Kungani Ngingakwazi Ukuyeka Ukucabanga Ngaye? 18 Izizathu Ezingenzeka

Ingabe ukuthola kunzima ukukhohlwa othile? Nokho, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo senhlalakahle kanye noprofesa waseHarvard uDaniel M. Wegner wakhuluma ngendlela ingqondo eyinkimbinkimbi esebenza ngayo ekuphileni kwakhe. isifundo esiphuthumayo iminyaka edlule. Ngokusobala uWegner wathola ukuthi nakuba abantu bakhe bezama kanzima ukucindezela imicabango yamabhere amhlophe, kwabenza bacabanga ngamabhere amhlophe ngokwengeziwe. Ngakho-ke, ukusebenzisa imiphumela yakhe ekuphileni kwethu kothando cishe kuphendula umbuzo oshisayo, “Kungani ngingenakuyeka ukucabanga ngaye ngisho noma ngizama ngakho konke okusemandleni ami ukwenza kanjalo?”

Kulesi sihloko, sizobheka izizathu okungenzeka ukuthi kungani awukwazi ukuyeka ukucabanga ngalowo mfana osanda kuhlangana naye noma i-ex yakho osanda kunquma ukuhlukana nayo. Sizophinde sibheke ukuthi imicabango ekhathazayo isebenza kanjani futhi sikunikeze izimpendulo zombuzo ovuthayo, "Uyeka kanjani ukucabanga ngomuntu othile?", ngemininingwane yochwepheshe evela kudokotela wengqondo ophezulu kanye nomxhumanisi wobudlelwane obusekelwe ekucabangeni. UDkt. Shefali Batra (MD in Psychiatry), osebenza ngokukhethekile ekululekeni ngokwehlukana nesehlukaniso, ukuhlukana nokuphola, kanye nezinkinga zokufanelana ngaphambi komshado. Ngakho-ke, uma ungumuntu ohlala ecabanga, “Kungani ngizifela ngomuntu engingamazi?” noma “Kungani ngingamkhohlwa umfana engisanda kuhlangana naye?”, funda ku...

18 Izizathu Ezingenzeka Zokukwenza Ungakuyeki Ukucabanga Ngothile

Pho, kungani sikuthola kunzima ukukhohlwa abantu abambalwa? Ingabe ama-hormone ethu, ingqondo eyinkimbinkimbi, noma okuthile mayelana nemfihlakalo ezungezile umuntu? A Umsebenzisi we-Reddit wabelana ngodaba lwakhe lokuthatheka ngomunye umuntu angamazi, "Sithumele imiyalezo futhi savala kusukela ahamba. Imibhalo eminingi elula nehlekisayo. Ngithanda ukuthi sihlala sinezinto ezingahleliwe ezifana nalezo esingakhuluma ngazo. Sekudlule izinyanga ezimbalwa ehambile, kodwa kungani ngingayeki ukucabanga ngaye?

Uma ucabanga ngakho, angimazi lo mfana. Angazi nokuthi wenzani nsuku zonke manje. Sichithe isikhathi esifushane ndawonye. Ngaphansi kuka-5x ngaphambi kokuthi ahambe. Akufanele ngicabange ngaye nangesikhathi esisichithe sindawonye. Kodwa angikwazi ukuyeka.”

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UDkt. Batra uchaza ukuthi yini eyenza sikhathazeke ngabantu esingabazi: “Uma uhlezi uzibuza ukuthi, “Kungani ngisondelene kangaka nomuntu engingamazi?”, khumbula, mshayele ucingo. uthando noma ukuthatheka, ukukhangwa ngokomzwelo noma ngokomzimba, kungaba nezizathu eziningana zokuthi kungani ungayeki ukucabanga ngaye. Yize ungeke uhlale uzigxeka noma uzikhathaze ngokugula, kufanele ubheke nezimpawu zokuthi lokhu kuba nokuthatheka.” Nazi izizathu eziyi-18 zokuthi kungani ungayeki ukucabanga ngomunye umuntu:

1. Unamahomoni avuthayo

UDkt. Batra uthi, “Esinye sezizathu eziyinhloko zokuthi kungani ungase ube nemicabango ecindezelayo ngomuntu, ikakhulukazi othile osanda kuhlangana naye, mhlawumbe ukuthi ama-hormone ayadlanga futhi uqonywa kakhulu.” Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukuchotshozwa noma uthando, lapho ungakwazi ukususa othile engqondweni yakho, kungase kube umsebenzi wamahomoni enjabulo i-dopamine, i-oxytocin, ne-adrenaline. Eqinisweni, i-2010 Rutgers University cwaningo kwafakazela ukuthi ukuthandana nomuntu kufana kakhulu nokuba umlutha wezidakamizwa, njengoba uthando lusebenza ezindaweni zobuchopho ezifanayo nezidakamizwa.

