I-Alpha Males Ebudlelwaneni: Izimpawu Nendlela Yokubhekana

Abesilisa be-Alpha ebudlelwaneni bathatha izingozi ezinkulu, kuveza okusha cwaningo kusuka e-Concordia University. Eqinisweni, umfundi we-Concordia udokotela, u-Eric Stenstrom wachaza, "Njengoba abesifazane bevame ukukhangwa amadoda afanelekile, aqinile, futhi acebile, amadoda ayakwazi ukubeka engozini ngezemidlalo, abantu, kanye nemali ukuze athandeke kulabo abangase bashade nabo. Okuthakazelisayo ukuthi lokhu kuthambekela kuthonywa ukuchayeka kwe-testosterone - i-testosterone eyengeziwe esibelethweni ingaholela ephuzweni, izingozi zokuhweba kamuva empilweni."

Kuleyo nothi, ingabe indoda yakho ingumuntu othatha ubungozi aka-alpha? Ingabe uyagomela futhi uyazethemba? Ingabe uyazibuza ngezimpawu owesilisa we-alpha akuthandayo? Uma kunjalo, ingabe kufanele ngabe wenza izinto ngendlela ehlukile ukuze uxhumane naye ngempela? Ake sithole konke odinga ukukwazi mayelana ne-alpha male relationship psychology.

Ubani I-Alpha Male?

Isho ukuthini i-alpha ebudlelwaneni? Ukuze sikuqonde lokho, ake sibuyele emuva emsuka waleli gama. Leli gama lisuka emcabangweni wokubusa kwezenhlalo nezocansi owaqanjwa umbhali waseMelika u-Theodore Robert Beale. Nazi izinhlobo zobuntu eziyisi-6 esigabeni esiphezulu ezihlanganisa inhlobonhlobo yocansi nobulili: i-Alpha, i-Sigma, i-Beta, i-Delta, i-Gamma, ne-Omega. Ngisho noma umqondo kaBeale ushaywe indiva kabanzi namuhla njengokwenyanya abesifazane futhi unganembile, lo mbono usamile.

"Abantu be-alpha ... bayazethemba, banomusa, baqondiswe emigomweni, bahlakaniphile, futhi bayazikhuthaza," kusho. UDkt John Tholen, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo eselathatha umhlalaphansi kanye nombhali we I-Focused Positivity. Akunzima ukubona ukuthi kungani umuntu engase akhangwe abantu be-alpha. Phela, la madoda abonakala kanje:

• Kuhle kakhulu ekuholeni imisebenzi yeqembu kanye nokukhuphuka kwezikhundla zomphakathi
• Isifinyezo solimi lomzimba oluqinisekisayo/oluzethembayo
• Abaholi bemvelo futhi ngokuvamile extroverted-abajabulisa abantu

Abesilisa be-Alpha bawuhlobo lwabantu abangena ekamelweni futhi baphathe ngokushesha. Futhi benza umsebenzi omuhle kangangokuthi akekho ongabaza igunya labo. La madoda akhombisa ukuzethemba futhi abonakala elawula noma yisiphi isimo esiqhamukayo. I-alpha male psychology ibenza bakholwe ukuthi bamiselwe ubukhulu, futhi cishe uzothola kubo isifiso esizalwa naso sokuzuza impumelelo yezwe. Ake sibheke ukuthi zinjani, ukuze ukwazi ukuzibona kalula (kahle, kunzima ukuzigeja).

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7 Izimpawu Zendoda Ye-Alpha

Owesilisa we-alpha uyazethemba, uyagomela, unothando, futhi uyakwazi ukulawula izimo. Uma uthandana nendoda enjalo, awukho neze ukujola nengane wesilisa. Noma ubani ohlale edinga ukunakwa nokuqinisekiswa. Inkinga ukuthi isiko le-pop kwesinye isikhathi limelela kabi izici zabesilisa be-alpha. Iveza la madoda njengabaneqhude, ababusayo, nabathanda i-narcissistic. Kodwa-ke, lo mfanekiso awupendi isithombe esinembile samaphethini wabo wokuziphatha. Ukufunda ngezici zowesilisa we-alpha kuzosiza ukuguqula umbono wakho:

1. Unesibindi

Olunye lwezimpawu zobuntu besilisa be-alpha kanye namandla aqhuba isimo sabo sengqondo sokuthatha icala. Lokhu kusho ukuthi abesilisa be-alpha abasebudlelwaneni ngeke balahle ithemba ngabalingani babo futhi baqinise lapho kuqhubeka kuba nzima. Inqobo nje uma bekholelwa kuwe, ungathembela kubo ukuthi bahlale eceleni kwakho futhi balwe nezinto ezingathandeki. Lokhu kuvame ukuhumusha kahle kakhulu ngomqondo wothando, njengoba abesilisa be-alpha ebuhlotsheni:

