Masikwamukele, ngamunye wethu kumelwe ukuba wayenesibindi noma okungenani waphupha ngokuba nocansi olungavamile noma iseshini yocansi olungavamile ngezikhathi ezithile. Ucansi olungavamile lungaholela ekugcwalisekeni kwezimfihlo zakho zokulala ezinyanyekayo kanye namaphupho. Baningi abasizungezile abathanda ngokuphelele umqondo wocansi olungavamile, okubizwa ngokuthi 'ucansi olungavamile ngezikhathi ezithile'... futhi yebo... abaningi futhi bangamalungu alelo qembu abangathanda ukubiza ngokuthi 'lokho' ngokuthi “ Ngiyabonga, mama, ” isisho sikaBenjamin Franklin sifingqa imibono ngocansi olungavamile ngokuphelele, sichaza ngokuthi “Akuvamile ukusetshenziswa ubulili kodwa ngenxa yempilo noma inzalo; Ungalokothi Ube Nobuwula, Ubuthakathaka, noma Ukulimala Kokuthula Noma Idumela Lakho noma Lomunye Umuntu.” Kodwa uBineesh Balakrishnan uyazibuza ukuthi “Kuphilile yini ukuba nocansi olungavamile ngezikhathi ezithile. Futhi kufanele umuntu akwenze kangaki?”
Konke lokho “kuncike endleleni okusingatha ngayo nokuthi ungakulinganisela kahle yini nabanye abantu abathintekayo,” ukholelwa uSaumya Tewari. Ukuphoqa ngezikhathi ezithile kuyinto enhle njengoba kungase kugcine ingqondo yakho ingacabangi ngezinto. Uma ungashadile futhi ukhululekile, uvame ukuzizwa unesithukuthezi futhi ungase ufune ushintsho unomphela. UHridaan uyayithanda indlela uBineesh asebenzisa ngayo igama elithi 'ukuphoqa ngezikhathi ezithile' hhayi 'ukuphoqa okungahleliwe.' “Akunankinga ngokuphoqa ngezikhathi ezithile lapha nalaphaya njengoba kungasiza umuntu ukuba aqhubeke nempilo. Kodwa ukuphoqa kungase kubize kakhulu. Ngakho qiniseka ukuthi une-'Mnu. Safety' ephaketheni lakho,” uyeluleka.
Ukufunda Okuhlobene: Ingabe kunempilo ukwenza ucansi olungahleliwe?
"Kulungile ukuba nengxabano. Vele uhlakaniphe ngokwanele ukuze ungakuxabanisi, ungalimazi futhi ungalimali."
“Futhi yebo, ukuphola ngezikhathi ezithile makube yinto eyenzeka ngezikhathi ezithile, hhayi evamile,” kusho uLekha Menon. U-Aman Singh uyavumelana nalokho uLekha akushoyo ukuthi kuze kube yilapho singaqali ukunamathisela imizwa yethu ocansini, kumane nje kuwukuphola nokubhonga noma kunjalo . “Kusobala ukuthi ukuphola kuhle. Uba ngcono embhedeni futhi uvumele omunye umuntu athuthuke. Futhi, konke lokhu ngaphandle kokuba sengozini. Ngakho ukuphola kuhle,” kusho u-Aman, enezela, “Futhi ungakwenza kanjani? ‘Ngokuzivikela’ okuthile kanye namandla amaningi okuzimisela. Futhi ngezinye izikhathi utshwala obuncane esiswini sakho.”
“Izithukuthuku ngezikhathi ezithile zizitholela isenzakalo ngokwazo. Ngosuku lwemvula noma ngosuku luka-April iziwula! Kufanele ulungele ukudubula noma nini lapho ithuba likuvela, noma ukuphi,” kubhavumula u-Devraj Kalsi, enezela, “akekho emhlabeni ongasho ukuthi kufanele ulithole kangaki noma kangaki. Konke sekumi ngomumo kuwe nozakwenu.”
Ukuphaphazela ngezikhathi ezithile kunempilo “kuze kube isikhathi lapho ucacelwe khona nomunye umuntu futhi. Komunye umuntu naye ubudlelwano kufanele busho okufanayo futhi bobabili badinga ukuba endaweni eyodwa, uphawula u-Raul Sodat Najwa. USiddhartha Mishra unomuzwa wokuthi ukukhetha kungokwethu ngempela njengoba abanye bekwenza futhi abanye benza ubuhlobo bube yinto ebaluleke kakhulu.
Akusoze kwaba nempendulo evamile njengoyebo noma cha kumbuzo obuzwe u-Bineesh uzizwa u-Gaurangi Patel. Bekuzoncika ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi kwehluka kuye ngesimo nangesimo nangengqondo kuye ngokwengqondo. Nokho, uzizwa enomuzwa wokuthi, “uma usebuhlotsheni obuzinzile, kuwukukopela umlingani wakho. Kungcono ukusebenzela uma ubudlelwano buhlukene noma buhlukene futhi bunokuhlukahluka okuningi, u-Gaurangi uyaphakamisa.
Akukho lutho olungalungile ngokuba nezikhathi ezithile lapho umuntu engazibandakanyi nabangane.
“Hamba uyokwenza,” kweluleka uKomal Chopra.
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