2. Uhlanganyela naye izinkumbulo zakudala

Uma uvame ukuzibuza, “Kungani ngingenakuyeka ukucabanga ngaye?”, khumbula, ngezinye izikhathi, ungase ukuthole kunzima ukukhohlwa umuntu ngenxa yezinkumbulo zakudala ezihlobene naye. UDkt. Batra uyachaza, “Kungenzeka ukuthi unezinkumbulo zakudala zothile, njengowokuqothuka ehhovisi noma owayeyi-ex, ezibuyela emuva.” Nazi izibonelo:

• Kungenzeka ukuthi usize a umsebenzi crush ngomsebenzi othile futhi ungase usakhumbula lokho
• Kungenzeka ukuthi umphathi wakho ukuwisele ekhaya ngolunye usuku, futhi leyo nkumbulo kungenzeka igxilile engqondweni yakho
• Ungase ube nezinkumbulo ezifudumele zeholide elijabulisayo ne-ex yakho
• Ungase ube nezinkumbulo ezijabulisayo zokugubha usuku lwakho lokuzalwa ne-ex yakho

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3. Unezici ezitusekayo

UDkt. Batra uthi, “Ngokuvamile, siba nesici esitusekayo sendoda esiyithola ithakazelisa bese sakha wonke umbono wethu ngomuntu okuleso sici.” Lokhu kungase kube esinye sezizathu ezenza umphumela we-halo waleso sici esitusekayo usivimbele ukuba sikhohlwe othile.” Omunye wabangane bami, uKate, wayethandane kakhulu nomphathi wakhe. Wayengumhambi womhlaba, futhi uKate wayethanda ukufunda amabhulogi akhe futhi walandela zonke izibambo zakhe zenkundla yezokuxhumana. Wayenamathele kuye kangangokuthi ngisho nangemva kokuba esehambile ezweni eyohlala phesheya kwezilwandle, uKate wayelokhu exhumana naye. Lokhu, naphezu kokwazi ukuthi abasoze babe ku ubudlelwano bothando.

4. Umuhle entweni ekukhuthazayo

Uyazibuza, "Kungani nginamathele kangaka kumuntu Angazi nje?" Nokho, ngokusobala, lapho sibona othile ephumelela entweni esiyithandayo, sigcina sesimthanda nakakhulu lowo muntu futhi singakwazi ukumsusa ezingqondweni zethu, ngakho-ke, ezimweni ezinjalo, angaba nekhono kwezemidlalo, ekuculeni, noma ngisho nasengxoxweni.

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5. Isimo sakhe sozwelo

Enye yezimpendulo zombuzo wakho ovuthayo, "Kungani ngingayeki ukucabanga ngaye?", Iwukuthi cishe umlutha wemvelo yakhe yobubele. Ngokuvamile, siba nemizwa enamandla ngamadoda abonisa uhlangothi lwawo olunozwelo kanye nalabo abaqhelelene kakhulu nombono wesilisa. alpha abesilisa esikubona kukhazinyuliswa kwabezindaba. UDkt. Batra unomuzwa wokuthi, “Lapho ubona ukuthi unesihawu njengoba akekho omunye umuntu owake waba nakho ekuphileni kwakho, ungase uthandeke futhi uqale ukumkhumbula lowo muntu ngisho nalapho engekho.” Imvelo yakhe yozwelo ingabonakala ku:

• Indlela aphatha ngayo umndeni wakhe nabangane ngezikhathi zobunzima
• Indlela asiza ngayo abantu abangaziwa kodwa abaswele (ngokwesibonelo, ngokulungiselela ukudla ngesikhathi sezinhlekelele zemvelo noma izimo eziphuthumayo zezokwelapha)
• Uzikhathalela kanjani izilwane ezilahlekile

