Iimpawu ezili-11 zokukhohlisa uMyeni wakho

U-Amy Winehouse wacula ngokwembono yeqabane eliqhathayo, “Ndaziqhatha. Ukuba uye waqhathwa, usenokucinga ukuba woniwe. Kodwa umyeni wakho ukukopela naye akanayo lula. Kukho iimpawu zokuqhatha umyeni enetyala ezikwenza kucace njengemini ukuba uyasokola ukuba amkele isikreqo sakhe.

Ngaba abafana baziva benetyala emva kokukopela nokuba amaqabane abo abaxolele? Kakade ke, indoda yakho ayikwazi ukubaleka ixhala kunye netyala emva ukukopela kuwe. Nkqu noRobyn, ecula ngokwembono ‘yomnye umfazi,’ edume uxelela iqabane lakhe, “Fowunela intombi yakho. Lixesha lokuba nithethe. Nika izizathu zakho. Into esizama ukuyithetha kukuba, ukuba akaziva enetyala ngokwakhe, abanye baya kuba zizikhumbuzo zezenzo zakhe.

Yintoni Ukukopela Umyeni Ubutyala?

Nangona umongo wetyala ngalinye wahlukile, unobangela wetyala uxhaphakile phakathi kwabaqhathayo, kwaye iimpawu zokuziva unetyala xa ujamelene nokuqhatha endodeni zidla ngokubonakala kakhulu. Oku kungenxa yokuba umtshato okanye ulwalamano oluhlala ixesha elide lubandakanya ukuzibophelela, ukuthembana nokuhlala unyanisekile. Ukushiya ecaleni ezahlukeneyo izizathu zokuqhatha amadoda zidla ngokuza nazo, ukuqhekeka komhlaba uphando uye wachaza izizathu ezisi-8 ezibangela ukuba abantu baqhathe. Zezi:

• Intukuthelo
• Ubuwena
• Ukunqongophala kothando
• Ukuzinikela okuphantsi
• Imfuneko yokwahluka
• ukuyekelela
• Umnqweno wesondo
• Imeko okanye imeko

Ngaba abaqhathi bayasokola? Ukukopa kujongelwa phantsi kuzo zonke iintlanga kuba akunyanisekanga ngokupheleleyo. Ngoko ke, ngokuqinisekileyo uziva ezisola ngokukopa. Uyazi xa ethe waqhawula ukuthembana kweqabane lakhe, kunzima ukuphinda akhe. Oku, kwenza ukuba umqhathi azive ebuhlungu ngezenzo zakhe (nokuba akanakukwazi ukuzilawula). Ityala lokuthandana lidla ngokutya kubo nokuba banomsindo ngokungekho ngqiqweni kwiqabane labo.

Ngaphandle kokuba iqabane lakho lokukopela luhlobo oluthile lwe-sociopath okanye luye ngokupheleleyo ihlolwe emtshatweni ngokweemvakalelo, baya kubonisa iimpawu zokuba netyala lomkhohlisi kwindlela abaziphatha ngayo nakwindlela abaziphatha ngayo abakungqongileyo. Kuyinyani ngakumbi kumadoda 'alungileyo' - Amadoda abonwa ngokubanzi njenganyanisekile kubafazi bawo kwaye anomfanekiso 'wosapho lwamadoda.'

I-Casanovas kunye nokuzibophelela-i-phobes zibonwa njengeeflegi ezibomvu kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo zibalekela ukuhlolisiswa, kodwa indoda ebonwa ngenye indlela njengomzekelo igwetywa ngokukrakra. Xa umyeni oqhathayo ezisola, ubonisa iimpawu ezithile zokuba unetyala. (Cinga uBill Clinton kunye nendlela ulwimi lwakhe lomzimba oluthetha ngayo kwiTV.)

Ukuze mhlawumbi basinde esohlwayweni, bazama ukukufihla okanye ukuthethelela ukungakhathali kwabo. Ke indoda ebonisa iimpawu zeemvakalelo zetyala emva kokuthandana, mhlawumbi iya kwenza into engaphandle kwesimilo ukuyiqinisa. Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuqaphela ukuziphatha kwabo okutshintshileyo kunye nembono entsha yobomi. Le yindlela yabo yangaphakathi yokujongana nobugqwirha abaziyo ukuba babenzile.

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Ingaba Ukukopela Ubutyala Kumchaphazela Njani Umqhathi?

