Ukuvuselela uthando kumtshato oneminyaka engama-31 ubudala

Umtshato uyatshintsha ekuhambeni kwexesha-okwakukhe kwavakala kumnandi kwaye kutsha ngoku kunokuziva kukhululekile kodwa kuqhelekile. Ukuqonda indlela uthando olukhula ngayo kunokunceda ukubuyisela intlantsi ngeendlela ezintsha nezinentsingiselo.

Ukuvela koThando: Ukusuka kwiPasion ukuya kwiNtsebenziswano

Umtshato kaTanya no-Aakrit umalunga neentsuku ezili-100 ubudala, wethu, iminyaka engama-31. She is a topper from St. Stephens, he, a whizkid, osanda kuvela kwiForbes Top 30 Under 30. U-Aakrit, ngendlela, ngunyana wam kwaye ewe, ndiyazingca ngeengelosi zam ezimbini kwaye andibhekiseli kwiziqinisekiso zabo apha. Aba babini bandifundise into encinci malunga… ahem…uthando kunye nenkathalo, into endandicinga ukuba ndazi yonke into ngayo.

Aba babini balishiya ikhaya kunye ngo-9 ekuseni. Ngelixa uTanya ebuya ngo-5.30-6 pm, u-Aakrit ubuyela kuphela ngo-9pm ndifumana iindlela ezincinci ezithandekayo abasandul 'ukutshata babonisa inkathalo kunye nothando lwabo omnye komnye. Ngokomzekelo, etafileni yokutyela, uhlala ekhonza kuqala ngaphambi kokubeka nantoni na kwisitya sakhe, okanye ukuba isitya sokukhonza siphambi kwakhe, ukhonza kuqala. Okanye indlela asoloko emthumelela ngayo imiyalezo xa ephuma emsebenzini okanye ezama ukumphekela into ayithandayo okanye indlela afumana ngayo into entle kwipasta engavuthwanga kakhulu okanye ipayi engavuthwanga. Amaxesha amaninzi ndibabona bexoxa nomxhasi kunye. Ndiyayithanda indlela abawudlulisa ngembeko ngayo uluvo lwabo kwimiba ethile, indikhumbuza ixesha apho mna noAjay senza okufanayo…

Kodwa xa ndibuyela ebalini lam, ngenye imini uTanya ugoduke late, pha ngabo 8. Ndeva intsimbi yasecango ngo-11 ndaphuma ndiyojonga abantwana. UAakrit ebesemnxebeni xa engena, ebemane ecofa izihlangu enxibe iLaptop bag emagxeni iphone ibambelele ezindlebeni. Ndaqalisa ukunika imiyalelo kumncedisi wokubeka ukutya ndazama ukubamba iliso lakhe. U-Aakrit wayexakekile emnxebeni engenamehlo kuthi! Kwadlula imizuzu emalunga neshumi ndaqalisa ukufixiza. UTanya wathi mandibuyele kumdlalo wam weTV endiqinisekisa ukuba uzakundihoya kwaye ngobubele ndambona ebonisa u-Aakrit ukuba asuse ifowuni kwenye indlebe njengoko ethatha isikhwama seLaptop egxalabeni lakhe eyibeka phezu kwetafile.

Wathula wathi enkosi, encumile. Uncumo olusiqinisekisayo ukuba abantu esibathandayo bayayiqonda imiba yethu, uncumo lokuphumla olukwavumayo komnye 'enkosi ngokubakho'. Uncumo oluthi kwangoko lubenze babe 'banye' ekusingatheni lo mba, nangona aba babini ndibaziyo bephethe amasebe ahlukeneyo emsebenzini. Uncumo endilubonileyo lwabususa ubunzima be usuku olubi, nokuba okomzuzwana nje.

Ndajonga kude; ibiyinto yabucala ke phofu unxibelelwano phakathi kwesibini. "Ingxaki encinci ma, iqela lonke belikhona ukusukela ngorhatya. Kubonakala ngathi sele iza kulungiswa", ucacise watsho uTanya. Ndiye ndanqwala ndabuyela egumbini lam. Ndibone uAjay ebukele iTV yakhe ayithandayo. Ndamjonga kakuhle ndahambisa isandla sam ezinweleni zakhe. Wandijonga emangalisiwe.

