Emtshatweni kunye noKuhlalisana Ngolonwabo neqabane lakho

Abukho ubudlelwane obugqibeleleyo. Ngabantu ababini abangafezekanga abangafuniyo ukunikezela. Akukho nto ishwankathela undoqo wobudlelwane bexesha elide phakathi kwabantu ababini abadibana bethandana ngcono kunale ntetho. Nje ukuba ufunde ukujonga ubudlelwane bakho kunye neqabane lothando ukusuka kule lens, ukuzulazula kumahla ndinyuka obomi, ukwamkela iiquirks kunye neziphene zomnye nomnye, kwaye ukufumana kwakho ngokonwaba emva koko kuba lula kakhulu. Eli bali ngumzekelo ofanelekileyo walo.

Imfihlelo yobudlelwane obonwabileyo

UFali Kekobad ubekhona, uyenzile loo nto, kwaye wafunda iimfumba kwinkqubo. Ngokomzekelo, wafunda kweyakhe umtshato wokuqala indlela yokubamba kunye. Uthi: “Kulula ukwenza iimpazamo. "Ukuba utshatile ngaphambili kunceda ngokwenene," uhleka uFali ongathintekiyo, ngendlela awenza ngayo ukuba asebenze noGeetha, umfazi wakhe oligcisa waseKarnataka. “Sinexesha elimnandi. Sisoloko sonwabela yonke into.”

Ukonwabela izinto ezincinci

UFali uhamba ngentetho kwaye uyazonwabisa ngezinto ezincinci ebomini bakhe noGeetha kunye nentombi yabo uMili. Uyaqhubeka nokwabelana nge-vibe ethandekayo kunye nomfazi wakhe wangaphambili, nangona bengafane badibane. Unyana wakhe uVarun uhlala ejoyina usapho olutsha lukayise kwisidlo sangokuhlwa okanye ngeholide.

Uzinzo lwemali kunye nokuzola

UFali ukholelwa ekuzoleni kuyo yonke into. Ukwakholelwa ngamandla, ukuba “ukuqhuba kakuhle ngokwemali kuyawunceda umtshato. Indoda ifanele izinze ize izinzise imali.

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Ubomi bomntu omnye kunye nezifundo zabo

Engatshatanga malunga neminyaka eyi-10 ngaphambi kokuba atshate uGeetha, uFali wadibana nabasetyhini abaninzi ngelo xesha. “Elo yayilelona xesha lilungileyo ebomini bam,” uvuma ngelitshoyo. Nangona kunjalo, eli xesha lamvusa ukuba ahambe iingenelo zomtshato. “Kulungile ukuba nosapho kunye nabantwana, kuyakuqeqesha, ubeka imiqathango kuwe. Nje ukuba uyamkele loo nto, uqalisa ukuyonwabela okona kubaluleke ngakumbi, wamkele ubuntu beqabane lakho, emva koko uqalise ukuyonwabela loo nto.

Indoda yosapho kunye nokomelela

Le ndoda yazingcayo yosapho ithi isempilweni ngoku kunokuba yayineminyaka engama-30.

Uthando lokuhamba kunye nomculo

UFali uhamba kakuhle ngaphezu kwe-100 km yonke imihla kwaye uyayithanda yonke into. “Ndiyawuthanda umculo wam, bendikade ndiyithanda ijazz, ngoku ndimamela nantoni na ekhoyo kunomathotholo weFM,” utshilo. UGeetha unomdla ngakumbi ngomculo wakhe kwaye uqokelela umculo wabo bobabini. “Undenza ndimamele,” uchaza uFali ngokuzola. Uhlala eqokelela iinkcukacha kwifowuni yakhe endixelela ngezinto ezenzekayo kulo lonke ihlabathi.

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Indlela yomtshato

Ngokucacileyo, ungowohlanga olukholelwa ekusondeleni emtshatweni ngokuzolileyo nangengqiqo. “Kufuneka ndiyenze isebenze intsapho, iphuma ngaphakathi. Ukuba bhetyebhetye lelinye icandelo abalakhe kubudlelwane babo. Ndithi kuGeetha, hamba naphi na apho ufuna ukuya khona. Mna noMili siza kuyilungisa.

Ubudala kunye nenkolo

Izibalo zentlalo azinantsingiselo kwesi sibini singaqhelekanga. Malunga umsantsa weminyaka phakathi kwabo, uyahleka aze athi, “Ngengqondo ndimncinci kuye. Ukuba wenza izinto ngendlela efanelekileyo, awugugi. Ngokomzekelo, sihlala ngaphandle kwesixeko yaye sinenkomponi enkulu. Ndibaleka apho yonke imihla ukuphuma komsebenzi.”

Ngokuphathelele unqulo nebango likaGeetha lokuba uye waluthanda unqulo emva kokuba etshatile, wenza isiqhulo esithi, “Ndandinengxaki nesebe lerhafu. Emva koko, waqala 'ukwenza kancinci'. "Ndicinga ukuba kuyanceda. Ndiya kwindawo yokugcina izinto, ndibuye, izinto ziqala ukusonjululwa." Noko ke, lo mthandi wendalo uyakholelwa kumandla aphakamileyo, kuba “izityalo, izilwanyana, lo mmandla wendalo uphela, azizange zibekho.”

Wabelana ngemantra yakhe ngokuhlalisana okumnandi kunye neqabane lomntu - "Kukho ukulunga okuthile kuthi sonke. Zama ukufumana izinto ezintle emntwini. Izinto ezingalunganga azikhathali. Ngaphezu kwako konke, nyaniseka. Ngaphandle kokuthembana, akukho nto yenzekayo. Kwaye kungoko kuphela uthando luya kukhula.

Iingcinga Final

Umtshato luhambo lwentsebenziswano, ukukhula, nokuqondana. Ukuhlalisana okuvuyisayo kunye neqabane lakho akukho malunga nokungabikho kongquzulwano kodwa ubukho bokuthembana, unxibelelwano kunye nentlonipho. Ngokulungelelanisa ubuntu kunye nobunye, ukukhulisa ukusondelana ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasemzimbeni, kunye nokulungelelanisa iinjongo ekwabelwana ngazo, izibini ezitshatileyo zinokudala iqhina eliqinileyo, elizalisekisayo. Khumbula, umtshato ophumelelayo yinkqubo eguqukayo—eyakheka mihla le ngothando, umonde nokuzinikela. Abacebisi bethu abanamava inokukunceda wena neqabane lakho ukuba niqinise unxibelelwano, nisombulule iingxabano, nokwakha ubudlelwane obonwabileyo, obuphumelelayo.

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