• Abakwesabi ukulandela abakufunayo
• Qala ingxoxo nawe ngokuzethemba okukhulu kunabanye
• Ungavumeli izinkinga ezincane ziphazamise isibopho esihlala njalo

2. Uyakwazi ukulawula imizwa yakhe

Esinye sezici ze-archetype alpha zesilisa ikhono labo lokulawula imizwa yabo. Ngenxa yalokhu kuthambekela, bavame ukuphutha ngokuthi bayabanda futhi bazimele. Mhlawumbe, ngokwezinga elithile, lokho kuhlola kuyiqiniso. Kodwa leli khono lokungavumeli imizwa yakhe ukuba ingalawuleki yilona elivumela owesilisa we-alpha ukuthi akwazi ukubhekana nezimo eziyinselele, ezinengcindezi ephezulu ngempumelelo.

Uyakubona ukubaluleka ukuhlakanipha kwengqondo futhi uqinisekisa ukuthi akachithi isikhathi esibalulekile ekhalela ubisi oluchithekile. Noma ngabe ukuxoshwa emsebenzini noma ukulahlwa uthando lwempilo yakhe, ngeke avumele ukuwohloka kulawule izenzo zakhe. Kunalokho, uzothulisa ingqondo yakhe futhi ahlele inkambo engcono kakhulu yokubhekana nesimo.

3. Abesilisa be-Alpha ebudlelwaneni bayathanda ukuphonselwa inselelo

Ubani owesilisa we-alpha? Umuntu othanda ukuba esihlalweni somshayeli, eqondisa indlela yokuphila kwakhe, elawula ngokuphelele izimo zakhe. Njengoba elawula okuningi, uyakujabulela ukuphonselwa inselelo njalo. Nansi iphrofayela yengqondo ye-alpha yesilisa:

• Lapho ebhekana nezinselele ezintsha, uzobona kuye isifiso sokufuna ukuphumelela
• Akakuxwayi izimo ezicindezelayo futhi unguchwepheshe ezinqumweni ezinzima
• Lapho impilo imjikijela ulamula, cishe unemodeli yebhizinisi lonke ehlelelwe uhlobo lwakhe olusha lwe-lemonade

Uhlobo luni lowesifazane olukhangwa yi-alpha, uyazibuza? Umuntu omgcina ezinzwaneni. Umuntu oyinkimbinkimbi, ongaqondakali, futhi okwazi ukumbekela inselele. Uma engayitholi into ezomyenga, ngeke bamukele ubungozi bomzwelo futhi ingase iqhubeke kalula. Ukuphela kwesikhathi lapho owesilisa we-alpha ephishekela khona owesifazane yilapho ecabanga ukuthi kuzojabulisa futhi kube inselele.

4. Uqhutshwa inhloso

Ama-alpha amadoda angenanjongo anjengezinhlanzi ezingenamanzi. Ngeke bakwazi ukuphila, ingasaphathwa eyokuchuma, uma bengasebenzi njalo befinyelela umgomo. Noma ngabe ukukhuphuka izitebhisi zebhizinisi, ukusebenzisa uthando lwabo ukuze baphumelele kwezemidlalo, noma ukuthatha ubudlelwano esinyathelweni esilandelayo, ziqhutshwa ukufuna inqubekelaphambili nokwenza ngcono. Awusoze wayibona iduna le-alpha lintanta empilweni ngokungenanjongo. Uma indoda yakho ihlale ihlose izinkanyezi futhi ingavumeli imigomo yakhe intengantenge, kungenye yezimpawu ezinkulu owesilisa we-alpha okuthandayo.

5. Okwakhe akavumeli isici esisodwa nje sempilo yakhe simchaze

Amadoda e-Alpha asebenza kahle ekutholeni ibhalansi yokuphila komsebenzi. Ngakho-ke, babheka ukubaluleka okulinganayo emsebenzini wabo, ubudlelwano, abangani, izinto abazithandayo, impilo kanye nomndeni, ukuze baphile impilo egcwele. Ingxenye engcono kakhulu ukuthi bayakwazisa isikhala somuntu siqu ebudlelwaneni.

