Iimpawu ezili-11 zokuziPhatha okuPhantsi kokuSelf-Self-Esteem kubudlelwane

Ukuziphatha okuphantsi kokuzithemba ngomnye wemiba emikhulu echaphazela ubudlelwane. Ukuzixabisa komntu kuxhomekeke kwindlela abaphatha ngayo abanye kwanendlela abavumela ngayo abanye ukuba bamphathe. Ichaphazela into onokuyamkela okanye ongakwaziyo ukuyamkela kubudlelwane, into ocinga ukuba ikufanele, kwaye ukuba uzimisele ukulungisa oko ufumanayo.

Ulwalamano lufuna umsebenzi kwaye inxalenye enkulu yalo imalunga nokusebenza ukuze ube ngolona guqulelo lungcono kuwe. Ukuziphatha okuphantsi kokungazithembi kubudlelwane kudla ngokukhula ngenxa yokungazicingeli komntu. Ukuba ubusoloko ujongana nokungazithembi kunye nemiba yokusondelelana kubomi bakho bonke, kunokuba nzima ukuqaphela iipatheni zokuziphatha ezinje kubudlelwane bakho.

Sithethe noGqirha u-Aman Bhonsle (Ph.D., PGDTA), ogxile kwingcebiso yobudlelwane kunye neRational Emotive Behavior Therapy, malunga neempawu zokuziphatha okuphantsi kokuzihlonipha kunye nempembelelo yazo kubudlelwane.

Ngaba ukuzithemba okuphantsi kuyabuchaphazela ubudlelwane?

Ngaphambi kokuba ufumane indlela yokujongana nokungazithembi kubudlelwane , kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuzihlonipha kunye nendlela okuchaphazela ngayo ubudlelwane phakathi kwamaqabane. Ukuzihlonipha ngokuyintloko yindlela umntu azijonga ngayo kunye nexabiso lakhe. Kubhekisa kuluvo lwakho ngawe, ubuntu bakho, ubuwena bakho, ukuziva ungumntu, kunye nokuzithemba. Ukuzihlonipha kwakho kudlala indima ebalulekileyo kwindlela ozibona ngayo, ojongana ngayo neemeko ezinzima, ophatha ngayo abanye, kunye nokuvumela abanye ukuba bakuphathe. Kulawula ukuba uzixabisa kangakanani - iingcinga, izimvo, iinjongo, kunye neemvakalelo zakho.

Xa kuziwa kubudlelwane, ukuzithemba kunempembelelo kwindlela ocinga ngayo ngothando - nokuba uziva ufanelekile okanye ulufanele. Kuchaphazela ukukwazi kwakho ukwakha ubudlelwane obunempilo kunye neqabane lakho. Ngaba ukuzithemba okuphantsi kutshabalalisa ubudlelwane, unokuzibuza. Impendulo nguewe. Ukungazithembi kuchaphazela ubudlelwane. Nazi iindlela ezimbalwa ezinokupela intshabalalo kuwe nakubudlelwane bakho neqabane lakho:

• Ikwenza uzive ngathi awulilungelanga iqabane lakho. Uziva ngathi awulufanelanga uthando lwabo
• Uziva unomona kwaye ungakhuselekanga, zitshintshe ngokwakho ekuthandeni kweqabane lakho
• Uziva ngathi ungumthwalo kwiqabane lakho
• Awuzihoyi iimfuno zakho kwaye unenkathazo yokucela uncedo. Uyakuphepha ukuthetha ngenxa yokoyika ukulahlwa, ukugculelwa, okanye ukuhlazeka
• Ufuna ukuqinisekiswa kwiqabane lakho
• Ulalanisa kwiinjongo zakho kunye namaphupha ukwenza iqabane lakho lonwabe
• Uziva ngathi iqabane lakho linawe ngenxa yosizi
• Uzibeka ityala ngeempazamo zabo kwaye unyamezele ukuxhatshazwa
• Uyathandabuza ukusondelana neqabane lakho

Ngokutsho kukaGqr . Bhonsle , “Umntu olwa nokungazithembi uyaxhatshazwa, anganakwa, aze atyhalelwe ekhoneni izihlandlo ezingaphezu kwesinye. Uziva ngathi uxhaphaziwe kwaye ubunikela ngaphezu koko ubukufumana. Kuqala ukuziva ngathi kukutshintshiselana okungalunganga. Kuba yinto eguquguqukayo kwicala elinye kwaye ebuhlungu. Emva koko, ubudlelwane buyaphela okanye buvakale njengokubetha ihashe elifileyo. Ninokuba kunye ukuze nihlale nibonakala kodwa akukho thando, intlonipho, ubuhlobo, ukukhula, okanye uchulumanco kubudlelwane.”

