Ingabe ubudlelwano bebanga elide buyasebenza? Ngomunye waleyo mibuzo yobudlelwane bedayisi esingakwazi ukukunikeza impendulo eqondile esuka ehlombe ethi 'yebo' noma 'cha'. Umsebenzi, ibhizinisi, noma ukushintshana nomndeni - kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yisiphi isizathu, cishe wonke omunye umbhangqwana kulesi sikhathi ubhekana nesiphepho sebanga elide esikhathini esithile noma kwesinye. Okwenza umehluko ubukhulu balokhu kuhlukana, kokubili ngokwendawo nesikhathi kanye nesifiso sabashadile sokuhlala ndawonye.
Ozakwethu abanokukhuthazela okwanele namandla okuzwela ukugcina ukholo nemizwa ethambile iphila bavame ukuhamba phakathi kwesithiyo sebanga elingokomzimba futhi baphume bengenamyocu njengombhangqwana. Ngakolunye uhlangothi lwe-spectrum, eminye imibhangqwana ayifuni umthwalo wezinkinga zobudlelwane bebanga elide futhi ikhiphe konke ukuxhumana ku-bud ngaphambi kokuba izinto ziqale ukwehla.
Nakuba lokhu kungase kube nomqondo ngokombono osebenzayo, asikwazi ukunganaki amathuba amaningi obudlelwano obude obuqhubekela phambili nempumelelo. Ngokusho kocwaningo olushicilelwe ku- New York Post , ubudlelwano be-LDR bunezinga lempumelelo elicishe libe ngu-60%. Lokho ngokuqinisekile kuyisibalo esikhuthazayo. Phela, siphila ezweni elincane kakhulu - konke lokhu ngenxa yobuchwepheshe. Njengoba amagajethi obuchwepheshe obuphezulu, imithombo yezokuxhumana, kanye nezinhlelo zokusebenza zokuthandana zenza isikhala sendawo singabalulekile, kunzima kangakanani ukuzizwa uxhumene nabathandekayo bakho?
Noma kunjalo, ukusinda ku-LDR kungaba buhlungu ngokuhamba kwesikhathi futhi ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi ulapha unemibuzo eminingi. Nokho, lokho kusenza sibe babili! Ukuze sithole izimpendulo futhi sibheke iseluleko sobudlelwano obude, siphendukele kudokotela wezifo zengqondo uGopa Khan (Masters in Counseling Psychology, M.Ed), ogxile ekwelulekeni komshado nomndeni.
Ingabe Ubudlelwano Bebanga Elide buyasebenza?
Okuqukethwe
Ngeke sikugxeke ngalokhu. Naphezu kwezibalo ezikhuthazayo, ukwenza ubudlelwano obude busebenze kudinga umsebenzi onzima. Ucwaningo luthi cishe ingxenye yabalingani be-LDR idlula ekushintsheni kokuhlukaniswa kwezindawo kanti enye ingxenye iqeda ubudlelwano bayo phakathi nalesi sikhathi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ingxenye yesithathu yeqembu lokuqala ivame ukuhlukana zingakapheli izinyanga ezintathu ngemva kokuhlangana kabusha.