6. Uyawunakekela umzimba wakhe

Abesilisa be-Alpha ebuhlotsheni banethonya elihle kwabathandekayo babo. Nasi isizathu:

• Banendlela yokuphila esebenzayo futhi bagxile emandleni omzimba
• Bayazazi futhi bayazi ukuthi kufanele badle nini ukudla okunempilo nokuthi kufanele bakhohlise ekudleni kwabo
• Bangase bazabalaze ngohlangothi lwabo lwabesifazane/abaphelele ibhalansi ye-yin ne-yang kodwa benza kahle kakhulu ekukhuliseni uhlangothi lwabo lobudoda

7. Uvikela kakhulu

I-alpha male relationship psychology imayelana nokuvikela umlingani wabo. Uma uphathwa kabi, akahlali umama. Ngeke agweme ukuba ne-chivalrous futhi akwenze uzizwe uphephile. Uzobeka izindinganiso eziphakeme ngempela abantu abaningi abangeke bakwazi ukuhlangabezana nazo. Kodwa lokho futhi kuwubuthakathaka bowesilisa we-alpha. Angase abe nolaka noma aqale ukulwa ukuze akuvikele. Angase ngisho abonise izimpawu zesoka elivikela ngokweqile.

Nakuba kungase kuzwakale kukuhle ephepheni, kungenzeka ukuthi ukuhlukahluka kwemizwa kungase kugcine kwenze abambalwa balaba banumzane abalungile babe nolaka kunabanye. Kwezinye izimo, ungase ube nobunzima bokuthola ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nowesilisa we-alpha ebuhlotsheni.

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Ungabhekana Kanjani Nendoda Ye-Alpha?

Abesilisa be-Alpha abasebudlelwaneni bangase bahlale bezazi. Kodwa ungase ugcine usuthola izici zobuntu okungelula neze ukuzibekezelela. Okwakubonakala kukhanga ekuqaleni kungase kube inkinga ecasulayo noma engapheli uma ungazi ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nesimo sengqondo sowesilisa we-alpha. Lokhu kungakushiya udidekile.

Siyazi ukuthi kunzima impela, kodwa ungakhathazeki, akukhonakali ngoba sikulungisele yona. Nazi izindlela eziyi-11 ezingakusiza ukuthi ubhekane nowesilisa we-alpha:

1. Makahole

Amadoda e-Alpha avame ukuba ngabantu abangaphelele. Bafuna ukuzenzela izinto ngokwabo futhi bathole udumo. Ngeshwa, lesi sici singase sikwenze uzizwe unesizungu ebudlelwaneni bakho. Kodwa, uma uyithanda le ndoda, kufanele uyinike isikhala sokuba ibe nguye. Lokho kusho ukumyeka ahole, ikakhulukazi lapho kuziwa ezintweni ezibalulekile kuye. Ama-Alpha azizwa ejabule kakhulu lapho ethatha umthwalo wemfanelo. Ungakwazi futhi ukushintsha isihlalo somshayeli, kuye ngokuthi isimo. NjengeReddit umsebenzisi isho, "Ungaqhudelani naye. I-A&A. Khuluma naye. Yiba u-alpha NAYE. Nikelane inani.."

2. Xoxisana ngomoya ophansi ngezinto ongazithandi ngaye

Ungase ukhungatheke ngempela ukuba nozakwenu oziqhenya kakhulu ngaye. Nokho, kubalulekile ukungena kahle odongeni lokuziqhenya, ngaphandle kokumenza azizwe ehlaselwa. Ngaphezu komuzwa wokuziqhenya, ukuthambekela kokuthola njengokuzethemba ngokweqile noma ukukuhlazisa ungahlonizi phambi kwabanye kungase kube izici ezivamile zesilisa se-alpha ekupholeni. Ezikhathini eziningi, angase angaqapheli nokuthi izenzo zakhe zingakubangela amahloni. Njengomlingani wakhe, kuzodingeka ukuthi:

• Thuthukisa ukuxhumana naye
• Khomba izikhathi lapho uzwe khona noma yimiphi imizwa engemihle ngenxa yobuntu bakhe bowesilisa we-alpha
• Khulumani ngokukukhathazayo nithole izixazululo ndawonye (ungamsoli kodwa)

Lokhu ngeke kube lula ngoba okokuqala uma uyiveza, cishe uzozivikela ngakho. Indoda ye-alpha ihlale icabanga ukuthi ilungile. Kungase kuthathe isikhathi ukuze ukwazi ukubhekana nezimpendulo zakhe kodwa zama ukungamyeki. Phikelela futhi uphikelele, futhi ekugcineni uzofinyelela kuye.

