"Angishadile? Cha, ngisebudlelwaneni nenkululeko!" Ngifunde le liner eyodwa ehlakaniphile esitolo esithengisa izingcaphuno ze-decor futhi ngehluleka ukuzibamba kodwa ngijatshuliswa ukugebha okungeyona okucashile kokulahlekelwa yinkululeko ebudlelwaneni. Nakuba abangashadile bevame ukubhekana nemibuzo ephoxayo evela emphakathini mayelana (nokuntuleka) kwezimpilo zabo zothando, abangani babo abashade kakhulu nabantu ababajwayele bangazwakala bekhononda ngokuzizwa benemingcele ebuhlotsheni noma emshadweni.
Kufana nokuthi ukushada noma ukuzibophezela kufana nokunikeza omunye umuntu injabulo yakho yokuphila. Umuntu othanda inkululeko, othanda izinto ngokungazelelwe ongazimisele ukuboshwa ngenxa yokwesaba ukuzizwa evinjelwe ebudlelwaneni usecishe abe yinto evamile (cabanga ngabesifazane abathandekayo be- Sex and the City and the Bold Type , uBridget Jones , nabanye abanjalo).
Ngokufanayo, isithombe semibhangqwana eshadile engajabulile, exabanayo efisa ukuthola inkululeko ebuhlotsheni nayo iye yazuza okuningi kule minyaka embalwa edlule. Kodwa ziyiqiniso kangakanani lezi zithombe nokuqagela? Ingabe ukushada njalo kusho ukudela ukuzimela kwakho nenjabulo yakho? Ake sibheke ukuthi inkululeko ebudlelwaneni ibukeka kanjani, isho ukuthini, nokuthi ayibukeki kanjani.
Iyini Inkululeko Ebudlelwaneni?
Okuqukethwe
Ingabe ubuhlobo obujabulisayo buhlala buhlanganisa ukuyekethisa nokulungiswa okungadingekile? Ingabe kufanele ulahle izidingo zakho nezifiso zakho e-altare lomlingani wakho? Ingabe umuntu ongashadile ukhululekile futhi ukhululekile ngempela? Ungakwazi yini ukuthola inkululeko ebudlelwaneni ngendlela ezofeza zonke izidingo zakho ngaphandle kokukwenza uzizwe ucindezelwe?
Impendulo yale mibuzo, njengazo zonke izindaba zokuphila, ilele ndawana thize phakathi. Akungabazeki ukuthi ukwamukela umlingani wakho wokuphila kuzodinga izibopho ezithile okudingeka uvumelane nazo futhi wamukele. Nokho, umbuzo useminceleni oyidwebayo ukuze uchaze inkululeko ebuhlotsheni. Le mingcele ingase yehluke kumuntu nomuntu, yingakho kubalulekile ukuchaza ukuthi kunjani ukuzizwa ukhululekile ebuhlotsheni nokuthi buhlanganisani.
“Inkululeko ebudlelwaneni imayelana nokuthola injabulo,” kusho uNisha Menon , oneminyaka engu-46, onguchwepheshe wezezimali. “Uma ngijabule ngokuba sebudlelwaneni njengoba ngingashadile, kusho ukuthi nginenkululeko ebudlelwaneni. Angifuni noma yiziphi izifiso zami zibekwe engcupheni, futhi uma kudingeka ngibeke engcupheni, kufanele kube ngaphandle kokuzikhethela, hhayi ukuphoqwa.
“Ngeshwa, kunengcindezi enkulu emphakathini namasiko yokuthi ushade noma okungenani ube nomuntu othandana naye empilweni kangangokuthi akekho okuqondayo ukubaluleka kwenkululeko ebudlelwaneni,” eqinisekisa. Ukukhululeka nokuzibophezela akuyona imiqondo emibili ehlukene.
Abantu abaningi abangashadile bahlushwa ukwesaba ukuzibophezela , okubangela ukuba basuke ebuhlotsheni obuthile baye kobunye ngoba besaba ukuboshwa. Ukwesaba okukhulu: ukuvinjelwa ebudlelwaneni okubenza bangakhululeki noma okubaphuca amalungelo abo aphelele. UMariya Shabbir , umphathi, uhlale engashadile ngenxa yalokhu kwesaba.