Hhayi-ke, asizile ukuzokudikibalisa. Ubani othi kufanele ube esinye izibalo? Nguwe ohamba phambili ebudlelwaneni bakho futhi uyanquma ukuthi yiliphi ithuba ongalithatha kulesi sikhathi esinzima. Njengoba sishilo, isikhathi, ibanga, namandla ayisisekelo obudlelwano kuba yizici ezinqumayo ngemuva kokuhlukana okuningi kobudlelwano bebanga elide. Ake sijule kancane futhi sibone ukuthi ungazithatha kanjani lezi zithiyo emgaqweni wakho:
- isikhathi: Lapho abantu ababili bazi ukuthi bazoqhelelana kodwa kuphela izinyanga ezimbalwa noma iminyaka embalwa, esikhundleni sokugxila emicabangweni yokuhlukana, bazama ukuthola izindlela zokuthuthuka. ukuxhumana okude. Idethi yokuphela ebonakala ibaqhuba ukuthi bahlale benethemba ngalesi sikhathi
- Ibanga: Umngane wami wathuthela e-NYC esuka e-Rhode Island phakathi nezinsuku zakhe ze-undergrad. Kodwa yena nentombi yakhe benza kahle iminyaka emithathu ngoba babehamba ihora elilodwa kuphela ngendiza. Babehla benyuka ukuze bahlangane ngezimpelasonto, bachithe amaholide ndawonye, bethumela izimbali ngezikhathi ezikhethekile, futhi bakwazi ukunqanda noma yimiphi imizwa engemihle endleleni yabo. Nawe ungagcina ubudlelwano bothando buphila uma ibanga lingelikhulu
- Isibopho phakathi kwakho nomlingani wakho: Abafundi bethu base-Ohio, u-Ashley noBen, babeyizithandwa zasesikoleni esiphakeme futhi babengahlukani. Lapho isikhathi sifika futhi u-Ashley kwadingeka ahambe aye eFrance ukuze afeze amaphupho akhe kwezobuciko, uBen akazange ame endleleni yakhe. Ubungekho umugqa wesikhathi wokuthi bazophinde bahlangane nini futhi kodwa banquma ukwenza lo msebenzi, bexoxa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukuntuleka kokusondelana ngokomzimba, nezinye izinkinga zobudlelwano bebanga elide.
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Sibuze uchwepheshe wethu, “Ingabe ubudlelwano obude busebenza?” futhi uGopa uthi, “Ngokombono wami wakudala, ngingathi ukuqhelelana kuvame ukwenza buthaka isisekelo sobudlelwano obuningi. Ngangineklayenti elalinomlingani walo oqhelelana naye wenqaba ukumshada ngemva kweminyaka eyisishiyagalombili! Ngokufanayo, ubudlelwano obuku-inthanethi, obukude abukaze buqine ngokwanele.
“Nihlala kude nezinkulungwane zamakhilomitha futhi nihlangana izikhathi ezimbalwa mathupha. Uzokwazi kanjani ukuthi niyafanelana ngaphandle uma nichitha isikhathi esiningi ndawonye? Ingabe ubuhlobo bebanga elide buyasebenza ngaleso sikhathi? Impela, angisho nje ukuthi yonke le mibhangqwana izohluleka. Imibhangqwana yeminyaka emisha iwuchaza kabusha umqondo wokuqomisana futhi iyawohloka isikhathi eside.
"Kuya ngokuthi uzimisele kangakanani ukufaka umzamo kulobu budlelwano. Abanye abantu benza wonke umzamo wokufaka uthando ebudlelwaneni bomhlaba wonke obude futhi baqinisekise ukuthi bayajabula naphezu kwebanga. Kuya nangokuthi umbhangqwana uvuthiwe kangakanani njengoba ngibone abantu besinda ebudlelwaneni obude iminyaka eminingi, bekhulisa izingane ngesikhathi esifanayo, benakekela abazali abagulayo, futhi befeza yonke imithwalo yabo yemfanelo."
Kungani Ubudlelwano Bebanga Elide Bungasebenzi
Uya kubangani bakho ufuna iseluleko sobudlelwano bebanga elide futhi ukusabela kwabo kokuqala kungase kube ukuthi, "Ungazifaki kule nkinga. Ubudlelwano bebanga elide abusebenzi." Njengoba use-Bonobology, sifuna ukukunikeza okuthile ngaphandle kokuphelelwa ithemba okuphelele mayelana nokwenzeka kokuba nekusasa nozakwenu webanga elide. Siqoqa umlingani wakho ngokusobala kufanelekile ukubambelela kuye, yingakho ulapha, uzama ukuthola ukuthi ungabugcina kanjani ubudlelwano be-inthanethi buqhubeka.
