Ngaphandle kweblue, ex yakho ifota "Hey!" indlela yakho kwaye ngoko nangoko ingqondo yakho iqala ukubaleka. Amathuba okuvuselela uthando? Uhambo olude, iintetho ezinde, kunye nokuwolana okude kubuya ngokukhawuleza kwakhona? Ngaba kusenokwenzeka ukuba bayakukhumbula? Ngoko udubula "Heyi!" ngasemva. Poof, ngoku banyamalele iveki. Konke oku kunokukushiya uzibuza ukuba, kuthetha ukuthini xa i-ex yakho ishushu kwaye ibanda?
Okanye inokuba yinto elula njengokuba umntu wakho wangaphambili engaphenduli kwimiyalezo yakho, kodwa uqinisekisa ukuba ubukele lonke ibali olilayishayo kuwo onke amaqonga eendaba zentlalo. Siqinisekile ukuba into elolo hlobo inyanzelekile ukuba ikwenze ucinge “Iex yam iyatshisa kwaye iyabanda!”
Kwenzeka kwabalungileyo kuthi. Siye sixhonywe kwi ex yethu kwaye ngamanye amaxesha banokuthatha ithuba lokuba. Isenokudanisa kwaye idimaze. Njengoko sele usokola nokuqhubekeka, awudingi kuphazamiseka rhoqo kunye nokunyamalala okulandelayo. Ngoko, yintoni enokuyenza xa i-ex ishushu kwaye ibanda?
Izizathu ezisi-7 I-Ex Yakho ishushu kwaye iyabanda- kunye nendlela yokujongana nayo
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"Kutheni i ex yam ishushu kwaye ibanda?" Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuphendula lo mbuzo wedwa, kungekudala uza kubona amandla otyalo-mali ozama ukusombulula le mfihlelo ayifanelanga intlawulo. Ukuziphatha okushushu nokubanda kwalowo uphephayo kunokukushiya ukrazula ingqondo yakho ungafumani mpendulo yokwenyani.
Ukufumana iimpawu ezixubeneyo kwi-ex? Siyiqonda kakuhle into ojongene nayo kunye nehlabathi lentlungu elinokukhokelela kulo. Nalu uluhlu lwezizathu ezinokwenzeka kunye nento omawuyenze ngayo:
1. Bakuthatha lula
Umzuzu omnye bangumhlobo wakho osenyongweni. Omnye ubona intombi yakho yangaphambili eshushu kwaye ibanda / isoka liphethe imiyalezo yakho. Ukuba ufumana iimpawu ezixubeneyo kwi-ex efana nale, inokuthetha bakuthatha lula. Basenokuqaphela ukuba banamandla amancinane kolu tshintsho kwaye banokuwasebenzisa gwenxa ukukugcina ujikeleze nanini na xa befuna kwaye balibale ngawe xa bexakekile.
Oku kuhlala kubangelwa kukuba ufumaneka kakhulu kwi-ex yakho. Ukwi-beck yabo kwaye ufowune kwaye ubeke yonke into oyenzayo ukuba uphendule / uthabathe ifowuni. ex yakho eshushu kwaye kubanda uya kuthatha eli thuba nawe. Ukuba ukhangela imizekelo yokuziphatha eshushu kwaye kubanda ukusuka ex, lixesha benza izicwangciso ukuba baphume nawe kwaye ucwangcise imini yonke nawe, kodwa wema wena xa ixesha lifikile.
UkuFunda okuFanayo: Indlela yokuphumelela i-Ex yakho emva-kwaye ubenze bahlale ngonaphakade
Isisombululo: Zibeke wena kuqala!
Xa ubona i-dumper ithumela imiqondiso exubeneyo ngolu hlobo kwaye iqale ukukuthatha kancinci, kufuneka uzibeke phambili kuqala. Kuya kufuneka uzixelele ukuba ukuhlala kwi-beck yabo kunye nokufowuna akuyi kukwenza nto kwaye kunokugqibela kukulimaza. Ukuzixelela nje ukuba akwanelanga, kufuneka uyikholelwe! Jonga kude kwiscreen sefowuni yakho. Sukuchitha ixesha ucingisisa "i-ex yam iyandibhida" kwaye ufumane ubomi kude ne-ex yakho. I-detox yemidiya yoluntu iya kukwenzela okulungileyo.