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"Njengowesifazane ozimele ophila impilo yokunganaki, ngiyakwesaba ukucabanga ngokunikela amahora osuku lwami kumuntu oyedwa. Ngiyakubona ukubaluleka kokuthola inkululeko ebudlelwaneni ngoba ngibona abangani bami abashadile bedonsa kanzima ukuze bathole ukulingana, kufanele bahlale bebeka izithakazelo zabo emva kwezemindeni yabo. Kungani ngiphila impilo enjalo? Akungcono yini ukungashadi futhi uthandane nomuntu ngokunganaki kunokuba uzizwe ukhululekile futhi ucindezelekile (ngenxa yosizi) lusizi?” uyabuza.
Kodwa-ke, le nkulumo ayibambeki uma uqonda incazelo yangempela yokukhululeka ebudlelwaneni. Empeleni, uthando kufanele lukwenze uzizwe ukhululekile. Ukukhululeka ebudlelwaneni kumayelana nokuba nguwe weqiniso futhi ungafaki noma yiziphi izifihla-buso.
Ngenkathi kusezigabeni zokuqala zokuqomisana, kuhlala kune-facade encane (uzama ukujabulisa omunye nomunye, phela). Lapho uzizwa ukhululeke kakhudlwana nozakwenu, kulapho uchitha khona lezo zingqimba zangaphandle futhi usondela eduze komuntu wakho wangempela. Umlingani okusekelayo futhi oveza okuhle kakhulu kuwe uyazi ngokucacile ukuthi anganikeza kanjani inkululeko ebuhlotsheni nomuntu othandekayo. Yingakho kubalulekile ukukhetha umuntu okwazisa ukukhululeka ebudlelwaneni naye.
Ekugcineni, ubudlelwano obuhle abukubophi. Akwenzi uzizwe sengathi amalungelo akho nezinto ozifunayo ziyancishiswa, futhi akukwenzi ucabange ukuthi uphoqelekile ukuchitha amahora amaningi osuku lwakho nomuntu. Uma usuzithola usebudlelwaneni obuzifunela wena ngempela, uzithola ujabulela amahora owachitha nomlingani wakho. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuzizwa ukhululekile ebudlelwaneni kuhlobene kakhulu nombono wenkululeko.
Sesikushilo lokho, ake sibheke ukuthi isho ukuthini inkululeko ebudlelwaneni ukuze abathandanayo bangagcini benesithombe esiphundukile sokuthi ibukeka kanjani. Uma usuqonda ukuthi ukulahlekelwa inkululeko ebuhlotsheni kubukeka kanjani ngempela, ungase ubone ukuthi unokuningi ongakubonga ngakho.
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Uthando luwumuzwa omuhle futhi oyinkimbinkimbi, kodwa iphuzu elibalulekile yileli: Awusoze wacabanga ngokuthola inkululeko ebudlelwaneni uma uzicabangela wena wedwa ezindabeni zenhliziyo. Kudingeka abantu ababili ukuze bathandane futhi isivumelwano esingenaso isisekelo lapho omunye wabalingani kufanele ahlale evuma ukuze baqhubeke nobudlelwano asikwazi ukubhekwa njengobudlelwano obufanele. Ubudlelwano obunempilo abukwazi ukugxilisa izimpande phakathi komzabalazo wamandla oqhubekayo ebudlelwaneni.
Ngakho-ke kufanele siwulondoloze kanjani umuzwa onempilo wenkululeko? Mhlawumbe indlela engcono kakhulu yokuqonda ukuthi ngabe unenkululeko ngempela yini ebudlelwaneni iwukuba udlule kulolu hlu lokuhlola kanye negeji uma lusebenza kuwe nakuhhafu wakho ongcono:
1. Umuzwa wokupha nokuthatha
Njengoba kushiwo ngenhla, umthetho wokuqala wokuthola inkululeko ebudlelwaneni ukuzimisela ukuphatha umlingani wakho njengomuntu olinganayo ngazo zonke izindlela. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kunezindaba eziphathelene nezezimali, umndeni, noma umsebenzi, yini okufanele ihansi kufanele ilungele i-gander kanye. Ukuthola inkululeko ebudlelwaneni kuba yinselele ngokuya lapho lapho umlingani oyedwa kuphela enezwi lakhe ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Isibonelo, uma uthanda ukuchitha isikhathi nabangane bakho njalo, ungafihli uma umlingani wakho efuna ukwenza okufanayo nabangane bakhe. Okubaluleke nakakhulu, kufanele kube nokuqwashisa mayelana nalokho enikuletha nobabili etafuleni. Inkululeko emshadweni ingachuma kuphela uma bobabili abashadile bezimisele ukuphathana ngendlela abafuna ukuphathwa ngayo.