Pho kungani ungathathi isinyathelo emuva uhlole amaphutha e-LDR ngaphambi kokuthi uphikise wonke umqondo? Uma uqonda kahle amaphutha avamile enziwa imibhangqwana ebudlelwaneni obude , uzokwazi ukuthi yini ongayenza ngendlela ehlukile ukuze ugcine eyakho iqhubeka iqinile. UGopa, ukhuluma ngezinkinga ezine ezinkulu okufanele uzicabangele ezivame ukusunduza ama-LDR amaningi emgodini:
1. Awumazi umuntu wangempela
Ngokusho kocwaningo olwenziwe yi- Pew Research Center , ama-34% abantu baseMelika abasebudlelwaneni obuzinikele abake basebenzisa izinhlelo zokusebenza zokuthandana online esikhathini esidlule bathi bahlangane nabalingani babo online. Kodwa ingabe ubudlelwano obude busebenza ngokuhamba kwesikhathi? Akuyona into engokwemvelo ukuthanda nokuthandana nomuntu naphezu kokuhlala emadolobheni/emazweni ahlukene futhi unendlela yokuphila ehluke kakhulu.
Imibhangqwana esesimweni esifanayo iyazama ukuhlala ixhumene ngezingcingo noma ngokuthumela imiyalezo. Okusondele kakhulu ukuthi ubabone endaweni yabo kungocingo lwevidiyo olusethwa kukho kokubili okuvumelana nawe. Ngakho-ke, unethuba lokubukeka ukhangayo futhi uziphathe kahle okwamanje njengoba unenkululeko yokubuyela empilweni yakho evamile ngemuva nje kwalokho.
Yonke into ibonakala i-hunky-dory inqobo nje uma ukhuluma futhi uvumelana nezinto ezifunwa umlingani wakho ngoba empeleni akudingeki uhlangabezane nalezo ezilindelwe kude. Inkinga iba lapho uqala ukuhlala nalowo muntu noma uhlangana naye njalo. Uthola umuzwa othusayo wokuthi abayena umuntu ofanayo owayekade enguye ngakolunye uhlangothi lwesikrini. Lokhu nakanjani kuzokwenzeka ebuhlotsheni obuqala noma obuqhubeka isikhathi eside njenge-LDR.
2. Ukungavikeleki kubulala ubudlelwano obuningi bebanga elide
Ukungazethembi kungenye yezinkinga ezinkulu zobudlelwano obude . Lokhu kungaba sobala nakakhulu uma omunye wabalingani enesitayela sokunamathelana esingavikelekile. Ukungakwazi ukubona umlingani wakho isikhathi eside kangaka nokungazi ukuthi ukuphi kubangela esinye sezifiso zomuntu zokuqala - umona.
Mhlawumbe awunakho nhlobo okufanele ukhathazeke ngakho. Mhlawumbe umlingani wakho ukukhumbula njalo ngomzuzwana wansuku zonke. Kodwa ingqondo yakho engavikelekile iqala ukuqagela izimo zokungathembeki kwakho kuwe. Futhi ekupheleni kosuku, konke kubilisa ezindabeni zokwethembana, imizwa engemihle, nemizwa eshabalalayo, leyo, ekugcineni, engase ithinte isibopho sakho.
UGopa uthi, “Bengineklayenti ebelivame ukuvakashela phesheya ngenxa yebhizinisi. Njalo uma lishayela unkosikazi walo, owayezihlalele ekhaya, lalibuza, “Ukuphi?… Buyisela i-tracking efonini yakho…Ubuyephi?… Ubani lowo mfana onaye esithombeni?… Oh, uzijabulisa ngaphandle kwami?” nokunye Ngisho nalapho besedolobheni elilodwa, wabonisa lobu buntu obungalondekile, okwenza kube nzima kakhulu ngabo bobabili ukubhekana nobuhlobo babo ngezinye izikhathi.”
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3. Ingozi yokungathembeki
Ingabe ubudlelwano obude buyasebenza? Uma kungenjalo, kungani kunjalo? Uma uhlola izimbangela zokuwa kwama-LDR amaningi, ukulula kokuduka kuvela njengesihloko esiphindaphindayo. Ukukhohlisa ebudlelwaneni obude kuyingozi yangempela. Umlingani wakho usuke kude nawe izinsuku eziningi; uyaphuthelwa ukuthintwa ngokomzimba; uyaphuthelwa ukwabelana ngezimo zakhe ezingokomzwelo nezimbi nothile.
