Iindlela ezili-17 eziSebenzayo zokwenza uBudlelwane obuMde busebenze

Buza nabani na okwinye, kwaye baya kukuxelela ukuba akukho lula ukufumanisa indlela yokwenza ubudlelwane obukude busebenze. Iithowuni zitolikwa gwenxa ngalo lonke ixesha xa unxibelelana ngeetekisi, ukufumana ixesha elifanelekileyo lokuthetha omnye komnye kuliphupha elibi, kwaye isisu esirhalelayo esikulangazelelayo xa usikhumbula iqabane lakho kunokukwenza ubuze ukuba kufanelekile.

Nangona ukuthandana komgama omde kunye nobudlelwane beza nemingeni engaphezulu kunesabelo sabo esilungileyo, ngamanye amaxesha azinakuthintelwa ngenene. Ngapha koko, intliziyo ifuna oko ikufunayo. Ukuba ufumanisa olo nxibelelwano luqinisekileyo nomntu ongahlali kwisixeko esinye nawe, akubobulumko ukulahla yonke loo nto kuba umgama ubangela umqobo. Ngaphandle koko, ngamanye amaxesha iimeko ezinje ngeemfuno zomsebenzi kunye neemeko zikaxakeka ziphazamisa. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ukuqonda indlela yokusinda kwi-LDR kuba yinto ebalulekileyo.

Ke, yintoni kanye kanye efunekayo? Dating umqeqeshi Geetarsh Kaur, umseki I-Skill School, egxile ekwakheni ubudlelwane obuluqilima, izisa iingcebiso zobudlelwane obude obunokunceda ukuthintela umgama ekuthatheni umthwalo kwiimvakalelo. 

Imingeni yobudlelwane bomgama omde

Nangona isiphumo se-LDR sihluka ukusuka kubudlelwane ukuya kubudlelwane, into enye ihlala ingatshintshi kuzo zonke: imiceli mngeni ekufuneka isibini sijamelane nayo. Olu celomngeni ngokufuthi lungqineka lunjalo yintoni ebulala ubudlelwane obukude. Uphononongo lucebisa ukuba kukho malunga nama-40% amathuba okuba izibini ze-LDR zohlukane. Kwaye akuphelelanga apho, enye isifundo icebisa ukuba xa i-LDR iguqukela kubudlelwane obusondeleyo ngokwejografi, banethuba elingama-37% lokuqhawula kwiinyanga ezintathu zokuqala. Eli zinga lempumelelo libi kakhulu linokubalelwa kule mingeni ilandelayo yobudlelwane bomgama omde: 

• Ngokutsho I-NYPost, olona celomngeni lujongene nezibini ze-LDR kukungabikho kobudlelwane obusondeleyo ngokwasemzimbeni
• Ixhala lokuqhathwa okanye ukulwa nemiba yokuthembana
• Iingxaki zonxibelelwano
• Ukujongana nobulolo
• Unxibelelwano oluphazamisekileyo ngenxa yokungafani kwexesha
• Ukukhula ngokwahlukeneyo kunye nokuphulukana nonxibelelwano lweemvakalelo
• Umona
• Ukwenza iingcinga kunye nokutsibela kwizigqibo
• Ukufumana ukungakhuseleki
• Ukuziva wahlukanisiwe
• Ukuba ngabanini-mpahla, ukulawula, kunye nokufuna kakhulu

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Ngaba uBudlelwane boMgama omde busebenza?

Ezi zibalo kunye noluhlu olude lwemingeni lunokukwenza uzibuze, ngaba ubudlelwane obukude busebenza? Inyaniso kukuba, yonke into ixhomekeke kwindlela izibini ezikude zihamba ngayo kwiindawo eziphakamileyo kunye nezisezantsi. Nangona kunjalo, uphando lubonisa ukuba ubudlelwane bomgama omde (LDRs) bunokusebenza, kwaye kwezinye iimeko, nokuba buphumelele. Uphononongo lucebisa ukuba abantu abatshatileyo kwii-LDR bahlala befumana amaqhina anamandla ngokweemvakalelo ngenxa yemizamo yonxibelelwano, kwaye baqhubeke nokuba ubudlelwane obuyimpumelelo kumgama omde.

Ngokutsho kwe2013 isifundo papashwa kwi YoLwazi lweNxibelelwano, Izibini ezitshatileyo ze-LDR zidla ngokubelana ngeenkcukacha ezithe kratya kwaye zibonakalise uthando olukhulu kunabo bahlala ngokusondeleleneyo ngokwejografi. Enye isifundo kwi Umbhalo woLwaphulo lwezesondo kunye noMtshato ifumanise ukuba ii-LDR zinokukhuthaza uzinzo lobudlelwane xa amaqabane egcina unxibelelwano rhoqo kwaye abeke ulindelo kwikamva labo kunye. Itekhnoloji idlala indima ebalulekileyo apha, ivumela izibini ukuba zihlale ziqhagamshelwe ngeefowuni zevidiyo, imiyalezo, kunye nemidiya yoluntu.

