Namhlanje, mna nawe sikwincoko engathandekiyo, kodwa ekhanyayo. Kusenokuba nzima ukufikelela esiphelweni, kodwa wakuba uyenzile, uya kundibulela. Ukuchonga iimpawu eziyityhefu kumntu omthandayo akunakuze kube lula. Kodwa ukuyamkela ingxaki linyathelo lokuqala lokuyicombulula. Ndilapha ukukunceda uchonge iimpawu ezili-13 zesithandwa esinetyhefu kunye namanyathelo ama-3 onokuwathatha ukujongana nayo.
Kuba umxholo wobudlelwane obungenampilo unzima kwaye izisombululo zingumngeni kwindalo, ndifikelele kwelinye lawona abalaseleyo ebaleni - UGqr Aman Bhonsle (PhD). Uye walinganisa ngemibono embalwa ye-dynamite kunye nokuqaphela okuchuliweyo kwindlela asebenza ngayo njengengcali yepsychotherapist yobudlelwane.
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Iimpawu ezili-13 zesithandwa esinetyhefu kakhulu
Isiqulatho
Bamba ifowuni umzuzu nje omnye. Igama elithi 'ityhefu' liye laba sisiseko sekhaya. Wonke umntu phaya unembono yakhe yokuba yintoni na eyenza 'indlela yokuziphatha eyityhefu'. Oku kuxhomekeke kumngcipheko, kuba nantoni na nayo yonke into inokuqhotyoshwa njengetyhefu kwezi ntsuku.
Yiyo loo nto impendulo ethi 'Yintoni eyenza umntu owayesakuba abe yityhefu?' yahluka kumntu nomntu. Ngenjongo yencoko yethu, masiqonde ukuba 'ityhefu' ithetha nayiphi na indlela yokuziphatha okanye isenzo esinokuba yingozi ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokwasemoyeni kwabanye abasingqongileyo. Ukuba ukuziphatha komntu kunempembelelo embi kuthi, ubonisa iimpawu eziyityhefu.
Umntu othanda ipayina kwipizza akanatyhefu, masibe realistic apha. Kodwa a umntu otshisa igesi kwaye uyasikhohlisa ngokuqinisekileyo. Ukuthandana nomntu obonisa ukuziphatha okunjalo kunokusichaphazela kwaye kube nefuthe elibi kubudlelwane. Nazi iimpawu ezili-13 zesithandwa esinetyhefu esiya kukunika imbono entsha malunga neqabane lakho.
Hlala ujonge inyani iibhombu endizoziwisa. Makhe singene nzulu kwiimpawu eziyityhefu kumfana othandana naye ukuze ukwazi ukuphendula ngokuchanekileyo umbuzo - "Ngaba ungumfana onetyhefu?"
1. Ungumntu onesini kwaye uyayazi loo nto
Ngaba ndifuna ukuthetha ngakumbi? Ngaba umfana wakho 'uyakuvumela' ukuba wenze izinto? Ngaba uyayazi into yokuba awuyifuni imvume yakhe? Ngaba uyayihlola into oyinxibileyo nalapho uya khona? Kutheni ke, mfazi wam endimthandayo, unyamezele obu bugwenxa?
Iqabane lokwabelana ngesondo ngokuzenzekelayo lithetha ubudlelwane obungalinganiyo. Kukho ukungalingani kwamandla kuba ungumntu onelungelo ongawahoyiyo amabhinqa. Ukutshintshatshintsha phakathi kwabantu ababini kufuneka KUHLALE kukwinqanaba elilinganayo okanye kungenjalo kunokukhokelela kuxinzelelo umzabalazo wamandla kubudlelwane.
Ndiyakubongoza ukuba ukhumbule ukuba ucalucalulo ngokwesini ayingomazwi nje ahlabayo, kodwa kunye nezincomo ezicalulayo ezinje “Awufani nabanye abafazi” okanye “Uqhuba kakuhle umntu obhinqileyo,” or “Uyi-wife material.” Yonke le yimizekelo 'yokuziphatha kakuhle ngokwesini' kwaye kufuneka ingahoywa.