Njengoba isizungu siba namandla, bafuna induduzo efanayo kumngane womshado omusha oseduze. Futhi kuba nzima ngabo ukwahlulela imiphumela yezenzo zabo ngoba, ezingqondweni zabo, basuke bebheke inhlalakahle yabo siqu. Ngakho-ke, uma udidekile ngokuthi ungasinda kanjani ebudlelwaneni bebanga elide, izinkathazo zakho azinasisekelo ngokuphelele. Kudingeka izinga elithuthuke kakhulu lokuvuthwa, ukuqonda okukhulu phakathi kwabashadile, kanye nesisekelo esiqinile ukuze ubudlelwano obunjalo busebenze.
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4. Impilo yocansi ithatha ukushaya kanzima
Ukuhlukana okuningi kobudlelwano obude kwenzeka ngenxa yokuntuleka kokusondelana ngokocansi. Ngezinye izikhathi ukushaya indlwabu kusiza ebudlelwaneni obude . Kodwa kungahamba ibanga elide kuphela ukuze kukugcine uxhumene ekuqaleni lapho usakhumbula futhi uzwa ukuthintana komunye nomunye ngisho noma ningekho endaweni efanayo. Kancane kancane umdlalo ongabonakali engqondweni uqala ukudlala indima yawo futhi ukulangazelela nesifiso kuyaphela.
Uzakwethu oyedwa noma bobabili bazizwa bekhangwa abanye abantu futhi bayahlukana ngokuhlukana kwesikhathi. Futhi lapho uqala ukuphola ku-inthanethi futhi ningahlangani izinyanga, ungase ungazi ngisho noma uyahambisana ngokocansi. Ngakho-ke, uma uzibuza ukuthi, "Busebenza kanjani ubudlelwano bebanga elide?", bungafinyeleleka lapho ukuhlangana kombhangqwana kunamandla ngokwanele ukudlula lesi sigaba sokungalali kahle.
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Akudingeki uvumele ama-tropes afana nokuthi "ubudlelwano bebanga elide bungasebenzi" ukuthi buvimbe ithuba lokugcina ukuxhumana kwakho nokunye okubalulekile kwakho okuvikelekile futhi okuphumelelayo naphezu kwebanga. I-Bonobology yonke eyokubheka uhlangothi olukhanyayo, ikakhulukazi uma kuziwa ekugcineni umbhangqwana ndawonye. Ngezeluleko ezithile ezisebenzayo zobudlelwano bebanga elide ukusuka e-Gopa, sikulethela lawa macebiso angu-8 aqinisekile ukuthi azosebenza njengentelezi ekulondolozeni i-LDR yakho:
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1. Sebenzisa ubuchwepheshe ekuxhumaneni okude
Awukwazi ukuphika ukuthi ukuxhumana kulula kakhulu kulezi zinsuku ngenxa yobuningi bamagajethi namapulatifomu edijithali esinawo. Sifuna nje ukuthi ukusebenzise kahle futhi usebenzise okungcono kakhulu kukho. Isihloko se -Gottman Institute sikhuluma ngemibhangqwana ejabule ephendukela kubalingani bayo ukuze baxoxe njalo, ngaphandle kwengxabano izikhathi ezingu-20 ngaphezu kwemibhangqwana ecindezelekile. Ngakho-ke, nansi impendulo yakho yokuthi ungawugcina kanjani ubudlelwano obuku-inthanethi buqhubeka:
- Zama ukwenza izingcingo zokungena njalo ebusuku noma njalo ekuseni
- Uma unikezwe uhlelo lwakho olumatasa futhi mhlawumbe nomehluko wesikhathi, thola isikhathi esifanele lapho ungakhuluma khona ukhululekile futhi uzame ukunamathela kulelo hlelo.
- Siphakamisa amakholi wevidiyo ngezingcingo noma ama-imeyili kodwa bona ukuthi yini ekusebenzela kangcono
- Yiba sengozini futhi ucace mayelana nokukhathazeka kwakho kanye nalokho okulindele. Kuzonciphisa ukungaqondi kahle
- Yenza umzamo wokugcina uthando luphila. Ukuthumela ucansi, ucansi ocingweni, ukugconwa ngokukhumula kukholi yevidiyo - thatha ukukhetha kwakho uhambe yonke indlela!