Ukuyibeka ngokuthe kratya, ukuziva unetyala ngokwazi ukuba uye wenzakalisa umntu omthandayo ngokungenakuguqulwa asiyonto umntu anokuyiphelisa lula. Nangona kunzima ngokwenene ukuvelana nomntu okhohlisayo, inyani yokwenyani yeyokuba bayangcungcutheka kubudlelwane babo obuqhekekayo. Ukuzicekisa, ukuzisola, nokubhideka zezinye zeempawu ezingokweemvakalelo ezibonisa ukuba umkhohlisi uchatshazelwa kakhulu zizenzo zakhe kwaye uziva enetyala.

Uninzi lwabantu luyakopa ngaphandle kokulindela iziphumo, kwaye emva koko luziva lukhathazekile malunga nalo kangangeenyanga okanye iminyaka. Uphando lubonise ukuba kukho iiyantlukwano zesini ngendlela abantu abaqhuba ngayo ubutyala. A isifundo ibonisa indlela amadoda aziva enetyala ngakumbi ngayo emva kokungathembeki ngokwesondo, ngelixa abafazi beziva benetyala ngakumbi emva kokungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo. Kodwa nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, baziva bezisola ngezenzo zabo.

Iimpawu ezili-11 zokukhohlisa umyeni

Indlela yokuxelela ukuba umntu unetyala lokukopela? A isifundo icatshulwe kwi Ijenali yoBudlelwane beNtlalo kunye noBuqu ithi abantu abangcatsha amaqabane abo bahlala beziva bebi ngeempazamo zabo kodwa bazama ukuziva bebhetele ngokucutha iimpazamo zabo. ukukopela ubutyala, ngokuyichaza ngokugqithisileyo nangokuyithethelela. Ezi ziba ziimpawu ezicacileyo zokuba inetyala endodeni xa iqhatha umfazi wayo.

Zonke ezi mpawu zikhokelela ekuziphatheni okuba ngamanye amaxesha kube ngukufa kokuziphatha okubi (xa bezama ukuzifihla). Umntu unokude athi aboni bokuqala kunye nabakhweli betyala kulula ukubamba kunabo bafika ngokulula kubo ukukopela. Ukuba ufikile apha ubuza umbuzo othi "Ndazi njani ukuba umyeni wam uziva enetyala?", lixesha lokuba singene ngokufanelekileyo kwaye sikunike lonke ulwazi oludingayo ukuyazi namhlanje.

Ngoko ke wazi njani ukuba isiqingatha sakho esingcono sibonisa iimpawu zokukopela unetyala? Nantsi into ekufuneka uyilumkele:

1. Ukuqhawula umtshato yenye yeempawu zokukopela umyeni enetyala

Ayiqhelekanga kodwa iyinyani into yokuba xa abakhohlisi beziva benetyala, badla ngokugqabhuka, KAKHULU. Indoda ekuqhathayo inokukutyhola ngokuba ukunganyaniseki kubudlelwane. Umqeqeshi uAdrian, ukusuka Iingcebiso zothando kumabonakude KuYouTube, ithetha ngolu phawu luqhelekileyo kwaye ithi, "Abanakukwazi ukujongana neemvakalelo zabo kunye nokungaqiniseki, ngoko babonisa ityala labo kuwe. Xa umntu ehlala engakhuselekanga ngento ethile, kufuneka iqalise irada yakho."

• Ukukhohlisa: Usebenzisa olu hlaselo ukuze azikhusele kodwa, eneneni, uyakukhohlisa ukuze anciphise ixhala lakhe. Xa umbuza ukuba kutheni efike emva kwexesha, uyacaphuka. Njengoko engekakulungeli ukujamelana nalo mbuzo, ubhenela ekuphambukeni
• Ityala: Ngokukugxeka, uzama ukukhululeka kwisibakala sokuba enze into ebengafanele ayenze
• Ukubonisa iimpazamo zakho: Uzama ukukubhidanisa ngokukhangela iimpazamo kuwe, njengoko kuyeyona nto ilula ukuyenza. Kodwa ikwayenye yeempawu eziqinisekisiweyo zokukopela
• Imnika amandla: Ngemigudu yakhe yokuguqula le meko, uziva enamandla. Oku kumenza ukuba alahle ityala lakhe ngaphandle kwefestile kwaye enze ukukrokra kunye nokungaqiniseki kwakho kube yimiba emikhulu. Ngaloo ndlela, xa ekugqibeleni ukungathembeki kwakhe kuphumela ekuhleni, unokukubekek’ ityala ngokuqhekeka kolwalamano lwakhe.