6. Akafani nabanye abaseduze kwakho

I-novelty ivame ukukhanga. Ngakho-ke, maningi amathuba okuthi ungathandani nomuntu othile noma ube nomuzwa onamandla ngothile ngenxa nje yokuthi lowo muntu, njengoba uDkt. Batra esho, “...ngokungangabazeki uhlukile kwabanye ekuphileni kwakho.” Umuntu engisebenza naye, u-Alice, oyisifundiswa esihlakaniphile, ujoyine ijimu futhi wathola umqeqeshi ekhanga ngendlela emangalisayo. Nakuba umqeqeshi wayengekho ezihambisanayo ngokomqondo naye, wazithola ehlala ephupha ngaye.

Lokhu kuyindaba yakudala yokunamathiselwa kumuntu ngoba nje ehluke kakhulu kuwo wonke umuntu oseduze kwakho. Kulokhu, umqeqeshi wethula u-Alice emhlabeni omusha wokuqina abengawazi ngaphambili. U-Alice, owayegxile kakhulu ezweni lakhe lezincwadi nezinkulumo futhi ezungezwe oprofesa, wathola le noveli emangalisayo futhi ikhanga.

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7. Uhlanganyela izithakazelo ezifanayo naye

UDkt. Batra uthi, “Esinye sezizathu ezinkulu ezenza umuntu athathe ingqondo yakhe yilapho umfana nawe nihlanganyela okuthile. izithakazelo ezifanayo lokho kunibopha nobabili esibophweni esiqinile.” Ngakho-ke nobabili ningase nibe yizixhwanguxhwangu zomculo we-country noma nobabili ningathanda ukufunda, futhi kungenzeka ukuthi nabelane okuningi mayelana nezinto enizithandayo nezingathandiyo Lobo buhlobo bungase bunivimbele ukuba nimkhohlwe lapho engasekho futhi ungase usale uzibuza, “Kungani ngimatasa ngomuntu engingamazi?

8. Uyakusiza nsuku zonke

Ngokuvamile, siyabakhumbula abantu abebewusizo olukhulu kithi, futhi ngokungaguquki. UDkt. Batra naye uyavuma, “Kungenzeka ukuthi unamathele kumuntu okwenzela okuthile noma okunikeza ukusekela okuthile ngokungaguquki.” Manje, lokhu kungaba isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esilalela amazwi akho siqu futhi sikunikeze usizo, noma udokotela okusize emzabalazweni wakho nesifo esingamahlalakhona. Laba bantu bavame ukuthatha ingqondo isikhathi eside ngemva kokwenza umsebenzi wabo.

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9. Uyindawo yakho yokunethezeka

Lapho uzibuza, “Kungani ngingayeki ukucabanga ngaye?”, zibuze ukuthi uyindawo yakho yokududuza yini. UDkt. Batra uthi, “Lapho uzizwa ukhululekile uma unaye, wakha ubuhlobo obukwenza umkhumbule lapho ingekho.” Lona kungaba yisoka lakudala obekungumuntu othanda ukuya kuye kuzo zonke izinkinga empilweni, noma umphathi okwesekayo, osebenza naye, noma umngani owakhe imizwa yothando ngaye.

10. Akakwehluleli

UDkt. Batra uthi, “Kulapho ekuvumela ukuba ube nguwe futhi engakuhluleli ngezici zakho lapho uzizwa usondelene naye.” Lokhu futhi lapho ungakwazi ukuyeka ngimkhumbule uma esehambile. Umakhelwane wami, uSasha, wayehlale ehlulelwa ngesisindo sakhe. Ngenxa yokukhuluphala ngokweqile, wacishe wayeka ukuphuma ayozijabulisa, kwaze kwaba yilapho isisebenzi asebenza naye, uBradley, eqala ukuchitha amahora akhe esidlo sasemini ehhovisi naye. Akazange amehlulele ngesisindo sakhe, futhi uSasha wagcina ezizwa ephathwa njengomuntu onemizwa.

