Into yokuba ndimncamise endlini yakhe ayithethi ukuba ndikulungele ukulala naye

Esinye Isiganeko Sanele Ukushukumisa Ukuzikholelwa Kwam

Ndingowasetyhini, ibhinqa elinamandla elisebenzayo elizimeleyo, kodwa ngaloo mini, akuzange nje umzimba wam kunye nelungu lobufazi lihlaselwe, kodwa kunye nokholo lwam kum.

Ndohlukana nesoka lam elide kwiinyanga ezintlanu ezidlulileyo. Kwaba macala omabini, kodwa kwakubuhlungu ukwamkela ukuba akaseyonxalenye yobomi bam. Ndandibuhlungu kodwa ndifuna ukuqhubela phambili kwimvakalelo "yokuhlukana" ngokukhawuleza.

Ngenye imini, emva kokuchitha iiyure ezininzi “ezingenamsebenzi” zihleli kwidesika yeofisi, ndiye ndaqaphela ukuba oogxa bam ababini ababhinqileyo babexakekile beswayipha ngasekunene nangasekhohlo begigitheka kwaye beneentloni kangangeeyure ezininzi.

"Heyi, ngaba usebenzisa iTinder?" Ndibuzile.

“Ewe, yindlela entle yokudibana nabafana kwaye yenza umdlalo wakho wokuthandana womelele,” yaphendula enye yala mantombazana.

"Ndinomhla obekiweyo. Ubukeka emangalisa, une-abs kwaye ujongeka ngathi ungumntu ongaqhelekanga wokuzilolonga. Khawufane ucinge ukuba uyamangalisa kwaye womelele kangakanani ebhedini, "omnye uphazamise.

Ufundo oluhambelana nayo: Usebenze njani uTinder kubahlobo bam

Ndandinomdla malunga neeApps zokuthandana kwi-Intanethi

Ndincume okwegusha, ndabuyela kwilaptop yam. Ndandinomdla wokwazi; Kwakufuneka ndibone ukuba yintoni ingxaki enkulu. Yayivakala inika umdla dibana guys phantse, indenza ndizive ngathi ndiyakwazi ukuyilawula le meko: ngubani endimthandayo, endingazange ndidibane naye xa ndidibana, naxa ndingafanele ndidibane nayo. Nangona bendicinga ukuba le app yayiyenye nje inkcitho yexesha elinje “URakhi kaSwayamwar,” bendisahendelwa ukuba ndiyikhuphele. Emva kokuseta iprofayile yam kunye nebhayoloji yam, ndaye ndahlala phantsi ndaqala ukuswayipha-swayipha ngasekhohlo, swayipha ngasekunene. Yiyo yonke into eyayiyiyo. Andizange ndifumane nqaku leapp, kodwa yayivakala ngathi ngumdlalo. Ndiza kuswayipha kwi-cab, kwiindawo zokutyela, kwaye ebusuku kakhulu ngaphambi kokuba ndilale. Ndaqala ukuthetha nabo ngeepesenti ezingama-90 okanye i-creepy.

Mnye kuphela umfana endandithetha naye owayebonakala epholile. Wayenesiqalo, wayelungile; ndineendevu (oh! Ubuthathaka bam), kwaye bendibonakala ndinesidima. Igama lakhe yayinguKunal. Sanikana amanani kwaye ngokwenene wathetha kakhulu ngosuku lokuqala. Wayefuna ukudibana, kodwa ndandinomthetho: 'Musa ukuya kuthandana ngaphambi kokuba ubuncinane nithethe iveki'. Wayeswiti ngokwaneleyo ukuba anyamezele kwaye ngokwenene walinda iveki. Sobabini siyibethe kakuhle kakhulu. Ndandisazi ukuba akukho nto sasidibanisa ngayo. Ubuntu bethu babungafani, ukhetho lwethu, iinkolelo zethu zekhondo lomsebenzi – zazininzi iiflegi ezibomvu ekwakufanele ukuba ndizibala, kodwa andizange ndivume kwaye ndavuma ukudibana noKunal.

Bekungekho nto ingako sifanayo

BekungeCawa ngokuhlwa ndaya kumkhawulela kwikhefi encinci epholileyo, ekwisitrato esixakekileyo.

Wathi: “Indlela okhangeleka ngayo xa umntu ethetha iyamangalisa, imenza avakalelwe kukuba umamele.

Ndaba neentloni kancinci, “Owu! Bekumnandi ke ekugqibeleni, we hugged goodbye.

“Ndibe nexesha elimnandi lokudibana nawe,” wathumela umyalezo ngoxa ndandisendleleni eya ekhaya.

