Ngamanye amaxesha, singena kwindlela yokwakha eyethu sonwabile emva koko. Olu tyekelo luchazwa ziingcali zengqondo njenge-self-sabotage kubudlelwane. Oku kunokuchazwa njengesakhono sokwenza ubudlelwane bakho buphele, mhlawumbi ungazi okanye uyazi. Kubantu abaninzi, ukuziphatha ngokuzitshabalalisa kuyinto yendalo kangangokuba bayasilela ukuqaphela iipateni eziyingxaki.
Akukho mda wokulungisa inkambo kwaye ngokungaziqondi bawonakalisa ubudlelwane. Ukuyeka ubudlelwane bokuzibhubhisa, kufuneka ufunde ukuchonga iimpawu kunye nezizathu zolu kuziphatha. Kulapho kuphela onokuthi ukwaphule umjikelo, kwaye uzinike umfanekiso wokwenyani ekwakheni ubudlelwane obunentsingiselo bothando.
Sithetha nesayikholojisti Jayant Sundaresan (IiMasters kwi-Applied Psychology), eyingcali ekunikezeni iingcebiso kuluhlu lwemiba yobudlelwane efana nokuqhawuka konxibelelwano, ulawulo lolindelo, ukungathembeki, ukwahlukana kunye noqhawulo-mtshato, ukuqonda ngakumbi malunga nokuba kutheni abantu bezibandakanya ekonakalisa ubudlelwane babo. Unika ukuqonda ngezizathu zokuziphatha, into ekufuneka umntu ayenze xa efumana ulwazi ngeepatheni zabo, kunye nendlela olu lwazi lukunceda ngayo ukuba ukhule.
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Ukuzitshabhisa kudla ngokubonakala njengotyekelo lokonakalisa ubudlelwane ngokungazi kwaye nezizathu zoko zinokwahluka kumntu nomntu. UJayant uthi, “Imbubhiso akufuneki igqithise njengokusebenzisa iziyobisi, kunokuba lula njengokuphola.” Ukuphepha into ethile kunye nokubekel’ amangomso kunokuba ziindlela zokuzitshabalalisa. Okukhona usondela ngakumbi kwiinjongo, kokukhona ufuna ukuyibaleka. Oku kungenxa yokuba inqanaba elilandelayo lobomi liphezu kwakho kwaye awukwazi ukujamelana nalo. ubudlelwane.”
Umcebisi u-Meghna Prabhu, ugqirha wengqondo kunye nelungu le-APA, ukwachaza ukuba kutheni sizonakalisa ubudlelwane bothando, "Nangona izinto ezibangela ukuzitshabalalisa zinokwahluka, zonke zehlela kwinto enye - ukungavuli ngokweemvakalelo kunye nokwakha ubudlelwane obusondeleyo."
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Ngokutsho kukaMeghna, oku kwenzeka kakhulu kuba sisoyika ukuba ubudlelwane abuyi kusebenza. Sisenokwenza izinto ezinjengokufumana izizathu zokuqhawula umtshato, ukuxoxa ngezinto esingazikhathalelanga, kwaye sigxile kubomi bethu ngabanye ngaphezu kobudlelwane.
Esona sizathu siphambili kuko konke oku luloyiko lokuba ulwalamano aluyi kuhlala luhleli. Ngoko asifuni kutyalomali okanye ukuvula kwaye sisenokuhlukana ngaphambi kokuba omnye umntu asishiye. Yindlela yokulawula okanye ukukholelwa ukuba sinolawulo. UJayant wongezelela ngelithi, “Abantu abaninzi abanjalo bacinga ukuba ndifanele ndibe ngulahlisi, kungekhona umntu olahlwayo. Abanye abantu bade bazame ukukhohlisa amaqabane ukuze bafumane isiphumo okanye impendulo ethile.