2. Uyakuthululela ngokukhawuleza ngezipho kunye nengqalelo

Uphawu oluqhelekileyo kunye nelona lula ukubukela, ngoko ke nikela ingqalelo ekuziphatheni komyeni wakho. A ukukopela umyeni ngokucacileyo uchitha ixesha elincinci kunye neqabane lakhe. Kodwa ekubeni eziva enetyala ngokwenza oko yaye engafuni ukuba ukungakhathali kwakhe kubhencwe, uzama iqhinga eliqhelekileyo lokukuhenda ngezinto eziphathekayo.

Ukuba ubufumana ingqalelo, ukunconywa, kunye nezijekulo zothando, lixesha lokufumana amandla akho okuqonda. Ukuza ekhaya kwangethuba yinto ahlala eyenza ngoku ukuze achithe ixesha nawe, kodwa akazange azikhathaze ngayo ngaphambili. Umyeni wakho ongekho kude usenokuba kuhambo lobutyala lokuqhatha. Uya kukubonisa indlela akuthanda ngayo kwaye akufune ngayo ebomini bakhe, kodwa oko kungenxa yokuba ungumntu onetyala ozama ukuyilungisa.

Ngokutsho kwengcali yezonxulumano uTracy Ross, le ndlela intsha yokuziphatha iphakathi kweempawu ezixhaphakileyo zokuqhatha umyeni enetyala: “Basenokuba nolwazelelelo okanye bacinge ngendlela engaqhelekanga, njengokwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya, ukucwangcisa iingokuhlwa, ukuthenga izipho ezincinane . . .

3. Indlela aziphatha ngayo itshintsha ulwandle

Njengoko enetyala lokudlala ngentembeko kunye neemvakalelo zeqabane lakhe, ngokungaziqondiyo uye atshintshe indlela yokuziphatha. Olu tshintsho luyabonakala, kwaye lunokuba luphawu lokuba kukho into engalunganga kubudlelwane bakho. Njengokuba, ukufihla izinto kuwe kwifowuni yakhe kunokuba luphawu lokukopela. Kuba akafuni ukuba ubone nayiphi na itekisi okanye umnxeba othandabuzekayo.

• Ulumkile ngakumbi malunga nezixhobo zakhe: Ngaba uyazitshintsha rhoqo iipassword zakhe? Okanye uyala ukwabelana ngeenkcukacha zakhe zebhanki okanye amatyala ekhadi lokuthenga ngetyala ngequbuliso?
• Akanazimpendulo kuwe: Ngaba uyaphuthaza okanye uyala ukujongana nokuba kutheni ubuya kade ekhaya yonke imihla? Ngaba ebefumana iminxeba emininzi kakhulu enxulumene nomsebenzi wasebusuku kakhulu? Yaye xa umbuza ngayo, usuka nje ayibhule aze athi uyangxola. Ezi zibonakaliso zakudala, eziqinisekisiweyo zokuba umyeni wakho ukukopela kunye nomnye umntu

Xa abantu beyitshintsha kakhulu indlela abaziphatha ngayo, isenokuba ngomnye wemiqondiso eyoyikekayo yokuziva benetyala endodeni, utsho umqeqeshi uAdrian. "Kodwa themba amathumbu akho kwaye uqale uqinisekise ukuba awuwondli ukungaqiniseki kwakho. Zinike ixesha lokujonga indlela yokuziphatha kwaye uqinisekise ukuba ukulungele ukuthetha naye," uyongeza.

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4. Uzama ukuba ngumyeni nobawo ofezekileyo

U-John Legend ucule wathi, “Kwaye ndiyazisola ngempazamo esiyenzileyo. Akukho sizathu sokuba simxelele namhlanje. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba azi, akunyanzelekanga ukuba azi. Indlela yokuxelela ukuba umntu unetyala lokukopela? Ukwenza ngathi akukho nto yenzekileyo. Ukongeza, indoda enetyala iya kuzama ukuba ngutata othanda ukuba yindoda kunye nendoda egqibeleleyo enokufunwa ngumfazi.