“Nam,” ndaphendula ndaphendula.

“Ngokwenene?

Andithethi kakhulu, ndingumntu omamelayo.

“Ndiyaqonda,” watsho.

Kwiveki elandelayo, walahleka. Inombolo yokuqala yeflegi ebomvu. Ngalo lonke ixesha ndimthumelela umyalezo ngefowuni, wayedla ngokundingxengxezela, “Ndandixakekile, ndinentlanganiso.”

Ndayeka ukumbhalela. Kwiintsuku ezintathu kamva, iitekisi zakhe zaqala ukubuyela emva.

“Heyi, masidibane ngokuhlwa,” wathumela umyalezo.

“Ngokuqinisekileyo,” (Ndandikhululekile ngobo busuku ndaza ndacinga, ‘Masimnike elinye ithuba. Mhlawumbi ndicinga ngokugqithisileyo.’)

Wandithumelela indawo yokuhlala nenombolo yendlu yakhe. Inombolo yesibini yeflegi ebomvu.

“Owu, abamelwane bakho… Ndicinga ukuba ukudibana endlwini yakho ayingombono ulungileyo,” ndamthumelela umyalezo.

Wathi: “Andinabamelwane kumgangatho wam. “Kuyabanda, yiza ngapha,” wongeze watsho.

Ndiye ndabooker I cab ndafika endlini yakhe. Kwilifti, ndandisoyika ndimane ndisitsho isingqi, 'Kutheni ndisenza le nto nje, kutheni ndisiya endlwini yalo mfo”, kodwa umdla wongamela ilizwi lam elincinane.

Waqalisa Ukuba Nomzimba

Ndiphume kwi lift ndambona eme ngaphandle kwendlu yakhe. Ndiye ndancuma wandigona. Ebezama ukusondela kum, endibamba intamo kwaye endiwola ngokuphindaphindiweyo, emva koko omnye wokwanga kwethu wakhokelela ekuphuzeni. Bendifuna ukumphuza; Bendiyazi ukuba kuzokwenzeka kiss. Kodwa bendifuna ukumncamisa qha.

Ebesitsho endincamisa, ebendiphulula esinqeni, emathangeni, nangempundu. Ndandizama ukubamba izandla zakhe, kodwa wayengafuni.

“Uyafuna ukubamba,” wabuza.

"Ewe." (Kuba ndandifuna ngokwenene ukugonwa. Ndawola nje.) Kodwa waqalisa ukundanga, kabukhali.

Ndinyuse isketi sam kancinci, ndibamba amabhunu am. Uvule ishirt yakhe efuna ndimncamise esifubeni.

Ndicinga ukuba kufuneka siyeke. Kufuneka sithathe izinto kancinci,” ndathi, “Mhlawumbi ndingahamba.” Kodwa akukho nto yasebenza.

Ndaziva ndibuthathaka kakhulu ukuba ndimchase. Ndandifuna ukuyigqiba.

“Asizolalana, trust me,” kulapho wakhulula khona iblukhwe efuna ndibambe into yakhe. Wandijonga wathi, “Nceda.”

“Asifanele sibe neentlobano zesini,” ndatsho ngokuphindaphindiweyo.

“Nceda,” watsho efaka ikhondom entweni yakhe.

Ugqiba kwam ndanxiba ndahamba. Ndaziva ndilawulwa kwaye ndibuthathaka.

Ukwabelana ngesondo kunye nemvume; omabini alele kwindawo engwevu. Into yokuba ndiye endlini yakhe ndifuna ukumphuza, ayithethi ukuba ndandikulungele ukulala naye. Akwaba ebeyazi loo nto.

Impatho-gadalala Lityala loMxhaphazi

Ukuxhatshazwa, enoba kungokwesini, ngamazwi, emzimbeni, okanye ngokweemvakalelo, kuyinto enzima ukujamelana nayo. Yintlukwano phakathi kwentloko; elinye icala lifuna ukuphuma liye kuthetha nomntu, libelane ngokwenzekileyo, lize live namagama ambalwa enkxaso. Elinye icala liyakuthintela. Ikuxelela ukuba abantu baya kukugweba, abantu baya kuthi ubungenangqondo kakhulu ukuba ungaqondi, ungaphuma ukuba uyafuna. Kodwa akwenzeki ngolo hlobo. Impatho-gadalala, nokuba yinto engapheliyo okanye yexesha elide okanye ekwanti, kukwenziwa ngumenzi wobubi. AYITHETHI ukuba ixhoba “liyicelile” okanye “liyayifuna.” Ngokuqhelekileyo, impendulo yokuqala yalo naliphi na ixhoba linetyala. Kungoko, ndiyaziphinda: AYILOtyala lakho.