Ngaphandle koko, a iqabane lokungazithembi kusoloko kunokwenzeka ngakumbi ukuba self-zonakalise ubudlelwane. Imvakalelo yokuba ubani akalungelanga ngokwaneleyo okanye akakufanelekeli ukuthandwa iba ngunobangela kwiimeko ezinjalo. UJayant uthi: “Abantu abangazithembiyo nabavakalelwa kukuba abathandwa ngomnye umntu, bathi, “Iqabane lam liya kuqonda ukuba ndiliqola. Baza kucinga ukuba andifanelanga, ukuba andingomhle kangako”.
Uloyiko olukhokelela kubudlelwane bothando obuzitshabalalisayo bunokuvela kubudlelwane obungaphumeleliyo bangaphambili. Abanye abantu benza ezi zinto kuba ukuba sesichengeni kuyoyikisa, ngoko ke bagqibezela ukutshabalalisa ubudlelwane. Kodwa ukuba sesichengeni kunye nokusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo kunye namaqabane ethu kubalulekile ekwenzeni ubudlelwane busebenze. Njengoko ubona, yonke into ibilisa kuloyiko lokwaphuka iintliziyo zethu. Lutyekelo olusisiseko lomntu lokuphepha iintlungu.
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UJayant uthetha ngendlela abantu abalonakalisa ngayo ubudlelwane babo. “Ukhetha umntu ongafanelekanga okanye ongafanelaniyo nawe ngenxa yokuba ungafuni ukuzibophelela nokuzinza.” Kwakhona, enye indlela yokuzihlazisa kukuphinda ubuyele kwinqala kulwalamano, unoluhlu lwezinto eziye zahamba kakubi okanye ezingahambi kakuhle.
“Uloyiko lokutshintsha ukusuka kwelinye inqanaba lobomi ukuya kwelilandelayo kwenza abantu bawonakalise ubudlelwane.Kukho uloyiko lokuguga, ukoyika uxanduva – ngakumbi ngokweemvakalelo okanye uxanduva lwemali - kunye noloyiko lokuba umntu uya kuba ngumzali olungileyo okanye hayi. Kusenokubakho imiba yokuthembana neqabane likabani.
"Ukuba ubukhe waqhathwa ngaphambili, uya kucinga ukuba eli qabane liya kukukopela nawe. Ngoko ke, uqhubeka uziphatha ngaloo nkolelo kubudlelwane. Iba sisiprofeto esizizalisekisayo. Kwaye kukho abanye abantu aboyika ukuphulukana nobuni babo. Abanye abanqweneli ukuphendula nakubani na, bafuna ukuphila ubomi babo kwaye bangakhathaleli iimfuno zomntu. "
Le ndlela yokuziphatha ixhaphake kakhulu, kwaye abantu abaninzi bayaqhubeka nokuzonakalisa ubudlelwane bothando ngaphandle kokuqonda ukuba ingxaki ingaphakathi. Ukuba ukhe waba nomtya wobudlelwane obungaphumeleliyo kwixesha elidlulileyo, kuyanceda ukwazisa ukuba kungenxa yolu tyekelo olufihlakeleyo. Nazi iimpawu zokuziphatha ngokuzibhubhisa ekufuneka uzithathele ingqalelo:
- Ukuphepha iimvakalelo ezimbi: Ukungajongani nomsindo, ingqumbo, amathandabuzo, okanye ukukhungatheka kwiqabane lakho okanye ubudlelwane yiflegi enkulu ebomvu.
- IParanoia: Ukuba ne-paranoid yokuba iqabane lakho lenza into engalunganga ngaphandle kwesiseko okanye ubungqina. Ngokomzekelo, umntu onotyekelo lokuzitshabalalisa unokuqiniseka ukuba iqabane lakhe liyabaqhatha nangona kungekho bungqina okanye iiflegi ezibomvu zokucebisa oko.
- Ubalulekile weqabane: Ukuba ugxile kwiintsilelo kunye nokungafezeki kweqabane lakho ngalo lonke ixesha, kwaye uvumela lo mbono uthintele zonke iimpawu zabo ezilungileyo kunye neesuti ezomeleleyo, ngoko ke unokuba uchitha ubudlelwane ngokungazi.
