Kungani Umshado Unzima Kangaka? Izizathu Nezindlela Zokukwenza Kubaluleke

Kukhona isisho esidumile esithi: “Umshado ufana nendlu. Futhi kufanele. Kuyamangaza ukuthi nakulesi sikhathi sobudlelwano obumanzi, abantu basashada kanjani. Kodwa umshado ophumelelayo udinga umsebenzi omningi. Pho, kungani umshado unzima kangaka?

Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi amazinga emishado e-US ehlile eminyakeni edlule. Eqinisweni, amazinga emishado abone ukwehla okukhulu ngo-50% kusukela ngo-1972. Kodwa kungani abanye abantu besakhetha ukuhamba ngezinyawo benze izithembiso zokuphila konke kulowo muntu oyedwa okhethekile, naphezu kobunzima? Ingabe umshado unzima kuwo wonke umuntu? Mhlawumbe umshado unzima kodwa uyakufanelekela. Kodwa ngayiphi indlela? Umuntu angadlula kanjani ezikhathini ezinzima futhi ahlale ndawonye?

Qhubeka ufunda, njengoba sithola izinselele zemishado futhi sithola izixazululo ngosizo lomeluleki uRuchi Ruuh (iDiploma ye-Postgraduate in Counseling Psychology), ogxile ekwelulekeni ngezinkinga ezihlobene nokuthandana, ukungathembeki, izingxabano zomshado, kanye nesehlukaniso.

Yimiphi Iminyaka Enzima Kakhulu Yomshado?

Sonke singavuma ukuthi imishado idinga umsebenzi omningi wansuku zonke. Kodwa kungani umshado unzima kangaka? Futhi yimuphi unyaka womshado onzima kakhulu? Kukholelwa kakhulu ukuthi imishado ivame ukuwohloka ngonyaka wesi-7. Futhi lokhu kuye kwafakazelwa ngokwezibalo, njengoba uzobona kamuva kulesi sigaba. Kodwa-ke, esinye isikole sabacwaningi sikholelwa ukuthi imishado ibhekene nobunzima bayo onyakeni we-10.

Ucwaningo olusha , nokho, lubonisa ukuthi kanye nokukhathazeka kweminyaka engu-7, kubonakala sengathi kukhona ukuthambekela kokuwa kwemishado ngonyaka wesine ^. Kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi imishado ayinazo izinkinga ekuqaleni. Kungani unyaka wokuqala womshado unzima kakhulu? Sizothola kulesi sigaba. Ake sibheke izibonelo ezimbalwa zemishado eba buhlungu ngezikhathi ezahlukene.

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Unyaka Woku-1

Unyaka wokuqala wanoma yimuphi umshado, obizwa ngokufanelekile ngokuthi 'isigaba se-honeymoon' kanye nesigaba sothando lwezothando, ungaba nzima kakhulu kwabaningi. Kwezinye izimo, kungase kube unyaka onzima kakhulu womshado. U-Ruchi uthi, “Kuwo kanye unyaka wokuqala, abantu benza izinguquko eziningi, futhi lokho ngokwakho kungaba nzima.” Ngakho-ke, kungani unyaka wokuqala womshado unzima kakhulu? Nokho, nazi izinto ezimbalwa ezenza ukuqala komshado kube nzima:

• Enye yezinkinga ezigqame kakhulu zabasanda kushada ukuthi cishe kuyinto yokuqala yombhangqwana nokuhlala ndawonye nokubhekana nezinselele zansuku zonke.
• Bangase bafunde ukuxhumana nokufunda izilimi zothando zomunye nomunye
• Bangase bazame ukuqonda omunye nomunye umthwalo wemizwa (njengokuhlukumezeka okwedlule okuvela ebudlelwaneni)
• Ukuphatha umuzi noma ukwenza izinqumo zebhajethi ndawonye kungase kungabi lula, njengoba ngamunye angase abe nezidingo ezihlukile (Kokukodwa, ubulungu bejimu bungase bubaluleke, kuyilapho omunye angase afise ukutshala imali efanayo ohambweni)
• Enye yezinkinga ezisanda kushada ukuthi umbhangqwana uzulazula kulokho okulindelwe futhi uzivumelanisa nezindima ezintsha (ezokuba ngumhlinzeki noma umnakekeli)

Unyaka wesi-7

Lokhu kukhathazeka kweminyaka engu-7 kungase kungabi yinganekwane phela, futhi kunokuningi kukho kunehlaya likaMarilyn Monroe elidala elinegama elifanayo. Isazi se-anthropology saseRutgers University uHelen Fisher senze ucwaningo futhi sathola ukuthi imishado inesikhathi esimaphakathi somhlaba wonke seminyaka engu-7. Kodwa futhi waphawula ukuthi iphesenti eliphezulu labantu liyahlukana cishe ngonyaka ^wesine.