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Ukuziphatha okuphantsi okunjalo kunokuba nefuthe elibi nakwiqabane lakho. Kuninzi kuphela onokukwenza iqabane lakho ukuze uzive ukhethekile kwaye uthandwa. Okanye ukwenza uzive ufanelekile kwaye bakuqinisekise ukuba bakuthanda ngenxa yento oyiyo kwaye akuyomfuneko ukuba uzitshintshe okanye uzive ungakhuselekanga ngobudlelwane. Ukuba kufuneka bahlale bejongana neyakho "Ngaba uyandithanda okanye unam ngenxa yosizi?" umbuzo, baya kucaphuka ngaxa lithile.

Ukuba uhlala ubambelele kulwalamano , utsiba kwizigqibo ezingenangqondo, ucela ukuqinisekiswa, okanye ufuna isiqinisekiso sothando lwabo, iqabane lakho lisenokuziva licaphukile okanye lihlazekile. Akuyonto imnandi ukusoloko ubonakalisa uthando lwakho kwiqabane lakho, yiyo loo nto kufuneka uqaphele iimpawu zokuziphatha okuphantsi ukuze ukwazi ukujongana nazo kwaye wakhe ubudlelwane obuqinileyo neqabane lakho.

Iimpawu ezili-11 zokuziPhatha okuPhantsi kokuSelf-Self-Esteem kubudlelwane

Ziziphi iindlela zokuziphatha ezinxulunyaniswa nokungazithembi? Ndizibona njani okanye ndijongane njani nokungazithembi kubudlelwane? Le mibuzo inokuvela ukuba unokunxulumana neepatheni zokuziphatha ezivela kukuzithemba okuphantsi. Kukho imiqondiso emininzi yokukunceda uqonde ukuba ngaba uziphatha ngendlela ephantsi. Oku kudla ngokuvela kumava abuhlungu obuntwana okanye awokuxhaphaza.

UGqr Bhonsle uyacacisa, "Indlela yokuziphatha ephantsi ayiveli ngokukhawuleza kubudlelwane. Ipatheni yayikhona ngaphambi kokuba umntu angene kubudlelwane - ngexesha lesikolo okanye ekholejini, kumsebenzi wakho wokuqala.

Ukuba ubungahoywanga, uhlekwa, ugxekwa, wenziwa waziva uphantsi, okanye usoloko ukhunjuzwa ukuba awukho mhle okanye awukwazi ngokwaneleyo, kunokwenzeka ukuba ukhule usilwa nokungazithembi. Mhlawumbi ukhule usoloko uzithandabuza kwaye uzibuza ukuba ulufanele na uthando, uthando, okanye nabuphi na obunye ubunewunewu, inkathalo, okanye inkxalabo abantu abanokuthi bazive ngawe.

Kwimeko enjalo, umntu udla ngokuzibamba ngendlela yokungazithembi ngaphandle kokuqonda ukuba wenza njalo kuba yiyo yonke into ayaziyo. Le yinto eqhelekileyo kuye. Babengakwazi ukukhula ngokweemvakalelo, ukuzithemba, ukuphuhlisa izakhono zokusombulula iingxabano kunye nonxibelelwano, ukubeka imida efanelekileyo , nokufunda ukuzimela kuba bakhulele kwindawo enobuthi. Nazi iimpawu ezimbalwa ezinokukunceda uqonde ukuba zeziphi iindlela zokuziphatha ezinxulumene nokungazithembi:

1. Ukunqongophala kwemida enempilo

Enye yeempawu eziphambili kunye nezizathu zokuba kutheni ukuzithemba okuphantsi konakalise ubudlelwane kukungabikho kwemida phakathi kwamaqabane. Imida idla ngokumiselwa ngexesha lobuntwana. Abantwana abaphuhlisa isimbo sokuncamathela esikhuselekileyo kunye nabanonopheli babo banokudala imida esempilweni kubudlelwane babo njengabantu abadala kuba banelisekile, abantu abazithembileyo abazibona bekwimeko entle.

