“Umuntu akami emhlabathini njengomvini noma njengesihlahla, umuntu akayona ingxenye yensimu, isintu sinemilenze ngakho siyazulazula.
– Thomas Payne.
Isintu sinemilenze. Kanjalo nabesifazane. Okusho ukuthi ukhululekile ukuhamba futhi uzulazule ngokuthanda kwabo. Izizathu zakho zokuhamba uwedwa azikwazi/akumele zincike ekutheni awushadile noma ushadile, uqondile noma uyisitabane. Uyahamba uyohlola amathumbu akho, uhlole ngale kwezifunda futhi umuntu akufanele alahle ukoma kokuzulazula ukuze uthole isimo somshado.
Amaphiko akho akufanele anqunywe umlingani ophethe ngokweqile ofuna ukukufaka enkingeni ngemva komshado. Ukuhamba uwedwa ngaphandle komlingani kuzokufundisa izinto eziningi futhi kukwenze uzimele. Uzoba nezigigaba ongazikhohlwa ezizokunikeza ukuzethemba kokubhekana nanoma iyiphi inkinga empilweni.
Izizathu Ezingu-5 Ezenza Ukuhamba Uyedwa Ngesikhathi Ushadile Kuhle
Okuqukethwe
Ababaningi abalungile nge owesifazane oshadile ozimele ehamba yedwa. Banezizathu zabo, kodwa awudingi ukusindwa yimibono yabo. Izinzuzo zokuhamba uwedwa azibaleki, futhi zizokunikeza umoya wokuzethemba ongakaze ube nakho ngaphambilini.
Ngakho-ke uma ufuna izizathu zokuhamba uwedwa, sikunikeza ezi-5, ngoba sifuna ngempela ukuthi uphume futhi ube nesikhathi esingcono kakhulu sempilo yakho!
Umshado usho ndawonye, hhayi ukuboshelwa phansi
Ube nezizathu zokuhamba wedwa impilo yakho yonke, kuyakujabulisa futhi kuqinisekisa ukukholelwa kwakho. Pho kungani ume manje, ngemva komshado? Cabanga ngazo zonke izizathu zokuthi akufanele uhambe wedwa futhi uzicabangele ngokucophelela- ingabe ziyindaba enkulu kangangokuthi kufanele uyeke ukwenza into oyithanda kakhulu?
Ukushada akufanele kube isithiyo sokuzulazula kwakho. Kugomela ukuzimela kwakho, kuthungele intshisekelo yakho futhi uma umlingani wakho engakwazi ukungena emkhunjini ngombono wokuhamba yedwa ngenkathi ushadile, ingabe ungumlingani ofanele wena?
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Unesibopho senjabulo yakho
Izinzuzo zokuhamba uwedwa ukuthi kukwenza ukwazi ukuzimela futhi uqine. Lezi izimfanelo ongeke uziphiwe omunye umuntu. Ukuzimela okudingekayo ukuze uhambe uwedwa into okungekho muntu ongakuchazela yona - udinga ukuyenza ukuze uzizwele wena.
Lapho konke sekushiwo futhi kwenziwa futhi uhambo luphelile, injabulo ayinakuqhathaniswa. Kunomuzwa wokwaneliseka okuthola ngokuhamba wedwa. Kukwenza ubone ukuthi awumdingi umuntu ozokwenza uzizwe uphelele ngaphakathi kwakho.
Ukuhamba uwedwa kusula ikhanda lakho
Ngemva komshado, izinto zingaba matasa; unomndeni okufanele uwunakekele, futhi sekukonke uzizwa sengathi awukwazi ukuthola izizathu zokuhamba uwedwa. Kunezinto owabelana ngazo nezinto ongakwazi. Uma unkosikazi ehamba eholidini engenamyeni, akusho ukuthi usewushiya ngemuva umndeni wakhe (amanga umphakathi osiphakela wona lawo).
Wonke umuntu udinga isikhathi sokuphumula ukuze abhekane nobuthakathaka bakhe obungokwengqondo nengokomzwelo. Ukuthatha uhambo lokuyohlola uwedwa akukuvumeli nje kuphela ukuthi ugeze ikhanda lakho okwesikhashana, kodwa kwakha ikhono lakho lokucabanga kahle futhi ubuyele empilweni yakho yomshado ngenguqulo yakho egcwele, engcono.