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2. Ukwamukelwa kungasungula inkululeko engokomzwelo ebudlelwaneni
UMariya uthi obunye ubudlelwano bakhe abuzange buphumelele ngoba wayethandana nomuntu othanda ukuhlala yedwa futhi isoka lakhe ngaleso sikhathi lalingakwazi ukubhekana nobuntu bakhe bokuthanda ukukhuluma kakhulu. “Ngiyakuthanda ukuphuma, ukuhamba, kanye nokuzijabulisa. Umqondo wakhe wesikhathi esimnandi kwakuwukuhlala ekhaya abukele i-TV.”
“Ngemuva kwesikhashana saqala ukuxabana kwabe sekufike kimina: ubengazimisele ukungamukela njengoba ngiyikho.” Ngamanye amazwi, inkululeko noma ukuzizwa ukhululekile ebudlelwaneni kusho ukuqonda nokwamukela izici zobuntu zomlingani wakho, ikakhulukazi uma lezo zimpawu zichaza umongo walowo muntu.
Uma umlingani wakho ehlala enenkinga ngendlela obhekana ngayo nezimo ezithile, futhi engakuthandi ukusabela kwakho, kuzokuvimba ekulandeleni umzwelo wakho. Njengomphumela walokho, uzothola ukulahlekelwa okukhulu kwenkululeko ebudlelwaneni, okungase kuvele kukhale izinsimbi ze-alamu.
3. Ukuveza imizwa yakho ngokukhululekile
“Angikwazi ukucabanga ngokukhululeka ebudlelwaneni lapho ngingakwazi ukuveza imizwa yami,” kusho uHarshita Dakoju , umphathi wezokusebenza. “Nginengqondo ngokwanele ukulindela ukuthi kuzoba nokwehluka kwemibono uma ngiphila impilo nothile, kodwa futhi kudingeka kube nenkululeko yokuzwakala.”
Yingakho abeluleki begcizelela ukubaluleka kokunqoba izinkinga zokuxhumana ebudlelwaneni . Uma ungakwazi ukunikeza umbono wakho ngaphandle kokugwetshwa (noma ngabe uphambene nalokho okulindelwe umlingani wakho), unenkululeko ebudlelwaneni bakho. Lokho abantu abaningi abakuqapheli ukuthi inkululeko engokomzwelo ebudlelwaneni isho ukukwazi ukuzethula ngeqiniso nangokugcwele kumlingani wakho.
Cabanga ngalokhu, uma bekufanele uhlale ucabanga kabusha ngendlela owenza ngayo phambi komuntu wakho obalulekile, bekungeke yini lokho kwephule inkululeko yakho ebudlelwaneni?
4. Ukuba nendawo
Manje, “isikhala” ebudlelwaneni ngumqondo ophikisanayo kubantu abaningi. Kodwa inkululeko yokuba nesikhala ingenye yenkululeko ebaluleke kakhulu ebudlelwaneni. Kunomugqa omncane phakathi kokuba nesikhala nokuxosha umlingani wakho ngezidingo zakho, kodwa leyo indaba ehlukile.
Empeleni, kusho ukuthi unelungelo lokucela isikhala kumlingani wakho. “Ngaphezu kwendawo ebonakalayo, indawo engokomzwelo ebalulekile,” kusho uNisha. “Angifuni leso sikhala singenelwe nawumuntu engimthanda kakhulu, ngifuna ukuba nomuntu ongenza ngizizwe ngikhululekile ebudlelwaneni naye.”