- Ukuhlukunyezwa kwesiyobisi: Ukuxhomekeka kwimikhwa engafanelekanga efana nokusela kakhulu, ukutshaya, okanye ukusebenzisa iziyobisi njengendlela yokuhlangabezana nokungakhuseleki kwakho kwakhona kuluphawu olucacileyo lokuziphatha okuzibhokoxayo.
- Unyango oluthuleyo: Ukusebenzisa ubundlobongela bokuthula ekulweni ikakhulu kuba unxibelelwano olunyanisekileyo aluzi ngokwemvelo kuwe
- Ukubamba inzondo: Ukuba awukwazi ukuyeka iingxabano ezidlulileyo kwaye uqhubeke ubambe inzondo kumlingane wakho emva kokuba ingxabano okanye incoko iphelile, yindlela eqinisekileyo yokonakalisa ubuhlobo bakho.
- Ukuphepha ukuzibophelela: Olunye uphawu oluphambili olunokuthi ubonakalise ubudlelwane ngenxa yoloyiko kukuba uthatha ingqalelo kubudlelwane bakho kwaye uqale ukubeka phambili umsebenzi, ubuhlobo, okanye izinto ozonwabisa ngazo xa izinto ziqala ukuba qatha.
- Ukwaphula izithembiso: Ukubuyela umva ngamabom kwizithembiso zokutyala imali kubudlelwane okanye izicwangciso zokuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye. Awumoshi nje kuphela ubudlelwane kodwa wenze neqabane lakho likucaphukele ngenxa yalo. Ngokwenza njalo, ubeka isiseko sobudlelwane bokuzibhubhisa
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Ungakunqanda Njani Ukuzonakalisa Ubudlelwane Bakho?
Sibuze uJayant ukuba umntu uyayazi na indlela aziphethe ngayo ngokuzibhubhisa nangayiphi na indlela. Uthi, "Hayi, abaqondi. Wonke umntu unokubona ngokucacileyo ipateni yakhe, kodwa umntu akakhathali. Ukubona iipatheni zabo ezitshabalalisayo kufana nokubamba isipili. Ngubani oya kusala ebeka ityala? Thetha unyango inceda ekuziseni ingqalelo kwiipateni zakho, inceda ekwandiseni olu lwazi lubalulekileyo.”
Ethetha ngendlela yokuphepha ukuziphanzisa kubudlelwane bakho, uMeghna uthi, “Eyona nto iphambili kukuqonda ukuba yintoni ebangela oko. Kufuneka ufumane isizathu soloyiko uze ulungise. Oku kunokwenziwa ngokuzihlola okanye ngokufika koyena nobangela ngokuthetha negcisa ukuze ufumane unyango lomntu ngamnye okanye isibini.” Ukufikelela kwingcambu yalo mbandela kuphela kwendlela onokuyeka ngayo ukuziqhatha kubudlelwane. Ke, makhe sizame ukucacisa into onokuyenza ukunqanda ukuzimoshela kubudlelwane bakho.
1. Qonda isimbo sokuncamathela ukuze uyeke ukuziphanzisa ubudlelwane
Ukuba ubutsala nzima ukugcina ubudlelwane bexesha elide, kuyanceda ukujika ingqalelo yakho kwisitayile sakho sokuncamathela. Ngokufuthi, indlela esinxulumana ngayo nabanye njengabantu abadala ibonakalisa amava ethu obuntwana okanye akwishumi elivisayo. Umntu oye washiywa, umonzakalo, ilahleko, okanye ubutyhefu kwiminyaka yabo yobutsha banokukhula baphuhlise isimbo sokuncamathela esingakhuselekanga.
Oku kunokukhokelela kwiimvakalelo ezifana nomona nomsindo, kwaye ukuba awuyazi indlela yokwenza jongana nomona okanye umsindo wakho, kunokukukhokelela kubudlelwane bothando bokuzibhubhisa. Ngokufanayo, ukukhulela kwindawo epholileyo nekwanti kunokwenza ubani afune ukuqinisekiswa nengqalelo. Le yipatheni yakudala yeqabane elinokuzithemba okuphantsi, umntu oyilelwe ukonakalisa ubudlelwane babo bothando ngokumdinisa omnye umntu ngeemfuno zabo eziqhubekayo.
