Bengingazi ukuthi wuthando lolo. Ngangizoba kanjani? Enganeni eneminyaka eyisithupha, kwakuwuchungechunge nje lwezindaba ngaphambi kokulala engikwazile ukuzixoxisana nogogo wami. Akazange akwenze kuzwakale njengezindaba zothando ezihleliwe zomshado. Futhi, angizange ngicabangele umshado ohleliwe: izindaba njengezindaba zothando isikhathi eside.
Ngokuhamba kweminyaka, njengoba iphepha lezilingo nezinhlupheko laliklwebha futhi lidla inhliziyo yami kabuhlungu, ngawubuyekeza umqondo wami wothando. Ngaqala ukubheka izindlela zobuchopho bami, ngizulazula phakathi kwezinkumbulo zakudala njenge-ragpicker efuna izinkwa ezimbalwa zokudla okunethezeka emgqonyeni wengqondo owawuqoqe ukuchema, ubandlululo, ukwesaba, nokungazethembi okungenangqondo okuhlobene nothando.
Ukudabula kwenhliziyo kwangiphoqa ukuthi ngiphinde ngivakashele izimpande zami. Ngangifunda e-US ngalezo zinsuku. Njengoba ngangihlala kwelinye izwe, lokhu kwasho ukukhumbula izingcezu zezingxoxo engangiba nazo nabadala bomkhaya wakithi. Njengoba ubudlelwano bami bezothando babusebuhleni, ngacabanga ngezindaba zothando ezihlelwe kahle zaseNdiya.
Indaba Yethu Yothando Oluhleliwe
Ima, cha, indaba yothando yenganekwane emndenini wami? Lowo mbuzo wagobhoza ezindongeni zobuchopho bami futhi nge-millisecond, wabangela uchungechunge lwezinkumbulo zasendulo ezinombala we-sepia. Kungaleso sikhathi lapho, nginqamula izihlabathi zesikhathi nendawo, ngakhumbula kahle indaba yokuqala yothando lwangempela eyenzeka ngokujeziswa engqondweni yami. Futhi, ngokumangalisayo, kwakuyindaba yothando ehleliwe yomshado.
Ngawuzwa umoya ofanayo noKhesari okumelwe ukuba wazizwa lapho ebona uthando lukhula phambi kwakhe njengoba igubu lasePheresiya lalivuleke enkantolo yakhe liveza uCleopatra owayengagqokile. Ngivumele izindaba zothando ngemuva komshado zizitshele njengoba izithombe zivuka ekhanda lami. Cishe ngangikhumbula ugogo engitshela ngesikhathi eqala ngqa ukuhlangana nomkhulu wami. Wayeneminyaka engu-15, yena 23. Wayemuhle futhi elungile.
Yena, enesikhumba esinsundu futhi engeyena neze ubuhle, wayesegajwe kakhulu uhambo lwesitimela okwakudingeka aluthathe nabafowabo ukuze bamhlangabeze, kusukela eNtshonalanga Bengal kuya e-Uttar Pradesh. Wayesezokwehla esitimeleni lapho yena, emi endaweni yesikhulumi, ebona ukuthi wayengafakile izicathulo, nakuba abafowabo babegqoke izicathulo.
Amcele ukuthi ame aphuthume esitolo esisesiteshini. Walinda, edidekile. Wabuya futhi wamphakamisa kahle izinyawo lapho eshibilika esicathulweni ngasinye. Umqondo wami wahlobanisa leso sigameko noCinderella kanye nePrince Charming yakhe. Ngandlela-thile, kwase kuphenduke enye yezindaba zomshado ezihlelwe zothando kakhulu engake ngazizwa.
Nakuba abasemzini wakhe babegxeka ukukhetha umakoti omnyama, wabayala ngokuthanda kwabo isikhumba esikhanyayo.
Kusukela lapho, abesilisa bomndeni wakithi bebelokhu bekhetha omakoti basedusky, isibonelo esabekwa umkhulu wami owayelungile, ngokwezwi nezwi nangokomfanekiso. Uma lena kungeyona enye yalezo zothando lwenganekwane ngemva kwezindaba zomshado ezihleliwe, angazi ukuthi kuyini.
Wake wamtshela ukuthi uyamthanda izindebe zakhe ezinde ngendlela emangalisayo eziguqa ngamadolo lapho emile edangele futhi engafakile nazicathulo emnyango wesitimela. U-Rapunzel ugogo kanye ne-Knight yakhe begqoke izikhali ezicwebezelayo. Leso sigameko sesitimela phakathi kwabo siphinde sangikhumbuza uRaj noSimran baseDDLJ.
Esikhundleni sokumnquma amaphiko ngemva komshado, wamkhuthaza ukuba aqedele imfundo yakhe. Ngenkathi umndeni wakhe udlula ekujuleni kwengcebo kuya kumanikiniki, wema eduze kwakhe njengo-Rhett Butler wama ngaku-Scarlett O'Hara. Washona eneminyaka engu-50, emshiya engumfelokazi eneminyaka engu-42 kodwa base bephila impilo egcwele, behlanganisa uchungechunge lwezindaba zothando lwaphakade. Kwakungezinye zalezo zindaba zothando zomshado ezashiya ngemuva ifa lowesifazane onamandla, ofundile owayenakekelwa futhi walungiselwa ukunakekela izingane eziyisikhombisa eyedwa.
Imibuzo Evame Ukubuzwa
Akusho lutho ukuthi umshado ohleliwe noma wothando. Uma nje abalingani besekelana futhi bethandana futhi belondoloza ukukhulumisana okunempilo, bayojabulela phakade umshado ojabulisayo nowanelisayo.
Kuya ngokuthi uwuphatha kanjani umshado wakho. Umshado ohleliwe ungaba yimpumelelo njengomshado wothando futhi okuphambene nalokho inqobo nje uma nobabili nisekelana futhi nithembekile ngezinto enizifunayo nezidingo zenu.
Ngokobuchwepheshe, yebo. Imishado yamaNdiya, ehlelwa ngokuyinhloko, inezinga lesehlukaniso eliphansi. Kodwa nakuba kunezindaba eziningi zothando ezihleliwe zomshado, iphesenti elikhulu labantu eNdiya alihlukanisi ngenxa yengcindezi yomphakathi kanye nokuma okusolisayo komkabo ngokwezimali. Okwenza umshado uphumelele uthando, ukwesekwa, nokwethembeka, futhi, inqobo nje uma unalokho, akudingeki ukhathazeke ngezibalo, umshado ohleliwe noma cha.
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