Nangona kunjalo, ukugcina ukuthembana, ukulawula iindawo zexesha, kunye notyelelo lokucwangcisa kubalulekile ukoyisa imingeni. Ngelixa ii-LDR zifuna umgudu, umgama unokukhuthaza ukomelela kwaye wenze nzulu ubudlelwane xa omabini amaqabane ezibophelele. Abanye abantu bafunda ukuzimela nokuba nomonde baze banikel’ ingqalelo kwizinto abazithandayo okanye bafunde izinto ezintsha. Abanye bavumela isithukuthezi, ukungazithembi, kunye nokungachukumisi kufikelele kubo. 

I-Geetarsh inika ukukhanya ukuba ingaba ihlala ihleli unxibelelwano lweemvakalelo kuyenzeka kubudlelwane obunjalo, kunye nento efunekayo ukubuphuhlisa nokubugcina. “Kunokwenzeka, kodwa xa kukho iingxaki ezininzi.” Ukungabikho konxibelelwano kunokukhokelela ekudinweni, kunokubangela ukungazithembi, yaye oko kunokuphumela ekubeni ungabikho emsebenzini.” Noko ke, oko bakuthethayo ngokungabikho kwenza intliziyo ikhulise uthando asiyonto nje endala, kodwa yinyaniso ngokwenene.

Umgama phakathi kwenu nobabini uya kukwenza uzive unxibelelene kwaye unomdla wokudibana neqabane lakho kwakhona. Uya kuhlala ujonge phambili ekuchitheni ixesha eliqinisekileyo kunye neqabane lakho kwaye kuya kuhlala kukho ulonwabo. Nangona ukwahlukana ngokwelizwe kunokuncipha, kufuneka uhlale ugxile kwicala eliqaqambileyo lezinto, "utsho.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, kukho imingeni kwaye loo mingeni idla ngokuba yinto ebulala ubudlelwane obude, ukuba ufunda ukujongana ngokuchanekileyo, kukho ithuba elinamandla lokuhambisa umgama kunye nokwakha ubudlelwane obuqinileyo, obuhlala njalo. Yeyiphi indlela efanelekileyo yokujongana nale mingeni kunye nendlela yokwenza ubudlelwane obukude busebenze, uyabuza? Kulungile, masifumanise.

Iingcebiso ezili-17 zendlela yokwenza uBudlelwane obuMde boMgama

USherry, owasuka e-UK waya eCanada ngomsebenzi omtsha iminyaka emithathu emtshatweni wakhe nesithandwa sakhe sesikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, uChris, uyavuma ukuba ukuhamba umgama, iindawo zexesha, kunye neeshedyuli ezixakekileyo ukwenza ubudlelwane busebenze umgama omde ayisiyonto idlalayo. Kodwa ukuba intliziyo yakho ikwindawo elungileyo, akunakwenzeka nayo.  

Ukwabelana ngeengcebiso zakhe zobudlelwane obude kwabanye abakwimeko efanayo njengaye, uthi ukucinga indlela yokwenza umsebenzi we-LDR kufuna ukuba amaqabane omabini abe kwiphepha elifanayo malunga nayo yonke into, ukusuka kwiishedyuli zokubiza kwizicwangciso ezizayo. Ukuba ku-sync linyathelo lokuqala lokukhupha into eqhelekileyo iimpazamo ezenziwa zizibini kwi-LDR. Umyalelo olandelayo obalulekileyo weshishini kukumisela imithetho esisiseko ukwenza izinto zibonakale zingasebenzi. Nje ukuba ubeke isiseko ngokufanelekileyo, uthando lwakho lomgama omde lunokufumana indlela yokuphumelela, nokuba lungaphaya kwesikrini sefowuni yakho (okwangoku). 

Ivakala ilula ngokwaneleyo? Ewe, ukuba nje bekulula ukuyisebenzisa yonke into. Kodwa ungakhathazeki, njengoko sihlala sikugubungela. Ngokusekelwe kwiingcebiso zobudlelwane bomgama omde kaSherry kunye neengcebiso zobudlelwane bomgama omde we-Geetarsh, siye saqulunqa iingcebiso ezili-17 zokuphuhlisa ubudlelwane obunempilo nangona bohlukene ngokwezelizwe.

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1. Nxibelelana rhoqo

Unxibelelwano olulungileyo lungundoqo kulo naluphi na ulwalamano oluphilileyo kodwa ngakumbi xa uzama ukuqonda indlela yokwenza ubudlelwane obukude busebenze. Ukuze uhlale unxibelelene ngokweemvakalelo, kufuneka uvulele iqabane lakho ngeemvakalelo zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho. Ukuba unosuku olubi lomsebenzi, umntu othembele kuye ngenkxaso kufuneka abe khona ukuboleka indlebe, nangona umgama.

Ukungabikho ngokwasemzimbeni kweqabane lakho, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuba neenguquko zeemvakalelo. Kwimeko apho, kufuneka wabelane ngezo mvakalelo kunye neqabane lakho ukugcina i ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo yomelele. Utshintshiselwano lwemihla ngemihla lweetekisi kunye nemiyalezo kunye neefowuni zevidiyo nanini na kunokwenzeka kuya kukugcina uqhagamshelene neqabane lakho kwaye kuya kuthatha umda kumgama ophakathi kwakho. Nazi ezinye izinto onokuzenza kubudlelwane obukude ukugcina unxibelelwano luvulekile kwaye lusempilweni:

• Cwangcisa naziphi na iifowuni zevidiyo okanye iifowuni, musa ukulinda umnxeba ongengowakho
• Xela ngokucacileyo oko ukulindeleyo kunye neemfuno zakho, likhuthaze iqabane lakho ukuba lenze okufanayo
• Zama ukukhetha iifowuni zelizwi kunye nevidiyo ezininzi kunemiyalezo ebhaliweyo
• Xhasani omnye nomnye kwaye niqinisekisane xa kuyimfuneko
• Yiba ngumphulaphuli osebenzayo
• Miselani isimbo sonxibelelwano esisebenza kuni nobabini
• Qinisekisa ukuba iqabane lakho liyawuqonda umyalezo wakho, kwaye ungavumeli naluphi na unxibelelwano lubangele iingxaki

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2. Qinisekisa ukuba unxibelelwano lwakho lunemveliso

UGeetarsh uthetha ngendlela unxibelelwano nje aluyi kuzicombulula ngayo zonke iingxaki zakho, kufuneka ujonge nomgangatho wonxibelelwano olumiselayo. “Unxibelelwano lunee-T ezine: ixesha, imvakalo-zwi, ubuchule kunye nenyaniso.” Kufuneka uqinisekise ukuba ululumkele amagama owakhethayo kunye nethoni oyisebenzisayo.

“Ekubeni ungazazi iimeko zeqabane lakho, kuya kuba nzima ukugweba indlela elivakalelwa ngayo. unxibelelwano olubi okanye iingxoxo. Mhlawumbi ubufuna ukwabelana ngeendaba ezivuyisayo kodwa iqabane lakho alikhange libe nosuku lungcono. Mhlawumbi nifuna ukuthetha ngekamva, kodwa iqabane lakho linomsindo yaye lifuna ukuthetha ngalo mlo naninawo nobabini.

Uthi: “Zama ukulinganisa indlela elivakalelwa ngayo iqabane lakho ngokusekelwe kwindlela elinxibelelana ngayo nawe uze uqonde eyona nto ibangele ukuba libe kwesi simo sengqondo.” Kwanokuba ufuna ukwabelana nabanye ngeendaba ezakhayo, kusenokuphumela kwintlekele ukuba akulibekeli ixesha elifanelekileyo okanye ungasebenzisi amagama afanelekileyo,” utsho.

USherry uthi, “Umahluko wexesha phakathi kweCanada ne-UK kukuba mna nomyeni wam asikwazi ukuthetha iiyure ezimbalwa ngosuku. Kodwa kuxhomekeke kuthi ukuba senza ntoni ngezo yure zimbini-ukulala ngendlela izinto ezitshintshe ngayo okanye sibe nencoko efudumeleyo neyothando esenza sincume. Kuzo zonke izinto ekufuneka zenziwe kubudlelwane obukude, unxibelelwano olusebenzayo luphezulu kuluhlu. Qiniseka ukuba usebenzisa izinto ezichanekileyo kunye neqabane lakho. iya kuhamba kakuhle, ubukhulu becala.

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3. Dibana rhoqo kangangoko kunokwenzeka

Iingcamango zomhla omde, ukudlala ngothando, ukunxibelelana, ukuthumela imiyalezo ngefowuni, ukuthetha ngezinto eziyinyani zobomi-yonke imigudu oyenzayo ekugcineni i-LDR yakho yomelele kwaye ichumile inokuthwala isiqhamo kuphela ukuba nifumana iindlela zokuba kunye rhoqo kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Oku kuya kugcina uxhulumaniso lomzimba luphila kwaye lunakekele zombini iimfuno zakho zesini. Ukwabelana ngesondo kunye nokusondelana ngokomzimba zizinto zokuqala ezichaphazela ubudlelwane obukude, ke qiniseka ukuba udibana kangangoko. Sebenzisa imali yakho kwaye uqinisekise ukuba unokubhabha ezantsi okanye ukhwele uloliwe qho kwiinyanga ezimbalwa ukudibana neqabane lakho.

Nanini na xa unako, zama ukudibana nesiqingatha sendlela yeholide emfutshane okanye ucwangcise uhambo lwendlela kunye. Ngamanye amaxesha ungaya kubona iqabane lakho ngokobuqu, okanye iqabane lakho lingakutyelela. Cwangcisa izinto ezothusayo, nayo ibalulekile. Siyazi ukuba oku kukuchitha imali kodwa yijonge njengotyalo-mali kubudlelwane bakho.

Xa intlanganiso ayinakwenzeka, ukwenza izicwangciso zayo yonke into oya kuyenza xa ubona iqabane lakho elilandelayo linokuba yinto elandelayo engcono kakhulu. USherry uthi: “Ndizidwelise zonke iindawo endifuna ukuya kuzo xa sele efikile—iCN Tower, iNiagara, neCasa Loma.” Ngexesha lam lokuphumla, ndihambahamba edolophini, ndiye ezipakini ndize ndibukele izibini eziphambeneyo ezithandanayo, ngoxa ndilindele ngolangazelelo ukufika kwesithandwa sam.

4. Gcina ulindelo lwakho lokwenene

Kungokwemvelo ukuba uzive unexhala, uxhalabile, unomsindo, okanye unexhala loqhagamshelo oluncinane kunxibelelwano; umzekelo, xa ungafumani mpendulo ngoko nangoko kwisicatshulwa sakho. Noko ke, yiba nengqiqo. Unokuba uhamba ngemini embi emsebenzini kwaye akakwazi ukufikelela kuwe, okanye, umahluko kwiizowuni zexesha unokuba nzima kakhulu.