Kodwa abantu abajongana nokuzithemba okuphantsi kubudlelwane banobunzima bokuseka imida kunye namaqabane abo kuba boyika ukugxekwa kunye nokulahlwa yintanda yabo. Boyika ukuba iqabane labo liya kuyeka ukubathanda okanye, ngakumbi, libashiye ukuba lizama ukubeka imida kubudlelwane. Olu loyiko lubenza bamkele iindlela zonyango zeqabane labo elingenampilo okanye elinetyhefu.

“Kukho amandla enkosi kunye nekhoboka kwezinye iintsapho apho omnye umntu ethatha amanyathelo ngelixa omnye elandela nje umthetho,” ucacisa uGqr. Bhonsle. Basenokuyithiya indlela iqabane labo elibaphatha ngayo kodwa baya kuyinyamezela buthule kuba bengafuni ukulahlekelwa liqabane labo. Umntu olwa nokuzixabisa usenokuba nemida engasebenzi kakuhle ngenxa yoko angazi ukuba angalinika njani ithuba iqabane lakhe okanye amkele ukuba ngabantu abahlukileyo. Oku kukhokelela ekungahlonelweni komntu ngamnye kunye nendawo yakhe yobuqu.

2. Iimpawu zokuziphatha okuphantsi kokuzithemba - ukukholisa abantu

Ukukholisa abantu yenye yeempendulo zeziphi iindlela zokuziphatha ezinxulumene nokuzithemba okuphantsi. Abantu abaphethwe kukuzithemba okuphantsi banomnqweno ogqithisileyo wokukholisa iqabane labo kunye nabo basondeleyo kubo. Kufuneka baqinisekise ukuba wonke umntu wonwabile kwanokuba oko kuthetha ukutyeshela iimfuno neemvakalelo zakhe. Oku kwenzeka ngenxa yokuba bafuna ukuqinisekiswa kwiqabane labo. Abaziva ngathi balungile ngokwaneleyo okanye banako okanye balufanele uthando, yiyo loo nto befuna iqabane labo ukuba libonakalise ukubaluleka kwabo, liqinisekise imizamo yabo kwaye libenze bazive belungile ngabo.

UGqr. Bhonsle uthi: “Kukho utyekelo lokubandakanyeka kwihambo ekholisa abantu ukuba unengxaki yokungazithembi.” Oku kusenokubakhokelela ekubeni bahlale becela uxolo xa kukho ingxabano okanye xa izinto zisiba mbi kuba befuna ukugcina wonk’ ubani onwabile.

Abo babandakanyeka kwizinto ezikholisa abantu bayagqithisa ngezenzo zabo. Banobubele kakhulu kwaye bayanceda kwaye bathanda ukuphepha ingxabano okanye nayiphi na enye impendulo okanye iimvakalelo ezimbi kuba baziva befuna ukubonisa ukuba bafanelwe luthando noxabiso. Banokufikelela nakweyiphi na indlela ukuze benze amaqabane abo onwabe baze bafumane imvume yawo, nokuba oko kuthetha ukwenza okungaphezulu kwesabelo sabo somsebenzi, ukutshintsha bona okanye ukwenza amabali, kunye nokulala kulwalamano.

3. Ukufumanisa kunzima ukwamkela ukunconywa okanye impendulo eyakhayo

Olunye uphawu lokuziphatha okuphantsi kokuzithemba kunzima ekwamkeleni indumiso, ukuncoma, ukuxabisa, okanye naluphi na uhlobo lwengxelo entle evela kwiqabane okanye kwabanye. Oku kunokuphinda kuqale ebuntwaneni babo apho abazange baxatyiswe ngemigudu okanye izinto abaziphumezileyo. Mhlawumbi benziwe iziqhulo okanye bakhule beziva bengakwazi okanye bengento yanto, yiyo loo nto ukuxatyiswa okanye ukunconywa kuvakala kungaqhelekanga kubo.

Abantu abane-low self-esteem abayazi indlela yokuncoma. Ukuxabisa okanye impendulo eyakhayo iyakrokrelwa. Abantu abanjalo abazicingeli kakhulu, yiyo loo nto ukunconywa kungahambelani noluvo lwabo malunga neziqu zabo. Bayakwala ukunconywa okanye naluphi na uhlobo lokuncoma kuba bengakholelwa kubo. Bavakalelwa kukuba lo mntu uzukisa ngenxa yosizi okanye uyabagculela.