URuchi uthi, “Ngeminyaka engu-7, imishado eminingi iyawa ngenxa yezinkinga eziningi. Ngaleso sikhathi, abantu kungenzeka ukuthi sebenabantwana futhi impilo kungenzeka ukuthi isibe nzima kakhulu. Amazinga okucindezeleka aphakeme kakhulu, hhayi nje ngenxa yezingane, kodwa futhi nangenxa yezinkinga eziphakathi nomsebenzi. Imibhangqwana ingase ingakwazi ukuchitha isikhathi ndawonye.”

Nakhu ongakulindela emshadweni weminyaka engu-7:

• Kunokwehla ukusondelana ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo
• Nihlale nixabana noma nigxeka
• Kukhona ukungathembeki noma nichitha isikhathi nihlukene
• Nithathana kancane
• Uzizwa ungaziswa
• Kukhona ukuntula ukwethembana
• Niyaqala ukugcina izimfihlo komunye nomunye

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Unyaka wesi-10

Ngokusho kocwaningo lweBrigham Young University olwenziwe kwabesifazane abangu-2,000 abangajwayelekile iminyaka engu-35, unyaka onzima kakhulu womshado ungowonyaka we-10 ^. Futhi lokhu kungenzeka ukuthi, ngonyaka ^we- 10 , abashadile bavame ukunqoba isifiso sokujabulisana nokufaka zonke izinkinga zabo ngaphansi kwekhaphethi. Ngakho-ke, nakhu okungenzeka ngonyaka ^we- 10 :

• Imibhangqwana ingase ibe nomuzwa wokuthi ayikho indlela enengqondo yokuyisa umshado uye phambili
• Imibhangqwana ayikwazi ukuxhumana nomunye nomunye, futhi isithukuthezi siyaqala emshadweni
• Umuzwa wokulahlekelwa uyangena futhi imibhangqwana ingase idlule enkingeni ephakathi nendawo futhi ibheke ukuqinisekiswa ngaphandle komshado
• Abantu bayakhathala wumkhuba
• Izithandani ziyacikwa ngamaphutha ophathina bazo

Unyaka we-14 noma we-15

URuchi unomuzwa wokuthi: “Ngaphandle konyaka weshumi, imishado iphinde ibe muncu cishe ngonyaka we-14 noma 15 lapho izingane zikhula futhi ziqala ukuvukela.” Nakhu ongakulindela ngalesi sikhathi:

• Ubunzima bokubhekana nentsha ehlubukayo bungaphumela emshadweni
• Ukuhilizisana nezingxabano kungase kube yinto entsha evamile
• Izikhathi ezinzima zezingane zabo ezisencane zingakwazi bulala ezothando, futhi izifiso zobulili nezinye izifiso zingase zingafezeki

Iminyaka engu-18-20

Imishado iphinde ihlukane phakathi kweminyaka eyi-18-20. U-Ruchi unomuzwa wokuthi lesi yisikhathi esinzima kunazo zonke sokwenza izinto zisebenze, njengoba imibhangqwana cishe isisithathile isinqumo ngokushiya umshado okwamanje. Nakhu okwenzekayo ngalesi sikhathi:

• Imibhangqwana kungenzeka ukuthi isivele isilikhiphile isu lokuphuma futhi izilungiselele ngokwengqondo, ngokomzwelo nangokwezimali
• Ozakwethu okungenzeka ukuthi bebelindele ukuthi izingane zabo zizinze manje bayabona ukuthi bangawushiya kalula umshado njengoba sebefinyelele esigabeni 'esingenalutho'.
• Couples angisaluzwa uthando futhi bangahamba ngezindlela zabo ezihlukene futhi bangazizwa benecala ngakho

Kodwa umshado uba lula nini? Cishe akukaze kwenzeke, kodwa okumele umuntu akwenze ukubhekana ngqo nezinselelo. Futhi kungani umshado unzima kunokuqomisana? Ngoba awukwazi ukunqamula owakwakho kalula. Kuningi okusengcupheni.