2. Abaqondi ukuba bayatshisa kwaye bayabanda
Kulungile, kukho ithuba elihle lokuba oku akunjalo kodwa kusafuneka ubanike inzuzo yokuthandabuza. Ukuba baluhlobo oluhlala lunobubele kwaye lufumaneka kumntu wonke, banokungayiqondi loo nto bayakukhokelela phambili. Iza kubonakala ibhidekile kwaye ikushiye ubuza "kutheni i ex yam ishushu kwaye ibanda?"
Basenokuba luhlobo lwabantu abazama ukuba nobuhlobo naye nabani na kunye naye wonke umntu ebomini babo, ngenxa yokuba beqhayisa ngokuba ngabantu. Ukuba loo ex ukuziphatha okushushu nokubanda kukubambe ebhokisini, kusenokuba kungenxa yokuba akaqondi nokuba ukukhokelela.
Akunakwenzeka, siyavuma. Kodwa kunokwenzeka. Ingakumbi ukuba awuzange uvumele iimvakalelo zakho zaziwa kwi-ex yakho. Yiloo nto kanye enokwenziwa xa i-ex ishushu kwaye ibanda.
Isisombululo: Nxibelelana!
Ukuba ucinga ukuba i-ex yakho inokuba shushu kwaye ibanda ngakuwe ngaphandle kokuba baqonde ukuba bayakuxaka, kufuneka uthethe nabo. Abayazi into yokubhideka abayenza ebomini bakho ngoko ngumsebenzi wakho ukubaxelela ngayo. Yiba ngaphambili, baxelele into ekukhathazayo kwaye izisombululo ziya kuvela.
3. Ex yakho akaqinisekanga ngeemvakalelo zabo
Ngelixa uzibuza, "i-ex yam iyandibhida, ndenze ntoni?", inokuba basenokubhideka ngokwabo. Kungenzeka ukuba banokuba neemvakalelo ezingapheliyo, kodwa abaqinisekanga kakhulu ngabo. Ngoko babonakala benobuhlobo kakhulu ngamanye amaxesha kwaye ngamanye amaxesha babonakala befuna ukungabi nanto yakwenza nawe.
Ayisiyiyo le nto kuphela ekhathazayo kakhulu kuwe kodwa ayilunganga kwi-ex yakho. Oku kunokukhokelela kwiincoko ezininzi ezingathandekiyo emva kokwahlukana. Ukuba u-ex wakho udidekile, banokuvakala njengomntu ohluke ngokupheleleyo kwiintsuku ezahlukeneyo. Ke kufuneka wenze ntoni xa u-ex wakho obhidekileyo eshushu kwaye ebanda?
Isixazululo: Babhidekile okanye uyasetyenziswa?
Ukuba kubonakala ngathi ex yakho ukuze babhideke, kufuneka uqikelele ngokukhawuleza kangangoko kunokwenzeka ukuba ukubhideka lokwenene okanye usebenzisa nje wena kuba usoloko ngeenxa. Unokuthetha ne ex yakho ngqo ngale nto okanye ube nomhlobo uthethe nabo ngayo. Ukuzama ukufumanisa ukuba i-ex yakho ikuwe iya kukushiya ukrazula ingqondo yakho kwezinye iimpawu. Kuya kwenza ukufumana ngaphezulu kwe ex yakho nzima ngakumbi.
Ukuba kuthe kwenzeka ukuba kubhideke okwenyani, cela umntu wakho wangaphambili ukuba enze isigqibo okanye ahlukane nawe. Ukuba bayakusebenzisa, fownela laa bhuti wakho unezihlunu. Uza kukhathalela okuseleyo.
4. Ex yakho eshushu kwaye ebandayo ikugcina kwi hook
Xa ex-intombi yakho eshushu kwaye ebandayo ex-isoka okanye ex-isoka ikugcina kwi hook, oko kuthetha ukuba ukhokela wena phezu uzama ukwenza ucinga ukuba basakufuna, ukuze musa ukukhukuliseka kude kwaye uhlale ukhetho. Basenokudlala ngothando, babonakale benomdla kakhulu baze baphole kwakhona. Bakugcina ujikeleze, ubonakala unomdla ngokwaneleyo ukuba uqalise ukuphupha, kodwa ungaze uzibophelele kuyo nantoni na.