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2. Uyayozela izimvo zakho - iimpawu zeqabane eziyityhefu
UGqr Bhonsle uyibeka kakuhle xa esithi, “Umntu oxhaphazayo ngoyena mntu unetyhefu ukuba naye.
Umfana onetyhefu uhlala efuna ukuba neyakhe indlela. Ukulalanisa yingcamango yasemzini kuye kwaye yona ngokwayo yenye yeengxaki ezinkulu zeqabane eziyityhefu. Ukuba ufuna ukutya isiTshayina kwisidlo sangokuhlwa kwaye ufuna ipizza, qikelela ukuba izakuba yipizza yesidlo sangokuhlwa. Oku kunjalo kwizigqibo ezininzi zobudlelwane bakho.
Yiyo kanye le nto kufuneka ucinge ngayo ukuphelisa ubudlelwane obuyityhefu. Ubudlelwane kufuneka bube lulungelelwano olunempilo phakathi kwezinto ezifunwa ngabantu ababini. Ukuthathela ingqalelo iminqweno kunye nezimvo zeqabane lakho ngumgangatho wobudlelwane ekufuneka ubenawo. Ubuthi bunyanzelisa intando yakho kwiqabane lakho.
3. Asinguye, lihlabathi
Ukukwazi ukuthatha uxanduva mhlawumbi yeyona nto iphantsi kakhulu ebantwini. Uyayazi into endiyibona inomtsalane endodeni? Ukukwazi kwakhe ukuba neempazamo zakhe, kuba oku ku kufuneka ube nomgangatho wobudlelwane ukugcina ubudlelwane buqhubeka. Umntu obeka ityala kuyo yonke into yangaphandle, ungumntu ongekho mpilweni kwaye ngokungafihlisiyo umntu oya kuba nzima kakhulu ukuba kubudlelwane naye.
Yithi wena kunye nomfana wakho niqhuba. Ubaleka isibane esibomvu, aze atsalwe ngamapolisa. Kucacile ukuba lityala lakhe ukuba ufumene itikiti, kodwa uqala ukuthetha malunga nokungabi nabulungisa kwale meko. Isibane sacinywa phakathi, ndabe sele ndiwelile. Lo ngumzekelo ocacileyo wokungakwazi kwakhe ukuthi, "ububi bam." Zibuze ngokuphandle, ngaba ngokwenene uyafuna ukuba nomntu onje?
Umntu onje uya kuvelisa imiba yakhe, angaze acinge, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo akayi kulibona icala lakho lezinto. Xa umntu etyale imali kakhulu ekuqinisekiseni ukuba usoloko elungile, akanakuze abe ngoyena mntu ufanelekileyo ukuba athandane. Ezi mpawu zakuqala zobudlelwane obuyityhefu kulula ukuziphosa kwasekuqaleni okanye ngexesha lehoneymoon kodwa kunokukhokelela kwiingxaki ezinzulu zobudlelwane kwixesha elizayo.
4. Enza ntoni amakhwenkwe anetyhefu? Bahlala kabini kuwe
Ukukopela yeyona nto imbi umntu unokubeka iqabane lakhe, kuba ukuqhathwa ejongene ukungcatshwa kubudlelwane kubangela iimvakalelo zokungafaneleki. Ukudlala ngothando namanye amabhinqa, okanye ukuwajonga nawo kuyingozi (singasathethi ke ngokuziphatha ngokwesini).
Uza kuhlala ekuxelela ukuba yonke le nto imsulwa, yaye ‘uzonwatyiswa nje.’ Kutheni efuna ukonwaba ngaphandle kweemvakalelo nentlonelo yakho?” UGqr. Bhonsle uyaphawula kwaye ubetha uphawu kwakhona!
Ukuba ubusoloko ukwenza izaba zokuthambekela isoka lakho ezimbini-ixesha, nceda uqonde ukuba akanakuba nesiqingatha njengoko nolwazelelelo njengawe. Ukuba nobabini nigqibe ekubeni kubudlelwane obubodwa, yeyiphi enye ingxoxo ekusafuneka nibe nayo? Akufunekanga ummise xa ephuma nomnye umntu. Ezi mpawu zinetyhefu kwisoka ziya kuguqula ubomi bakho.