• Ngequbuliso yindoda yosapho: Uya kuchitha ixesha elingakumbi nabantwana, ebanceda ngomsebenzi wabo wesikolo owenzelwa ekhaya okanye ukuqeqesha. Kwakhona uya kuncedwa kwimisebenzi yasekhaya, enye yezinto awayengazenzi ngaphambili
• Uzama ukuba liqabane elingcono kuwe: Ngequbuliso, kwi iziphumo zomcimbi, izinto ozifunayo ziya kunyanyekelwa kwaye iirhawuti zakho ziya kuphulaphulwa ngononophelo. Ezi isenokuba ziimpawu zeemvakalelo zokuziva unetyala lokukopa

Kwelinye icala, ezi isenokuba ziindlela zokukhohlisa azisebenzisayo ukugcina ukukrokrelana kwakho phantsi koqwalaselo. Nokuba yeyiphi na inkuthazo yakhe, ukuba umyeni wakho uba mhle kakhulu kwaye ugqibelele ukuba yinyani, lixesha lokujoja impuku. Ngequbuliso, imikhwa yakho yokubukela umabonwakude ebusuku okanye ukuya ezivenkileni ngokungapheliyo akumkhathazi.

Ngokwahlukileyo koko, uyabahleka. Ungaziva ukuba utshintshile waba ngcono kodwa ezi isenokuba ziimpawu zokuqhatha umyeni enetyala.

5. Ukutshintshatshintsha kweemvakalelo nokucaphuka ziimpawu zokukopela umyeni enetyala

Isazi ngengqondo esidumileyo uGuy Winch sithi, “Kwanokuziva unetyala nje kancinci kunokukwenza ube mathidala ukwamkela ulonwabo lobomi, uze ukhuphe iimvakalelo ezingakhiyo.” Ke, ukuba ufumanisa ukuba indoda yakho iziva iphantsi kwaye irhoxobisa ekuzibambeni ngolonwabo lwemihla ngemihla ngendlela ebeqhele ukwenza ngayo, isizathu sinokuba kukuzisola kwakhe ngokukopela. 

Kwezinye iimeko zokulalana ngaphandle komtshato, ubutyala bakhe kunye nexhala malunga nokuba uya kuthini xa ebhaqwe kunokubangela ukuxhalaba kunye nokuziphatha kwakhe okucaphukisayo. Ngapha koko, zininzi izinto ezothusayo abaqhatha abazithethayo xa bedibene. Usenokuphakuzela ngenxa yezona zinto zincinane, abonakale elahlekile kwaye elusizi, okanye angakwazi ukubonana neliso lakho xa ufuna ukuba nencoko. Iimpawu ezicacileyo kakhulu zokuba netyala kwindoda esakukhathalelayo.

UAdrian uthi: “Ukuba oko kusenzeka rhoqo, lixesha lokuba uhlale phantsi nomntu obalulekileyo ukuze wazi ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni. "Musa ukubahlasela okanye ubabeke ityala, kodwa yazise ngobubele ukuba ukhathazekile." Ukutshintsha kweemvakalelo kusenokuba yimbonakaliso yendlela abaqhatha abavakalelwa ngayo ngeziqu zabo. Ngokufuthi abakwazi ukuvakalisa ukuxhalaba kwabo.

Ngoko, vula amajelo onxibelelwano. Ukuba umyeni womqhatha uziva evalelwe, usenokuchwechwa aze abe kude nawe. Ke, nokuba kunokuba nzima kangakanani kuwe, uvelwano kunye nemfesane ngawona mahlakani akho amakhulu ekumtsaleleni ngaphandle kwaye mhlawumbi nokumenza azive emsulwa malunga nezikreqo zakhe.

6. Uhlala ekude, akukhuphele ngaphandle kwizicwangciso zakhe

Ukuba oku kuyenzeka ixesha elide, umtshato wakho usematyeni Ngokuqinisekile. Ngokutsho kukaGuy Winch, "Ityala linokukwenza ukuba uphephe umntu omonileyo." Enyanisweni, olu mvakalelo lunokwenza indoda ibe kude kulowo imqhathayo, nto leyo ebonakala ichasene nezinye iimpawu zobutyala esixoxe ngazo ngaphambili. Usenokude afikelele kwinqanaba lokulondoloza umgama okanye ukukhwelisa kude kwizinto neendawo ezinokubangela unxunguphalo.