Ngelixa ethetha malunga nokuxhalaba kunye nobudlelwane bokuzibhubhisa, uJayant wenza inqaku malunga nembali yobuntwana kunye nendlela esifumana ngayo njengomntwana ekuchaphazela ukuqonda kwethu ubudlelwane. “Imbali yobuqu yokwenzakala kwasebuntwaneni iyayithintela indlela esijonga ngayo ihlabathi.
“Ukuba intsapho yakho iyakuphatha gadalala, okanye ikutyeshele njengomntwana, ufumanisa ukuba oko akuyongozi wakuba nje udibana kakuhle neentsapho zabanye abantwana.” Uya kwandula ke uqonde ukuba kukho enye indlela yokuphila nothando.
Konke oku kunokwenza umntu aqhubele phambili ekonakalisa ubudlelwane ngenxa yoloyiko nokwenzakala. Nangona kunjalo, izimbo zokuncamathela azikho ngokusisigxina. Ngoncedo olufanelekileyo, ungazisebenzela kwaye uyeke iipateni ezingalunganga ukuze ukwazi ukwakha ubudlelwane obukhulayo bezothando.
2. Zibophelele kunxibelelwano olunyanisekileyo
Omnye weyona miqobo inkulu kumntu otyekele ekonakalisa ubudlelwane engaziqondi kukoyika unxibelelwano. Ngokukodwa, xa kuziwa ekuthetheni ngezinto ezingathandekiyo zobudlelwane. Ke, ukophula umjikelo wokuziphatha okuzihlazisayo, kufuneka ukoyise oku ingxaki yonxibelelwano.
Eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokukwenza kukuqalisa incoko ngoloyiko lwakho, izinto ezikuxhalabisayo, amathandabuzo namaxhala. Ngokwenza njalo, yenza iqabane lakho lazi yonke into ebikukhathaza ngekamva lobudlelwane kwaye wenze indawo apho banokwenza okufanayo. Xoxani ngeengxaki zenu nize nifumane eyona ndlela ingcono kuni nobabini. Musani ukuvumela imiba ifumbe ixesha elide kangangokuba iyantlukwano phakathi kwenu nobabini ingadibani.
UJayant wongezelela ngelithi, “Ukuze uyeke ukonakaliswa kobudlelwane ngenxa yoloyiko, olunye uhlobo lonxibelelwano olunyanisekileyo ekufuneka ube nalo lukunye nawe. Kufuneka a) wamkele ukuba unomkhwa wokuzonakalisa, kwaye b) uqonde iipatheni zakho. Hlala phantsi kwaye ucinge ukuba zeziphi eyona nto uloyiko lwakho. iiflegi ezibomvu ekufuneka zikuthumele ukuba usebenze.
"Sebenzisa ulwalamano lwakho nawe kuqala. Phinda ujonge iinjongo zakho kunye nemilinganiselo yakho, kwaye uzibuze imibuzo esisiseko malunga nobuntu bakho: Ndingubani? Luyintoni usukelo lwam? Ndizibona njani mna? Uze ucinge malunga nento oyifunayo kunye nento oyifunayo. Ezi zizinto ezimbini ezahlukeneyo. Zilinganise ukuba zihambelana."
3. Chonga eyona nto ikubangela ukuba uyeke ukuziqhatha kubudlelwane bakho
Ukuze ukwazi ukunqanda ubudlelwane bokuzibhubhisa, kufuneka uqonde ukuba yintoni ebangela oko. Ke, qala ngokunikela ingqalelo kwizinto ezikubangelayo. Xa ngequbuliso uziva ufuna ukukrazula intambo kuba woyika kakhulu ukuba izinto zisenokungaphumeleli njengoko bekulindelekile, khawucinge kancinci malunga nokuba yintoni ebangele olo loyiko.