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5. Umgxeki wonyaka
Enye yeempawu zeqabane eliyityhefu ngokubanzi kukuba AKAKUHLAZI NJE, ucinga ukuba ukugxeka kwakhe kubaluleke kakhulu. Ukuba bekuya kuye, ebeza kuqala iblogi ephawula ngezigqibo zakho. Masikhumbule into eyabhalwa nguBenjamin Disraeli, “Kulula kangakanani ukugxeka kunokuchaneka. "
Ukuthandana neqabane elinetyhefu kudla ngokuziva ngathi ukufakwa phantsi kwemakroskopu. Akukho nto unokuyenza ngokufanelekileyo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uzama kangakanani na, baya kuphumelela ekufumaneni iimpazamo. Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, le yindawo yokuhlala ye-claustrophobic, kwaye a uphawu olulumkisayo lobudlelwane obuyityhefu.
Kwaye ukuba uqaphele kakhulu, isoka lakho aliyi kuba nenyongo yokuthatha ukugxekwa ngokwakhe. Enza ntoni amakhwenkwe anetyhefu? Baya kuzikhusela njengombane. Inika umdla...inetyhefu, kodwa inika umdla.
Ngoko, indlela yokujongana nesoka elinobuthi elingumgxeki wonyaka? Ngaba ufanele uqalise ukucinga ngokuqhawula umtshato nesithandwa esinetyhefu? Qhubeka ufunda ukuze ufumane.
6. Umama akakho fan
Umntu ngamnye ucinga ukuba uzazi ngcono. Nawe, ngobudlelwane bakho obunetyhefu, kholelwa ukuba uyayazi into oyenzayo. Ngapha koko, omnye umntu unokwazi njani oko kusilungeleyo?
Hmmm, iqela leengcali zengqondo kwiYunivesithi yaseWashington alivumelani. Yabo isifundo uye watyhila ukuba abantu abasingqongileyo bazazi ngcono iindlela zethu zokuziphatha kunye notyekelo lwethu. Banenjongo kuvavanyo lwabo ngathi - akukho zigqweso kwezo mbono!
Ngoko ke, ukuba usapho lwakho kunye nabahlobo bakho bahlala bethandabuza isoka lakho, ukuba umhlobo wakho kunye nomama wakho bahlala bekuxelela ukuba 'ucingisise ngezinto,' unokuba nento omele uyixhalabele. Rhoqo, abanqweneleli bakho babona iimpawu zesithandwa esinetyhefu ngaphambi kokuba wenze.
Umama wakho ubona iimpawu eziyityhefu kumfana othandana naye bhetele kunawe, ngoko ukuba uziva engalunganga ngalo, ungamgxothi.
7. Ushushu kwaye uyabanda – iimpawu eziyityhefu kumfana
UGqr. Bhonsle uthi, “Ubomi abuyongoma kaKaty Perry” yaye ndandingavumelani ngakumbi naye. Ukuhambelana kwindlela yokuziphatha kuphawu lomntu ophilileyo. Umntu onetyhefu uyaguquguquka phakathi kokuba nothando, aze arhoxe.
Mhlawumbi isoka lakho liyalurhoxisa uthando 'njengesohlwayo'. Mhlawumbi 'ukuvuza' ngothando. Mhlawumbi uyakunika unyango cwaka ngamanye amaxesha ukukufundisa isifundo. Ingxaki ngalo matshini kukufuna kwakhe ukuba wenze ngendlela afuna ngayo. Uyayivuza into acinga ukuba ifanelekile.
Le flegi ibomvu kune-apile ye-Snow White. Ngaba ude ubuze ukuba 'ungumfana onetyhefu'?
“Iqabane elilungileyo ngumntu okuxhasayo naxa engaqondi ukuba uyintoni na.” Phulaphula uGqr. Bhonsle, uye wadibana nezibini ezaneleyo ukuze abone uphawu oluyingozi xa elubona.
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8. Enza ntoni amakhwenkwe anetyhefu? Bayakuxhaphaza
Ke, isoka lakho lidlala imidlalo yengqondo kwaye likuqhathe phantsi kwengubo yokulibiza 'luthando'. Usebenzisa igunya lakhe ngokunyanzelela, kwaye wena ugubungela imivumbo. Ngaba ungumfana onetyhefu? Ewe nguyo.