Kungani Umshado Unzima Kangaka? Ezingu-11 Ezinselele Ezinkulu Ongase Ubhekane Nazo

URuchi uthi: “Imishado ingaba nzima, njengoba kudinga umsebenzi omkhulu ukuze uhlale ushadile futhi wamukele umuntu phakade, amaphutha nakho konke. Futhi, ukuhlala othandweni nomuntu oyedwa phakade kungaba nzima.

Kodwa kusho ukuthini ngempela 'umshado onzima'? Umsebenzisi we-Reddit uthi, "Mina ngokwami ​​ngicabanga ukuthi kungaphezu kokuthi "kufanele ubeke umzamo kuwo" kunokuba kube nzima ngempela. Kusobala ukuthi kuzoba nzima ngezinye izikhathi, kodwa usuku ngalunye luvamile kakhulu. Ngicabanga ukuthi ukufaniswa okuhle ukuthi indlela oyithandayo yokuzilibazisa/yokuzilibazisa ingaba yinto oyithandayo futhi oyijabulelayo ukuyenza, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo ibe yinto okufanele ubeke umzamo omkhulu namandla kuyo, futhi into engaba nzima ngezinye izikhathi." Ngakho-ke, ekugcineni kuncike emsebenzini umuntu okufanele awenze ukuze anqobe ubunzima emshadweni, futhi lokhu kusebenza emishadweni yaso sonke isikhathi.

Ngakho-ke, ingabe ukuhlala ushadile kunzima kangako? Ingabe kukhona okunye okukuyo? Omunye umsebenzisi we-Reddit unesimo esihlukile. Uthi, “Ngicabanga ukuthi abantu abaningi bayadida ukufuna ukushada nomuntu abathandana naye kanye nokufuna ukushada naye. Abantu abaningi bacabanga ukuthi ukushada kuyinto esohlwini okufanele “bayihlole”. Baqede isikole samabanga aphansi, bathole imfundo yamabanga aphakeme, bathole umsebenzi ohambisana nemfundo yamabanga aphakeme, bashade, bese beqala umndeni. Lowo ngumbono wami siqu wokuthi kungani amazinga esehlukaniso ephezulu kangaka - abantu abaningi abashadi nomuntu ofanele bona.” Futhi siyavumelana naye ngezinga elithile. Imishado, kungaba ngenxa yokuphoqeleka noma ngenxa yothando, ingaba nzima ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, futhi sizobheka izizathu ezimbalwa zokuthi kungani:

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1. Akukho ukuxhumana okuphumelelayo

Ukuntuleka kokukhulumisana kungesinye sezizathu ezenza imishado ihlupheke. URuchi uthi, “Ukungakwazi ukuveza izidingo nezinto ezikukhathazayo emshadweni kungase kubangele ukungezwani nemifantu.” Ngakho-ke, ukuvulela umlingani wakho kubaluleke kakhulu.

2. Okulindelwe okuhlukile

Impilo yomshado inzima ngoba abekho abantu ababili abafanayo. Bangaxabana ngenxa yokulindela ebudlelwaneni . URuchi ukholelwa ukuthi, “Kubalulekile ukwazisa omunye umuntu ukuthi ulindele ukuthi adlale yiphi indima. Imithwalo yemfanelo kanye nokuguquguquka kobudlelwano kufanele kukhulunywe ngokucacile.”

3. Ubunzima bezezimali

URuchi uthi, “Impilo yomshado iza nomthwalo wemfanelo ohlanganyelwe, futhi lokhu kudlulela nasezibophweni zezimali.” Imali iyinto enkulu edala izivumelwano (noma iphula izivumelwano) emshadweni, futhi iningi lezingxabano livela ngenxa yezinkinga zezimali . Nazi ezinye zezinkinga ezinjalo:

• Izinsiza ezinomkhawulo zidala ukungaboni ngaso linye mayelana nokuthi imali izochithwa ngani
• Isabelomali, uma kungavunyelwana ngazwi linye, sidala ukungezwani
• Ukonga isikhathi eside nakho kungase kube yisizathu sokungaboni ngaso linye, njengoba omunye umngane womshado engase afise ukuthuthukisa izinga lokuphila, kuyilapho omunye engase abe nencane imali.