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4. Uthetha kakubi ngawe

Le yenye yezona ndlela zibalaseleyo indlela ukuzithemba okuphantsi kuchaphazela ngayo ubudlelwane. Abo babonakalisa ukungazithembi badla ngokuthetha kakubi ngabo. Bazibonakalisa ngendlela egxekayo nengakhathaliyo ngenxa yokuba benikela ingqalelo kwiintsilelo zabo nokungafezeki kwabo endaweni yamandla abo. Bazibeka ityala ngayo yonke into engahambi kakuhle. Batyekele ekufumaneni iziphoso kubo (inkangeleko, ubuchule, imikhwa, okanye ubuntu) kunokuba bazibhokoxe ekuthetheni ngendlela eyakhayo.

Akukho mntu uthanda ukuhlala esiva iqabane lakhe lizithuka kwaye likhalaza okanye likhalaza ngendlela elingafanelekanga okanye elinobubi ngayo nangona lizama ukulenza likholelwe ngenye indlela. Ukuba uhlala uzibhokoxa okanye uzigxeka kwaye uzibetha, kuya kuchaphazeleka kwiqabane lakho ngaxa lithile kwaye le yenye yeendlela ukuzithemba okuphantsi okutshabalalisa ngayo ubudlelwane. Ukuziphatha okuphantsi kokuzihlonipha kwenza abantu bakholelwe ukuba abanalo ikamva eliqaqambileyo. Kubenza bazive bengenathemba, ngaloo ndlela kuchaphazela nolwalamano lwabo.

5. Uhlala uzithandabuza kwaye uzicingela okwesibini

Enye yezona zinto zixhaphakileyo zokuziphatha okuphantsi kukungazithembi kuba usoloko uzithandabuza kwaye unexhala lokuba ingaba lubizo olufanelekileyo kusini na. Uyoyika ukusilela kwaye wenze ukhetho olufanelekileyo, yiyo loo nto uhlala ubuza abanye ukuba bacinga ntoni ngezigqibo zakho endaweni yokubambelela kwithuku lakho. Uhlala ukhathazeka malunga nokuba iqabane lakho liya kucinga ntoni malunga nokukhetha kwakho.

Ukuba ujongana nokuzithemba okuphantsi kubudlelwane, udla ngokuzicingela okwesibini kakhulu, okwenza kube nzima kuwe ukwenza izigqibo ezinkulu ngobomi bakho kuba uvumela uloyiko luqhube loo nkqubo. Ungasiphazamisi. UGqr. Bhonsle uthi, “Kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuzicingela.

6. Uziva ungafanelekanga okanye uthande ukunamathela kwiqabane lakho

Olunye uphawu oluqhelekileyo lokungazithembi kunye neengxaki zobudlelwane kubudlelwane kukuba uzive ungafanelekanga kwaye ungafaneleki luthando nothando olunikwa liqabane lakho. Uxhalaba ngokuba awulungelanga iqabane lakho kwaye likunye nawe ngenxa yovelwano okanye ithamsanqa nje. Oku kwenzeka kuba awuzixabisi ngokwaneleyo kwaye ufuna izinto zangaphandle (ubudlelwane, umsebenzi, njl.njl.) ezinokukwenza uzive ufanelekile kwaye ukhethekile.

Kukho elinye icala kule nto. Enye yeendlela eziphantsi kokuzithemba okutshabalalisa ubudlelwane kukuba iqabane elilwa nalo lithanda ukuba lihlwempu kwaye libambelele kuba lisoyika ukuphulukana nothando lwabo. Bazivumela ukuba bachazwe ngobudlelwane babo kwaye bahlale befuna ingqalelo. Bakulungele ukuya nakweyiphi na indawo kuyo – ukuxoka nokudala idrama yovelwano, ukuzenza ngathi baziva bebuhlungu, befuna ukuba kubekwe kuqala ngaphezu kwezihlobo neentsapho zeqabane labo ngalo lonke ixesha, okanye ukubenza bazive kakubi ngokungalichithi lonke ixesha labo kunye nawe.