Impatho-gadalala inokuba yimvakalelo, okanye ngokwasemzimbeni ngokwendalo, kwaye ineziphumo ezihlala zihleli kuzo zombini iindlela. Iqabane elixhaphazayo linciphisa ubomi bakho ngobuninzi boxinzelelo aluvelisayo kuwe. Andikhathali ukuba i-sex inokuba ilungile kangakanani, olo hlobo loxinzelelo alunakuze lufaneleke.
Umhlobo wam osenyongweni, uMolly, wayethandana nendoda eyayisebenzisa iintshukumo ezifihlakeleyo zomzimba ukuze 'iphawule igunya layo'. Wayenokusibamba isandla sakhe nje kancinane kakhulu, asicinezele egxalabeni lakhe, okanye umbhoshongo phezu kwakhe. Izinto ezifana nezi azinakwa, kodwa nikela ingqalelo kubunzulu bazo kunye nokuphindaphinda. Umfana wakho oyityhefu wenza ubomi bakho bube sisihogo.
9. Nguye (ukulawula) okungaqhelekanga kuwe
Ngaba ngamanye amaxesha ucinga ukuba uthandana nebhodi yobalo? Le yenye yeempawu eziphezulu zetyhefu isoka elikhuselayo. Iqabane elibeka esweni yonke into oyithethayo okanye oyenzayo, ayikhululekanga ngobuwena bokwenyani. Oku kuyenza ibe yenye yeempawu zeqabane eziyityhefu.
Ukuba akakwamkeli njengokuba unjalo, uya kuzama ukukwenza ube yinguqulelo ayivumelayo. Kodwa asikwazi ukwenza iihafu zethu ezingcono - ayisiyiyo indlela esebenza ngayo leyo. Ke mhlawumbi isoka lakho lifuna isifundo okanye ezibini kumntu ngamnye.
Jonga ubudlelwane obufana nomzobo weVenn. Ezibini izangqa nguwe kunye neqabane lakho. Indawo eqhelekileyo apho badibana khona bubudlelwane bakho. Ngaba isangqa sakho somntu siqu siyangenelwa? Isidlo nje sezifundo ezisibhozo sokucinga.
10. Ukulinda akupheli
Uphawu lwakudala lomfana onetyhefu, lithemba lakho elihlala lihleli lokuba uya kuphucula. Kanye ixesha elingakumbi, ucinga. Inyanga okanye ngaphezulu kwaye uya kuyifumana kunye. Ndikwalathisa kwicala lamazwi ka-Elizabeth Gilbert: "Kufuneka uyeke ukunxiba ithambo lakho elinqwenelekayo apho umqolo wakho ufanele ukuba ube khona."
Ungandivi kakubi, ndingumntu othanda ukuba nethemba. Kodwa kukwakho into ebizwa ngokuba 'yithemba elingekho ngqiqweni,' bubudenge nje obo. Umnike amathuba amaninzi okuphumeza izithembiso azenzayo. Nje ngokuba uwile nzulu eluthandweni, ayithethi ukuba kufuneka ulahlekelwe yiyo yonke ingqiqo.
Lahla loo mathemba abubuxoki, kwaye uhlolisise ukuba ngaba wenze inkqubela yokwenene okanye hayi. Ubomi bufutshane, musa ukubeka ithemba lakho kumntu ongafuni ukuba ngumntu ongcono.
UGqr. Bhonsle wongezelela ngelithi: “Kumava am, iinguqu eziphawulekayo azifane zenzeke.
11. Unxibelelwano olubi - iimpawu zokuqala zobudlelwane obunobuthi
Ndicinga ukuba i-intanethi inamanqaku aneleyo athetha ngokubaluleka konxibelelwano kubudlelwane, ngoko andiyi kubakhupha kwakhona. Kodwa ndiza kukuxelela ukuba yintoni equka iipateni zonxibelelwano ezingenampilo.