Iminyaka engama-31 yomtshato ithatha ubunzima bayo. Kulula ukuba sijongane xa sicaphukile kodwa asizixabisi izijekulo eziswiti kuba bayazi ukuba siyabathanda! Asithathi xesha ukubaxelela ukuba benze into engalunganga kodwa asikuxabisi oko bakwenzayo okulungileyo kuba...bekungafanelanga bakwenze oko ngaphandle kokugqogqa? Ukukwazi ukuthathana njengento eqhelekileyo yenye yeentsika a ubudlelwane bexesha elide, kodwa kunye nokuza ukungongezelela intlonipho esisiseko esiya kumntu esingamthathi lula, kwaye sihlala siqikelela izenzo zabo ezilungileyo ngokucinga ukuba kumele ufuna into ngembuyekezo. Mhlawumbi bayakwenza, mhlawumbi abakwenzi kodwa ngelo xesha, silahlekelwa lithuba lokubulela into abayenzileyo. Kwaye siphulukana namathuba anje ngolu suku nosuku, iinyanga neminyaka.

UkuFunda okuFanayo: Izinto ezili-10 kuphela abantu abangatshatanga abaya kunxulumana nazo!

• Qondani ulwimi lothando lomnye nomnye
• Libekeni Phambili Ixesha Elisemgangathweni Ndawonye
• Phinda ujonge iinkumbulo ezimnandi
• Nxibelelana Ngokukhululekileyo
• Zothuka Zodwa
• Funa iNkxaso yobuNgcali
• Phinda ufumanise iinjongo ekwabelwana ngazo

UTanya wam omncinci kunye no-Aakrit babuyise ubutsha kubudlelwane bethu. Ngenye imini mna no Ajay saye saxoxa ngokuhamba ebusuku kakhulu njengokuba abantwana bethu benza rhoqo ngolwesihlanu. Ndeva unyana notata bexoxa ngebhotile yewayini ekhethekileyo abaziyo bobabini ukuba ndiyayithanda. Ndathulisa uTanya ekoneni ndabuza, “hmmm…ufuna ukuza nam uyokuthenga iziqholo..?”

Ukuthandana kuhle kakhulu kwaye kumjikelo wethu wesibini, kungcono nangakumbi!

(Njengokuba kuxelelwe kuRaksha Bharadia)

Iingcinga Final

Ubudlelwane buyaguquka ngokuhamba kwexesha, kwaye ngomzamo owenziwe ngabom, izibini zinokuphinda zilawule intlantsi, ziqinise unxibelelwano lwazo, kwaye ziphinde zifumane uvuyo lokuba kunye. Alikho ixesha lokuzisa imfudumalo, uchulumanco, kunye nokusondelelana kubudlelwane bakho.

“Masikuncede uvuselele uthando emtshatweni wakho. Oogqirha bethu abanamava jongana nokuvuselelwa kobudlelwane, ukubonelela ngezicwangciso zobuqu zokuqinisa ukusondelana ngokweemvakalelo, ukuphucula unxibelelwano, kunye nokuvuselela inkanuko. Cwangcisa iseshoni namhlanje kwaye uthathe inyathelo lokuqala elikhokelela kubudlelwane obanelisayo!

Amabali avela kwiPalliative Care: Nini uthando Uba liyeza

Nditshatile & Mna uthando Myeni Wam Kodwa Ndisatsaleleka Kowam...

Kutheni Ndingatshatanga? Izizathu ezili-10 zokuba Usenongatshatanga

Umnikelo wakho awuquki isisa umnikelo. Iya kuvumela i-Bonobology ukuba iqhubeke nokukuzisela ulwazi olutsha nolwangoku kwiphulo lethu lokunceda nabani na osehlabathini ukuba afunde ukwenza nantoni na.

Jonga Inkqubo yethu yokuHlela

Dibana neBhodi yethu yoHlolo

Yabelana ngeNgxelo

Ithini impendulo yakho?

×

Uncedo Xela impazamo omnye

Ngenisa