3. Yiba oqondile ngangokunokwenzeka

Esinye sezici ezijwayelekile zesilisa se-alpha ukuthambekela kokubusa. La madoda ayakwazi ukwenza izinto, ngakho anegunya elikhulu. Bavame ukuletha lesi sici sobuntu nasebudlelwaneni babo. Ngokuqinisekile awufuni ukwenza izinto ngoba eshilo. Mhlawumbe ngezikhathi ezithile, ungenza okuthile ukuze umjabulise kodwa hhayi uma kuthinta ukuthula kwakho kwengqondo. Ngakho-ke, kufanele ufunde ukukhomba izimpawu zokuthi uyabusa bese uthi “cha”:

• Lapho efuna ukuthi ukhansele ubusuku bentombazane yakho ukuze uhlangane nabangane bakhe futhi wazi ukuthi awukwazi ukuyekethisa kulokhu, yisho
• Kunokuba ushaye ihlathi, uzama ukuthola izindlela zokungayilimazi imizwa yakhe, isho ngqo ebusweni bakhe.
• Yenza izinto ofuna ukuzenza ngempela, esikhundleni sokuthatha imibono yakhe kuphela futhi ubeke izidingo zakho engozini

Kuye, ukuba yindoda ye-alpha ebudlelwaneni kumayelana nokulawula. Kungase kube indlela yakhe noma umgwaqo omkhulu, kodwa awukwazi ukuqhubeka wenza imihlatshelo ukuze nje umjabulise. Hlala uqinile mayelana nokukhetha kwakho. Angase ezwe ubuhlungu futhi angase azame izindlela ezihlukahlukene zokukwenza ushintshe umqondo wakho. Kancane kancane uzoqonda futhi ajwayele, ngisho noma engathandi.

4. Qiniseka ukuthi akakwenzi uzizwe ungelutho

Ama-Alpha ahamba phambili cishe kuzo zonke izici zempilo yawo. Lokhu kungabangela ukuba baqiniseke kakhulu ngabo. Abakwazi ukuyeka ukukhuluma ngezinkazimulo/ impumelelo yabo. Nakuba lokhu kungase kubonakale kuthakazelisa ekuqaleni, ngemva kokuchitha isikhathi esiningi njengabalingani bothando, inkimbinkimbi yakhe ephakeme ingase iphenduke into ecasulayo. Ungase uzibuze ukuthi ngabe uyi-a indoda enobugovu. Eqinisweni, ubudlelwano nendoda ye-alpha bungaqalisa ngisho nenkimbinkimbi yokungabi nalutho kuwe. Uma lokho kwenzeka, kufanele uhlonze ukuzikhulumela okungekuhle, ukususe, bese ufaka esikhundleni sakho ukuziqinisekisa.

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5. Qala ukuthatha igunya lempilo yakho

Nge-alpha, kubalulekile ukuba ezimele ngokwezimali nangokomzwelo. Kungase kube nezinsuku lapho nilwa futhi angase abhale konke akwenzele kona futhi leyo ngeke ibe ingxoxo emnandi. Yingakho, kusukela ekuqaleni, uhlale ulawula impilo yakho.

• Ungumlingani wakho futhi kufanele nakanjani uthathe imibono yakhe, kodwa qiniseka ukuthi isinqumo sokugcina ngesakho
• Kufanele kucace kuye ukuthi akukho ukukhohlisa okuzomnika amandla okulawula impilo yakho
• Sekuyisikhathi sokuthi asukume amazise ukuthi izinto zizoshintsha kusukela manje

6. UNGALOKOTHI, ubekezelele ukucasuka kowesilisa we-alpha ebudlelwaneni

Ungazenzisi ukuze nje uqede ingxabano. Ngeke ukhuthaze isifiso sakhe sokuhlala enze ngendlela yakhe ngoba kuzomkhuthaza ukuthi aqhubeke nokwenza. Ngisho noma ninokungaboni ngaso linye, mbonise ukuthi kungenzeka futhi kubalulekile ukulwa ngenhlonipho.

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Noma kunini nixabene avele athathe isinqumo sokuphuma ngesankahlu endlini afunge ukuthi ngeke aphinde abuye, thulani nimyeke ahambe. Ngemva kwehora noma amabili lapho ungamnakile afuna ukukunaka, uzobuya esedidekile ukuthi kungani ukudlokodla kwakhe kungawenzanga. Ekugcineni, uzowuthola umyalezo wokuthi ngokungakuhloniphi ngeke amtholele lokhu akufunayo.