Ngaphandle kwalokho, uphinde uxhumane nengxenye yakho obucabanga ukuthi ulahlekile ekudidiyeleni impilo. Lezo yizo kanye izinzuzo zohambo lwakho uwedwa - uzokwazi ukuphinde uxhumane nawe ngemva kweminyaka eminingi yokunikela ngesikhathi namandla akho kumyeni wakho, izingane, nomsebenzi.
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Ukuhamba isikhathi kunempilo
Ubudlelwano obubhidlika ngaphansi kwezaba lebanga abuqini ngokwanele. Uma ufuna ukuhamba wedwa ngaphandle komyeni wakho futhi akulungile ngakho, akazithembi futhi cishe akakuthembi ukuthi uzohamba kude kangaka ngoba akakwethembi. Ingabe lobo ubuhlobo obunempilo ngempela?
Ukuhamba wedwa ukuya emazwenikazi amasha kubeka ingqondo yakho endleleni yokuphila, ukushintsha indawo ukuze ucabange ngezidingo zakho kanye nezinto ozifunayo empilweni. Uma ukushada kuyisidingo somphakathi, ukuhamba kuyisifiso somuntu ngamunye. Uma umyeni engakwazi ukuphatha izinkinga ebangeni elide ngisho kancane, ungachithi isikhathi sakho nomuntu ongakwazi ukuhlonipha indawo yakho siqu.
Ukuhlangana kumnandi
Ukuhamba kukodwa kuyasikhanyisela ngokomoya. Ngemva kokuhlola, uma ubuyela ekhaya, inyunyana nomlingani wakho nomndeni wakho imnandi kunompe ngoba ekupheleni kosuku, ayikho indawo efana nekhaya. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi, ukuze ukwazise, udinga ukuhamba.
Mkhuthaze ukuthi ahambe yedwa futhi. Mtshele konke oye waba nakho, zonke izifundo ozifundile, nabo bonke abangani abasha ozenzile. Uma umthanda ngempela umuntu, lokhu okuncane ongamenzela kona. Futhi uma zonke izindaba zokuhamba zikusondeza ndawonye, uyazi ukuthi lobu budlelwano buhloselwe ukuba bube. Leyo mfihlo yomshado omkhulu.
Zonke izizathu zokuhamba uwedwa ziphambi kwakho, ngakho-ke, thatha uhambo bese ulahleka emahlathini noma emabhishi ukuze uthole kabusha wena ovame ukuduka ebumnyameni bempilo. Yenza lokho obulokhu ufisa ukukwenza- kungaba ulwandle, izintaba, noma ngisho ukuphila edolobheni elisha.
Ukuhamba uwedwa ngenkathi ushadile kuwumsebenzi okufanele wenziwe ukukusiza ukuthi ukhule futhi ukwazi ukuzimela. Ngeke uhlale uthembele kumyeni wakho emndenini wakho ukuthi ujabule. Akekho umuntu kulo mhlaba okuqonda kangcono kunawe. Ngakho-ke yenza okuthandayo futhi uqale uhambo lwakho lokuzulazula.
Imibuzo Evame Ukubuzwa
Lutho neze! Eqinisweni kubalulekile kuwena ukuthi uhambe wedwa ukuze ukwazi ukuzimela futhi uhlole umhlaba ngendlela ofuna ngayo, futhi ufunde konke ngamasiko amasha, ukudla okudliwayo, kanye nombono omusha wendlela yokuphila impilo yakho.
Yebo, imibhangqwana esebenza kahle kakhulu futhi esebenzayo iyakwenza. Abavikelekile ngokuzimela komunye nomunye, kunalokho bafuna abashade nabo bachume futhi basebenzise ngokugcwele impilo yabo.
Lutho neze. Kumele uqonde ukuthi izinzuzo zokuhamba uwedwa yizo ezizokuqinisa futhi zikulungiselele ukubhekana ngqo nezinkinga zempilo. Ukuhamba uwedwa kuzokukwenza uqine futhi uhlakaniphe, futhi kwandise ulwazi nemibono yakho ngezihloko eziningi.
Umnikelo wakho awuhlanganisi inhlangano esiza abantulayo umnikelo. Izovumela i-Bonobology ukuthi iqhubeke nokukulethela ulwazi olusha nolwakamuva emzamweni wethu wokusiza noma ubani emhlabeni ukuthi afunde ukwenza noma yini.
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