7. Ukuvumela ukuzithemba okuphantsi kunye neendlela zokuziphatha eziyityhefu

UGqr. Bhonsle uthi, “Ukuziphatha okuphantsi kunokubangelwa yindlela iqabane lakho elikuphatha ngayo. Ukuba iqabane lakho lihlala lizama ukukohlwaya, ukukugxeka, ukukucaphukela, okanye ukukuthoba, ukuzithemba kwakho kudla ngokukuhlasela. ungacingi ngobomi bakho kwaye ngabo kuphela abanokukunceda ufumane imfihlelo yokuphila ubomi obulungileyo, unokuwa phantsi kolu xinzelelo.

Low self-esteem sabotages ubudlelwane kunye nesizathu esinye sokuba ukholisa ukwenza izinto ukukholisa iqabane lakho azisoloko zisempilweni. Ngaphandle kokuqonda (okanye uyaqonda kodwa woyika kakhulu ukuphulukana 'nothando' lwesithandwa sakho), uvumela iipatheni zokuziphatha eziyityhefu ezinokuthi zibe neziphumo eziyingozi kuwe nakubudlelwane bakho. Uyabakhuthaza ukuba bakuphathe kakubi ngokunikezela kwiimfuno zabo kuba ukubenzela izinto kukwenza uzive ufanelekile.

Iindlela zokuziphatha ezivumelayo ziquka ukucela imvume kuyo yonke into ofuna ukuyenza, ukubavumela bakuthathe lula , ukubaxhasa ngeenjongo zabo nokuba uyazi ukuba abasebenzeli ukufezekisa iinjongo zabo, ukubanika imali yeziyobisi notywala, okanye naluphi na olunye uhlobo lokusebenzisa kakubi iziyobisi, ukusoloko bebenzela izinto nokusombulula iingxaki zabo, ukubavumela benze izigqibo ezinobungozi ezibandakanya wena, ukufaka wonke umsebenzi kulwalamano ngelixa bengenzi nto, okanye ukubavumela ukuba bakulawule kwaye bakuxhaphaze.

8. Ukunikela ngamandla akho onke kwiinjongo zeqabane lakho

Enye yeempawu eziqhelekileyo zokuziphatha okuphantsi kokuzithemba kubudlelwane kuxa uthatha isigqibo sokunikezela konke ngenxa yeqabane lakho. Kubi kakhulu kuba isuka kuloyiko lokuphulukana nabo ukuba awuncami konke. Awuzisukumeli kwaye umnqweno wakho kuba woyika iqabane lakho alizukuyixabisa kwaye linokucaphuka kwaye yinto yokugqibela ofuna ukuba noxanduva kuyo. Unika iinjongo zeqabane lakho kubaluleke ngakumbi kunezakho.

UGqr. Bhonsle ucacisa athi: “Abantu abanemibandela yokungazithembi batyekele ekwenzeni okungakumbi kunesabelo sabo esifanelekileyo ngenxa yokuba besoyika ukuphulukana neqabane labo.

Akulunganga ukuthabatha inyathelo umva ukuxhasa iqabane lakho kodwa, ukuba wenza eso sigqibo ngenxa yoloyiko endaweni yokhetho lobuqu, ngoko kukho ingxaki. Kufuneka unike ukubaluleka okukhulu kwiinjongo zakho njengoko unika iqabane lakho kuba amaphupha akho kunye namabhongo abalulekile ngokulinganayo. Kuya kufuneka uqhubeke nokwenza izinto ozithandayo, ulandele ukuthanda kwakho, ugxile kumsebenzi wakho, kwaye uphuhlise izakhono kunye nezinto onomdla kuzo. Ukuba awenzi njalo ngenxa yokuba ungafuni ukucaphukisa iqabane lakho, mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba ulwa nemiba yokungazithembi.

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9. Ucinga ngenkangeleko yakho

Le yenye yezona mpawu ziqhelekileyo zokuziphatha okuphantsi kokuzihlonipha. Abo banengxaki yokungazithembi kunye neengxaki zokusondelana basenokuba bayazi kakuhle indlela abajongeka ngayo. Balwa neengxaki zomfanekiso womzimba , ezingachaphazeli nje kuphela ukulingana kwabo ngokweemvakalelo namaqabane abo kodwa kunye nokusondelana ngokwesondo. Banembono embi yokuzibona, yiyo loo nto behlala bezigweba ngokuba 'bahle', 'banomtsalane', okanye 'banomtsalane' ngokwaneleyo.