Benza ntoni abafana abanetyhefu xa ilixesha lokunxibelelana? Nantsi ke. Ukwala ukuba neencoko ezinzima, ukuphepha naziphi na izihloko zobunzulu okanye izinto (ikamva lisiphathele ntoni, apho ubudlelwane bumi okanye busingise khona, njl. njl.), ukuphakamisa umthamo ngexesha leengxabano, ukuzithoba kuhlaselo lobuqu, ukubamba inzondo ixesha elide, okanye ukuba ndlongondlongo, zonke ziimpawu zesoka elinetyhefu.
Nobabini nje andinakuyeka ukulwa. Le yingxaki enokulungiswa ngokucetyiswa ngobudlelwane. Ukuba umfana wakho uzimisele ukwenza njalo kwaye ukuba unayo nayiphi na kwezi mpawu zeqabane zinetyhefu, ndiyathandabuza kakhulu ...
12. Uhlala uphakamisa izinto ezinzima
Akukho budlelwane bunokuzigcina kwimizamo yeqabane elinye. Ayinakwenzeka nje. Ukuba ucinga ukuba ubuzama ukwenza izinto zisebenze okwethutyana, kunye ne-zero reciprocity ukusuka esiphelweni somfana wakho, ke ubudlelwane bakho bukwisanti.
Yintoni eyenza i-ex ityhefu okanye zithini iimpawu zokuqala zobudlelwane obuyityhefu? Imizamo yecala elinye. Iinzame ezicalanye zinokuhamba ukuza kuthi ga ngoku. Amathuba kukuba uya kulahlekelwa nguwe kwinkqubo yokuzama ukugcina ubudlelwane bakho. Thixo, amakhwenkwe anetyhefu enza ubomi bube sisihogo. Yiloo nto kanye ufanele ucinge ngokuphelisa ubudlelwane obuyityhefu.
Ukutyeshela ibhondi owabelana ngayo kwaye ungenzi umsebenzi owufunayo, luphawu lokungakhathali, okanye okubi ngakumbi, ukungakhathalelwa. Ngaba ungumfana onetyhefu? Ndicinga njalo. Ngaba ukuphelisa obu budlelwane buyityhefu licebo elilungileyo? 10/10 ewe.
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13. 'T' kwimiba yokuthembana yenza enye yeempawu eziyityhefu kumfana
Olona phawu luyityhefu kukungakwazi kwakhe ukubeka ithemba lakhe kuwe. Akakhuselekanga kwaye unomona phantse lonke ixesha. Ndivumele ukuba ndikhuphe i-cliché ngendlela yakho - ukuthembana sisiseko sabo bonke ubudlelwane.
Ngaphezu koko, akanako ukunyaniseka ngokupheleleyo kuwe malunga nesiqu sakhe. Akaze akubonise icala lakhe elisengozini kwaye, ngenxa yoko, ubudlelwane bakho buswele ubunzulu. Ukuze ubudlelwane busebenze, kufuneka nazi iimpazamo kunye namandla omnye komnye. Ngolu hlobo lokudlala okuguquguqukayo, nokuba uya kuphelelwa lixesha elinzima ukumthemba nokuphuhlisa imiba yokuthembela kweyakho!
Ndifumene esi sicaphulo sibalaseleyo sika-Ashley Lorenzana kwiveki ephelileyo: "Eyona ndlela ilula yokufumana ukuthenjwa ngumntu kukumfanele. Oku kufanele kube lula kakhulu, ucinga ukuba unguye kwaye uyinyani. Umzamo omncinci kakhulu."
Zingaphi kwezi mpawu zomfana oyityhefu ozijongileyo? Ndicinga ukuba ndiyakwazi ukuqikelela ngokucacileyo umbuzo wakho olandelayo - indlela yokujongana nesoka elinobuthi? Mna noGqr. Bhonsle sineempendulo enizidingayo. Masiqhubele phambili kumanyathelo amathathu onokuthi uwathathe xa ukwi-pickle yesoka enetyhefu.
Amanyathelo ama-3 onokuthi uwathathe ukuba unomfana onetyhefu
Ukufumana indlela yokujongana neempawu ezinobuthi kumfana akuyonto inzima. Kulucelomngeni, kodwa kulula. UGqr. Bhonsle uyicazulule ngokwamanyathelo amathathu onokuwathatha. Nokuba unenjongo yokuqhawula umtshato nesoka elinetyhefu, la manyathelo abalulekile ukuqonda.
