Wandisokoneza Chikhulupiriro Koma Ndimamukondabe Ndipo Ndikufuna Kumuthandiza

Ndili ndi zaka 22 ndipo ndikuchita maphunziro anga a neuropsychology pambuyo pa maphunziro anga. Ndikuchita chibwenzi ndi mnyamata yemwe ndi womaliza maphunziro anga ku yunivesite. Sindikumvetsa zomwe akufuna. Monga munthu amene anavomereza pamaso pa kalasi yonse kuti ndi wokondedwa wanga ndipo ndimamukonda kwambiri ndipo ndikufuna kukhala naye pachibwenzi. Ndinamukondanso ndipo tinayamba chibwenzi.

Sali wotsimikiza za ubalewu tsopano

Zinthu zinapitirira ndipo patapita nthawi anayamba kunena kuti amafunika nthawi yoti aganizire ngati akufuna chibwenzichi kapena ayi. Anati akusokonezeka ndi moyo wake chifukwa alibe cholinga pa moyo wake ndipo sakudziwa zomwe adzachita pambuyo pake. Nthawi zonse ndimamupatsa nthawi, malo, chilichonse chomwe amafunikira. Ndipo posachedwapa anandiuza kuti pamene anali pachibwenzi ndi ine, anagonana ndi atsikana ena ochokera ku yunivesite yathu. Izi zangondipangitsa kuti ndimudalire. Ndikufuna kuti akhale ndi moyo wabwino chifukwa ndi waulesi kwambiri, wosokonezeka ndipo nthawi zonse amakhala wosatsimikiza za zinthu ndipo amasuta kwambiri.

Wayamba kundipewa

Ndimangomupempha kuti andipatse nthawi ndi chisamaliro chifukwa sindimakonda kutumizirana mameseji ndi kuyimba foni kosalekeza. Ndimakonda kukambirana maso ndi maso kotero ndinamupempha kuti andipatse mphindi 30 mpaka 45 patsiku koma amapeza zifukwa zoti asakumane nane kapena kuti asandilankhule. Ndikuganiza kuti nditha kuswa ubalewu chifukwa wandisiya ndikundidalira. Koma ndikuganiza kuti ndiyenera kumuthandiza kupeza moyo wake. Chifukwa cha zonsezi, sindingathe kuyang'ana kwambiri maphunziro anga ndipo ndikuyembekezera mayeso anga omaliza posachedwa.

Izi zikundikhudza kwambiri

Ndakhala waulesi kwambiri. Osadya chakudya choyenera, osadzisamalira ndekha. Ndimakhala ndikuganiza nthawi zonse. Sindikudziwa kuti nditani? Ndamukonda kwambiri. Kuti sindikufuna kumutaya koma ndikufuna kumuthandiza kuti asinthe ndikusintha. Nthawi zonse amandiuza kuti sindiloledwa kumupatsa malangizo kapena malingaliro chifukwa sakonda ndikampatsa. Koma mu zonsezi ndadzitaya ndekha. Zomwe ndidali 3 months back sindili yemweyo, ndine munthu wosinthika. Ndikuganiza kuti ndimamukonda kwambiri chifukwa uwu ndi ubale wanga woyamba komanso ubale wanga woyamba ndi wina aliyense. Kodi mungangondithandiza? Sindikufuna kuwononga moyo wanga chifukwa cha iye. Koma sindikudziwa choti ndichite kuti ndisawononge tsogolo langa.

Wokondedwa Dona, <Ndikumvetsa momwe muyenera kumamvera. Sikuti nthawi zonse timatha kusankha amene timakondana naye. Inenso, ndikumvetsa chikhumbo chanu chofuna kumuthandiza ndikumukonza.

Kodi akufuna thandizo lanu?

Kutengera ndi zomwe mudagawana pano, kuti sakulolani kuti mumupatse malangizo kapena malingaliro, ndi zina zotero, sizikuwoneka ngati ali womasuka ku chithandizo chomwe mukulolera kupereka.

Simungathandize munthu ngati sakufuna kuthandiza kapena sakufuna.

Ubwenzi umakusokonezani

Kuphatikiza apo, ubalewu ukuwoneka kuti ukukukhudzani kwambiri. Zimasokoneza thanzi lanu lamalingaliro, thupi ndi malingaliro. Mukulephera kapena kusadzisamalira ndipo watayika ndipo sadziwa choti achite ndipo poyesera kumuthandiza mwalowanso m'dziko lake ndikutaya njira yanu.

Kodi ubalewu ndi wabwino?

Kukonda munthu sikutanthauza kuti nthawi zonse muyenera kukhala naye. Ndikofunika kutsatira mtima wanu koma nthawi zonse muzimvetsera ubongo wanu.

Chikondi chimakula pamene ubwenzi uli wabwino. Chikondi chimapweteka ndipo chimasweka pang'onopang'ono pamene chibwenzi sichikuyenda bwino.

Muzochitika zonsezi, chikondi chingakhalepo koma ndikofunikira nthawi zonse kukhala paubwenzi wabwino wachikondi.