7. Ukuzindla kungasiza ekubhekaneni nokucindezeleka

Nakuba zimbalwa kakhulu izinto ongazishintsha ngomuntu, ngokuqinisekile ziningi kakhulu izinto ongazishintsha ngawe. Ukubhekana nozakwethu othukuthele kungaba nzima. Esikhathini esiningi, uzogcina ucasukile futhi ukhungathekile. Kodwa uma ubazisa ubuhlobo bakho futhi ufuna ukubenza busebenze, qiniseka ukuthi ufunda ukuphatha izinto ngomoya ophansi.

Umqondo ohlanganisiwe ungaba amandla akho amakhulu, ikakhulukazi ekubhekaneni nezindlela zakhe zokuziphatha. Ngalokho, thatha imizuzu engu-10-15 ngosuku ukuze uzindle. Noma ungenza noma yini ekwenza uzizwe uzolile. Kungaba umculo opholile namehlo avaliwe noma i-yoga noma ukuzivocavoca.

8. Yamukela ukuthi ama-alpha abesilisa ebudlelwaneni bathanda ukuphelela

Kufanele uqonde i-alpha male psychology. Ukubeke emazingeni aphezulu ngoba yindlela yakhe nje leyo. Akuhlangene nawe. Ulindele kuwe lokho akulindele kuye. Isayensi ithi ubudlelwano obuhlala njalo behlela ezicini eziyisisekelo ezi-2: umusa nokupha. Ngakho, yiba nomusa kuye lapho engenamusa kuye.

9. Hlala uthintana nezinto ozilibazisa ngazo

Ungavinjelwa kanjani kowesilisa we-alpha, uyazibuza? Noma hlobo luni lowesifazane ukhangwa i-alpha wesilisa? Umuntu onempilo yakhe. Ngakho-ke, ungavumeli amathemba akho, amaphupho, kanye nezinkanuko zakho kuthathelwe indawo emuva ngoba usothandweni nendoda enobuntu obukhulu. Ingabe ufuna ukwenza iziqu ze-Master? Kwenze. Ingabe ufuna ukufunda ikilasi lolimi? Bhalisela. Ingabe ufuna ukwenza umsebenzi wokuzithandela owengeziwe nabangani bakho? Kwenze kwenzeke. Khumbula, lapho uzitshala kakhulu kuwena, uba nenani eliphakeme kakhulu kuye. Futhi uma unciphisa ukuphila kwakho ukuze ungene endimeni yomlingani wakhe, uzolahlekelwa inhlonipho ngawe.

10. Yiba ongaqondakali

Ubani owesilisa we-alpha futhi ufunani? Impendulo yalo mbuzo ingafingqwa ngamagama amathathu: izimanga, ukuzenzela, kanye nokuzimela. Mgcine ezinzwaneni zakhe, futhi maduze uzobona izimpawu ukuthi ukulungele ukuzinza nawe. Lokhu akusho ukuthi uqala ukudlala kanzima ukuze uthole kodwa zama ukugcina izinto ezithakazelisayo ukuze wenze i-alpha wesilisa ikuxoshe. Uma ushintsha izinto ngokuqhubekayo, uzoqala ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi nawe, akuhambise ngezinsuku, akone, futhi akuphathe njengomngane wakhe omkhulu. Myeke enze umsebenzi onzima!

11. Yazi ukuthi kufanele uhambe nini

Uma naphezu kwemizamo yakho emihle yokubhekana nezici zabesilisa ezivelele kumlingani wakho, ubudlelwano buyaqina kakhulu ukuba buphathe, kufanele ufunde ukuzibeka phambili. Uma kunobudoda be-alpha besilisa obunobuthi, suka, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kubonakala kunzima kangakanani. Yazi ukuthi ayikho into ebaluleke ukwedlula ukuthula kwakho kwengqondo. Yenza noma yini edingekayo ukuze ube nokuhle futhi ubudlelwano obuyimpumelelo ngowesilisa we-alpha kodwa qiniseka ukuthi uyazi ukuthi udweba kuphi umugqa. Ungalimazi ukuphila kwakho ngokomzwelo ukuze uthande umuntu.

Indoda eyi-alpha ngeke ize ikwazi ukushintsha imvelo yayo eyisisekelo njengoba igxile kakhulu kuye. Ungathola kuphela indlela yokuhlala ngokuthula naye, njengoba kwenzeka kunoma ibuphi obunye ubuhlobo. Kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi bangabantu ababi. Abesilisa be-Alpha abasebudlelwaneni bangase bagcine bekhathalela kakhulu futhi benothando njengoba bekwazisa okubalulekile kubo futhi abanamahloni ukukuvuma.

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