Ukuba umi phambi kwesipili kwaye uzibiza ngokuba "utyebile", "umbi" okanye "awuthandeki" okanye ukuba uyawazi umzimba wakho ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo okanye naluphi na uhlobo lobudlelwane obusondeleyo, unokuba nokuzithemba okuphantsi kunye nemiba yokuzithemba. Unexhala lokuba iqabane lakho aliyi kukuthanda okanye likwamkele ukuba awuthandeki. Uncamathela ixabiso lakho kunye nexabiso lakho kubuhle bakho bomzimba kunye nenkangeleko kwaye ukhuthaze iqabane lakho ukuba likugwebe kwaye likuthande ngemigangatho efanayo.

10. Uhlala ubandakanyeka ekuthelekiseni okubi, zivumele ukuba uthukwe

Ukuba usazibuza ukuba zeziphi iindlela zokuziphatha ezinxulunyaniswa nokuzithemba okuphantsi, yazi ukuba le yenye. Ukuzithelekisa rhoqo nabanye, nokuba ungumntu okanye kumajelo eendaba ezentlalo, luphawu lokungazithembi. Ukuthelekisa kunokuba kuhle kodwa isixa esingenampilo singonakalisa ubudlelwane bakho ngonaphakade. Oku kukwayindlela ukuzithemba okuphantsi kuchaphazela ngayo ubudlelwane.

Ukuba uhlala uzithelekisa nabantu ocinga ukuba bangcono kunawe, mhlawumbi oko kuvela ekungaziboni. Ukuba olo thelekiso lukwenza uzive ungenamsebenzi, ungafanelekanga, ungenabuchule, okanye ungenathemba, yazi ukuba luvela kwimvakalelo yakho yokungazixabisi nokuzikholelwa. Ukuba uthelekiso alukukhuthazi ukuba wenze ngcono, endaweni yoko luyaphula ukuzithemba kwakho, lukwenze uzive ungonwabanga, lukunyanzela ukuba urhoxe, kwaye luchaphazela kakubi impilo yakho yengqondo , ngoko ke luphawu lokungazithembi.

UGqr. Bhonsle uthi, “Olona phawu lubalaseleyo lokungazithembi kukuba uzivumela ukuba uthukwe esidlangalaleni, kwanokuba uyaqhula. Wenziwa isiqhulo sazo zonke iziqhulo kumaqela abahlobo okanye entsatsheni yaye uyakuvumela oko.

11. Unengxaki yokuzibonakalisa

UGqr. Bhonsle ucacisa athi, “Enye yeempawu eziphambili zokuziphatha okuphantsi kokuzihlonipha kukungakwazi ukuziveza kulwalamano. Uhlala uzibuza ukuba iimvakalelo zakho zifanelekile na ukuchazwa.” Abo bajongana nokungazithembi kulwalamano badla ngokuphepha ukuthetha ngezidingo zabo kunye nezimvo zabo ngenxa yemicimbi yokushiywa , ukugculelwa, ukuhlazeka, okanye ukugweba.

Uhlakulela umkhwa wokuhlala uthe cwaka okanye ukufihla iimvakalelo zakho ngenxa yokungazithembi kunye nokungazithembi. Ukungazithembi kwakho kukwenza ucinge ukuba awufanelwanga ncedo okanye inkxaso. Isenokuba kungenxa yokuba uneentloni ukucela uncedo. Esinye isizathu sisenokuba ubona ukucela uncedo njengophawu lobuthathaka nokungakwazi. Unobunzima bokuqina kwaye uqine.

Yinyaniso ukuba ukuzihlonipha okuphantsi kuyawutshabalalisa ulwalamano. Kodwa kukho izinto ezininzi onokuzenza ukuphucula indlela ozijonga ngayo kunye nokuzixabisa kwakho kulwalamano. Enye yazo yi-therapy. UDkt. Bhonsle uthi, “Kufuneka sifumanise ukuba yintoni kanye kanye imvelaphi yeendlela zakho zokuzihlonipha eziphantsi. Ingcali yezonyango inganceda umntu aqonde ukuba ukuzihlonipha kwakhe okuphantsi yinto ayenzayo kuye. Asiyonto eyenzekayo kuye. Oku kufuneka kufikelele engqondweni ukuze akwazi ukufumana indlela yokwenza ubomi apho anokuzakhela khona ixabiso.” Ukuba ufuna uncedo, iqela le-Bonobology leengcali zezonyango ezineelayisenisi kunye namava likufutshane nje.

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