UGeetarsh uthi: “Ukuba kubonakala ngathi iqabane lakho alifuni ukunxibelelana, kusenokwenzeka ukuba awukhange ukwazi ukubona indlela avakalelwa ngayo okanye uqonde ukuba lifuna nje indawo ethile,” utshilo uGeetarsh, wongeza ngelithi, “Mhlawumbi baya ndaweni ithile waze walibala. Ingongoma kukuba kubalulekile ukunika iqabane lakho indawo. Ukuba ujonge ingcebiso ngobudlelwane bomgama omde, nantsi i-nugget encinci: yamkeleka ngakumbi kwaye ulawule ubudlelwane obulindelweyo ngokwenyani.

5. Sebenzisa izixhobo zobudlelwane bomgama omde

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuhlala kwelona xesha lihambele phambili kwezobuchwepheshe ukuba awuyisebenzisi ngokupheleleyo? Ngamaxesha athile, izixhobo zobudlelwane bomgama omde inokukunceda ukuba udlule kwezo ntsuku zibuhlungu kakhulu xa ungabonakali ucinga ngayo nantoni na ngaphandle kokufuna ukwanga iqabane lakho.

Xa ezo ntsuku zifika, ungagcina intlantsi iphila ngezixhobo ezinobuchule. Ubusazi na ukuba kukho izibane ezikhanyisa kwigumbi leqabane lakho xa uchukumisa elakho, nokuba likwiwaka leekhilomitha kude? Kukho amakhonkco anokukwenza uzive ukubetha kwentliziyo yomlingani wakho emnweni wakho, kwaye, ke, ezinye izixhobo zesini zisebenzisa umgaqo ofanayo. Ke, qala ukuphonononga kwaye uzifumanele ezimbalwa ezilungelelanisa ngcono ubuntu bakho njengesibini.

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6. Sukukuphepha ukuthumela imiyalezo ngefowuni

Njengoko sibonile ekuqaleni kwenqaku, ukunqongophala ukusondelelana ngokwasemzimbeni idla ngokuba ngowona mba mkhulu izibini ezingeyondawo enye ekufuneka zijamelane nazo. Nangona ingalunganga njengeyona nto yokwenyani, ukuthumela imiyalezo nge-SMS kunokwanelisa oko kurhawuzelelwa, okwethutyana.

Zininzi kakhulu ii-apps ezikude ezinokuthi zenze into efana nale isebenze ngakumbi kwaye iyonwabisa, kodwa awuyidingi nyani. Sele unazo ii-apps zokuthumela imiyalezo kwifowuni yakho, konke omawukwenze kukuchwetheza okanye ubethe umnxeba wevidiyo kwaye ubeke izithintelo zakho ecaleni. Qiniseka nje ukuba awuqhagamshelwanga kwi-wifi yoluntu xa usenza. Owu, kwaye, sebenzisa ukhuseleko. Sithetha iVPN, kunjalo.

Esabelana ngengcebiso yakhe yobudlelwane bomgama omde malunga nokugcina ubuhlobo obusondeleyo, uSherry uthi, "Impumelelo yezesondo isuka kwiingcambu ezomeleleyo zokusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo, kwaye thina njengesibini asize siyilibale loo nto. Iiselfowuni, iSkype, kunye nee-imeyile zizixhobo ezimangalisayo zokuba izibini zihlale zinxibelelana naxa behlala kunye. Xelelanani ngento enijonge phambili kuyo - fumana igraphic ku-Skype okanye ukuyila ukuphoxeka kwakhona ngamanye amaxesha.

7. Cwangcisa kwaye ucwangcise zonke iifowuni zakho zelizwi kunye nevidiyo

Ngokukodwa xa nobabini nihlala kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo zexesha, kuya kufuneka nithathe isigqibo sokuba ninokuthetha nini omnye nomnye endaweni yokulinda nje umnxeba ongenguye ovela kwiqabane lakho. Nokuba kuvakala ngathi ujike waba “ngomnye waba babini bacwangcisa yonke into kwaye bangaze benze nantoni na eyonwabisayo kwakhona”, kuya kufuneka uyenze ukuba uzimisele malunga nokufumana indlela yokwenza ubudlelwane obukude busebenze.

Ewe kunjalo, kuyanceda ukuhamba imayile eyongezelelweyo rhoqo emva kwexesha kwaye uvumele iqabane lakho lazi ukuba utyale imali kulo, ngaphandle komgama. USherry uthi: “Ukuhlala kude kusenze sakhula uthando lwethu ngendlela engazange ibonwe ngaphambili. UChris akangomntu ulala ebusuku, akahlali aze andinqwenelele ngobusuku bomhla wam wokuzalwa. Kodwa kusuku lwam lokuqala ndisebenza apha, wahlala de kwayintsimbi yesi-2 ekuseni ukuze abone ukuba kuhambe njani.

Ukwahlulwa ngokwejografi kwenza unxibelelwano lube nzima kakhulu. Kwaye ukuba uqala ukuhamba iintsuku ngaphandle kokuthetha nomnye ngenxa yeeshedyuli eziphikisanayo, ingqumbo iqala ukukhula. Iingcinga ezinje, “Kutheni engazange andifowunele nje?