Ekupheleni kosuku, isikhala nenkululeko ebudlelwaneni kuyahambisana. Uma ukwazi ukwenza izinhlelo zakho nabangani ngaphandle kokucabanga, “Ingabe kufanele ngibuze umlingani wami ngaphambi kokuthi ngizenzele lesi sinqumo?”, unokuthile okwaziwa ngokuthi yinkululeko ebudlelwaneni. Ungumuntu wakho, futhi ukuthi uqomile akusho ukuthi awukwazi ukuzinqumela ukuthi ufuna ukusichitha kanjani isikhathi sakho.
Yiqiniso, kukhona okuphambene kulokhu. Ngaphansi kokucasha “kwesikhala,” awukwazi ukugwema ngokusobala umlingani wakho izinsuku zilandelana. Uma kukhulunywa ngesikhala nenkululeko ebudlelwaneni, kufanele kushaywe ukulingana okufanele.
5. Ukwazi ukuba nombono kubonisa inkululeko yomuntu siqu ebudlelwaneni
Lokhu kuhlobene eduze nephuzu lesithathu. Ubudlelwano obulinganayo yilapho bobabili abalingani benemibono eqinile ngezihloko ezahlukahlukene kanye nenkululeko yokuyiveza. Lokhu akusho ukuthi kudingeka nivumelane kukho konke.
Ngokuphambene nalokho, kusho ukuba nesikhala esinempilo sokuphikisa. Okuningi kuncike ekutheni imibono yakho inomthelela kanjani ebudlelwaneni kodwa iqiniso nje lokuthi unomqondo osebenzayo, ozimele owakho, ongancishisiwe, ukhombisa inkululeko ebudlelwaneni.
6. Ukuphatha okulindelekile ngendlela engokoqobo
Masicacise, AKUKHO buhlobo ngaphandle kokulindela. Kungokwemvelo ukuba nokulindela okungokoqobo ebudlelwaneni futhi uma kungafezeki, kuyinto evamile ukudumazeka.
Ukuthi usabela kanjani lapho umlingani wakho eziphatha ngokuphambene nalokho okulindele kuncike kuwe, kodwa kufanele ube nenkululeko yokubamba umlingani wakho kanye nobudlelwane bonke kumazinga athile. Kungcono ukusho lokhu ngokucacile kusenesikhathi, ukuze umlingani wakho angakusoli ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ngokungaqapheli ukubaluleka kwenkululeko ebudlelwaneni.
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7. Ukunikeza inkululeko kumlingani wakho
UZ. Sajita , uchwepheshe wezezimali, waqeda ubudlelwano bakhe lapho ezwa ukuthi inkululeko ayeyinika isoka lakhe leminyaka eyisikhombisa ayibuyiselwa. “Ngangingakaze ngizibuze izinqumo zakhe noma imisebenzi yakhe kuyilapho ngangilindeleke ukuthi nginikeze izimpendulo kwezami,” ekhumbula.
“Kwaba kamuva lapho ngabona khona ukuthi ngangiphazamisekile ngokomzwelo futhi nganquma ukukuyeka nakuba sasingenazo ezinye izinkinga,” uyenezela. Udinga ukunikeza inkululeko ukuze uyilindele ngokubuyisela. Ukufunda ukunikeza inkululeko ebudlelwaneni kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokwakha isisekelo esiqinile.
8. Ukuba nguwe
Nakuba ukwamukela ukuthi umshado noma ubudlelwano obuzibophezele ngokuzenzakalelayo buletha izinguquko endleleni yakho yokuphila nezinhlelo zesikhathi esizayo, okungaxoxiswana ngakho ubungcwele bomuntu wakho wangaphakathi. Umlingani wakho usekuthanda - okuhle nokubi.
Ukwamukela amaphutha akho kubalulekile njengokuncoma amandla akho. Uma ungakwazi ukuba nguwe futhi uhlale uzithola wenza izinto eziphambene nalokho oyikho njengomuntu, kuholela ekucindezelekeni nasekucasukeni. Ikusasa lobudlelwano obunjalo kulula ukuliqagela - kuzoba yilapho omunye wabalingani ezizwa ecindezelekile esikhundleni sokukhululeka ebuhlotsheni.
9. Ukuzimela kwezezimali
Uma kukhulunywa ngenkululeko ebudlelwaneni, izikhathi eziningi siyifanisa nezinto ezingabonakali njengemicabango, imizwa, izifiso, njalo njalo. Kodwa inkululeko yezezimali ibaluleke kakhulu ukuze uzizwe unokuthula futhi ukhululekile ebudlelwaneni.