Ekhuluma ngendlela ukuxhumana ngokwako okungeke kuzixazulule ngayo zonke izinkinga zakho, kufanele futhi unakekele ikhwalithi yokuxhumana oyisungulayo, umqeqeshi wokuthandana uGeetarsh Kaur utshele iBonobology ngaphambilini, “Ukuxhumana kunezindlela ezine: isikhathi, ithoni, isu, kanye neqiniso. Kufanele uqiniseke ukuthi uyaqaphela ukukhetha kwakho amagama kanye nethoni oyisebenzisayo. Zama ukulinganisa isimo sengqondo somlingani wakho ngokusekelwe endleleni axhumana ngayo nawe bese ufinyelela emnyombweni walokho okungenzeka ukuthi kumfake kulesi simo sengqondo.”
2. Ukuhlonipha indawo yomuntu siqu kubalulekile
Ingabe ubudlelwano obude bungasebenza IRL? Kungasebenza impela uma bobabili abalingani benikezana isikhala esidingekayo kakhulu. Uma umlingani wakho ebuya ekhaya ekhathele ebusuku futhi usanda kuvuka ngaleso sikhathi, ungacasuki uma engenawo amandla afanayo okuzwakala ejabule engxoxweni yevidiyo. Uma eya ephathini, awukwazi ukumfuna ukuthi abe secingweni sonke isikhathi noma abelane ngezibuyekezo nezithombe njalo. Ukulindela okungenakwenzeka kungasho inhlekelele ebudlelwaneni.
Kufanele uzivumele futhi uphile impilo yakho kanyekanye. Thola umsebenzi omusha wokuzilibazisa, uhlanganyele nabangane bakho - gxila ekukhuleni kwakho ngaphandle kokugxila emicabangweni efana nokuthi "Angajabula kanjani ngaphandle kwami?", "Kuthiwani uma enza abangani abasha futhi angikhohlwe?" Futhi yingakho kubalulekile ukubeka imingcele ecacile mayelana nokutholakala kwakho ngaphambi kokungena ebhizinisini lebanga elide.
3. Ungavumeli izindaba zokuthembana zingene ebudlelwaneni benu
Ubudlelwano obude busebenza kanjani? Impendulo ivame ukuba sekukholweni okungantengantengi abantu ababili abanakho komunye nomunye, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi baseduze noma bakude. Ukwethembana akukhuli ngosuku olulodwa noma ezimbili; kumi esisekelweni esiqinile sobudlelwano . Ngisho noma usanda kuqala ukuthandana futhi usakha leso sisekelo, okungenani ungazama ukungamqapheli umlingani wakho futhi ukholelwe enhlosweni yakhe.
Kulokhu, uGopa uthi, "Kuzoba nezikhathi lapho ungase ube nomuzwa wokuthi akuhambi ngendlela kodwa awukwazi ukuvumela ukungazethembi kulawule indlela oziphatha ngayo ebudlelwaneni bakho. Ungalenzi iphutha lokubafonela ngaphandle kwe-video, umzamo wokubheka ukuthi bakhuluma iqiniso yini lapho bekhona. Ikakhulukazi uma uzama ukwenza umehluko, i-LDR iphinde isebenze nomlingani wakho."
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4. Hlanganani mathupha kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka
Uma futhi izimo zakho zikuvumela, gibela kuleso sitimela/gxuma kuleyo ndiza, uhambe, ugone umlingani wakho ngokufudumele. Ngithembe, izokunikeza amandla e-oxytocin ukuze uqhubeke namaviki/izinyanga ezimbalwa ezizayo. Ukuthumela izimbali namakhadi ngezikhathi ezikhethekile ngokuqinisekile kuyisenzo esimnandi. Kodwa uma ningaba ndawonye ngokomzimba ngalezo zinsuku, kuzokusiza uzizwe uxhumene nomlingani wakho ngisho noma nihlukene.