Ngaphandle kokuthetha ngokufanelekileyo malunga nexesha elimiselweyo lokufowuna, uya kuhlala ulindile, iqabane lakho liya kuhlala lilindile, kwaye uya kulwa ngeetekisi zakho ze-WhatsApp malunga nokungoneli. ixesha elibalulekile nabanye. Ke, yenza umgudu wokwenza ixesha leqabane lakho kunye nolwalamano lwakho. 

8. Yiba neenjongo ezifanayo

Uthando olude lukhula njengoko ixesha lihamba, kodwa kuninzi kuphela kunokukhula ukuba Isiseko sobudlelwane bakho sibuthathaka. Ngaba nobabini niceba ukuhlala kunye emva kwesi sihlandlo sokwahlukana ngokwelizwe? Ngaba ukwahlukana “kukudala” okanye akukho siphelo kuko?

Kubalulekile ukuba nezi ncoko kunye nokuseka malunga nezintathu ukuya kwezine eziqhelekileyo, iinjongo zexesha elide, ngaphandle kokufuna ukuhlala kunye kwixesha elizayo. Zibuze le mibuzo ilandelayo yobudlelwane bomgama omde ukunceda ukuseka iinjongo ezifanayo:

• Ekugqibeleni siceba ukuhlala kunye, kodwa singathanda ukuba oko kwenzeke phi?
• Ngaba sibona abantwana kwikamva lethu? Siceba njani ukubakhulisa?
• Ingaba ufuna ukuphila ubomi obunjani xa sihlala kunye?
• Ngaba kukho unobangela esiwuthandayo kwaye singathanda ukwenza igalelo ngokudibeneyo njengeqela?
• Luluphi usukelo lwexesha elifutshane esifanele sizibekele lona ukuze siqinisekise ukuba siyalufikelela usukelo lwethu olufanayo lwexesha elide?

9. Fumana ubugcisa ngemibono yomhla omde kunye nezijekulo zothando

Indlela yokwenza ubudlelwane obude busebenze, uyabuza? Musa isaphulelo indima imigama umhla izimvo kunye nezijekulo zothando. USherry uthi: “Kusuku lwethu lwakutshanje, umyeni wam wazisa isipha seentyatyambo kunye nebhokisi yeetshokolethi emnyango wam.” Usenokutsho: “Ezo zizinto ozenzela isithandwa sakho sesikolo samabanga aphakamileyo njengokulula nje okuncinane.” Kodwa yingongoma epheleleyo leyo—ukuvuselela ezo zihlandlo zimnandi!

Akunzima ukucinga ukuba esi senzo simnandi besiya kuyinyibilikisa njani intliziyo yakhe kwaye simenze azive ethanda iqabane lakhe. Ukuba ufuna ukuphindaphinda ezo mvakalelo, yenza umzamo wokukhangela / ukucinga ngezinto ezimnandi, ezicingisisiweyo zokwenza kubudlelwane obukude. 

Ngokunikwa indlela eqhelekileyo kunye nobudlelwane obungenamthungo kwi-intanethi bunokubakho ngalo mhla kunye nobudala, akukho sizathu sokuba ungenako ukuza nenkitha yeendlela zokuba neencoko ezinomdla kwaye fumana imisebenzi yokudibanisa.

"Izinto ekufuneka zenziwe kubudlelwane obude zinokwahluka ngokuphawulekayo kwezo zisondeleleneyo ngokwejografi. Nokuba kukufowuna rhoqo ngevidiyo okanye ukuthumela iividiyo ezimfutshane omnye komnye kunye nokunxibelelana rhoqo, ezi zinto zincinci zinokwenza umahluko. Intlantsi sele ikhona, kufuneka ufumane iindlela zokutshisa amadangatye. Leyo yimfihlelo yobudlelwane," utshilo uGestance. Nazi iimbono ezininzi onokuthi uziphonononge: 

• Cwangcisa usuku lomnxeba wevidiyo, kwaye u-odole iphakheji yakho yokhathalelo ngomhla wakho
• Chitha ixesha kwifowuni yevidiyo uzama ukufunda isakhono esitsha: ukudansa, ukupheka, i-yoga
• Hlalani ninxibelelene omnye nomnye ngelixa nobabini nisenza imisebenzi yenu eyahlukeneyo
• Yenzani ubugcisa kunye ngelixa nikwifowuni yevidiyo
• Yenza isidlo esifanayo kwaye nidle isidlo kunye
• Ukuzinkcinkca ngokubukela inkqubo yeTV oyithandayo

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10. Yiba novelwano

Ngamanye amaxesha ukuba umntu unempelaveki ekruqulayo ekhaya aze afumanise ukuba iqabane lomgama omde lihleli kamnandi nabahlobo ngaphandle kwabo, bayakhathazeka, nto leyo enokude iqalise umlo. "Enye yeengxaki ezinkulu endizibonileyo yindlela amaqabane aselula avumela ngayo i-FOMO ukuba ifike kubo." Bacinga ukuba iqabane labo liphaya ixesha lobomi babo ngaphandle kwabo, kwaye baphela becinga ngokugqithiseleyo iiyure. Kubalulekile ukuba ungayivumeli loo nto ifike kuwe, "kusho uGeetarsh.

