mwachiyembekezo, malamulo a ukwati wachimwemwe amene ndandandalika angakuthandizeni kupanga ukwati wanu kukhala wabwino koposa momwe ungakhalire, kotero kuti musatsirize kudandaula za mmene mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu amasamalirira mbale.

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