• Ukukuphepha: Ngoko ke, ukuba umyeni wakho uyakopela, uya kuba mathidala ukuchitha ixesha kunye nawe. Ngequbuliso iimpelaveki zakhe zinokuxakeka ngakumbi. Uya kuqalisa ukuchitha ixesha elininzi emsebenzini kwaye uhlala engafikeleleki ukuphepha ukujongana nokungabikho kwakhe, ukuziphatha okungaqhelekanga, kunye nokubuya ekhaya emva kwexesha.
• Akakukhuphi kwakhona: Ukhuphela ngaphandle ngobuchule kwizicwangciso zakhe zentlalo. Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, unesizathu sokukukhupha ngalo lonke ixesha engakwazi ukukukhupha okanye ujoyine amaqela akhe eofisi.

Umnqweno wokuchitha ixesha kunye neqabane likabani kufuneka uze ngokwemvelo. Ukuba ngenene uyajola, uyakufumana kunzima ukujija ixesha phakathi kwekhaya nesithandwa sakhe. Ngenxa yoko, izizathu zokufihla elinye icala lebali.

7. Iimpawu azisola ngazo ngokuqhatha: Uthetha ngokwahlukana noqhawulo-mtshato

Ubutyala yimvakalelo enamandla kakhulu, akunjalo? Kungakhathaliseki ukuba umyeni wakho uzama kangakanani ukucinezela ezi mvakalelo zokuzisola nokuzisola, baya kufumana indawo yokuphuma, enye indlela okanye enye. Phakathi kwezinto eziqhelekileyo zokubonakaliswa koku zikho rhoqo, nangona zigqunyiwe, izoyikiso malunga nokuphelisa umtshato kwaye ingaba ngumqondiso wokuba iqabane lakho likuqhathile. Ukuba uhlala ethetha ngomtshato oqhubekileyo kunye nendlela esi sisihlandlo sokugqibela ekubona ngayo, yithathe njengenye yeempawu eziqinisekisiweyo zokuqhatha.

Phawula ukuba phakathi kwengxabano, uya kuvelisa iindlela zokwahlukana ngaphandle kwandawo endaweni nje ukuvuma ukuqhatha ikuwe? Musa ukuyikhaba njengento ethethwayo xa kutshisa elo xesha, kuba ibala phakathi kwezona mpawu zokuqhatha umyeni enetyala. Usenokuba utyala ngobuchule ingcamango yokwahlukana entlokweni yakho ukuze athomalalise isazela sakhe esinetyala xa ufumanisa ngomnye umfazi.

Njengoko ephila ubudlelwane ababini ngexesha, usenokuzifumana ekrazulwe phakathi kwabafazi ababini ebomini bakhe kwaye usenokucinga ngokukhetha omnye umfazi phezu kwakho. Kumntu onomnye umntu, ukuwohloka komtshato kusenokungabi yinto enkulu ngolo hlobo ngelo xesha.

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8. Ubomi bakho bokwabelana ngesondo bubona ukunyuka

Ngokukhawuleza, indoda yakho iya kuba shushu kunanini ngaphambili, kwaye uya kumangaliswa yinto entsha ayizisa ekwenzeni uthando. Hayi nje ukuzama izinto ezintsha ebhedini, kodwa kwakhona une sex ngakumbi kunangaphambili. Le yindlela yokumbuyekeza ngokuthandana kwakhe ngaphandle komtshato, kwaye ukulambela kwakho kwakhona kunokuba phakathi kweempawu zokuba netyala endodeni.

• Ukuba nesondo ngakumbi: Okwakukade kusiba ziiveki ezomileyo, ngoku silalana ekhitshini kusasa phambi kokuba siye emsebenzini. Naxa nina nobabini nisilwa, ufumana indlela yokuyiguqula ibe sisini esinomsindo ukuphepha nayiphi na incoko yokwenyani ngeengxaki eninokuba nazo. Ngaphambi kokuba ubuyele kumbuzo wokuqala wokuba kutheni nisilwe, nina nobabini sele niyenzile indlela yakho ebhedini. Le ndlela yokuziphatha itshintshileyo inokubonakala ilungile ekuqaleni, kodwa kufuneka uqale unike ingqwalasela engakumbi kwinto enokuba yenzeka entlokweni yendoda yakho.
• Ukubeka umzamo ongakumbi: Ngequbuliso, kukho zonke ezi ntshukumo zintsha ebhedini, yakho ubomi bokwabelana ngesondo bunongwe, kwaye uye wajika wanikela ingqalelo ngakumbi ngokwesini. Unokuziva uthandwa kakhulu ngenxa yokunyuka kwakhe kwesondo. Lumka. Konke oku kusenokuba sisiphumo sokufuna ukwabelana ngesondo nomnye umntu

