Uma ungene kusimo sokuqomisana sezinsuku zanamuhla futhi awukezwanga ngesipoki, kusho ukuthi usudlule iminyaka eyinkulungwane noma unenhlanhla yokuthi usindile. I-Ghosting yilapho umuntu ephuma ebudlelwaneni futhi anyamalale ngokuphelele ngaphandle kwegama noma izizathu zokuhlukana. Ngokuqala kwe Tinder nezinye izinhlelo zokusebenza zokuqomisana, ubudlelwano be-inthanethi buya kuba lula. Ngakho-ke lokho okwake kwaba isenzakalo esesabekayo - ukuhlukana - akusekho ngisho nohlelo lwezinto ebudlelwaneni. Kodwa akukhona okokuqala sizwa ngesipoki. Ikhona phakathi Inganekwane YamaNdiya. Impela lokho uDushyant akwenza kuShakuntala kungabizwa ngokuthi isipoki.
Noma nini lapho ngizwa inguqulo ka-Kalidasa yendaba ka-Dushyant-Shakuntala, ngangihlale ngizibuza ukuthi u-Dushyant angamkhohlwa kanjani u-Shakuntala ngemva kokumthanda ngokusuka enhliziyweni. Ngemva kokwenza izithembiso eziningi zothando neziqinisekiso zokubuya, wanyamalala ngaphandle kwezwi.
Shakuntala: Uthando olwadlula esivivinyweni somlilo
Esikhathini eside ngaphambi kokuba uDurvasa aqalekise uShakuntala, uDushyant wayesekhohliwe ngaye, ngoba wayeyinkosi futhi wayenombuso okufanele awuphathe okwakusobala ukuthi wawubaluleke kakhulu kunezithembiso ayezenzile ngomzuzwana othile oqhutshwa inkanuko entombini yasehlathini, emaphethelweni ombuso okungase kucace ngokucacile ukuthi ifanekisela amaphethelo engqondo yakhe. UShakuntala wayehlale ekhona kodwa emaphethelweni enkumbulo uDushyant akhetha ukuyiziba.
Ngokusobala njengombhali, uKalidasa wayebathanda bonke abalingiswa bakhe ngakho ukuze akhulule uDushyant ecaleni, wengeza isiqalekiso sikaDurvasa njengethuluzi lokulandisa. Kodwa ngisho nesiqalekiso sokulahlekelwa inkumbulo kwaba umthwalo kaShakuntala. Ngenxa yokuthi akazinakanga izingcingo zikaRishi Durvasa emnyango wakhe, wamthuka ngokuthi noma ubani ayemthanda uzokhohlwa nguye. Yebo, kwakuyiphutha lakhe ukubambelela esithembisweni esenziwa ngomzuzwana wothando. Futhi lapho efika enkantolo yaseDushyant nendodana yakhe uBharata, wahlekwa usulu ngokuthi ungumqambimanga.
Bese kuba nensizakalo yeringi uDushyant ayinikeze uShakuntala ngaphambi kokuhlukana. Ngenxa yalesi siqalekiso, uShakuntala walahlekelwa indandatho yakhe olwandle futhi ngemva kweminyaka ethile, yatholwa umdobi esiswini senhlanzi. Ebona ukuthi indandatho yasebukhosini, umdobi waya kuDushyant wathi nje ebeka amehlo kuyo, yabuya inkumbulo yakhe waphinde wahlangana noShakuntala nendodana yakhe ngenjabulo engapheli.
Ukufunda okuhlobene: UDevayani wamsindisa kanjani uKacha ekufeni kathathu kodwa noma kunjalo wayengamthandi
Izaba zesimanje zokudlisa umuntu isipoki
Okuthakazelisayo ukuthi lezi zimo zangaphandle njengendandatho nesiqalekiso zithola ukusabela ezinkingeni zanamuhla. Umuntu onezipoki angase abe 'matasatasa' ngomsebenzi noma ngempilo nje jikelele futhi ngokusobala akasizwa isidingo sokuphinde axhumane nomunye umuntu, osala enokungabaza nokungaqondakali kanye nokuntuleka kokuvala.
Lokhu kungase kwamukeleke (hhayi ngempela) uma uke wabandakanyeka nothile ebudlelwaneni be-inthanethi kuphela, ngoba kugcina lapho kuqala khona - embhalweni.
Lokhu kungase kwamukeleke (hhayi ngempela) uma uke wabandakanyeka nothile ebudlelwaneni be-inthanethi kuphela, ngoba kugcina lapho kuqala khona - embhalweni.
Kodwa kungaba buhlungu kakhulu uma ubusothandweni, kungaba ngokomzwelo noma ngokocansi kanye nosuku olulodwa oluhle, omunye umuntu anyamalale, akushiye uphakeme futhi womile, ungacabangi nokuthi ufanelwe ukuhlukana.
Ngenkathi u-Imtiaz Ali eqala umkhuba wokugubha ukuhlukana no-Deepika Padukone no-Saif Ali Khan. Uthando Aaj Kal, wayengeke azi ukuthi izinkulungwane zeminyaka zazizosishaya indiva leso sinyathelo futhi zigxume, zeqe futhi zigxumele endaweni lapho ukuhlukana kwakungadingeki khona. Ngithi millennials, ngoba ngethemba ukuthi amadoda nabesifazane phezu 25 babe nokuvuthwa ngokomzwelo indoda up and owesifazane up ukuhlukana ebusweni bomuntu.
Ukufunda okuhlobene: Ungahlukana kanjani nomfana kahle?