4. Izinguquko

Izinguquko eziningi zingenzeka emshadweni, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Ake sibheke isibonelo esisodwa. Umngane wami, uLucy, wayengumenzi wekhaya ezigabeni zokuqala zomshado wakhe. Nokho, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi akagcinanga ngokuthola iziqu zokuphatha ibhizinisi kodwa wagcina esejoyina inkampani esezingeni eliphezulu yamazwe ngamazwe, ehola ngokuphindwe kabili kunomyeni wakhe. Ama-Rifts aqala ukubonakala ngokushesha, futhi uLucy nomyeni wakhe bagcina behlukene. Ngakho-ke, sizobheka izinguquko ezimbalwa ezinjalo ezingenza umshado ube nzima:

• Izindlela zomsebenzi ngamunye
• Abazali nezinkinga zabo zempilo
• Ukugula noma ukukhubazeka

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5. Ukuntula ukuzivumelanisa nezimo

Ukuzivumelanisa nezimo kuyisihluthulelo somshado onempilo, futhi lapho lokho kushoda, umshado ungaba nzima. U-Ruchi uyavuma, “Umbhangqwana kudingeka usebenze ndawonye njengeqembu.

6. Ukuntula ukusondelana

Ukusondelana kungenye yezingxenye ezibalulekile zomshado, futhi lokhu kuhlanganisa kokubili ukusondelana ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba, okuhlanganisa ukusondelana ngokocansi. URuchi uthi, “Omunye wabalingani angazizwa enesizungu noma engaxhunyiwe emshadweni uma amazinga okusondelana kwabo bobabili abalingani engalingani.”

7. Obunye ubudlelwano

Ngezinye izikhathi, imishado ingaba nezinkinga lapho obunye ubuhlobo buthonya. URuchi uthi: “Ezimweni eziningi, imishado iyahlupheka ngenxa yethonya leqembu lesithathu.

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8. Ukucindezeleka emsebenzini

Inselele enkulu emshadweni ukulinganisela ukucindezeleka emsebenzini. URuchi uthi, “Sivame ukuthola ukuthi izinkinga ezihlobene nomsebenzi azivumeli imibhangqwana eminingi ukuba ichithe isikhathi esihle ndawonye .” Lokhu kungabangela ukucasuka, ukunganeliseki ngokocansi, ukungakwazi ukulala, kanye nezinkinga ezahlukene zengqondo.

9. Ukukhula komuntu siqu

Mhlawumbe sonke siyavuma ukuthi abantu bayashintsha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Lokhu kusebenza kumagugu abo, abakuthandayo, imikhuba yokudla, imikhuba yokuqina, kanye nezinto abazithandayo. Futhi lokhu kungaba inselele impela emshadweni. URuchi uthi, “Lapho sikhula njengabantu, ngezinye izikhathi singase sikhule ebuhlotsheni bethu futhi, kungase kube nzima ukulawula ukuphila kwakho konke nokuhambisana nomlingani wakho ngesikhathi esifanayo.”

10. Okulindelwe okungenangqondo

Njengoba kunethonya elikhulayo lezokuxhumana kanye nobudlelwano obuhle nobukhazikhazi esibubona kukho, abantu bangase bazizwe sengathi baphuthelwe ukuba 'umbhangqwana ophelele'. Lesi sizukulwane sinenkinga yokukholelwa ukuthi ubudlelwano obunempilo nobujabulisayo bukhona ngaphandle kokudla kwasebusuku okunethezekile kanye nokuhamba emhlabeni wonke. Noma ukuthi 'impilo enhle' eboniswa ezinkundleni zokuxhumana ingaba yinto engekho ngokoqobo.

U-Ruchi uyanezela, “Asikwazi ukuphila ezweni lama-rom-coms. Amafilimu abonisa ubuhlobo obunezithombe eziphelele, lapho imibhangqwana yenza ucansi olumnandi futhi ichitha izikhathi zothando cishe ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kodwa ubuhlobo bangempela bunezinselele zansuku zonke imibhangqwana okudingeka izinqobe ukuze ihlale izinikele.”