Isenokuba ngomnye wemiqondiso azisola ngayo ngokuqhatha kwaye ufuna ukucamagushela ityala lakhe. Okanye kusenokwenzeka ukuba akafuni kukukrokrela. Akukho ndlela yokwenyani yokwazi, ngoko ke kungcono ukudibanisa le ndlela yokuziphatha kunye nezinye iimpawu zendlela aqhuba ngayo umfana emva kokuba eqhathile, kwaye uqaphele.

9. Uphuhlisa umdla ongaqhelekanga kunye nezinto azithandayo

Oku kuhle, akunjalo? Kodwa xa ezi ziziphumo zetyala lakhe lokukhohlisa, akukho nto yokuzonwabisa ipholile. Umdla wakhe omtsha wokuzonwabisa unokuba sisiphumo somdla wakhe omtsha wothando. Ukuphuhlisa izinto ezintsha zokuzonwabisa okanye izinto azithandayo zihlala zisempilweni kodwa kuphela ukuba ziyindalo kwaye zihambelana nobuntu bakhe. Ukuba umyeni wakho othiyileyo umthambo ubetha i-treadmill ngempindezelo, ayiqhelekanga. Oku kunokubonisa ukuba ubumba umzimba wakhe kumntu othile.

Mhlawumbi ude wancomela ukufunda incwadi yebali lothando kunye njenge Ikratshi nomkhethe yincwadi awayedla ngokuyinyelisa ngalo lonke ixesha abantu bethetha ngayo. Okanye ukuba inzwakazi yakho engatshayiyo ngequbuliso ifumanise kupholile ukujiwuzisa i-ciggy, lo msi awukho ngaphandle komlilo kwenye indawo. Mhlawumbi, elinye iqabane lakhe liyatshaya kwaye kulapho waqala khona lo mkhwa.  

Abantu bayatshintsha kwaye banokukhetha imikhwa emitsha, elungileyo nembi, kubahlobo okanye kubantu bangaphandle. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, ezi zinto zintsha ezinomdla zinokuba sisikhusi somsi ukufihla ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni na ngabo. Kwanokuzonwabisa kusenokuba phakathi kweempawu eziqinisekisiweyo zokukopela.

10. Iimpawu zokuqhatha ubutyala bomyeni zisenokungathethwa

Kukho iimpawu ezithile ngokweemvakalelo ukuziva unetyala ukusuka ukukopela ngokunjalo. Ezinye zeempawu ezinkulu zokuqhatha ubutyala bomyeni zinokuthathwa kwizinto ezingathethwayo ezifana nokujongana kwamehlo. Ukuba indoda yakho iyathandana kwaye ityala linzima kuye, liya kubonakala kulwimi lwakhe lomzimba kunye nentetho, ngakumbi ukuba uncokola malunga nezihloko 'ezingathandekiyo' ezibangela ukuba netyala.

Umzekelo, zama ukuzisa isihloko sokungathembeki okanye wabelane ngebali lomhlobo ozibandakanya kulo izinto ezilingana nokuqhatha. Unokuba neentloni, angakwazi ukudibana neliso lakho, angazikhusela, okanye angabelani ngezimvo zakho ezibuhlungu malunga nokungcatsha. Nikela ingqalelo engakumbi emehlweni akhe njengoko abo babambe isitshixo sento eqhubekayo ngaphakathi kuye.

Amadoda anezazela sele eziva kakubi ngale nto ayenzayo ngokuqinisekileyo aya kuchaphazeleka. Kufuneka uhlale ujonge ezi mpawu zingabonakaliyo, kwaye unokukwazi ukucholachola iimpawu zokuba netyala endodeni.

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11. Xa umyeni wakho ekukhohlisa, ukuziphatha kwakhe kwimidiya yoluntu akukho ndawo

Iimpawu zokukopela umyeni unetyala zinokubonwa kwizinto ezingaqhelekanga kwimidiya yoluntu. Ekuqaleni, ubudla ngokumcela ukuba ajonge ibali lakho, isimo, okanye isithuba esitsha. Kodwa ngoku, uye wasebenza kakhulu kula maqonga.