Lapho uBradley eshiya inkampani, uSasha waqala ukumkhumbula kakhulu. Wayehlale ecabanga ukuthi isibopho sabo sasiyi-platonic kodwa lapho engakwazi ukumsusa engqondweni yakhe, waqala ukubona ukuthi unemizwa ngalo mfana. Le mizwa yayisekelwe eqinisweni lokuthi kwakunguye yedwa embuthanweni wakhe owayengamehluleli.

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11. Udlala 'hard to get'

A cwaningo ngabaprofesa baseNyuvesi yaseRochester bafakazele lokho abaningi bethu asebekwazi kakade: Ukudlala 'kunzima ukukuthola' empeleni isebenza emiqondweni eyinkimbinkimbi yabantu futhi abantu babheka labo okulula ukubahlaba umxhwele njengababalulekile kangako. Ngakho-ke, kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi umuntu othile usengqondweni yakho ngoba akakunaki, ngamabomu kwezinye izimo. Ngisho noDkt. Batra uyavuma, “Uma edlalela kanzima lokho kungase kube isizathu sokuba uhileleke kuye.” Kodwa lesi yisimo esiyinkimbinkimbi, njengoba naye angase angabi kangako kuwe.

12. Uyakukhombisa ukuthi uyakuthanda

Uma uzibuza ukuthi, “Kungani ngingayeki ukucabanga ngaye?”, kungase kube ngenxa yokuthi ukuthanda ngobuqotho futhi ukwenza kubonakale. Ngakho-ke, kungenzeka ukuthi ugcine usuzakhele ubuhlobo naye futhi uvame ukuthatha ingqondo ngoba ugcina ujabule futhi wenza kucace. Ngakho, angaba:

• Ukukukhiphela ngezinsuku ezimnandi zedina
• Ukukuthela ngezipho
• Kufona futhi ukuthumelela umyalezo njalo

13. Unomphumela opholile

UDkt. Batra uthi, “Ngezinye izikhathi, sikhangwa abantu abasithulisa phakathi nesiphithiphithi esilethwa ukuphila.” Ngakho-ke, kungenzeka ukuthi uhlale ucabanga ngothile ngenxa nje yokuthi ubukhona bakhe nezingxoxo zabo zikuthulisile ngezinga elithile.

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14. Uyakwenza uhleke

Manje, lena ayinangqondo. Kuyaziwa ukuthi amadoda enza abantu besifazane bahleke bavame ukuthatha ingqondo futhi babe nethuba elingcono lokuthola ukunaka kwabo. Abanye besifazane bangase bakhangwe kakhulu amadoda anjalo ngesikhathi esifushane.

UDkt. Batra uyavuma, “Uma ekuhlekisa ngamahlaya akhe, uyindawo yakho ehlekisayo, futhi yilokho okungenzeka uphuthelwe lapho engekho.” Futhi ngisho noma usanda kuhlangana noma nje waqala ubudlelwano obusha, ungase usale uzibuza, “Kungani ngizifela ngomuntu engingamazi?”, lapho engekho.

15. Uyakukhathalela

Uma ekukhathalela futhi kubonakala ezenzweni zakhe, nakanjani kuyoncibilikisa inhliziyo yakho. Lokhu kunakekela kungase kubonakale emazwini, emicabangweni, noma ezenzweni zakhe. Angase enze konke angakwenza ukuze akusize noma abe nawe, futhi lokho kungase kukwenze umkhumbule lapho engasekho.

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16. Akafinyeleleki

UDkt. Batra uthi, “Kuyimvelo yomuntu ukufuna into umuntu angenakuyithola, futhi kulokhu, lapho umthola engenakufinyeleleka, nakanjani uyonamathela emicabangweni yakhe futhi umfise ngaphezu kwalokho, okuholela ekuthathekeni ngokweqile.” Umngane, uRita, wayekhathazeke kakhulu ngozakwabo, u-Adrien. Manje, u-Adrien wayenakho konke izimfanelo zomyeni omuhle futhi wayenenkosikazi enothando nezingane ezimbili.

Wayenakho konke—umuzi, imoto, nomndeni omuhle, futhi wayeqhuba kahle nasemsebenzini wakhe. Kodwa uRita wakhula ukumthanda okwakhula kancane kancane waba matasa ngaye. Wayeyikho konke uRita ayekufuna kumlingani wakhe, kodwa futhi wayengekho kuye. Wazithola ehlala ecabanga ngaye futhi wayengakaze azwele omunye umuntu imizwa enamandla kangaka.