Ubukweyiphi imeko? Ikwenze waziva njani? Kutheni ikwenza woyike? Ukuba uloyiko lwakho luya kwenzeka, luya kukuchaphazela njani? Luluvo olulungileyo ukuqala ukugcina irekhodi yala maxesha kunye novavanyo lwakho ngawo. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, uyakuqala ukubona ipateni kwaye oko kuya kukunceda ukuba uqhagamshelane nobuthathaka bakho ngcono.
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4. Funda ukuba nomonde ukuba ubonakalisa ubudlelwane obungenangqondo
Nanini na xa umntu echitha ubudlelwane, kukho ipateni ecacileyo emva kwayo - ubudlelwane buhamba kwindawo enzima kwaye bathatha isigqibo sokurhoxa ngokweemvakalelo ukuze bazisindise ekwenzakaleni. Into ephambili apha kukukhumbula ukuba akukho budlelwane bugqibeleleyo, akukho budlelwane bulula. Kunyanzelekile ukuba kubekho amahla-ndinyuka.
Sisigqibo sokuhlala kwaye ulwele umanyano lwakho olwenza ubudlelwane buhlale. Ngoko ke, kufuneka ufunde iindlela zokuba nomonde kwaye uhlale ecaleni kweqabane lakho xa kunzima. Kuyanceda ukwakha inkqubo yenkxaso ukuze udlule kula maxesha eziphithiphithi ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ukuba umhlaba wakho wonke uza kudilika.
5. Funa iingcebiso ukuze uphephe ukuzimosha kubudlelwane bakho
Ukuqaphela kunye nokwamkela ukuziphatha kwakho okungenampilo akukaze kube lula. Nokuba ungenzi zero kwingxaki, usenokungayazi indlela yokujongana nayo. Yingakho i-Bonobology inikezela ngabanye kunye iingcebiso zabatshatileyong njengoko zinokuba ziindlela ezithembekileyo zokuphepha ukuzitshabalalisa kubudlelwane bakho. Inika wena kunye neqabane lakho indawo ekhuselekileyo nexhasayo yokuxoxa ngezinto ezikuxhalabisayo. Ngaphandle koko, ingcali yonyango eqeqeshiweyo inokukubonisa indlela yokuqhawula umjikelo wobudlelwane bokuzonakalisa ngendlela enovelwano nengagwebiyo.
UJayant uthi, “Ungangena kwindawo yonyango ngokuthetha izinto ezinje, “Ubudlelwane bam abathathu bokugqibela abusebenzanga” okanye “Ihlabathi liyandikruqula.” Umntu usenokubuza ingcibi: “Ndingayeka njani ukuzimoshela kubudlelwane bam obutsha?” Ugqirha emva koko uvavanya zonke iimeko zabo zangaphambili aze abone imixholo eqhelekileyo kwinkqubo kancinane.
“Ekuqaleni, njengokuba usazi iipateni zakho, uya kuzithethelela. nyaniseka kuwe. Sizikhohlisa kakuhle, emva koko. Njengoko ingena ngaphakathi, kukho imvakalelo yokulahlekelwa kunye nokuzisola ngexesha elichithiweyo, kunye nezinto ezidlule kuwe.
“Uziva unomsindo.” Usenokucinga oku, “Ndandikhumbula olo lwalamano lwakhe lwaphela ebomini bam” okanye “Ndibuphanzisile ubuhlobo bam” okanye “Andisayi kuphinda ndimfumane umntu onjengalo.” Ekubeni abo bantu befudukile, oku kunokubangela umsindo nentlungu. Umgqirha unokukunceda ukuba usebenze ezi mvakalelo. Logama nje uzibophelele ekuzisebenzeleni, unokubuyela emva kolu kuziphatha luyingozi kwaye ugcine ubudlelwane bakho obutsha.
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6. Musa ukungxamela kubudlelwane
Umtya wobudlelwane obungaphumeleliyo unokushiya nabani na eziva edakumbile, edangele, kwaye ediniwe. Kodwa musa ukungxama kubudlelwane ngokufuna kwakho ukulenza lisebenze. Umzekelo, ungaqalisi ukudibana nomntu oshushu olandelayo odibana naye kwibhari ngosuku emva kokuba uphume kubudlelwane, ukuze uzive ngcono ngawe.