• Uyathanda ukukuqhumisela ngebhombu kwi-intanethi: Ukuba akazange akulandele kwi-Instagram okanye kuFacebook de kube ngoku, unokuqalisa ukwenza oko ngequbuliso kwaye adlulele ekuthandeni, ukwabelana, okanye ukugqabaza. Iiposti zakho ziphawulwa ngamagama acengayo, zikushiya ukrokrela
• Ukurhoxa ngokupheleleyo: Kwelinye icala, unokurhoxa kumajelo eendaba ezentlalo kwaye unokuthandabuza ukubeka iifoto zenu nobabini, ukwabelana ngeenkumbulo, okanye ukuphawula kakhulu kwizithuba zakho. Ngokunokwenzeka, ngenxa yokoyika iziphumo ezinokubakho kulwalamano lwakhe olutsha

Ilula. Imidiya yoluntu ichaphazela ubudlelwane kwaye ibonakalisa ubunyani bethu. Naluphi na utshintsho olukhulu kwindlela aziphatha ngayo kwimidiya yoluntu lunokuba sisiphumo seempawu zeemvakalelo zokuziva unetyala, ke gcina ithebhu kwindlela yakhe yokuziphatha kwi-Intanethi ukuze uqaphele ukuba ubonisa naziphi na iimpawu eziqhelekileyo zokuba netyala. Kodwa musa ukugqajukelwa ngumsindo okanye utsibele kwizigqibo ezisekelwe kwiimpawu ezimbini zokuqhatha umyeni enetyala.

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Ukuba ungumntu okhe waqhatha kwixesha elidlulileyo, ngoko kufuneka uqhelane nolwandle lweemvakalelo ezibhidayo eziza nalo. Azikho izibini ezininzi ezikwaziyo ukusinda ekuqhatheni kubudlelwane. Ngelixa abanye bekufumanisa kulula ukuxolela nokulibala emva koko unyango lwezibini, izibini ezininzi ziqhawula umtshato emva kwesiganeko sokungathembeki.

Ukuba ungumntu okukudala uziva unetyala, yazi ukuba akuwedwa kule nto. Nangona ungenako ukuyeka ukuzigxeka ngoku, nantsi into omawuyenze ukuze woyise iimvakalelo zakho zokuzisola:

• Eyona ndlela ilula kukuba yinyani kunye neqabane lakho, kunye nawe: Ukuhlambuluka kwiqabane lakho malunga nokungathembeki kwakho yinto enye. Kodwa ngaba uye wanyaniseka kuwe ngesizathu sokuba uyenzile? Lixesha lokuba ucinge kwaye uqonde ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni kubudlelwane bakho obuphambili kwaye uvavanye ngokwenyani apho izinto zingahambi kakuhle, ngaphandle kokubeka ityala.
• Zityand’ igila komnye umntu ongelilo iqabane lakho: Kuba iqabane lakho lalikwisiphelo sokufumana kwaye liziva libuhlungu kakhulu nguwe, alikho kwimeko yokukunika inkxaso oyifunayo. Ngoko kunokuba ubafowunele uze ubaxelele indlela ovakalelwa ngayo ngawe, thetha nomnye umntu njengelungu lentsapho okanye umhlobo osenyongweni.
• beka umzamo kubudlelwane bakho: Ukuba uthe wagqiba ukushiya ubudlelwane bakho obutsha kwaye wenze izinto zilungile kunye neqabane lakho eliphambili, thatha onke amanyathelo amancinci afunekayo ukuze ubenze bakholelwe ukuba uyabathanda (kungekhona ngokunika iBirkins kunye neeholide). Okokuqala, banike indawo kodwa baxelele indlela ozisola ngayo nokuba unqwenela ukulungisa. Xa bekhululekile, baxelele indlela ozinikele ngayo ekwenzeni izinto zisebenze kwaye ubonakalise ngezenzo zakho yonke imihla

Ngezi mpawu ezibonakalayo zokukhohlisa unetyala kumyeni wakho, awuyi kubanjwa ungaqondanga ukuba imiba yakho yomtshato ikhula. Unokufumana iindlela zokuwulungisa umtshato wakho ngaphambi kokuba izinto zihambe ngaphaya kokulungiswa. Ukuba unika ixesha elaneleyo, izinto zinokuba ngcono. Lumkani, musani ukuqhatheka; Hlala uhlakaniphile kwaye uphathe izinto ngelixa ubambe intloko yakho phezulu.

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