Ufundo oluhambelana nayo: Wandixelela ukuba wohlukene ne ex yakhe

"Dating” iisayithi ezifana neTinder zenze kwalula ngabantu ukuba baqhathe abo babhetyebhetye. La maqonga enza kube lula ukuba abantu badibane nabanye, ngakumbi ngamaxesha okuphelelwa lithemba njengasemva nje ukuphela kobudlelwane, apho ubuthathaka obongezelelekileyo bomntu ngokoqobo “bunokubanjwa.”

Imvume mayibe ngomlomo

Imvume yingcamango engaqondwa kakuhle kakhulu. Njengomchasi ophambili uBryce Walker kungcelele olunempikiswano ethi "Izizathu ezili-13 zokuba kutheni" esitsho, "wayeyifuna, wenza amehlo." Yile nto imvume incitshiselwe kuyo. Sihlala kwilizwe apho ukudlwengulwa emtshatweni akuthathwa njengolwaphulo-mthetho. Abantu bacinga ukuba iimpawu ezingezizo ezinokuthi baqonde ukuba ziindlela zokunika imvume. Njengokuba kuvakala kuhlekisa, yiloo nto imvume incitshisiwe.

Ukuya kwindlu yomntu AKUNINI imvume. Ukuzinyanzela kumntu obanga ukuba "umenza abe namava olonwabo" AKUVUMELANI. Ngaphandle kokuba omnye umntu uthi kuwe, “masenze oku,” AKUKHO mvume. Amava ngesondo ngabantu ababini, hayi omnye. Kumalunga nokuhlonipha imizimba emibini, hayi omnye. Ukwabelana ngesondo kukufumana kunye nokunika ulonwabo, hayi icala elinye. Imalunga nabantu ababini abakwizimvo zabo ezifanelekileyo, abafuna ukuhlola imizimba yomnye.

Qonda ukuba ayilotyala lakho

Kuwo wonke umntu okhe wafumana naluphi na uhlobo loxhatshazo, ndingacebisa kakhulu ukuba undwendwele ingcali kwaye ujongane neemvakalelo owawuziva ngelo xesha. Ndiyayibulela into yokuba abantu beza apha kwaye basebenzisa eli qonga ukuveza iimvakalelo zabo. Akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokuthi hayi.

Ukuba umntu uyakuthanda, baya kulinda imvume yakho. Ukuba abakwenzi oko, abangomntu omdingayo ebomini bakho. Hamba uphume, ungoyiki ukuthi hayi. Phuma ukuba amathumbu akho akuxelela ukuba wenze njalo. Elo lizwi lincinci ngaphakathi liya kuhlala likuxelela izinto ezifanelekileyo onokuthi uzenze. Yithi YIMA ukuba ubufuna ukuqalisa kodwa uzive ungakhululekanga phakathi. Ngumzimba wakho, ungayirhoxisa imvume yakho nangaliphi na ixesha ungaziva ukhululekile. Musa ukoyika ukuba ukungavumi kuya kukhathaza omnye umntu. Kuba ukuba iyenzeka, ezo ayizizo iimvakalelo ofuna ukuhlala nazo. Ndikhuthaza wonke umntu olapha phandle ukuba aqonde kwaye axabise intsingiselo yemvume yokwenyani.

Iingcinga Final

Ekugqibeleni, uhambo lwam lubonise ukubaluleka okubalulekileyo kwemvume ecacileyo, yomlomo kuyo nayiphi na imeko esondeleyo. Ukutyelela indlu yomntu othile okanye ukwabelana nabanye ngokuncamisana akufuneki kuqondwe phosakeleyo njengokuvuma ukuba neentlobano zesini. Impatho-gadalala ayilotyala lexhoba, kwaye kubalulekile ukuqaphela nokuhlonipha imida yobuqu. Thembela ithuku lakho, nxibelelana ngokuphandle, kwaye ubeke phambili ukhuseleko lwakho kunye nokuzihlonipha kwakho. Imvume yokwenyani kumacala omabini, ngomdla, kwaye kuthethwa ngokuphandle. Khumbula, kusoloko kulungile ukuthi hayi kwaye uhambe kuyo nayiphi na imeko ekwenza uzive ungakhululekanga. Ukuphila kakuhle kwakho kubaluleke kakhulu, kwaye wonke umntu ufanelwe ukuziva ekhuselekile kwaye ehlonitshwa kubudlelwane bakhe.

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