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11. Ukungabi nesikhathi

Enye yezinselele ezinkulu empilweni yomshado ukuthi imibhangqwana eminingi ivame ukuchitha isikhathi esincane ndawonye njengoba umshado uqhubeka. URuchi uthi, “Abantu bavame ukuthathana kalula . Kodwa kunoma yimuphi umshado ocebisa ngokomzwelo, ukuchitha isikhathi esihle kubaluleke kakhulu.” Manje njengoba usunohlu oluphelele lwezimpendulo zombuzo othi, “Kungani umshado unzima kangaka?”, sizohlola ngokujulile ezinye izindlela ezivivinywe futhi ezivivinyiwe zokuwenza usebenze, naphezu kwezinselele.

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Ngakho-ke, njengoba usunayo impendulo yombuzo othi, "Kungani umshado unzima kangaka?", Sicela uqaphele futhi ukuthi naphezu kwezinselele, kunezizathu eziningi zokwenza umshado usebenze. Ngamazwi alula, umshado unzima kodwa kuwufanele.

Futhi kungani umshado unzima kunokuthandana? Okubaluleke kakhulu, kungani abantu besakukhetha, uma kunjalo? URuchi uyachaza, “Umshado ukukunikeza umuzwa wokuzibophezela okujulile nokuzinza, imigomo yesikhathi eside , ukwesekwa ngokomzwelo, kanye nezinzuzo zezimali nezomthetho. Imishado iphinde inikeze izinzuzo zomshado njengokufinyelela kumshwalense wezempilo, ukulula kokufaka izicelo zemali mboleko, kanye nezinzuzo zokuhamba. Engeza emigomweni yakhe efanayo, njengokwakha ikusasa, ukuya emaholidini ndawonye, ​​​​ukunakekela izingane.”

Akugcini lapho, ukuphila komshado kunikeza umuzwa wenjongo futhi. Zikusiza ukuthi usebenzele ezinhlosweni zomuntu siqu futhi zikukhuthaze ukuthi weqe ukungezwani. Bakusiza ukuthi usebenzele ukuzilawula ngokomzwelo. Baphinde banikeze umuzwa wokuba yingxenye yomphakathi. Ngakho-ke, nanka amathiphu okuwenza asebenze:

1. Ningalokothi niyeke ukujola

Njengombhangqwana, akufanele niyeke ukuchitha isikhathi esihle nomunye nomunye. URuchi uthi, “Hlelani ukuqomisana, noma nihlale ekhaya nijabulele isikhathi esimnandi ndawonye. Kubalulekile ukuxhumana ngokujulile . Akudingeki kube yinto enhle, kodwa kungaba yinto elula njengokuthenga ukudla.”

2. Bonga

Kubalulekile ukuthi uyeke ukubona owakwakho ngalokho akwenzela kona bese uqala ukumbona njengalokhu ayiko. U-Ruchi uyanezela, “Bonga ngendlela ababonisa ngayo futhi ukwazisa ukubaluleka kwabo.”

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3. Ungavumi ukunqotshwa imizwa engemihle

Enye yezindlela ezingcono kakhulu zokwenza umshado uphumelele ukufunda ukubhekana nemizwa engemihle. Funda ukungathukutheli noma ukukhungatheka. U-Ruchi uthi, “Yima kancane, kodwa ungayeki lapho izinto zingahambi kahle. Ngezinye izikhathi, ukuvumelana phakathi kwabantu ababili othandweni kuyamangaza. Zama futhi ubone izinto ngombono womlingani wakho.”

4. Yakha ukwethembana

Kubalulekile ukwakha ukwethembana okukhulu ebudlelwaneni ukuze busebenze. URuchi uthi, “Ungazibandakanyi emisebenzini ebhubhisayo, njengokuqamba amanga, ukukopela, nezinkinga zezimali. Zama ukuxazulula izinto, uthathe umthwalo wemfanelo wezenzo zakho, futhi ulungise izimpi ezincane.

5. Ungayizibi imizwa

Wonke umuntu uyawenza amaphutha, futhi abantu ababili abasoze baba sekhasini elilodwa ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ngakho-ke, ukungezwani kungase kukhule. Ngokunjalo, imizwa izokhula uma ugcina ulimaza imizwa yomlingani wakho. URuchi uyasikisela, “Esikhundleni sokusabela ngokweqile noma ukufaka izinto ngaphansi kukakhaphethi, zama ukubhekana naleyo mizwa.