Emasikweni esintu, abesifazane abavamile ukuba nezwi uma kuziwa ekuphatheni imali ekhaya. Kodwa-ke, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi inkululeko yokuphatha izimali ngendlela ofisa ngayo futhi ube nokusebenzelana kwakho kwezezimali ngaphandle komlingani wakho kuyizici ezibalulekile zenkululeko ebudlelwaneni.
10. Inkululeko yokuphuma
Mhlawumbe lena inkululeko ebaluleke kakhulu. Wena nomlingani wakho kufanele nizikhethele ukuphuma niqede ubudlelwano noma umshado uma kungasebenzi. Yebo, akusoze kwaba lula futhi ukuhlukana kuza nezinselelo zakho.
Nokho, akukho okungaba kubi njengokuzizwa uvaleleke ebuhlotsheni obungajabulisi, obungenanjongo. Isibopho phakathi kwabantu ababili akufanele sibe phakade, ngisho noma ufuna sibe njalo. Impilo inendlela yayo yokuqeda amathemba akho kodwa akusho ukuthi udinga ukuhlupheka ngenxa yayo.
Ubudlelwano, lapho uzizwa ungakwazi ukuphuma, ngokuvamile bungahlukumeza, njengoba uphoqelelwa ngokumelene nentando yakho ukuthi uhlale kubo. Njengamanje, cishe usubonile ukubaluleka kwenkululeko ebudlelwaneni nokuthi isho kanjani impilo yesibopho sakho.
Manje njengoba usuyazi ukuthi inkululeko ebudlelwaneni ibukeka kanjani, cishe ungahlulela eyakho kahle. Ungase ufunde ukuthi unokuningi ongakubonga ngakho, noma ukuthi wena nomlingani wakho kudingeka nisebenzele ezintweni ezimbalwa. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuyini, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ukungabi nenkululeko ebudlelwaneni empeleni kuqinisekisa umshado ongajabulisi . Ngaleso sizathu, ake sibheke ukuthi inkululeko ebudlelwaneni benu ayibonakali kanjani.
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Ngeshwa elithi “inkululeko” yigama elisetshenziswa ngokunganaki. Sivamise ukuthola izindlela ezingasho lutho zokubalekela umthwalo wemfanelo bese sikubeka emkhankasweni wethu wenkululeko. Wonke umuntu uphupha ngokuba nobudlelwano obuhle, obujabulisayo futhi, obunempilo nomuntu wamaphupho akhe kodwa kudinga ukuqonda okukhulu nokholo ukuze kube yimpumelelo.
Ukuba khona “kwenkululeko” emshadweni wakho akukuniki ilungelo lokwenza noma yini oyifunayo. Uma izenzo zakho zilimaze umlingani wakho, ukuzivikela ngokumane uthi ukhululekile ukwenza izinqumo zakho kuyisenzo esibi sobugovu. Njengoba sesishilo, ubudlelwano ngabunye buhambisana nokulindelekile, futhi ukungabunaki ngokuphelele kusho ukuntuleka kwenhlonipho.
Uma kuziwa enkululekweni yomuntu siqu ebudlelwaneni, kufanele kube nebhalansi efanele phakathi kokugcina izindinganiso zesibopho sakho kanye nokuzizwa ukhululekile kule nqubo. Lokho kulinganisela okuthambile kutholakala kuphela ngokuba nezingxoxo ezithinta isihloko. Okwamanje, nalu uhlu lwezakhi ezivame ukudidaniswa nenkululeko, indawo, ukwamukelwa, nokunye (yebo, konke esikushilo kwakudingekile ebuhlotsheni obunempilo) kodwa ngokuphumelelayo kusho okuphambene nenkululeko:
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1. Ukuncika ngokweqile ngokomzwelo
Kunomugqa omncane phakathi kokuncika ngokomzwelo kothile kanye nokunikeza ukulawula okuphelele kokukhetha kuye. “Kobunye ubudlelwano bami bengingazi nokuthi isithandwa sami singilawula kangakanani,” kusho uNisha. “Kwangifikela ngesikhathi ngiphumile kukho. Ngesikhathi nginaye, ngangizizwa nginomunyu.”