Ukanti olunye ulwalamano alulunganga luya kongeza kuloyiko olungokwemvelo lokwenzakala okanye ukushiywa. Oku, kuya kwandisa kuphela utyekelo lwakho lokuzitshabalalisa kubudlelwane bothando. Emva kokuba ubonile ukuba ukuziphatha kwakho kuyinxalenye yengxaki, thatha ixesha lokuzihlola ukuba ufuna uluphi uhlobo lweqabane. Emva koko, linda ngomonde ukuba kufike umntu ofanelekileyo.
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7. Yeka ukudlala ixhoba
Ngenxa yokuba abantu ababonakalisa ukuziphatha okuzihlazisayo basebenza kwindawo yoloyiko kwaye kaninzi bajika babe liqabane elinokuzithemba okuphantsi, kulula kakhulu kubo ukuba bazisizele. Kuya kufuneka uyeke ukudlala ikhadi lexhoba ukuze uzikhulule kulo mzekelo wokuzonakalisa kubudlelwane bothando.
Yonke imbono ethi 'ndihluphekile' iya kuphembelela ukungaqiniseki kwakho. Oku, kwakhona, kuya kuba yi-snowball kwiipateni ezinzima ezifana nokuzivalela ngokwasemoyeni, ukudlala umdlalo Ukuba nomsindo umdlalo kunye nomhla, kunye nokwenza umdla wothando utsibe kwiihupula ukuze uqinisekise imvakalelo yakho yolawulo. Sele ubonile ukuba ikhokelela phi.
Ngoko, gxila kumandla akho endaweni yoko. Sebenzela ekubeni yinguqulelo yokuzithemba ngakumbi kunye nokuzithemba kwakho. Umntu ongafuniyo ukuziva elawula ubudlelwane ngamaxesha onke. Xa usenza olu tshintsho, uya kubona ukuba ungatyalwa ngokweemvakalelo kubudlelwane ngokulula ngakumbi.
8. Okona kubaluleke kakhulu, funda ukwahlula kwixesha elidlulileyo
Umkhwa wokonakalisa ubudlelwane ngokungaziqondi ubukhulu becala unxulumene namava angemnandi okanye awothusayo adlulileyo. Uloyiko kunye nokuxhalaba ozivayo kunokuvela kwisehlo okanye uthotho lweziganeko ezikuchaphazele ngokunzulu. La mava, okanye ubuncinci indlela umntu awayeziva ngayo ngexesha laloo mava, emva koko abe zintshatsheli zokuziphatha okuzibhokoxa. Kufuneka ufunde ukukrazula intambo kunye yenza uxolo kunye nexesha lakho elidlulileyo.
Ngexesha elizayo xa uziva ukhutyekiswa yimeko ethile, nqumama kwaye ucingisise malunga nokuba ngamava adlulileyo akwenza ukuba usabele ngendlela engafanelekanga. Isenokungasoloko isebenza, kodwa ukukhumbula oku kunokwenzeka kukunceda ukuba uye kwindlela yokuziphatha esempilweni. Ipateni yobudlelwane obuzilibazisayo inokuba ngamava aqhwalelayo kodwa angabi ngawokugwetyelwa ukuhlala nawo. Nje ukuba ufunde ukuchonga kunye nokuvuma ingxaki, kukho iindlela ezininzi zokuyilungisa kunye nokuyoyisa. Ukuba uyasokola ukwenza indlela ngokwakho, yazi ukuba ukufuna uncedo lweengcali sisenzo sokuzikhathalela.
Kubantu abazibuzayo, "Ingaba oku kuya kundinceda ekugqibeleni ukuba ndiyeke ukuzibhuqa kubudlelwane bam obutsha?", uJayant ufuna ukuba uyazi oku: "Xa uyazi iipateni zakho, ukhetho lwakho luya kutshintsha, kwaye izinto ozilindeleyo kuwe nakubantu abakungqongileyo zihamba kakuhle. Uya kudibanisa amachaphaza adlulileyo kwaye uguqule isahluko esitsha. Kukho ithemba."
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