Endaweni yokuziva ushiywe ngaphandle kwaye uqalise ingxabano ngayo, okanye ukucaphuka kwiqabane lakho ngokuba nguDebbie Downer ngenxa yokuba uyonwabile ngaphandle kwabo, ziqhelanise. uvelwano kubudlelwane bakho. Zama ukuqonda ukuba iqabane lakho livela phi kwaye kutheni linokuba lusizi. Zibeke ezihlangwini zabo kwaye uzame ukujonga imeko ngokufanelekileyo.

11. Musa ukuzama ukulawula izinto

Akusoloko kulula ukuba kude nesiqingatha sakho esingcono. Umntu udla ngokulawula ubudlelwane kwaye enze izinto zihambe ngendlela yazo ngenxa yokunqongophala kwexesha. Musa ukwenza impazamo yokuba yi-control freak. Elona candelo libalulekileyo lengcebiso yobudlelwane bomgama omde esinayo kuwe kukuvumela izinto ukuba zizenzekele endaweni yokuzama ukuzinyanzela. Kuyakuthatha ixesha ukuqhela umgama. Ke yiba nomonde kuwe kunye ne-SO yakho.

Xa iqabane lakho lalikunye nani, mhlawumbi nigqibe kwelokuba kunye apho nobabini niza kuya phi kwisidlo sasemini. Mhlawumbi ugqibe ngempahla yabo yaloo nkomfa izayo. Kodwa ukuba uqhubeka wenza okufanayo kwi-a ubudlelwane bomgama omde, kunokuba nzima ngokwenene. Mhlawumbi ungazama ukulawula izinto ngakumbi xa ubona iSO yakho iguquka njengomntu.

Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ukufunda indlela yokuba ngumntu oqolileyo nokungavumeli izinto ezingenamsebenzi zize kuwe kuya kukunceda kakhulu. Kufuneka uyeke ukuya kwinqanaba elithile. Iqabane lakho liza kufumana okufumanekayo ngesidlo sasemini kwindawo yokutyela yeofisi kwaye abanakuhlala bebambelele kwisaladi esempilweni oyenzele yona ekhaya. Yamkele loo nto kwaye uyeke ukuzikhathaza, kwaye uya kufumanisa ukuba nobabini nikwiphepha elinye rhoqo kunokuba nicinga.

12. Ukuseka ukuthembana

Nangona kubonakala kunzima okanye kunzima kangakanani ukuba kude neqabane lakho, ungaze ungabathembi okanye uqale ukuphulukana nokholo kubudlelwane ngenxa yokuba awukwazi ukumbona ngokwasemzimbeni. Ukuthembela kunye nokholo ziintsika zamandla kulo naluphi na ubudlelwane kwaye omabini amaqabane kufuneka enze iinzame zokuyikhuthaza.

"Ukuthembana yeyona nto ifunekayo kubudlelwane obude ukuze buphile. Kuya kubakho amaxesha apho unokuziva ngathi ayihambi ngendlela kodwa awukwazi ukuvumela ukungakhuseleki kulawule indlela oziphatha ngayo kubudlelwane bakho. Musa ukwenza impazamo yokubafowunela ngevidiyo ngaphandle kweblue, kwiinzame zokubona ukuba bathetha inyani malunga ngendawo abakuyo xa u-Especius uzama ukwenza umahluko ngexesha lakho. kubalulekile ukuthatha inyathelo emva kwaye themba iqabane lakho,” utsho uGeetarsh. 

Ethetha ngokubaluleka kokungafihli kunye nokunyaniseka ekwakheni ukuthembana kulwalamano olukude, uSherry uthi, "Enye yezona ngcebiso zibalulekileyo zobudlelwane bomgama omde kukuqhelisela ukholo olugqibeleleyo. Kulula kakhulu ukuthandabuza isiseko sobudlelwane bakho xa uqalisa ukunxibelelana nabantu abatsha. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ukuthetha ngokuphandle ngezinto akuyi kwenza iqabane lakho lizive likhuselekile okanye libalulekile, kodwa lihlala liqinisekisa ukuba umgama ubalulekile, kodwa awukho nto ibalulekileyo kuwe. kubanye ngabanye.

“Ngokomzekelo, emva kokuba ndize apha ndongeza abantu abaninzi abatsha kwiiwebhsayithi. ukukopela kubudlelwane obukude kodwa kuba ndingumntu othanda ukuhlalisana kwaye ndifuna ukuphila ngaphandle komtshato wam. Ndimxelela yonke into umyeni wam, nokuba yingqwalasela eyongezelelweyo evela kumfana. Okubalulekileyo yindlela endiyisingatha ngayo loo ngqalelo. Usenokuba uhlala kwindlu enye kwaye uqhathe iqabane lakho. Imalunga nokuba nobuntununtunu kwimigaqo yokuziphatha.”

Ukuseka ukuthembana xa ungekho kufutshane ngokwejografi, gcina ezi zinto zilandelayo engqondweni:

• Khumbuzanani ngezicwangciso zenu zexesha elide
• Thethani ngekamva lenu kunye
• Ungavumeli i-paranoia okanye iingcinga ezingakhuselekanga zibe ngcono kuwe
• Thetha ngezinto ngokuzolileyo, xubusha ngazo zonke iingcamango ezingakhiyo osenokuba unazo, kwaye uzishenxise
• Nyaniseka

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13. Linda

Umgama omde uvavanya umonde nonyamezelo lwakho njengoko kungekho budlelwane obunye. Funda ukuzola, ukuqokelela, kunye nomonde naxa izinto zibonakala zingamatye phakathi kwakho neqabane lakho. Uninzi lwezinto ngenxa yomgama, musa ukuyithatha ngokobuqu. Enye into ekufuneka usebenzele kuyo ungatsibeki ufikelele kwizigqibo.