17. Unikeza i-vibe ukuthi ungamethemba ngokuphelele

Lapho indoda ikwenza uzizwe ungamethemba, kungokwemvelo ukudonsela kuye. Ngakho-ke, lapho uzwa sengathi ungamtshela zonke izimfihlo zakho ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ngokuthi uzochitha ubhontshisi, nakanjani uzonamathela futhi ucabange ngaye lapho engasekho.

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18. Uvuthiwe

UDkt. Batra uthi, “Ukuvuthwa nokuzibophezela kokubili yizici ezenza abesifazane bathande amadoda ngokushesha.” Ngakho-ke, uma indoda yakho ivuthiwe futhi ikunikeza ukuzinza nokuzibophezela, kungase kukwenze unamathele kuye ngokushesha. Ukuvuthwa, ngalo mqondo, kungasho:

• Ikhono lokwenza izinqumo ezivuthiwe, njengokwenza ibhajethi kanye nezindlu
• Ukuzimisela kanye nekhono lokunakekela umndeni wakhe
• Amandla aveze imizwa yakhe ngendlela enempilo futhi uxhumane njengendoda evuthiwe

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Ngaphambi kokuthi sifike embuzweni othi, “Uyeka kanjani ukucabanga ngomuntu?”, ake sibheke ukuthi kungani imicabango enjalo ecindezelayo ingalungile kuwe. Manje, asisho ukuthi ukuthatheka kancane akuyona into engokwemvelo uma usezigabeni zokuqala zokwazana nomfana noma uma usondelene kakhulu nothile. Kodwa imicabango enjalo ecindezelayo ingaba yingozi uma iba namandla futhi idla konke, ikushiye ungenaso isikhathi sokugxila kuwena.

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UDkt. Batra ubeke kuhlu izibonelo ezimbalwa ezinjalo ezimpilweni zethu zansuku zonke lapho imicabango ekhathazayo ingase ibe yingozi ekuphileni kwethu siqu:

• Awukwazi ukuhlanganyela emisebenzini yakho yansuku zonke ngoba ucabanga ngaye ngaso sonke isikhathi
• Uneminyaka emcupha ezinkundleni zokuxhumana amapulatifomu nokufuna ukwazi ukuthi ukuphi ngokungaphezi
• Uzizwa ukhathazekile empilweni yakho yansuku zonke futhi empeleni awukhululekile ngokomzimba uma ungezwa kuye noma wazi ukuthi ukuphi.
• Ulahlekelwa umsebenzi nokuzibophezela emphakathini ngenxa yokugxila kakhulu kuye futhi awukwazi ukugxila kunoma yini ngaphandle kwemicabango engapheli ngaye.
• Ulahlekelwa imisebenzi yakho yokuzinakekela ngoba ugxile kuye kuphela, ngaleyo ndlela ulahlekelwa umkhondo wempilo yakho engokomzimba nengqondo.
• Umthumelela imiyalezo emibili ngisho noma eshiya umlayezo wakho kokuthi 'ubonile', lokho kukhinyabeza ukuzethemba kwakho.

Uyeka Kanjani Ukucabanga Ngomuntu?

Manje njengoba usuzazi izimpendulo eziqinisekile zombuzo wakho, “Kungani ngingayeki ukucabanga ngaye?”, ake sigxile ekutheni ungasingatha kanjani lesi simo ngomusa kanye nombuzo omkhulu olandelayo, “Ungenza kanjani yeka ukucabanga ngomuntu? "

A Umsebenzisi we-Reddit wabelana ngokuthi isimo esinjalo singazizwa sinjani futhi acele iziphakamiso: "Kubonakala sengathi uma ngithola ukuchotshozwa, ngiba nzima. Ngaphandle kokuthi ngixakeke ngokuthile, ingqondo yami ibuyela kubo ngokuzenzekelayo, nakuba singathandani noma yini. Ngingayichaza njengomzwelo wothando, nokho ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi kuhlukile ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ngilinde impendulo ye-crush yami, futhi ngiyeke ukucabanga mayelana ne-homecom yami.

