Ngesikhathi nginquma ukushada futhi ngiqale lesi sahluko esisha sempilo yami, ngangazi ukuthi ngifuna ukugcina igama lami lobuntombi. Bekubaluleke ngendlela emangalisayo kimina. Uyazibuza ukuthi owesifazane oshadile angaligcina yini igama lakhe lobuntombi? Hhayi-ke, akukho lutho abesifazane bekhulu lama-21 abangakwazi ukukwenza!
Ngenze Kanjani Ukuthi Ngifuna Ukuligcina Igama Lami Lentombi
Okuqukethwe
Igama lami lokuqala alijwayelekile kubantu abaningi futhi cishe liyihlaya kulabo abangalwazi ulimi lwesiSanskrit. Kusukela esikoleni, abantu baye balimaza igama lami ngezindlela eziningi kunalokho engikukhumbulayo. Izitatimende zasebhange ziqala igama lami ngo-'Mnu'. Abangibiza ngocingo bangibiza ngokuthi Mnumzane. Abaphathi ababi bangikhuluma ngokungaqondile lapho itafula selilungile.
Ukwenza ukuphila kube lula, ngivame ukuthembela esibongo sami. Isibongo esilula, esibizelwa kalula, esivame ukuvela esifundeni esisempumalanga ye-Odisha. Ngiyisebenzisa esaluni noma esiteshini sesevisi yemoto noma ukubhalisa kuhlelo lokusebenza lwe-Uber noma ukubhalisa okungahleliwe. Kungumsindisi wempilo!
Ukuhlupheka kwamaphepha
Kodwa kwakungesona kuphela isizathu sokuba ngigcine isibongo sami sasekhaya ngemva komshado wami. Kwakuwukugwema izinkinga zamaphepha. Bengilokhu ngingowesifazane ozimele, osebenzayo futhi ngase ngithole ilayisense yokushayela, ipasipoti, ama-akhawunti asebhange kanye nezinye izimpahla ngegama lami lasekhaya ngesikhathi ngishada.
Ngemva kwesonto sishadile, umyeni wami wangaleso sikhathi wabuya ehhovisi wathi, “Pakishani izikhwama zenu, siya e-US.” Ngangivele ngizikhiphe emhlabeni wami ukuze ngingene komunye umuntu. Ukuzisusa ngokwesibili futhi ngithuthele ezweni elisha cishe konke engangikwazi ukukwenza. Ukube noma ubani ubephikelele ekwenzeni igama elisemthethweni lishintshe phakathi naleso sikhathi esimatasatasa, ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi bengizomphendula ngokushesha! Ngijabule kakhulu ngokuthi angizange ngishintshe igama lami lapho ngishada.
Kwalandela ukudideka
Ngesikhathi sithuthela e-US, ukudideka nesibongo akuzange kubonise izimpawu zokwehla. Amasistimu abo abenokuthambekela okuqhubekayo kokufuna ubunikazi bomuntu ngefomethi yegama-eliphakathi-igama-isibongo. Futhi, bekuzoxaka isikhulu esimaphakathi singapheli lapho inhlanganisela yesibongo sami nesibongo ikhombisa ukungafani nhlobo nenhlanganisela yegama lokuqala nesibongo somyeni, okubhebhethekiswe ukuthi ngangishade ne-South Indian.
Ezingxenyeni ezithile zaseNingizimu India, umkhuba wokwamukela igama lokuqala likayise njengesibongo uvamile. Ngakho-ke, lokho kusho ukuthi isibongo somyeni 'Subramaniam' ( hhayi igama lakhe langempela ) empeleni kwakuyigama lokuqala lomkhwekazi.
Edilini lomshado lozakwethu waseMelika, amakhadi abhalwe etafuleni ayebonisa umyeni njengoVijay Subramaniam mina njengoNkk. Subramaniam. Ngokucatshangelwa lokho kwangenza ngaba umkamkhwe wami, okungukuthi, umkhwekazi wami!! Ngakuthola kuwukuhlekisa okuphoxayo kodwa umyeni wayengahleki neze.
Lapho izinto sezimuncu
Ukugcina isibongo sami sobuntombi ngesikhathi ngishadile kwaletha zonke lezi zinkathazo ezincane, kodwa kwakungeyona into eyodwa okufanele ngikhathazeke ngayo lapho umshado uba mubi. Amaphepha esehlukaniso kanye nokugcinwa kwengane ayesabisa ohlelweni lwezomthetho lwaseNdiya; ngangijabule kakhulu ukuthi ngigweme umthwalo owengeziwe, ingasaphathwa eyokucasula ngokomzwelo, wezincwadi ezifungelwe zokushintsha amagama.
Ijaji eNkantolo Yomphakathi elalilalela icala lami lalidelela. "Le mibhangqwana yesimanje, enemibono yayo ezimele," esho ehleka. “Yini umuntu angathemba kubo ngobungcwele bomshado? Ngema ngithukuthele ngaphakathi.
Ukufunda Okuhlobene: Kwangithatha iminyaka engu-4 ukunquma, kodwa ngashintsha igama lami ngemva komshado
Ngayo yonke inhlonipho efanele ngegunya lezokwahlulela, umuntu angasikhipha kanjani isahlulelo ngesimo somshado wami noma isinqumo sami sokuwuqeda? Futhi, igama lami akufanele lihlanganise lutho nakho konke !!
Ngokujabulisayo, impilo ibilokhu ihamba kahle kusukela ngaleso sikhathi. Okungcono nakakhulu, njengoba igama lami lihlala lifana, abantu abaningi banenjabulo abangazi ngakho-ke, abaziphazamisi izinguquko empilweni yami. Mina nendodakazi yami siye saqhubeka ngaphandle kwemibuzo engadingekile noma ilukuluku.

Ngakho-ke uma uzibuza ukuthi ungasigcina kanjani isibongo sakho sentombi ngemva komshado noma kufanele usigcine, khumbula ukuthi konke kuncike kuwe futhi uxoxe ngaso nomlingani wakho. Ngikhululekile ngesibongo sami sentombi, ngoba angikaze ngisishintshe. Ngikhululekile esikhumbeni sami kanye nobuntu bami - amaphutha aso kanye namaphutha afakiwe ikakhulukazi empilweni yami ngemva kwesehlukaniso.
Ngenze lokho abantu abakubiza ngokuthi 'amaphutha', kodwa ngiwabona 'njengesipiliyoni'. Bangilombile kanye nobuntu bami. Bangibeke phambili kakhulu lapho ngiqale khona. Sengikushilo lokho, ngikhululekile ngendlela efanayo nabesifazane abashintsha amagama abo ukuze bathathe umndeni wamadoda abo noma isibongo ngemuva komshado.
Emqondweni wami, abushintshi ubunjalo babo; ibanika kuphela ikheli elisha. Zihlala ziphelele, zikhulu kunesamba sezingxenye zazo eziningi. Amandla abo lawo. Ngiyajabula ukuthi ngangihlale ngithi, 'Ngifuna ukugcina igama lami lobuntombi.'
Imibuzo Evame Ukubuzwa
Ukuthi, 'Ngifuna ukugcina igama lami lobuntombi' futhi empeleni ukuligcina akuvamile. Kodwa abanye besifazane sebeqalile ukuyemukela muva nje futhi ngaleyo ndlela ithola umfutho omncane.
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