Ukulibaziseka kwemizuzu embalwa ekuphenduleni umbhalo kwaye utsibe kwisigqibo sokuba iqabane lakho alikuhoyi. Uva ilizwi lendoda ngasemva ngelixa esefowunini kwaye ngoko nangoko ucinge okubi kakhulu. Ngelixa ucinga eyakho iqabane ukukopela kuwe, inokuba ibingumfana ohambisa ipizza. Zola kwaye uhlale unengqondo.

14 Uthando malube ngumkhokeli wakho

"Ngaba ubudlelwane bomgama omde bufanelekile?" wabuza uJenna, naxa wayecinga ngokushiya iqabane lakhe, uRed, kuba ngoku kufuneka bafudukele kwizixeko ezahlukahlukeneyo. Kodwa ke, uJenna wakhawuleza waqonda, ukushiya umntu omthandayo akukho lula, nokuba kukho isigidi seemayile phakathi kwenu.

Xa uJenna noRed bagqiba kwelokuba bahlale kunye, babesazi ukuba kwakungayi kuba lula ukufumana indlela yokwenza ubudlelwane obukude busebenze. Noko ke, kuzo zonke izinto ezazisenza kube lula ukuhamba umgama omde, baqonda ukuba ekuphela kwento ababenokubuyela kuyo yimvakalelo yothando ababenayo omnye komnye. Xa ubuyela kwinto enidibanise ngayo, iyakunceda ukusombulula uninzi lweengxaki zenu. Khumbula ukuba uthando lunokukunceda ukuba udlule kuyo nantoni na, nokuba umgama womzimba.

Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba nadibana ngenxa yokuba thandanani. Xa uziva uphantsi, cinga ngawo onke amaxesha amnandi owabelana ngawo ukuza kuthi ga ngoku. Okanye unokuthetha ngentlanganiso yakho elandelayo kwaye wenze izicwangciso ukuze ube nento okhangele phambili kuyo. Uthando yimvakalelo enamandla. Iyakwazi ukugcina izibini ezikude zincamathele omnye komnye. Ukwenza ubudlelwane obukude busebenze, kuya kufuneka uxhomekeke kuyo.

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15. Nika iqabane lakho indawo eninzi kunesiqhelo

Xa ucinga malunga nendlela yokwenza i-LDR isebenze, kukho ithuba elihle lokuba ukuphosa indawo eninzi kumxube kunokuba kusezantsi kuluhlu lwakho. Okumangalisayo kukuba, lelinye lawona macebiso abalulekileyo obudlelwane bomgama omde esinawo kuwe. Xa besahlukene, kubalulekile ukunqanda ukwenza omnye nomnye azive ene-claustrophobic. Fumana izinto ezintsha ozonwabisa ngazo okanye imisebenzi ukonwabela inkampani yakho. Zigcine uxakekile kwaye usondele kubahlobo bakho ngoku ukuba unexesha. Sebenzisa lo mgama ukukhula njengomntu.

“Abantu bayasokola ngendlela yayo yonke le nto,” utsho uGeetarsh, ethetha ngendlela indawo yam Yingcamango eshiya izibini ezininzi zingonwabanga, kwaye wongeza, “Xa uvimba enye indawo esempilweni entle, nzulu, uyazi ukuba wenza impazamo. Usenokungathandi ukulingxolisa iqabane lakho okanye ningene kwingxabano, kodwa usenokuqhubeka uphindaphinda iindlela zokuziphatha ezifanayo. Kutheni? Ukuthembela kunye nentlonipho, uya kuqonda ukuba iqhina lakho aliguquguquki kangako. ”

Kubalulekile ukuba nomonde kwi-LDR. Ukuba iqabane lakho liye lahamba nabahlobo balo kwaye alizange likuthumelele umyalezo de kwango-2 AM, yiyeke. Ungahlala uthethe ngayo ngomso. Mhlawumbi awuzimisele kakhulu ukusebenzisa ifowuni yakho xa ukunye nabahlobo bakho, akunjalo?

16. Chitha ixesha kunye nawe

Ngelixa unika iqabane lakho indawo ethile, sebenzisa ixesha elisesandleni sakho kwaye ufumane indlela yokonwabela inkampani yakho. Funda into oyithandayo, phuma kwaye ube namava, okanye wenze into eyonwabisayo, nokuba yinto nje yokuthetha neqabane lakho kwixesha elizayo uthetha.

Kwaye, imfihlo yokufumanisa indlela yokusinda kubudlelwane obukude kukuqonda ukuba nobabini kufuneka nikhule njengabantu ukuze ubudlelwane bukhule. Xa nobabini nikhulile, ubudlelwane bukhula. Ke phuma apho kwaye ubethe abo bahlobo ungabahoyanga nje ukuba ungene kubudlelwane kwaye unethemba lokuba baya kukubuyisela. Lixesha lokuba uzakhele ubomi obulungelelanisiweyo.