Ngoku kutheni beza kukugcina kwi-hook, uyabuza? Ewe, bafuna ukukugcina ujikeleze, nje "ukuba" bafuna ukwenza okuthile. Ukugcina umntu kwi hook kuvela kwimvakalelo yokuba nelungelo elibi. Ingajika ibe ngamava amabi kwi-dumpee kuba baya kuba sekupheleni kokufumana isivumelwano kwaye ayintle.
Akukho mntu uthanda ukuba yi-backup. Ayingobadlali bethiyetha, hayi iimbaleki, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ayingobathandi. Owayesakuba ngumthandi wakho ngokusisiseko udlala uthixo, ugcina i-backup ilungele i-rom-com yeqonga bubomi bakho, nje ukuba umdlali ophambili uyagula. Kwiimeko ezinje, "i-ex yam ishushu kwaye iyabanda" kufuneka ibe yinto yokugqibela engqondweni yakho, okona kubaluleke kakhulu kukubavimba kuyo yonke indawo, ASAP.
Isisombululo: Umgaqo wokungaqhagamshelwa
Ukuba uqinisekile ukuba umxhasi wakho wangaphambili ushushu kwaye uyabanda kunye nawe ngenxa yokuba bakugcina kwikhonkco, inye kuphela into onokuyenza kwaye kufuneka uyenze - yizisa ukuze udlale, akukho mgaqo woqhagamshelwano. Ungabavumeli ukuba bakulawule ngokunyuka nokuhla kwamandla akho. Musa ukubanika igunya lokukudiliza, bakwakhe, banidilize;
Sebenzisa umthetho wokungaqhagamshelwa kwangoko. Ayizukufundisa kuphela i-ex yakho eshushu kunye nebandayo ukuba ingadibani nawe, kodwa iya kwenza imimangaliso kwimpilo yakho yengqondo.
5. Bayalukhumbula ukwabelana ngesondo
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba umntu owayesakuba ngumfana unxibelelana nawe ngesondo, kodwa owayesakuba yintombi eshushu kwaye ebandayo angayenza nayo. Emva kweenyanga ezimbalwa zokwahlukana, unokufumana umnxeba onxilileyo we-booty ngo-2 AM
Oku kuxhaphake kakhulu kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kunokuhlala ixesha elide kunokuba nje umnxeba onxilileyo/umbhalo. Kusenokubonakala ngathi inkathalo yokwenyani nothando lulele emva kwezo zibhalo uzifumanayo kwaye sicaphukela ukukuphula, kodwa inokuba yinkanuko nje.
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Isisombululo: Lahla! Lahla! Lahla!
Sele uyayazi le nto, kodwa usafunda isisombululo ucinga ukuba mhlawumbi sizakuthi ungaqhubeka uzonwabisa, kube kanye nje..?
Hayi, uxolo. Musa ukuyenza. Ayingombono ulungileyo. Ukudibana ne ex (ingakumbi eshushu kwaye ebandayo) ayizange ibe ngumbono olungileyo, okwangoku ayikabikho kwaye ayisoze ibekho. Ukuba ugqiba ukuyenza, uya kushiyeka unomthamo omkhulu weemvakalelo eziphikisanayo eziya kuba nzima kakhulu ukujongana nazo. Uyakwenza ntoni ke ngoko? Ewe, uyakuphinda ubethe i-ex yakho. Nip lo mjikelo ukhohlakeleyo kwi-bud, musa ukuyenza!
Thatha iphepha kwincwadi kaTed Mosby kwaye uzixelele ukuba umama wakhe wayesoloko emxelela ntoni: akukho nto ilungileyo eyenzeka emva kwe-2 AM Ke kwixesha elizayo ufumana i-“WYD” engenamsebenzi? ukusuka ex yakho ebusuku kakhulu, ukuphepha nje ukuba kushushu kwaye kubanda ex-isoka. Ubusuku bokuzonwabisa Indlela endiyifumene ngayo noMama wakho kuya kuba ngcono kuwe nayiphi na imini.
