Ingabe Kulungile Ukukhala Kwamadoda?

Kusukela ekuqaleni, kuye kwashiwo ukuthi amadoda anamandla ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo kunabesifazane futhi lokhu kuwumbono owamukelekayo. I-India njengesizwe esizishaya isifuba ngokuba nomphakathi ogcwele izinzalamizi sekunesikhathi eside ikwenza futhi igqugquzela le nkolelo. Eqinisweni, ukubonisa noma yiluphi uphawu lokuthamba noma ukubonakaliswa kwemizwelo kubhekwa njengehlazo endodeni. Kukholakala ukuthi akulungile ukuthi amadoda akhale.

Ukuba ngokomzwelo nokuthamba kubhekwa njengophawu lokuba ngumuntu wesifazane, okuyinto ehambisana nobuthakathaka kwabaningi emphakathini waseNdiya, ngisho nanamuhla. Eqinisweni, ukuwohloka kwamuva kwenhloko ye-ISRO uK Sivan , ngemuva kokuwohloka kokuxhumana noVikram Lander weChandrayaan 2 kuholele empikiswaneni enkulu, ukuthi ngabe kulungile yini ukuthi indoda efana nayo ikhale ekhamera.

Amadoda aseNdiya ayakhala. U-Aamir Khan, uSalman Khan, uRanveer Sigh, no-Abhishek Bachchan bonke bake bakhala ngezikhathi ezithile ezingokomzwelo kakhulu. Ukuhluleka kwenkanyezi yethenisi uRoger Federer eWimbledon Court ngo-2009 ngemuva kokuba uNadal emnqobile esicongweni, kungenye inkathi emlandweni lapho kwakhala khona ompetha. Kodwa u-Andy Murray wamlandela ngo-2012 futhi kube nezimo eziningi lapho izinkanyezi zezemidlalo zamazwe ngamazwe ziye zakhala khona ngemva kokunqoba noma ukuhlulwa, emphakathini.

Ezweni lasentshonalanga sekwamukelekile ukuthi amadoda aholayo, nawo akhale. Ingabe isithombe se-macho, i-alpha Indian wesilisa siyashintsha ngaleso sikhathi? Ingabe amadoda avunyelwe ukuba nemizwa? Ingabe amadoda avunyelwe ukukhala?

Sikhulume nomhlaziyi wezenhlalo u-Aman Bhonsle sambuza ukuthi umphakathi ubabheka kanjani abantu besilisa abakhalayo.

Ingabe ukukhala kwendoda kulungile?

Ngicabanga ukuthi yonke imizwa ilungile kubo bobabili ubulili. Ukukhala kuwukubonakaliswa kokudabuka, indawo lapho umuntu efisa ukuveza usizi lwakhe. Ngisho ukuthi, angiboni ngempela imizwa njengento okufanele ihlukaniswe ngokusekelwe ubulili bomuntu.

Ngakho-ke, kulungile uma owesifazane ekhala, kodwa hhayi kahle uma indoda ikhala?

Ngicabanga ukuthi le yimibono yakudala futhi isekelwe ohlotsheni lwe-logic ye-caveman okungenzeka ukuthi sasinayo esikhathini esidlule ngoba emuva ezinsukwini zakudala uma indoda ikhala, ngokuzenzekelayo sasivame ukucabanga ukuthi ubuholi bakhe kanye nesikhundla sakhe njengenzalamizi sithinteka ngezindlela eziningi. Kwabonakala ngandlela thize, njengokungakwazi kwakhe ukuhola isizwe sakhe.

Imiphakathi inobunzalamizi kakhulu, ikakhulukazi umphakathi wamaNdiya…

Yebo. Yilokho okuyikhona. Iqhaza lendoda njengomholi, umondli womndeni yisikhundla esingamandla. Eqinisweni, amandla angenye yezidingo ezibalulekile ngoba amandla ayisici esihlanganisa ukwenza izinqumo. Ngakho-ke, lapho indoda ikhala esikhathini esidlule, kwakubhekwa njengokungakwazi kwakhe ukugcina isenzo sakhe ndawonye, ​​​​futhi mhlawumbe, kube umthombo wogqozi kwabanye. Kwaphazamisa wona kanye umqondo wokugcina izinto ndawonye. Kuthiwe ubuthakathaka.