1. Ukuzivavanya
Ethe ngqo kwingongoma, uGqr. Bhonsle uthi inyathelo lokuqala lihlala lizihlola. "Kufuneka ubuze imigangatho yakho (okanye ukungabikho kwayo) xa uzifumana ukubudlelwane obuyityhefu. Ngaba udla ngokutsaleleka kolu hlobo lwamadoda? Ngaba kukho uphindaphindo apha?"
Ecacisa ngeepatheni zokuziphatha sonke esibuyela kuzo, uthetha 'ngemixholo' ephindaphindiweyo kubomi bethu. “Ingaba imixholo ethile iyaphinda?
Kufuneka uthathe ikhefu kwaye uhlale nawe. Vavanya ukuba ngaba uziva uphantsi kukuzithemba, ukuba ufuna ukuqinisekiswa ngaphandle. Kutheni ukhululekile ukuba yi-doormat? Ngaba uqinisekile ukuziphatha okuzihlazisayo? Sebenzela ekuvuseleleni ukuzixabisa kunye nesidima sakho ngaphambi kokuba ukhathazeke ngezinto ezithethwa okanye ezenziwa ngamaqabane anetyhefu.
2. Funa uncedo
Emva kwengxoxo yakho nawe, thatha isigqibo sokuba ngaba ufuna ukufuna uncedo lobuchwephesha. Ukufunda ukuqiniseka ngakumbi kwaye uzimele thatha ixesha lokuzibamba kwaye ubambe. Kufuneka ungafundi kwaye uphinde ufunde.
"Unyango lukunceda ukuba uqonde ngcono. Uyakwazi ukuzibonela into ekubambezelayo. Ipateni eyaziwayo, yikota yepatheni esonjululwe." UGqr. Bhonsle ukwacacisa indlela ezisonjululwa ngayo iingxaki zobudlelwane neqabane elinetyhefu xa siqalisa ukusebenza ngokwethu. Ihlabathi likhohlakele yaye abantu abanaluvelwano. Kulishwa elinzulu ukuba benjalo, kodwa yindlela ekuyiyo. Kuya kufuneka uzimele ngokwakho kuba akukho mntu uza kukwenza. ”
Ungangena kwakhona kwi iingcebiso zobudlelwane nesoka lakho ukuphilisa ubudlelwane obuyityhefu, kodwa oko kuza emva kokuba wenze isigqibo sokuba ufuna ukuqhubeka izinto naye okanye hayi. Ngaba uyafuna ukulahla isoka lakho elinetyhefu? Oku kusikhokelela kwinyathelo lethu elilandelayo-uvavanyo lomngcipheko.
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3. Uvavanyo lomngcipheko
Into yokugqibela onokuyenza kukuvavanya ukuba ubudlelwane bufanelekile ixesha kunye nemigudu yakho. UGqr. Bhonsle uthi: “Yonke into siyihlawula ngexesha. Yeyona mali ixabisekileyo ehlabathini. Gqiba enoba olo lwalamano, yaye ukongezelela, iqabane lakho liyifanele le mali.”
Uthi ukuba isoka enetyhefu wenza isihogo sobomi, kodwa usathandana naye. Yintoni omele ulahlekelwe yiyo xa uqhubeka nale relationship? Ngaba umngcipheko mkhulu kakhulu? Ukuba impendulo kulo nguewe, shiya iqabane lakho elinetyhefu kwaye uzibeke phambili. Lulumkele ulwalamano ngazo zonke iindlela. Kodwa zilumkele nawe.” Ukuba ukuphelisa ulwalamano oluyityhefu kulukhetho lobulumko (nangona lubuhlungu), asifanele sibe mathidala ukulwenza.
Oku kubilisa kumbuzo wokuba ngaba ubona ikamva elonwabileyo nelisempilweni kunye nabo. Ngaba ixesha elide linokwenzeka? Ngaba uyafuna ukususa isoka elinetyhefu?
Imibuzo emininzi kuphela onokuyiphendula.
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