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UDkt. Batra uyeluleka, “Lapho uzibuza ukuthi ungakuyeka kanjani ukucabanga ngothile ngokweqile, zivumele ukuba uzwe imizwa ngokuthula futhi ungene noma uphume kuyo kalula, ngokusekelwe ekutheni ikuphi lapho ufuna ukuqondisa ubuhlobo benu khona.” Nokho, uma unomuzwa wokuthi akakuniki amavayibhu afanayo noma ukuthi ngeke abuyele kuwe, ungase ufise ngempela ukuyeka ukucabanga ngothile. Ngoba uma ungakwazi ukugxila kunoma yini ngaphandle kwakhe nemicabango yakhe futhi akazizwa ngendlela efanayo noma engafanele ukunakwa kwakho, akuyona indawo enokuthula ukuba ube kuyo, ngokwengqondo. Ngakho-ke, nanka amathiphu ambalwa okuthi ungasusa kanjani ingqondo yakho komunye umuntu futhi uzitholele indawo evaliwe:

• Qaphela ukuthi kungani engeyena 'yena': Ithiphu esheshayo yokubhekana nalokhu iwukuba kucace ukuthi kungani engalungile noma engakufanelanga futhi unciphise ukuthintana naye (noma unciphise ukuthintana ngezinga elithile okungenani)
• Qonda ukuthi akuwena: Qaphela ukuthi konke kungase kungabi ngawe ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kungenzeka ukuthi akanandaba nawe
• Kholwa ukuthi uma ekuthanda, uyoba ngowakho: Okungokwakho kuzobuya (uma kwenzeka), nakuba lokhu kungase kuzwakale njengokusho okuthile.
• Gxila ekuzinakekeleni: Khumbula ukuthi kufanele ugxile empilweni yakho. Chitha isikhathi ubeka isimiso esihle sokuzinakekela ukuze ulungise impilo yakho engokomzimba nengqondo futhi uyilandele. Lokhu kuzosiza ukuphambukisa ukugxila kwakho kuwena
• Zinike isikhathi sokuzithuthukisa futhi wakhe ukuzethemba: Thatha umsebenzi omusha wokuzilibazisa, njengokufunda ulimi olusha, noma amakhono amasha, njengokudweba noma ubuciko bokulwa. Ukuzithuthukisa kuhlala kusiza ekubuyiseleni ukugxila kuwena
• Khuluma nenethiwekhi ethembekile: Khuluma nomngane omethembayo noma ilungu lomndeni mayelana nalokhu futhi uhlanganyele ekukhulumisaneni okukhululekile. Ngezinye izikhathi, ukuchitha isikhathi nomngane oseduze noma umbuthano wokuxhumana omethembayo kungaxazulula zonke izinkinga zakho
• Funa usizo lochwepheshe: Uma uzibuza ukuthi ungayeka kanjani ukucabanga ngomuntu ngokuzikhandla ngisho nangemva kokuzama yonke into, thola ukuvala ngokufuna usizo lochwepheshe noma ukwelapha nge-inthanethi, usebenzisa i-CBT namanye amasu, futhi ukhulume nodokotela wakho. Impilo yengqondo

Siyethemba ukuthi uyitholile impendulo ethi, “Kungani ngingayeki ukucabanga ngaye?” Uyabona, uma uphuthelwa othile noma ungakwazi ukumsusa engqondweni yakho futhi uhlale usala uzibuza, "Uyeka kanjani ukucabanga ngomuntu?", Kungase kube nezizathu eziningi ngemuva kwalokho. Asisho ukuthi uhlu lwethu lwezizathu zokucabanga ngokweqile noma amathiphu okuthi ungayeka kanjani ukucabanga ngomuntu ngokweqile, olunikezwa kulesi sihloko, luphelele kodwa sizame ukuhlanganisa izizathu ezivame kakhulu ngemuva kwemicabango enjalo.

Nakuba kubalulekile ukungazinaki abantu abanjalo uma bengafaneleki kuwe noma bengenakho kangako kuwe, ungakwazi ukukubeke phansi kancane uma ukuthanda kuhambisana futhi uchithe isikhathi esithile emisebenzini yokuzinakekela. Lokho kusiza ukwehlisa izinga lokumkhumbula lifike ezingeni elinempilo elingeke liphazamise isimiso sakho sansuku zonke. Ngakho-ke, yeka ukukhathazeka futhi uqale ukuziphilela wena!

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