6. Uex wakho ufuna ukuba ngabahlobo nawe
Kulula kakhulu ukungabuqondi ubuhlobo ngeemvakalelo zokwenene zothando. Abahlobo bayabizana, bayakhathalelana, qiniseka ukuba baphila kakuhle kwaye bajonge omnye komnye. Ewe, kunjalo nabantu abakubudlelwane.
Emva kokwahlukana, i-ex yakho isenokukhathala ngawe kwaye ifuna ukuhlala ingabahlobo nawe. Uthando lunokudlula, kodwa basenokufuna okona kulungileyo kuwe. I-dumper ethumela imiqondiso exubeneyo inokuba uphosa ubuhlobo bothando.
Isisombululo: Yenza ingqondo yakho kwaye ubanike isheke lokwenyani
Kunqabile kakhulu ukuba abafundi ababini abaphumeleleyo bahlale bengabahlobo. Kuya kuthatha olona qhekeko lusempilweni emhlabeni kunye nabantu ababini abaqolileyo ukuba bakwazi ukuqhawula ubuhlobo kunye ne-zero awkwardness emva kokwahlukana.
Ukuba ucinga eyakho ex uzama ukuba ngabahlobo nawe, kufuneka uzibuze enoba unokuba ngumhlobo wabo ngaphandle kokuvumela iimvakalelo zikuthintele, okanye wenze izinto zibe nzima. Impendulo yalo mbuzo kubantu abaninzi inzima 'Hayi'. Xa uqaphela ukuba, kufuneka ukubanda kancinane ngokwakho kwaye unike ex yakho eshushu kwaye ebandayo itshekhi yokwenyani.
7. Ex yakho isenokuba kubudlelwane obutsha
Bopha, lo uza kuba buhlungu. Ukuba ex yakho uphephe kushushu kwaye kubanda, kusenokuba ngenxa yokuba sele kubudlelwane obutsha kunye nendlela olo lwalamano ihamba, ilawula indlela abathetha ngayo nawe. Xa ubudlelwane babo buhamba kakuhle, awubonakali ngathi ukhona kubo. Ukuba umqobo ekugqibeleni uza endleleni, uyinombolo 1 kucofa olukhawulezayo.
Iimpawu ezixubeneyo ezivela kwabangaphambili kule meko ngokuqinisekileyo ziya kulimaza. Ingakumbi xa uqonda ukuba bakolunye ubudlelwane kwaye basazama ukukukhokelela njengoko bafuna. Kuphantse ukuba banjalo kukugcina ujikeleza njenge-backup cwangciso.
Isisombululo: Gxila kuwe kwaye ugcine umgama
Ukuba i-dumper ithumela iimpawu ezixubeneyo naxa sele ikubudlelwane obutsha, amathuba okuba bacinga ukuba banamandla phezu kwakho. Kufuneka uzikhwebule kumaqhinga abo omntwana (iqhosha lebhloko liyakwenza imimangaliso kuwe, siyafunga) kwaye uqale ukusebenza ngokwakho.
Kuyinto eqhelekileyo ngokupheleleyo ukuziva blue ukuba ubona ukuba ex yakho kubudlelwane obutsha. Funa uncedo kubahlobo bakho okanye kugqirha ukuze uqonde ukuba kufuneka uqhubeke njani. Into ebalulekileyo omele uyikhumbule kukuba ungavumeli ex yakho ibe namandla phezu kwakho.
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Ukuyisonga, siya kukushiya neyona nto ingcono onokuyenza xa i-ex yakho ishushu kwaye ibanda: nxibelelana. Ukuba i-ex yakho ishushu kwaye iyabanda nawe, eyona ndlela ilula yokujongana nayo kungonxibelelwano. Thetha ne ex yakho ngalento ikukhathazayo. Kutheni ucinga ukuba bayakukhokela, kwaye ubabuze ukuba kutheni besenza oko. Ngonxibelelwano, unokukhetha inyathelo lakho elilandelayo, nokuba libandakanya ukuvalela i-ex yakho. Musa ukuvumela ex yakho eshushu kwaye kubanda amandla phezu kwakho, kwaye ubabonise ukuba ngubani umphathi.
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