Kodwa manje, ubuholi abukhawulelwe kunoma yiluphi ubulili. Namuhla, ubuholi abusho nje kuphela ikhono lakho lokuhola umndeni. Ungaba ubuso obuphambili bakho konke, ungaba umama onomsebenzi ophumelelayo.

Esikhathini samanje, kulungile ukuthi indoda nowesifazane bakhale. Akuyona into okufanele ihlaziywe ikakhulukazi.

Kodwa uyazi, okwenzekayo ama-movie ethu ondla ubuchopho bethu ngalolu hlobo lokucabanga ukuthi indoda iza ingena ngamafasitela endlu yokugcina impahla ukuze isindise owesifazane ezingozini. Zonke lezi zithombe zakha imibono yethu yokuthi indoda ingumvikeli omkhulu wowesifazane.

“ Mard ko dard nahi hota ”, “Amadoda awakhali” konke lokhu kuyimibono enemicabango engalungile. Lokhu kuyadala futhi kubangela ukucindezeleka.

Okubi nakakhulu ukuthi abaningi bayazilapha ngaphandle kokubonana nodokotela noma bathathe isiqondiso sochwepheshe ngoba balahlekile kakhulu futhi baye bahlelwa ukuze bafihle imizwa yabo, impilo yabo yonke. Lokhu akunempilo kakhulu- ngokomzwelo, ngokomzimba nangokwenhlalo.

“Bafo musani ukukhala”, “Amadoda angempela awakhali”- yizinganekwane lezi?

Lezi yizinganekwane ezidayiswayo, lezi yizindaba ezixoxwa kusukela kudala futhi ngandlela thize zahlala isikhathi eside kangaka. Ngokubona kwami ​​ukuthi amadoda awakhali kufana nokukholelwa ezinkolelweni. Kuyafana nakimi. Akunangqondo neze.

Ingabe amadoda ayakhala uma esothandweni?

Vele, bayakhala. Kumamuvi kaShah Rukh Khan , ukhale noma nini lapho ethandana. Bonke abantu besilisa bayakhala uma bethandana. URajesh Khanna ukhale kakhulu kumamuvi akhe amaningi! Wayengumholi kwezothando kumamuvi akhe amaningi. U-Amitabh Bachchan ukhale; uSalman Khan ukhale kakhulu kuTere Naam . Kuba lungile uma bekhala kumamuvi, akunjalo?

Siyakhala uma sihluleka ukuthola isixazululo ezinkingeni zethu. Ukukhala kuwuphawu lwengqondo yethu nemizimba yethu evumayo. Ukukhala kuyileyo mpendulo, kungakhathalekile ubulili, ubulili obuthile futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi unemali engakanani.

Ikhala nini indoda phambi kowesifazane?

Lapho ezwa ukuthi ukukhala kwakhe kungase kwembule amaqiniso athile kuye, we-ajenda yakhe kuye.

Uma ukukhala kufeza injongo ethile, angase akhethe ukukhala phambi kowesifazane. Angase angakwazi ukuzilawula ngokuzithandela ngaleso sikhathi futhi angase akhale ngokuphendula noma njengokusabela kokuthile okwenziwe noma okushiwo owesifazane noma okuthile okuxakile noma okuphazamisa ubuhlobo ababelana ngakho.

Kulungile yini ukuthi indoda ikhale ngemva kokuhlukana?

Yiqiniso, kulungile ukuthi indoda ikhale ngemva kokuhlukana.

Kunjalo, kulungile. Uzoyicubungula kanjani leyo mizwa futhi akhiphe leyo mizwa?

Phela lo wesifazane ayefuna ukuhlala naye akasekho empilweni yakhe. Ukukhala kuwukuphuma ngaphandle, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubulili buni. Akuhlangene nobulili bomuntu.

Ngakho izinto ziyashintsha. Abafana akufanele nanini batshelwe ukuthi, “Abafana abakhali.” Kunalokho, batshele ukuthi ungakhala kuwumzwelo wemvelo ukwenza kanjalo. Kulungile amadoda akhale.

Umnikelo wakho awuyona iminikelo yokusiza . Kuzovumela i-Bonobology ukuthi iqhubeke nokukulethela ulwazi olusha nolusesikhathini njengoba sifuna ukusiza noma ubani emhlabeni ukuthi afunde ukwenza noma yini.

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