Njengoba ulangazelela kakhulu ukwenza le LDR isebenze, singalindela ukuthi wenze okungaphezu komzamo omncane wokuvuselela ubuhlobo . Ukubona umlingani wakho kaningi kuzokugcina uphilile engqondweni njengoba kuqeda noma yikuphi ukungaqondani noma ukungabaza obekulokhu kuvela engqondweni yakho muva nje. Futhi, kuzovuselela izinkumbulo zenu ngomunye nomunye futhi kugcine uthando lwenu luqinile.
5. Yenza izinto ezijabulisayo ezimbili
Ubani othi abalingani bebanga elide abakwazi ukuzijabulisa njengezinye izithandani? Kufanele nje uthole eyakho indlela yokujabulela ukuba nobudlelwano bomunye nomunye evumelana nobudlelwano bakho obunamandla kakhulu. Uma usazabalaza ukubamba isigqi se-LDR entsha, sinemibono embalwa yokukwenzela ibhola:
- Ukuhlela ubusuku be-movie obubonakalayo nezinsuku zothando
- Izipho ezimangalisayo namaphakheji okunakekela
- Ukubavakashela ngokungalindelekile
- Ukubhala izincwadi kanye amanothi othando
- Yenza i-Instagram yakho ikhanye ngezithombe ezimbalwa ezinhle
- Ukudla ukudla ndawonye nsuku zonke ku-FaceTime
- Ithumela izithombe ozishuthe zona emuva naphambili ukuze wabelane ngosuku lwakho
- Ukulethwa isidlo abasithandayo
- Amakholi evidiyo asebusuku kakhulu ebusuku
- Ukudlala imidlalo ye-inthanethi
6. Ukutholakala ngokomzwelo kuyinkomba enkulu
Uzibuza ukuthi ungasinda kanjani ebudlelwaneni obude? Ngizokutshela imfihlo - kungase kube khona igebe phakathi kwakho nomlingani wakho kulo lonke izwekazi kodwa kufanele ubenze bazizwe sengathi ulapho eceleni kwabo futhi ubasekele kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekani. Eqinisweni, ucwaningo lwamuva lubonisa ukuthi ubudlelwano obude bucishe bulingane noma bube ngaphezulu ngokwethembana nokwaneliseka kunobuseduze ngokwendawo. Ngakho-ke,
- Uma umlingani wakho ecindezelekile, mboleka indlebe ezwelayo
- Ungabambeki ezingxoxweni zakho. Khuluma ngohlangothi lwakho lwendaba noma ngabe lokho kumayelana nemicimbi yamahhovisi evamile
- Ungakhohlwa ukukhumbuza isithandwa sakho ukuthi umthanda kangakanani futhi uyamkhumbula
- Qhubeka uxoxa ngohlu lwakho lwamabhakede ahamba ibanga elide futhi uhlele ubuhlobo bakho esikhathini eside
UGopa ucacisa ukuthi kungenzeka yini ukuthi kube nokuxhumana ngokomzwelo okuhlala njalo ebudlelwaneni obunjalo. “Kungenzeka, kodwa kunezinkinga eziningi. Ukuntuleka kokuxhumana kungaholela ekukhathaleni, kungabangela ukungazethembi, futhi ukuphathwa kwesikhathi kungase kube yinkinga ngenxa yalokho. Kodwa-ke, ibanga eliphakathi kwenu nobabili lingakwenza nizizwe nixhumene futhi nijabule ukuhlangana nomlingani wakho futhi. Uzohlala ulangazelela ukuchitha isikhathi esihle nomlingani wakho futhi kuzohlala kukhona ungqimba lwenjabulo,” kusho yena.
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7. Makungabikho ukwesekwa
Uma ungeke ube uhlelo lokusekela olukhulu kakhulu lomlingani wakho empilweni, ubani omunye ozoba yilo? Inhloso yonke yokuzama ukwenza ubudlelwano bakho busebenze naphezu kwebanga iyanqotshwa uma uqala ukuba nomuzwa wecala ngokulandela amaphupho abo nokukulahla. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kungumthwalo wemfanelo emndenini wabo, emsebenzini, ekufundeni kwamanye amazwe, noma okunye, kufanele ubasekele futhi ube umthombo wesisusa sabo. Ungakwenza lokho?