6. Gxila emigomweni ehlanganyelwe

Umuntu kufanele agxile njalo ezindinganisweni nasezinhlosweni ezifanayo . Kungaba imigomo yomndeni, ukukhula komuntu siqu, imigomo yomsebenzi, noma imigomo efanayo yesikhathi esizayo, lezi ziyisisekelo semishado.

7. Vumelana nezimo

Imibhangqwana kufanele ivumelane nezimo lapho kuziwa ekusebenzeni ezikhathini ezinzima. U-Ruchi uyanezela, "Kufanele nilungele ukubhekana nezinselele ndawonye. Khumbula, nikuyo ndawonye futhi nigxile esisekelweni esifanayo ukuze nikhule."

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8. Gcinani ukuhloniphana

Inhlonipho ingesinye isithako esiyinhloko ebuhlotsheni obunempilo nobujabulisayo. Futhi kubalulekile ukukhombisa inhlonipho yakho ngokuthi:

• Ubakhombisa ukuthi uyabazisa nsuku zonke
• Ukuphatha umlingani wakho njengomuntu oyedwa futhi wazise izithakazelo zabo
• Ukubanikeza indawo eyanele ebudlelwaneni
• Ukugwema ulimi olululazayo noma ukuziphatha

9. Hlakulela ukusondelana

Umshado ongenawo ukusondelana uyisiphetho sangempela. Futhi ngokusondelana, sisho zonke izinhlobo zokusondelana: ngokomzwelo, ngokobulili, nangokomoya. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuthi:

• Veza uthando lwakho njalo: Kungaba ukushukuma komzimba okulula, njengokubamba izandla noma ukugona
• Hlala uthintana njalo: Lokhu kubalulekile kubantu abasemishadweni eqhelelene, lapho imibhangqwana ihlala ngokuhlukana isikhathi eside ngenxa yemfundo noma izibopho zomndeni, futhi ukusondelana nomlingani kungenakwenzeka. Chitha isikhathi kumakholi wevidiyo, amakholi wefoni, nemibhalo, futhi ungakhohlwa ama-sweet nothing njalo ekuseni
• Faka izinongo embhedeni: Ukwenza uthando olunentshiseko akunazo ezinye izindlela. Zama ukwenza izinto ze-jazz embhedeni ngamathoyizi ocansi noma izikhundla ezintsha
• Khulumisana: Uma wakho ubudlelwano abukho ukusondelana, ukuxhumana. Uma ukuxhumana kwehluleka, ungangabazi ukuthulula isifuba kubantu obathembayo noma ukhulume nomelaphi noma uchwepheshe oqeqeshiwe.

Ezweni elifinyeleleka kalula, ngezilokotho zenkundla yezokuxhumana nokunye ukuthuthuka kwezobuchwepheshe, akukho ukushoda kwezinketho uma kuziwa ekutholeni umuntu ozoba naye. Ngokufanayo, umshado awusona isidingo kulesi sikhathi, hhayi ubungane noma ukuba nezingane. Nokho, ngokuphindaphindiwe, sithola abantu bebopha ifindo likasofasilahlane futhi benza izithembiso zokuphila konke.

Noma kunjalo, akekho owathi imishado yenzelwe ukuba ibe lula. Kodwa ingabe umshado unzima kuwo wonke umuntu? Bheka, kunabantu abahlukana ngokuphatheka kabi, kunezithandani ezihlala emishadweni iminyaka engu-20 kodwa namanje zingacikeki. Hhayi-ke, mhlawumbe umshado unzima kodwa kuwufanele. Kodwa njengoba nje kudingeka unisele isitshalo nsuku zonke ukuze sithele ngolunye usuku, umshado nawo udinga ukunakekelwa. Uba lula nini umshado? Hhayi-ke, uma wamukela izinselele futhi usebenzele kuzo.

Sithemba ngobuqotho ukuthi isihloko sethu sikusize uphendule umbuzo ovuthayo: kungani umshado unzima kangaka? Sithemba ukuthi kukusize futhi ukuqoqa ukuqonda mayelana nokuthi yimuphi unyaka womshado onzima kakhulu nokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nezinselele umshado osiphonsela zona ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Phela imishado iyenzeka ezulwini kodwa kumele sibhekane nayo lapha emhlabeni.

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