17. Zama ukukhuseleka kubudlelwane bakho

Ungazama zonke ii-apps zomgama omde phaya, okanye ubuze yonke imibuzo yobudlelwane bomgama omde ofuna ukuyenza, ngaphandle kokuba isiseko sobudlelwane bakho asinamandla, uya kungena engxakini enkulu. Ukuba nina nobabini imiba yokuthembela xa benikweso sixeko sinye, baya kuqhushumba.

Zamani ukuba nonxibelelwano oluhle omnye komnye, nize nimisele imbeko, ukuthembana, uvelwano, ububele nothando. Kakade ke, oko kunokuba lula ukuthetha kunokukwenza. Xa usokola ukuqonda indlela yokwenza ubudlelwane obumgama omde busebenze, ungasoloko ufikelela kwenye Iphaneli yeBonobology yeengcali zonyango ezinamava kwaye ukuthandana abaqeqeshi ukunceda ukukukhokela kufutshane omnye komnye, nangona iimayile phakathi kwakho.

Iingcebiso zendlela yokusinda kubudlelwane obude

Ngelixa uzama ukufumanisa indlela yokwenza ubudlelwane obukude busebenze kwaye ugcine iqhina phakathi kwakho neqabane lakho likhuselekile, kubalulekile ngokulinganayo ukwazi ukuba irhafu ingaba njani kwaye ubeke phambili ukuzikhathalela. UGeetarsh usixelela ukuba eyona nto ibalulekileyo onokuyenza kukuzibhaqa ungaphandle kobudlelwane bakho. Ucebisa ngelithi: “Hamba nabahlobo bakho, nizenzele umsebenzi wokuzonwabisa onemveliso, nize nizame ukuzibona ningekho nje kulwalamano lwenu. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokusinda kubudlelwane obukude ngaphandle kokukuvumela ukuba kuchaphazele impilo-ntle yakho yeemvakalelo kunye nempilo yengqondo:

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• Sebenzisa umgama ukugxila kwizinto ozithandayo, izinto ozithandayo, kunye nokukhula kwakho.
• Gxininisa kwiinjongo zokuziphucula eziphucula ubomi bakho ngokuzimeleyo
• Gcina iipateni zonxibelelwano ezinempilo ezingagqithisi ixesha lakho
• Zibandakanye nokucamngca okanye ijenali ukulawula iimvakalelo kunye nokunciphisa uxinzelelo
• Zilolonge rhoqo ukonyusa umoya wakho kwaye ulawule uxinzelelo lomgama omde
• Chitha ixesha nabahlobo kunye nosapho ukuze uphephe iimvakalelo zobulolo
• Namathela kwishedyuli yemihla ngemihla ukudala uzinzo ebomini bakho
• Kuphephe ukuthelekisa ulwalamano lwakho nabanye; gxila kwibhondi yakho eyodwa
• Zithobise ngezenzo ezincinci zokuzithanda, njengosuku lwe-spa okanye isidlo osithandayo
• Yazisa iqabane lakho malunga nezicwangciso zakho kwangaphambili. Usenokuba uceba ukubukela imuvi kunye nabahlobo okanye niyokutya isidlo sangokuhlwa. Kodwa iqabane lakho akufuneki lifumanise ngalo nto xa sele uphakathi kuyo
• Musa ukwenza impazamo yokuphuma ne-ofisi hunk okanye isiseko esichukumisayo kunye ne-ex
• Thumelani izipho ezigqibeleleyo rhoqo
• Bagcine behlaziyiwe malunga nabahlobo abatsha kunye noogxa babo. Ungabazisa ngencoko yevidiyo
• Yekani ukuba nochuku kwaye musa ukuphosa umsindo ngokusuka kumnqwazi. Noba nobabini niya kudinwa
• Sebenzisa la mava ukuze ube nokuzimela ngakumbi kunye nokuzimela

Ukwenza i-LDR isebenze, kufuneka ube nengqiqo kwaye uqole, oku kuthetha ukuba ungavumeli umona udle xa iqabane lakho liphuma lizonwabisa nabahlobo babo ongazi nto ngalo. Ziphephe iimpazamo zobudlelwane, zama kangangoko ukuba nenkxaso, kwaye uqinisekise ukuba uneenjongo ezifanayo zexesha elide. Ukuba awukho kuyo ixesha elide, ithini inqaku?

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Ngelixa ubudlelwane bomgama omde beza nemingeni yabo eyodwa, bakwabonelela ngamathuba okukhula, ukomelela, kunye noxabiso olunzulu ngothando owabelana ngalo. Ngokwamkela unxibelelwano oluvulekileyo, uqhagamshelo loyilo, kunye nokuzinikela okungagungqiyo, awungekhe wenze ubudlelwane bakho bomgama omde busebenze kodwa uphumelele kulo.

Khumbula ukuba lonke ubudlelwane bohlukile, kwaye into esebenzayo kwesinye isibini isenokungasebenzi kwesinye. Ungoyiki ukuzama, ukuziqhelanisa, kwaye ufumane esakho isingqisho. Okona kubaluleke kakhulu, gcina ilangatye lothando livutha, kwaye uxabise iqhina elikhethekileyo owabelana ngalo, nangaphaya kweemayile.

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