Kuhle ukuba sebudlelwaneni nomuntu otholakala ngokomzwelo kuwe kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi uphendukela kuye kuzo zonke izinqumo noma izinqumo. Ukuthambekela kokunamathela kumlingani wakho kukuphanga ilungelo lakho lokuzikhethela. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umlingani wakho angase azizwe ethwele kanzima ngokomzwelo okuyinto engeyona neze uphawu olunempilo. Akekho kini ozothola inkululeko ebudlelwaneni uma kunokuthembela okukhulu ngokomzwelo kumuntu oyedwa. Ezimweni ezinjalo, okwakho kungase kubonakale njengobudlelwano obuxhomeke komunye nomunye , lapho kungavamile ukuzizwa sengathi nobabili niyalingana khona.
2. Ukukopela ebudlelwaneni
Uma usuzibophezele kumuntu, kuba khona okungaxoxiswana ngako, okunye kwakho ukwethembeka. Ngaphandle uma umbhangqwana usebudlelwaneni obuvulelekile - okuwukukhetha okwenziwa yibo bobabili abalingani ukuba bangakhethi ngokocansi komunye nomunye - ukwethembeka ocansini kulindeleke.
Ukukhululeka ebudlelwaneni bakho akukuniki imvume yokuhlola abanye abantu noma ukulimaza umlingani wakho okungenzeka ukuthi unokulindela okuhlukile. Ubudlelwano bufika nemingcele nemigqa ethile, futhi inkululeko ayisho ukuthi ungaweqa budedengu. Ukungathembeki ngomunye umugqa okungafanele wephulwe.
Nakuba ukubaluleka kwenkululeko ebudlelwaneni kungenakushaywa indiva, akukuniki inkululeko yokulimaza umlingani wakho. Ukumisa imingcele ecacile nokwazisana ngalokho okulindelekile kungasiza ekuqinisekiseni ukuthi isimo esinjalo asenzeki.
3. Ukungahloniphi
Ukuziveza ngokukhululeka kuwuphawu lwenkululeko ebudlelwaneni kodwa akusho ukuthi umuntu unelungelo lokukhuluma kabi noma ukuphikisana. Nalapha futhi, yingakho ukuxhumana okunempilo kubalulekile. Uma umlingani wakho ekutshela ukuthi ngeke amukele ithoni yakho yokungahloniphi, akusho ukuthi awunayo inkululeko ebudlelwaneni, kusho ukuthi uzama ukuba sendaweni yokuhloniphana.
Ukufunda ukungavumelani ngenhlonipho, ukungavumelani nomuzwa wokuba nomthwalo wemfanelo, nokuveza imizwa yakho ngaphandle kokudelela konke kuyizimpawu zobuntu obunempilo. Futhi umuntu onempilo unobudlelwano obunempilo.
4. Ukuthatha umlingani wakho kalula
Ubudlelwano bungathuthukiswa kuphela uma ubunaka futhi wenza imizamo yokuqinisekisa ukuthi kukhona ukulingana, inhlonipho nothando. Inkululeko ebudlelwaneni isho ukuthi sinamandla okuzikhethela. Kodwa lawo mandla akufanele asetshenziswe kabi.
Njengabantu abadala abanomthwalo wemfanelo, kumelwe nicabangele nemiphumela yokwenza zonke izinqumo zenu. Ungamthathi kalula umlingani wakho noma wehluleke ukucabangela izidingo zakhe ngenkathi wena uzenzela izinqumo zakho. Lokho akuyona inkululeko, lokho kungabhekwa njengobugovu.
Ukuba sothandweni nokuthandwa njengembuyiselo kuyiphupho kubantu abaningi. Kodwa ubudlelwano obuzibophezele bumayelana nomthwalo wemfanelo njengoba bumayelana nenkululeko. Wonke umuntu ufisa inkululeko futhi incazelo yokuzizwa ekhululekile ebudlelwaneni iyahlukahluka kumuntu nomuntu. Kodwa indlela oxoxisana ngayo ngenkululeko oyitholayo, kuyilapho ucabangela imizwa nemizwa yomuntu owabelana naye ngempilo yakho, iyona eyenza umehluko phakathi kobudlelwano obuphumelelayo nobungaphumeleli.
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