Ukuhlukana nokuphulukisa nokuqala futhi
Ngisho nengoma yokuhlukana phakathi Ae Dil Hai Mushkil kuwusuku lwanamuhla lokuhlukana. Intombazane ichaza yonke inqubo elandelayo. Lapho izinyembezi zomile, uya endlini yokuphuzela alungise izinto. Ufinyelela kubangane bakhe abakhohliwe futhi ahlangane nabo ukuze abophe inhliziyo ephukile. Ushisa izithombe ze-ex yakhe, futhi nabangane bakhe eceleni kwakhe, uyaphulukisa.
Kazi zaziyini izindlela zikaShakuntala zokuphulukisa. Mhlawumbe imvelo yamsiza, kanye nokuhamba kwesikhathi okungenakugwemeka okwenza izinto zibe buhlungu kancane kancane. Le ndaba yothando yasenganekwaneni iphetha ngendlela enhle kodwa empeleni ingabe isipoki siyamukeleka?
Isikhathi esisodwa kuphela esamukelekayo uma ubhekene ne-psychology, umgadli owenqabayo ukuthi 'Cha' ukuze aphendule futhi uma ukhulume ngokukhululekile izikhathi eziningi kodwa wehluleka ngokudabukisayo.
Kuzo zonke ezinye izimo, ukuhlukana nobuso bomuntu kunikeza ukuvala. Leyo yinhlonipho encane kakhulu ongayinikeza omunye umuntu ohlanganyele naye ukudla, izingxoxo kanye nombhede. Ngithembeni kuzokusiza nobabili.
Kodwa-ke, vele, ubani odinga imizwa lapho singadlula kulo mhlaba sithenga amafasitela futhi sigxumagxuma, seqe futhi sigxumele kumuntu olandelayo ozayo?
Umnikelo wakho awuhlanganisi inhlangano esiza abantulayo umnikelo. Izovumela i-Bonobology ukuthi iqhubeke nokukulethela ulwazi olusha nolwakamuva emzamweni wethu wokusiza noma ubani emhlabeni ukuthi afunde ukwenza noma yini.
Ezinyangeni ezimbalwa ezedlule omunye wabangane bami abakhulu bakhohliswe ngandlela thize njengoDushyant. Le nsizwa yathi iyamthanda, yamenza wazizwa ethandwa, futhi wayazi ngokuthembisana kwakhe nenye intombazane ezinsukwini ezimbili ngaphambili, futhi lokho nakho kuvela ezinkundleni zokuxhumana! Futhi umshado wakhe walandela ngemva kwezinsuku ezingu-15. Lokhu kwamnyakazisa kakhulu. Futhi okumzwisa ubuhlungu kakhulu, umuntu angaba kanjani nandaba nakho konke ukuphila kwakhe ngemva nje kokubhekana naye ngeqiniso! Ngicabanga ukuthi, ukuba nguDushyant akuyona indaba yenganekwane kuphela. Ayikho i-darth yamaDushyants anamuhla.
Kuyashaqisa futhi kuyalimaza ngempela lokho. Ngethemba ukuthi usekutholile ukuvala.
Yebo. Wenza kahle. Empeleni kangcono kunangaphambili. Ngoba, ukuvala okunjalo uma kuhambisana nabakuthanda ngempela futhi bebona ukukhanya kuwe kukusondeza kuleyo ngxenye yakho ongakaze ume ukuvuma. Uma ngikugcina kufushane, kunento eyodwa ebengifuna ayenze- ukuba abe yikhaya lakhe, futhi yilokho kanye abekwenza. Futhi ngiyaziqhenya ngaye ngowesifazane anguye, nowesifazane akhetha ukuba nguye. 🙂
Lokhu kuhle kakhulu futhi kuyiqiniso kakhulu. Ukuthola ikhaya ngaphakathi kwakho kuyindawo engcono kakhulu ongaba kuyo 🙂
Ngiyabonga 🙂 Futhi kwangathi ungathola ukukhanya ngaphakathi futhi kwangathi umlilo ongaphakathi kuwe ungavutha ngaphezu komlilo okuzungezile. Amen. 🙂
Iqiniso elibuhlungu lanamuhla. Thina, esingezona izingane ze-90's futhi ngisho nasenza izinto ezingavuthiwe kangangokuthi ngezinye izikhathi kuzwakala sengathi ukuhlukana. Futhi yebo ingxenye yangempela iphetha lapho iqale khona… ukuthumela imiyalezo. Iveza iqiniso elingenakugwenywa lanamuhla.
Iqiniso elibuhlungu kodwa elishiwo kahle.
Kuvunyelwe ngokuphelele!
Okwenzeka kimi: Ngahlukana nesoka lami ngocingo engathandana nalo unyaka wonke. Ngiyazi bekungafanele ngenze ngale ndlela kodwa bese sisemazweni ahlukene kungenzeki nje ukuthi ngihlangane naye kodwa wabe esefuna ukuhlangana alungise izinto. Empeleni yimina engangingafuni ukubhekana nakho futhi lokhu kwakukubi ngempela. Futhi asikaze sihlangane. Ngisenalo lelo cala, angazi ngizosabela kanjani uma sihlangana noma nini esikhathini esizayo.
Ngakho-ke, yebo, ukuhlukana nobuso bomuntu kunikeza ukuvala
Okungenani unamandla okuvuma icala lakho futhi lokho akuvamile. Ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi nobabili nizothola ukuvala esikhathini esizayo esiseduze.
Yebo, ngethemba ngempela kanjalo 🙂
Ngiyingxenye yeqembu elalingazi ukuthi kuyini isipoki ????????????????…chalo manje ngiyazi… Bubula…thina bantu sikhohlwe nje ukubaluleka kokuhlonipha thina kanye nabanye…Ngethemba ukuthi wonke umuntu uzoliqonda leli phuzu. Kuyakhanya ngendlela!
Siyabonga Snigdha 🙂