8. Ungalali ngezinkinga zakho
Ngeke ukhohlwe ukuthi anisahlali ngaphansi kophahla olulodwa noma edolobheni elilodwa. Ngakho-ke, aninalo ilungelo lokuyolala nithukuthelelane nicabanga ukuthi, “Sizohlangana kusasa futhi silungise izinto.” Ukuvumela izinkinga zikhule kuzoholela ekucasukeni engqondweni yakho, njengoba ulinda omunye umuntu ukuthi akushayele ucingo futhi axolise; ningazi niyadudulana nje.
Ukungaqondani kuvela kalula kakhulu ebudlelwaneni obude ngezizathu ezisobala. Ngaphandle kokuthi ubhekane nakho ngokushesha, maduze uzothola uthando lwakho lugcwele izinsolo, ukungaqondakali, nokungakholwa. Ukuxazulula izingxabano ngokwethembeka okungu-100% kanye nokungafihli lutho kufanele kube yinto eza kuqala kuwe ngaphambi kokuba sekwephuze kakhulu!
Izikhombi Ezibalulekile
- Ubudlelwano obuningi bebanga elide buvamise ukushabalala ngenxa yokungavikeleki, ukuntuleka kokusondelana ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo, kanye nokungathembeki.
- Kodwa akunakwenzeka ukwenza i-LDR isebenze ngenkathi yobuchwepheshe
- Kokubili ukuxhumana nokuhamba kulula kakhulu manje, futhi kungasiza ekunciphiseni ubunzima ebudlelwaneni benu
- Ukutholakala kwemizwelo nokuhlonipha imingcele yomunye nomunye kuyisidingo esikhulu
- Kunezindlela eziningi zokuhlela ubusuku bezinsuku kanye nemisebenzi ejabulisayo yababhangqwana ukugcina uthando luphila phakathi kwenu nobabili
Manje njengoba sesifike ekupheleni kohambo lwethu, sithemba ukuthi izeluleko zethu zobudlelwano bebanga elide zisula zonke izinkathazo zakho novalo futhi zikusondeze kothandiweyo wakho ngisho noma nihlala ngokuhlukana kolwandle. Iqhinga liwukuba nokholo kumlingani wakho futhi nigcinane ku-loop. Hlala lapho ngenhloso yangempela nenhliziyo egcwele uthando futhi ngaphambi kokuthi wazi, ukulinda kuzophela!
Le ndatshana ibuyekezwe ngoMashi, 2023.
Imibuzo Evame Ukubuzwa
Uma ungenzi umzamo wokugcina ukuxhumana kuqhubeke, uvame ukukhula ngokwehlukana ebudlelwaneni obude. Kulapho ibanga liqala khona ukuthikameza ubudlelwano.
Izibalo zibonisa ukuthi cishe u-60% wobudlelwano obude buyasinda kanti u-40% wabo awusebenzi.
Ukuze uqinisekise ukuthi ubudlelwano bebanga elide abunqamuki, udinga ukugcina ukuxhumana njalo ngezingcingo, imibhalo, nezingxoxo zevidiyo. Udinga ukusebenzela ukusondelana ngokomzwelo ngokwabelana ngemininingwane ngempilo yakho kanye nokugcina isimiso sokuxhumana nokuhleliwe.
Vele wabelane ngosuku lwakho, ube nomuzwa wokuhlekisa, khuluma ngomphathi ontshontshe umbono wakho emhlanganweni noma iresiphi entsha oyizamile ekhaya. Kufanele futhi uvulele umlingani wakho nganoma isiphi isimo esibucayi semizwa oke wabhekana naso.
Uma umlingani eqala ukukopela noma ekulahla ebudlelwaneni bebanga elide ngakho-ke akukho okungenzeka ukuthi abantu ababili babuyelane. Ukuhlukana ngebanga elide kubulala ubuhlobo unomphela.
Into enzima kakhulu ebudlelwaneni bebanga elide yilapho ubhekene nesikhathi esinzima, uphuthelwe ukusekelwa umlingani wakho. Uma ungaphilile noma ulwa nezinkinga ezifana nezezimali noma ingcindezi yomsebenzi, ufuna umlingani wakho abe seduze kwakho. Yilapho ubudlelwano bebanga elide buba nzima kakhulu.
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