Makhalidwe a ubale wabwino wachikondi 

Pali zinthu zambiri, apa nditchulapo zochepa, monga kukhulupirirana, kulimbikitsana, kulankhulana momasuka komanso momasuka, kulemekezana, chitetezo chakuthupi, zolinga zogawana, ndi zina zotero. Tsopano kwa inu, chikhulupiriro chasweka, kuyankhulana sikukuyenda monga iye sali otseguka ndipo ponena za zomwe mukunena ndi momwe mukumvera, izi zimasonyezanso kusowa kwa ulemu kwa inu, ndipo nthawi ndi khama ndi chikondi chomwe mumapereka kwa iye palibe.

Palibe zolinga za ubale

Palibe zolinga, kaya monga munthu payekha kapena ngati banja. Zinthu zomwe mwatchula monga chinyengo ndi kusafuna kwake kukhala ndi nthawi ndi inu zonsezi ndi zizindikiro zofiira. Zizindikiro zofiira kwenikweni ndi zizindikiro zomwe timazisowa msanga muubwenzi zomwe pamapeto pake zimayambitsa mavuto, zovuta komanso kutha. Mbali yabwino ya izi ndikuti mukudziwa zizindikiro zofiira tsopano ndipo mutha kupewa kupweteka kwina ndikupewa kuyika ndalama muubwenzi womwe ukuwoneka kuti ulibe tsogolo. <

Mumachiritsa kaye ndikukhazikitsa zolinga

Mwanenapo kuti mukufuna kumuthandiza, koma simungathe kumuthandiza mumkhalidwe womwe muli nawo. Muyenera kudzisamalira nokha ndi zosowa zanu. Pokhapokha mukakhala wamphumphu ndi kuchiritsidwa mungamuthandize. Choncho muyenera kuganizira zofuna zanu, zokhumba zanu ndi zolinga zanu zamtsogolo. < Chitani izi poyamba:

1. Tengani pepala ndi cholembera ndikulemba momwe moyo wanu wabwino ungakhalire pakali pano, phatikizani chilichonse chomwe mungafune m'moyo wanu kupatula iye.
2. M’mawa uliwonse mukadzuka werengani zimene munalemba ndi kuona m’maganizo mwanu moyo woterewu.
3. Kenako pangani zolinga zenizeni komanso zenizeni zomwe muyenera kuchita kuti mukwaniritse moyo wabwinowo ndikuugwirira ntchito.
4. Ntchitoyi ikuthandizani kuti mupezenso cholinga chanu. Onetsetsani kuti mumadzisamalira, mumaphunzira mwakhama, mumadya nthawi yake, mumalimbitsa thupi, mumagona bwino komanso mumacheza ndi anzanu.

Osachiwona ngati chotayika chiyenera kukhala phunziro

Mwanena kuti mukumukonda, koma simukufuna kuwononga moyo wanu chifukwa cha iye. Munthu akachoka mu moyo wanu atakhalamo kwa kanthawi, zimamveka ngati kutayika. Tikataya munthu, tonse timadutsa mu magawo a chisoni - Kukana ndi kudzipatula; Mkwiyo; Kukambirana; Kukhumudwa ; Kuvomereza. Zimatenga nthawi kuti tizolowere kusakhala naye pafupi. Ndikukhulupirira kuti timakumana ndi anthu m'miyoyo yathu ndi cholinga ndipo kukumana kulikonse kuli ndi kanthu kena koti tiphunzire za ife tokha kapena moyo wonse. M'malo mofunsa kuti ' chikuchitika ndi chiyani kwa ine? ' funsani kuti ' chikundiphunzitsa chiyani? '<

Sikophweka nthawi zonse kuiwala chikondi chanu choyamba kapena choyamba chilichonse. Izi nthawi zonse zimakhala ndi malo apadera mu mtima mwanu, ngakhale mutazisiya. Zidzatenga nthawi kuti muchiritse ndikutsegulanso. Yambani ndi kudzikonda nokha ndi kudzichiritsa nokha.

Mukunena kuti simukufuna kuwononga moyo wanu. Monga katswiri wa zamaganizo, sindingathe kukupangirani chisankho kapena kukuuzani choti muchite, koma nditha kukuuzani kuti moyo wanu uli m'manja mwanu ndipo muli ndi mphamvu zosinthira. Muli ndi CHISANKHO! Ndipotu, mumasankha tsiku lililonse, monga choti mudye, choti muvale, nthawi yoti mudzuke, ndi zina zotero. Chisankho chilichonse chomwe mupanga chidzakutengerani ku njira yosiyana ndipo njira imeneyo ndi yanu yokha. Ndikukhulupirira kuti izi zikuthandizani. Ngati muli ndi mafunso ambiri kapena mukufuna kulankhula ndi winawake, mutha kulumikizana ndi gulu la Bonobology. Zabwino zonse!

Meghna Prabhu

Chopereka chanu sichikutanthauza chopereka chachifundo . Chidzalola Bonobology kupitiliza kukubweretserani chidziwitso chatsopano komanso chaposachedwa poyesetsa kuthandiza aliyense padziko lonse lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.

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